i want the poor and jobless ones that are fine and sabi Bleep. no woman marrying me is allowed to work or hustle for any reason

I love youu

zaragal:



Guy, you just ranting... The reason why people not just ladies...focus on a man's financial capabitlities before marriage is because by default the man is the PROVIDER of the family... Whether the lady has money or not is immaterial, the man takes responsible of the finances of the home. Its now how individuals choose to run their marriages that makes the difference, whether the lady wants to assist or not! But a man is seen to be the one who provides for the family....

A lady can't marry a man who can't take care of her and her kids, same way some guys in the other thread say they cant marry a lady who can't cook. No matter how culture is changes, women still manage the home, men still funds the home. Whether we like it or not...its somewhere at the back of our heads. The men expect the women to be homely...good cooks, great mom, keeps the home blah blah. The ladies expect the men to have a substantial steady source of income. It is, what it is!!

By the way, what do u wanna do with a lady' money if you have yourz??

Dfavouredone:
Marriage is all about happiness and peace. Wherever you find that whether from a well-to-do family or not, embrace it.

[s]More importantly seek God's will, as a well-to-do family today may not be so well-to-do tomorrow and vice versa. So more importantly follow God's will as only God knows tomorrow and knows what is best for you[/s].

But whosoever you do, do not marry an over demanding girl from an over demanding family (Well-to-do or not) because tomorrow na dem go ask u who u help.

Irrelevant part.

>: ! Your head de there,

Dee9977:
I also have that mindset but you limit it to marrying a wife that is last born in their family ... to avoid much responsibility

franchasng:
I will advice him not to focus only on marrying a girl from rich family. He should also consider ladies that are working in top companies and earning big income too.

Or ladies that own their own successful businesses or trade. Or ladies living abroad legally and working legally too not the ones living illegally abroad.

If he broadens his search with these criteria I gave above, he will definitely find a match but then, he must forget about marrying girls below 25yrs cos they are usually financial disaster that he is avoiding

Brutal.

Its like a two-edged sword.

I don't get it are you going to get married for money or for love

Confession: I did not read it!

lastclaire4:


You are very funny. How will you get to find out her salary? You think a lady will tell you what she earns. I have friends who divide their salary by 4 or 5 when you want to pry into what shouldn't be your business at that stage. At best you get to know later that they don't earn that low.

Just get to know where she works,,, n u will just know d range of her salary,,,,

is your company recruiting?

Let me tell you a very personal story,my friend was dating a girl from a very humble background ,mind you he's not super rich but OK for a young guy. He meet lady B from a rich family working with good family name very popular family,immediately they got married because he felt she's OK that was the beginning of he's problem, madam refused family members from coming to the house,control started,she wants to live a very high life,my friend been a stubborn guy could not take it,marriage pack up not up to 5months .The other lady got married is blessed with 3kids now,my guy is still there lamenting .Just a quick question what will happen if the wealth is no longer there after getting married to her and responsible falls on her?

kimbraa:
You deserve a medal.

MAKE THAT TWO

When I am ready for marriage which will be soon (God willing) I'd surely go for someone who earns as much as I do or even higher.

Ur marriage will surely end in divorce. Mark my word!!

Have it at the back of your heart that nature has never gifted any human being with two things at the same time. It gifts you one and takes another thing dear to you.

You may find girls from well to do, strong backgrounds but don't ever expect to enjoy that marriage. The worst condition a man can find himself is to be branded a gold digger by his in laws. Even if you provide everything in your family people will still see you as the parasite. Girls from well to do homes don't have anything to whip them into line unlike the poor girl who will be submissive knowing you are her lifeline.

You can marry a rich girl if you don't mind the shame that comes with it (your respect as the husband is almost zero). Or marry an average girl and savour the love and respect.

