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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by obowunmi(m): 7:11am On May 23, 2018
captainamiedi1:



i cant believe someone like these still exist. i thought are gone with the 16th century. i know your stupid is of the first order. your foolishness has been upgraded. keep up the foolish things.

Its the truth ooo
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by tishbite41: 7:13am On May 23, 2018
adesamix:
for a man wil leave his father's house nd join his wife, 2 wil become 1.
lol, no b d interpretation b dis o.
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by WhoBeThisMan: 7:15am On May 23, 2018
Hanseel1:


Must you tell the whole forum that you're a misogynist?

smh.. Africans
the truth is that we are Africans not westerners.

It's not everything we should copy from whites, that's slavery mentality.

In marriage the whites have the worst. 1 out of 2 marriages fail.

In fact I think when it comes to marriage, westerners need to learn from Africans not the other way arround.

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Nobody: 7:15am On May 23, 2018
Get ready to wear the skirt in the house. Except shes overly humble
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by tishbite41: 7:18am On May 23, 2018
Jeezuzpick:


grin

Did you say "fiancee"?

grin

I wish you all the best sha, but compared to me (I'm in the TENTH year of my marriage) na learner you be.

A woman without the Spirit of God in her can do anything and turn into anything after the wedding or even a few years in.

Wait until you are totally dependent on your wife for a long time before you praise her. I was unemployed for 13 months and my wife held the home (me, her and kids) from her small business. When I praised her in front of my ogas at work, they said I'm a learner. One struggled for 3 years while depending on her wife all the while before making it. He's a millionaire now and carried his wife to US to relax on his first chance.

Time is the greatest tester. Before the years start rolling, all you have is hope and faith.

real talk. words of s sage.
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Pavore9: 7:19am On May 23, 2018
Emma1Oj:
if its a rented apartment the man should take responsibility of the rent with immediate effect but if the wife built it with money the woman should handover the document of the house to the man.


If you are the brother of the woman, will you encourage her to hand over the document of the house to the man?

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by balabandy: 7:23am On May 23, 2018
You know everything is about risk . My own wife in collaboration with her selfish brother sent a letter to my own office asking me to leave her house! So be ready for consequence the house that we make the arrangements to buy together but along the road after I collected bank loan give my own as deposit but they twisted the issue course I don't have balance of my own half manipulate to pay the balance and return my own contribution but when we have a little querel cos I reprimanded her about something mino in return they send that embarrassing letter to my own office

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by nony629(m): 7:23am On May 23, 2018
You never even marry u wan govern my state...


Ah no blame you...

SamuelAnyawu:
If it is a rented house, we both can look for a new house to rent somewhere grin

If she built it in a town like Abuja grin Omo i go move in sharply if i do not have a rented house in Abuja grin


Marry a Humble Woman like my Idoma fiancee grin


God Bless Benue State my Great Inlaws


God Bless Imo State.

Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by SamuelAnyawu(m): 7:27am On May 23, 2018
nony629:
You never even marry u wan govern my state...


Ah no blame you...


I am not Senator Samuel Anyanwu cool
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by sisisioge: 7:35am On May 23, 2018
Hmmm....ordinarily, nothing is wrong with it but for peace to reign, I agree they move into a house not the woman's. We women say " my house" when in fact the house is technically owned by the man. Imagine the excessive meaning that would be read into that phrase if the house is really owned by the woman during the heat of an argument.

It is well.

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by NoToPile: 7:37am On May 23, 2018
Emma1Oj:
if its a rented apartment the man should take responsibility of the rent with immediate effect but if the wife built it with money the woman should handover the document of the house to the man .


grin grin grin

Nairaland guys never cease to amaze me so you will open your two hands and collect the document of the house your wife built.

@ topic To salvage a Nigerian man's ego let them go and rent another apartment that the guy will pay for and the lady collect the rent of her house. I don't even want to believe the apartment they are talking about is a rented one if it is let the guy just take over the rent, at least nna person Wey dey pay rent get house.
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Chiboto414: 7:40am On May 23, 2018
The man has to stay away from that house , because its a shame..just like going back to stay in ur mother inlaws house after wedding and start saying that love is involved... #ShaMe!! LAzyHusband...
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Powerexpert: 7:41am On May 23, 2018
Some comments here are from people who still lives in their parents house or are not married. Women can be funny anyway especially when they are in power. Though it is also up to you as a man to prove you are responsible as well.
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Xisnin(m): 7:41am On May 23, 2018
PrimadonnaO:
My dad lived in my mum's house the whole time they were married and together.

