Hi guys. I'm a bit confused at the moment. I'm presently with this girl and we have known each other for about ten years, we are of same age (30) but she a month and half older. We started dating in 2011 and after some time we drifted apart and everyone went their separate ways but we never broke up officially . So in 2017 during our NYSC we were chatting on what's app and she asked me if I had plans for her and I was like what plans are u talking about and she was like marriage, then I told her I thought we were no longer dating and she said I should just forget about it. So after some days I called her and asked her if she was still in love with me and she said yes that she still likes me and would want us to be together so I told her I've heard and I'll give it some thought. So the next day I called and told her that we could get back together but I need her to understand that I don't want to be pressured into marriage, that I would like to plan properly before getting married and that she has to be patient with me as I'm not sure when I'll get a job soon, she agreed with my conditions and she even told me she wasn't in haste either. Fast forward to Nov 2017, I got a job and averagely I get paid up 80k a month with free accommodation and transportation now we are in may 2018, she's already on my neck that she doesn't want us to exceed 2018. I've made all explanations to her that I'm the first child I've got two brothers still in the University that I support, I'm yet to save enough even for the wedding and she's just putting me understand unnecessary pressure. I don't want to lose her cos she a nice fellow and would make a good wife and she's already told me that if we don't get it done this year then I should the unexpected.

ALL SHE NEEDS IS ASSURANCE

Why waste a Lady's time since 2011? Na wa o.
Please begin small small... give her a ring, meet her family set a ONE YEAR DATE for the traditional wedding and she will stop disturbing you.

I've made all explanations to her that I'm the first child I've got two brothers still in the University that I support, I'm yet to save enough even for the wedding and she's just putting me under unnecessary pressure.

Na extra time she dey now. When it gets to this point... the only explanation we evening newspapers understand is, "when am I coming to see your people?"

Nothing else will fly, I mean nothing.

Eya. She's 30 and she's feeling the pressure of "when are you going to get married?" From everybody and their dogs. Pls dont rush into something you're not ready for, you'll regret it. If you know you cant marry her soon Please tell her to move on so she meet someone else etc etc. But what about you? You knew you weren't thinking about marriage last year when she came back into your life but you led her on anyway. You must have known that was what she was gunning for. Anyway, I hope you make the right choice

pocohantas:


Na extra time she dey now. When it gets to this point... the only explanation we evening newspapers understand is "when am I coming to see your people?"

Nothing else will fly, I mean nothing.

Lol, this girl sha

This op sef Mimi,I'm not sorry to say that.

A lady you have not communicated with for years just asked you on WhatsApp the plans you have for her,yet you accepted her back just like that cause of that stupid statement.
Well

I don't advice dumb people like you.

usman3688:
Hi guys. I'm a bit confused at the moment. I'm presently with this girl and we have known each other for about ten years, we are of same age (30) but she a month and half older.[/b] We started dating in 2011 and after some time we drifted apart and everyone went their separate ways but we never broke up officially . So in 2017 during our NYSC we were chatting on what's app and she asked me if I had plans for her and I was like what plans are u talking about and she was like marriage, then I told her I thought we were no longer dating and she said I should just forget about it[b]. So after some days I called her and asked her if she was still in love with me and she said yes that she still likes me and would want us to be together so I told her I've heard and I'll give it some thought. So the next day I called and told her that we could get back together but I need her to understand that I don't want to be pressured into marriage, that I would like to plan properly before getting married and that she has to be patient with me as I'm not sure when I'll get a job soon, she agreed with my conditions and she even told me she wasn't in haste either. Fast forward to Nov 2017, I got a job and averagely I get paid up 80k a month with free accommodation and transportation now we are in may 2018, she's already on my neck that she doesn't want us to exceed 2018. I've made all explanations to her that I'm the first child I've got two brothers still in the University that I support, I'm yet to save enough even for the wedding and she's just putting me understand unnecessary pressure. I don't want to lose her cos she a nice fellow and would make a good wife and she's already told me that if we don't get it done this year then I should the unexpected.

after guys don break her heart tire,she decided to

pocohantas:


Na extra time she dey now. When it gets to this point... the only explanation we evening newspapers understand is "when am I coming to see your people?"

Nothing else will fly, I mean nothing.

Hehehe babe you got me there

pocohantas:


Na extra time she dey now. When it gets to this point... the only explanation we evening newspapers understand is "when am I coming to see your people?"

Nothing else will fly, I mean nothing.

Hehehe babe you got me there

If you love her and she's a good woman as you say, then start making plans to get married. By the time you think you're "ready," you may not find a good woman as easily...

You'd appreciate this decision in time to come.

pocohantas:


Na extra time she dey now. When it gets to this point... the only explanation we evening newspapers understand is, "when am I coming to see your people?"

Nothing else will fly, I mean nothing.

Lol, is our Pocahontas an evening newspaper lady?

marriage is not by force. one word is enough for the wise.