One of the reasons Adolf Hitler didn't marry was because he was surrounded by women from rich and influential homes. He was looking for a girl from low humble beginnings because he wanted the joys of companionship.

longrunner:

I understand you brother. It certainly helps to marry a girl like that. I live in Sweden, and have 3 gfs here. One is from a very wealthy family, ans the other two arr from upper middle class, and that helps a lot. It's good for me to send money to my family back in nigeria. Sometimes depending on your situation you have to pay attention to these things. Some women will just drag you down. You can't put your family at risk. But of course that you have to do what is best in your environment. If you are not wealthy, it's hard that a wealthy girl in Nigeria will want to marry you, unlike in Sweden. So don't get too choosy also. Life goes by quickly.

u are a hero

We go all dey alright last last o.

When the desirable is not available, the available becomes-

franchasng:
Story story! As if that's how you ladies marry too

Nigerian ladies are very cunning and wicked to Nigerian guys.

When a Nigerian lady from a rich home wants to date or marry, she considers the financial capability of the guy first before considering his handsomeness.

A broke guy dare not say hello to her because to her it's a taboo.

What about a Nigerian Lady that is working and earning good salary like 250k and above, she will never date or marry a guy earning below 300k monthly, that will be a big taboo for her. She considers men only based on how much money they have and not how handsome they look.

Go to US, UK. Canada, etc, Nigerian guys living there will abandon all the sweet looking chicks there and go back to Nigeria to find a broke, poor girl to marry and spend on her to become slay queen and then take her to abroad to become a modern chick, but Nigerian ladies living abroad will rather remain single till death than come back to Nigeria to look for a guy to marry and when they eventually try to come to Nigeria to find husband, they only target rich guys and guys from rich family to date and possibly marry.

They dare not date or accept to date or marry a Nigerian guy living in Nigeria and struggling to stand financially, it is a taboo.

Also a Nigerian guy earning over 500k monthly will just meet one fine broke girl from poor family and start to date her and shower her with love and gifts, and even assist her family and the next thing, he marries her and turn her life around for good without considering that she was a poor girl, but our ladies will never do same if they are the ones that have the money, so Nigerian guys must wake up.

What is good for Paul is good for Peter.

Guys marry your class only!

Stop stooping too low to marry broke girls when you have made it financially. Apply Nigerian ladies wisdom of going after rich and successful ladies of your class too, guys wake up

Me I have made it a priority now never to date or marry below my class.

I cannot date any broke girl, never!

I cannot marry any lady that earns less than 250,000naira monthly.

Marry like Royal families; they marry to keep their royal dynasty stronger and richer not just for love based on physical beauty.

Before u marry her, please check her real financial value and worth. Will she help u grow financially or help u diminish The world is becoming more and more capitalist by the day, so to survive and to build a good future for your kids, think like a capitalist; consider financial worth of your would be wife or fiancé first before u say I do

Guys go for your class, we need to learn from our ladies to avoid regrets

Another irrelevant social media advice that will only confuse fools.
If you are old enough to marry, you would have understood why men generally go for "broke" or low-income
women. Even the OP clearly stated the reason in his post; "they are submissive".

What your advice bore down to is: "hey Nigerian men, stop marrying submissive women".
You now see why your advice won't work?

Mould the wife by yourself naa

ZIMDRILL:


you are too blind to see that, you are the person that you are trying to avoid to marry one day. you said you are supporting your siblings and friends so its ok for you to support your family and friends but the woman you wish to marry shouldnt have family thats needs support from her if she can?

think of it this way right now you are looking after your siblings so its ok if a girl dumps you if she uses your line of thinking ?

You are right but he has a right to determine his specs in women because relationships are never equal.
If he found a woman who can take care of her family on her own(just like he does), I don't think he would
avoid her.

I would advice to my marry a lady you love not the one from wealthy background simply because this can extreme affect you in the long run... make sure you choose wisely

This thread is so calm, so peaceful. Let op type the same thing but just put F on his moniker and switch genders in the story.
They will use golddigger and wicked woman to run op out from this forum and use that as a stepping stone to start their usual insult of Nigerian women.