Mum was an excellent woman, wife and mother.

I certainly don't want a husband that's anything like my dad.

If the reason for the bold was because he lived in your mum's house,
then it is obvious he is one of the few men out there who don't worship
their ego. An opposite of him may be disastrous.

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Xisnin(m): 7:43am On May 23, 2018
The same men who are insulting women for depending on men still don't want to move
into their wives house.
SMH

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by eyinjuege: 7:48am On May 23, 2018
Hanseel1:


you must be insane.. a woman built a house with her own money and allowed you to move in then you'll be requesting for the documents of the house?? dude are you sure you're normal?
If your wife request for the documents of your house will you release them to her?

He and his family will say the woman is planning to kill him. Even nairalanders will join and support that notion that she has a hidden agenda

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by NoToPile: 7:56am On May 23, 2018
Xisnin:
The same men who are insulting women for depending on men still don't want to move
into their wives house.
SMH

grin grin grin

You saw through it too.

Nigerian men want a woman who will support the home but not one who has small financial advantage over them.

Case 1 if a woman says I want to be a full house wife you should take care of everything, Let me take care of the home front and our children, (which is the traditional way) Nigerian man says no oo economy is bad please support me, he's thinking in his mind I can't marry a liability, there something you must bring to the table.

Case 2 wife says sweetheart this is the house I managed to build let me use this one to support our marriage until we build bigger. Nigerian man says no oo, how will I move into a woman's house. This one is not a liability, she is bringing something to the table at lease but what she's bringing seems to be way overboard.

Some will even prefer they rent the wife's home out collect the rent and use to pay for rent again within the same environment just to keep face.

They don't want totally dependent women and when women who have shikini money comes their way they become fearful.

Nigerian men have their ego tied to money. Financial control is what turns some of them on.

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by chigoizie7(m): 7:58am On May 23, 2018
That eketietti of a girl get plenty wahala.

That young man is giving her reasons why he can't do it ( personal opinion) and she is hell bent on forcing it down his throat.
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Marshalldaking: 8:01am On May 23, 2018
this is very hard oo.but bubu can and it
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Ugosample(m): 8:07am On May 23, 2018
theapeman4:
Africa are so demented!
You are right
Something is wrong with the black man
Something serious

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Ugosample(m): 8:07am On May 23, 2018
theapeman4:
Africa are so demented!
You are right
Something is wrong with the black man
Something serious
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by chigoizie7(m): 8:11am On May 23, 2018
Like I read .

Men control power better than women.



Women seek power by all means possible.

Making money and having a lot of money by a lady is just to have power , power from wealth.

Doubt me, as a man, provide ur woman's basic needs and den give her a lot of money, bet me, she won't know what to do with it.

My point is this. When a woman by any chance see herself in place of power, she abuses it very well.

Men and women are fashioned differently.


A man can move into a woman's house, no doubt, but what the woman will do if quarrel ensues will be unthinkable.


Many of us will agree that so many women earn much morethan their husbands. As such their home is being run by most of the woman's income, it doesn't stop her from also having the apartment in her name. But they will prefer it is in a mans name.



The point is , men are egocentric in nature , and women abuse power when given to them to the last. No man would want his ego brought to zero by his wife.

U can try to argue that with me all u can, but it doesn't stop the fact that we are different, so many things happened and we must have to accept them that way, so for us being created differently and to think differently, we just have to accept it. It is just like asking why women must menstruate and men will not have to experience it, that is just how it is, we can't change it.
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Ugosample(m): 8:11am On May 23, 2018
WhoBeThisMan:
the truth is that we are Africans not westerners.

It's not everything we should copy from whites, that's slavery mentality.

In marriage the whites have the worst. 1 out of 2 marriages fail.

In fact I think when it comes to marriage, westerners need to learn from Africans not the other way arround.

There is nothing to learn from African marriage

African marriage na suffeehead, especially for the women,

If the thing no work again, you divorce and go away.

Do you know how many women would like to leave their marriages here if not for the "societal stigma?"

Same applies to the man tho, but to a lesser degree.

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by chigoizie7(m): 8:19am On May 23, 2018
I dated a girl for morethan 2 years , I never slept in her house for one day.

My current girl is still mad that I can't still sleep in her house.

But that's just me.

I know nothing is wrong with it for others.
But everything is wrong with it for me
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Nobody: 8:23am On May 23, 2018
CastedAyo:
A Twitter user shared a story of a man criticized for moving into his woman's house after marriage and the tweet has sparked a debate online.

Some people feel no true African man should move into a woman's house. Others said it's acceptable if the woman stays humble and doesn't disrespect the man as a result.

But the poster pointed out that men do not accord women that same respect when they move into their house, instead, at the slightest provocation, the husbands ask their wives to leave.

Read the tweet and reactions below;

Culled from; https://www.torimill.com/2018/05/is-it-wrong-for-a-man-to-move-into-his-wifes-house-after-marriage.html

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by Ghostmode2two(m): 8:27am On May 23, 2018
Over the bar
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by christobobby: 8:28am On May 23, 2018
Hanseel1:
It's only in Nigeria that things like this become a debate.
There's absolutely nothing wrong if you move into your wife's house.
Marriage is all about understanding.

uncivilized Nigerians are already advising the couples to rent out the house while they move to a rented house! who cursed Nigeria?
who's gonna pay the rent if they move into a rented apartment?

is it even sensible for you to move into a rented apartment when you've your own home?

If one could choose where he'd been created on Africa is the last place a sane person will choose..
A useless continent where there are no durable investments in science and technology yet they're debating over a house! later they'll start calling whites racists when they're being mocked.

Smh

But this is Nigeria
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by scholes23(m): 8:28am On May 23, 2018
Abeg I don't see anything wrong in it. As long as there's mutual respect btw both parties. What do u have to say about women being the bread winners of their home? Certainly u cant write them off . Imaging say I marry person like Linda ikeji, and u expect us to move out. I DEY MAD?? Even my VILLAGE PEOPLE will sware for me if I try it

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by millomaniac: 8:41am On May 23, 2018
Hanseel1:
It's only in Nigeria that things like this become a debate.
There's absolutely nothing wrong if you move into your wife's house.
Marriage is all about understanding.

uncivilized Nigerians are already advising the couples to rent out the house while they move to a rented house! who cursed Nigeria?
who's gonna pay the rent if they move into a rented apartment?

is it even sensible for you to move into a rented apartment when you've your own home?

If one could choose where he'd been created on Africa is the last place a sane person will choose..
A useless continent where there are no durable investments in science and technology yet they're debating over a house! later they'll start calling whites racists when they're being mocked.

Smh


If no man will move into his wife's house when he is rich then don't justify a man moving to his wife's house when he is financially incapacitated. It is a shame. It is an embarrassment. No real man will even think of it.
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by WhoBeThisMan: 8:41am On May 23, 2018
Ugosample:


There is nothing to learn from African marriage

African marriage na suffeehead, especially for the women,

If the thing no work again, you divorce and go away.

Do you know how many women would like to leave their marriages here if not for the "societal stigma?"

Same applies to the man tho, but to a lesser degree.
the truth is that bad news travels fast. The bad marriages you hear about in the open, but the good ones keep quite.

Yes you can't have a perfect marriage, thesame way you. Can't have a perfect mother or father or brother or sister, but you don't divouse them. Do you?

There are far more happy marriages in Africa than sad ones. But only the sad ones are talking.

The sad thing is that the bad ones are trying to pull down the good ones with them, because misery loves company

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Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by millomaniac: 8:43am On May 23, 2018
Hanseel1:


are you sure you're normal?

The fact you asked this question shows you ain't or were not brought up right.
Re: Is It Wrong For A Man To Move Into His Wife's House After Marriage? by PrimadonnaO(f): 8:50am On May 23, 2018
Xisnin:


If the reason for the bold was because he lived in your mum's house,
then it is obvious he is one of the few men out there who don't worship
their ego. An opposite of him may be disastrous.

Nope. It was a lot more than that.

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