So you guys do the same thing Nigerian women do (looking for a partner that is financially stable), but when women do it, it is called good digging, when men do, it's called being realistic.

Nigerian men.

My advise, don't focus on her family, focus on her...I understand what you want, focus on a woman who is entrepreneurial or doing well in her career. In the long run it is not her father's money that she will use to support the home infact most times those from rich homes end up being "Liabilities", cos she won't see the need to struggle and plan with you cos las las she go return to her papa house and also she will want to still demand u maintain the standard she has in her father's house, she might also want to be controlling, knowing fully well she has the support of her family when fighting you. Despite contributing nothing to the financial worth of the new family you have created.

So the emphasis is do not marry a lazy, brain dead, entitled woman who is not making sense with her life regardless of the worth of her family. But marry the exact opposite of that regardless of the worth of her family. Some of those ladies from humble background who have broken through(I mean broken through properly oooo) and carrying weight already knows what it feels like self, they are often self driven and appreciative of your efforts and will make sacrifices to consolidate your(you and her) wealth

The truth of the matter is that 90percent of Nigerian ladies below 33yrs these days are useless. Sorry for being blunt, but its the truth.

ZIMDRILL:


you are too blind to see that, you are the person that you are trying to avoid to marry one day. you said you are supporting your siblings and friends so its ok for you to support your family and friends but the woman you wish to marry shouldnt have family thats needs support from her if she can?

Lol he can't see that

In essence what op is saying is, If he were a girl he can't marry himself

think of it this way right now you are looking after your siblings so its ok if a girl dumps you if she uses your line of thinking ?

What was his response?

Anyways.
Op no I don't think you're not being realistic.
If that's the kind of lady you marry then that's what you want.

But op please, what do you mean by "submissive"

zaragal:

Just marry a Good girl, who loves and fear the lord. Some rich or well to do background chick comes with a price. Because u might end up being the wife and she the husband, after all....Her father has money.

What you described above only happens to desperate and poor gold-diggers.
The OP is not poor from his description and can take care of himself.

He be like say u never see inlaw with money, wey go frustrate u with their money join na?? . Just slap their daughter and u will build a house in prison....*That was on a little note*

This is actually a good thing, I believe violence should come with stiff punishment
regardless of the victim's wealth. Why should it be okay to slap a poor man's daughter?

On top of all this OP also wants his dream wealthy, ‘upper échelon’ lady to be ‘submissive’ lol. Good luck

most ladies from rich home are not the best in most cases, run from slay queens who can not presently take care of her personal need, all you need to do is just to avoid those kind of ladies that think marriage is a free meal ticket, go for a educated , God fearing, visionary hard working girl from a good home and support her dream! she will respect and value you for life, its far beyond finance and money, think of respect, happy home and the future.. dont fall for packagers, not all those big girls are truly good for marriage, most na package and you dont want to have snacks for dinner every night ...you dont want to chase a fowl that lays golden egg into a deep hell.

The poster has a valid point!! For those saying he should look at her character only, haven't you seen successful women who are well brought up?
They are everywhere if you know where to look.

Good virtues can be found in some successful women, don't let anybody deceive you otherwise.

GodisGood4321:
For a start, I’m not a gold digger nor am mine looking for someone to take care of my bills.

Marry a decent girl from a decent background and not necessarily from a well to do family. There are working girls, from rich families, that will make you live to a standard that you cannot sustain just to show off. Have a conversation with your woman and you guys should have an understanding so you don't burden each other after marriage.

Xisnin:

You are right but he has a right to determine his specs in women because relationships are never equal.
If he found a woman who can take care of her family on her own(just like he does), I don't think he would
avoid her.

he is not thinking through

coming from well up family doesnt mean, she wont be taking care of her family, when you marry you only realise family dynamic when you in there from outside you admire and see glossy life