Hmm

They should work on themselves.

Most ladies don't know what they want in a man.
Most are so dull, apart from sexzz, there's nothing else they have to give. It's tiring.

That stems because they don't read. They hate it.

Colourich:
A submissive man will make a good husband unlike their dominant counterpart.

A submissive husband that a wife will control like toy


I know two dominant women. The way one talks to the husband and gives command is just baffling. The other ain't married yet and still hunting for a man to marry... I pity the innocent young man that will marry her.

adamasmag:
[s]Every lady needs to be mentally, physically and emotionally ready before getting married[/s]. Yes! marriage takes a lot to make it work. For many women, marriage is something they’ve been looking forward to since they were a little girl. While it’s undoubtedly an exciting and momentous experience in life, it’s far from the only life-changing and all-important event. For this reason, it’s best not to rush your trip down to the altar. This is true even if you’ve been with your significant other for several years  or even decades.

Below are some lists that can help prepare you mentally, emotionally and physically for a successful and long-lasting marriage.

1.Create a Life That You Love *Without* a Partner
That way, when he shows up, you’re already grounded. You’re not dependent on him, and you'll be more likely to find someone who loves you and your passions.

2. Create a List of Five Values It's Important Your Partner Has
Say, for example, that finding a partner who follows a sustainable lifestyle is absolutely crucial for you. Put that on the list as a reminder not to compromise on your core values. Disclaimer: If you feel that your priorities are shifting and that what you thought was a dealbreaker value isn't really a dealbreaker value anymore, then by all means, change your list. It's not set in stone. But if the guy you're heading down the aisle with right now doesn't meet one of the criteria on your list—and you still feel it's important—then it may be time to re-evaluate your relationship before you make a big mistake.

3.Learn How to Be Alone without Being Lonely
Need some help? Try taking yourself to dinner once a week or planning one night a week just for you. You’ll find that whatever you choose to do in those moments is what you really want to do. And knowing how to “find your chill” is crucial because it means that you don’t need outside validation to feel whole—and you don’t put unfair expectations on your partner to keep you entertained. In turn, you’ll likely encourage your partner to pursue his hobbies, too, which will create a healthy interdependent relationship. It’s better to rely on each other completely equally than to have one person do the heavy lifting, which will likely cause tension down the line.


4.Create Time and Space in Your Life for a Relationship
You know that whole idea of "If you build it, they will come?" The same goes for your love life: If you make room in your life for a relationship, you're way more likely to find that one falls into place. And if you have an S.O. but don’t invest enough time or effort into your partnership, chances are you won't have it for long.

5. Agree on How You and Your Partner Will Handle Your Finances.
You may have been managing your own finances for a while now, but once you meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, figuring out how to share a bank account can get tricky. Discuss financial biggies (read: any potential debt you'll need to manage, what you're comfortable paying for rent or a mortgage, what the price cutoff should be for discussing an impulse purchase, how much you want to try to save each month, etc.) in advance so you know what you’re dealing with from the get-go.

6. Stop sharing every detail of your relationship with others
When you first met or started dating, you might have unveiled every tiny detail about your now  to your friends and maybe even your family. But now that you’re serious, it's important to preserve and protect the integrity of the relationship. “When you get mad, no Facebook rants or cryptic quotes about a fight you may be having and no more calling all of your friends for consensus about whether you are right or wrong in an argument,” says Nelson. “Your marriage is sacred and what happens in your relationship needs to stay in your relationship.” She suggests instead, leaning on a trusted best friend to blow off steam or find a therapist that you can confide in and learn skills to be a better mate and get through conflicts.

[s]7. Learn To Cook
No, Noodles doesn’t count as food. [/s]
men should also learn how to cook


http://www.adamasmagazine.com.ng/things-every-lady-should-do-before-getting-married/

Every lady needs to be mentally,financially,physically and emotionally ready before getting married.


Any lady that isn't financially stable shouldn't think of marriage in this 21st century.

desiregold:
Why didnt you add financially ready too?


Ladies, if you are a member of this forum and you dont have any source of income, you dont have any job or biz that brings atleast 20k in a month.., Then you dont have any bizness with marriage.


I hate hearing some married women say things like "Aunty, borrow me 500 naira to cook food for my children, I will pay you back when my husband comes back from work".

Money gives you voice in life. it gives you voice among your friends, It gives voice among your family members, it gives you voice in your church, It even gives you voice in your marriage.

20k... If a man that earns within that range stays single, so should a woman
I'm only preaching equality

All these are only good in written but don't apply in our society

Valid points

Colourich:
A submissive man will make a good husband unlike their dominant counterpart.

liar.

Do people still get married in Nigeria?

How can people be comfortable with raising children and a family in such an unstable place?

I carry yansh give people wey dey marry. My brain can’t even fathom marriage as at now. I really envy(I don’t know if that’s the right word) people that get married in Nigeria.

Some 9ja girls no Sabi Cook na only indomie from Monday to Sunday Maka why

XingXhang:

They should work on themselves.

Most ladies don't know what they want in a man.
Most are so dull, apart from sexzz, there's nothing else they have to give. It's tiring.

That stems because they don't read. They hate it.

not every body understands the meaning of "work on yourself" And maybe you should change that to "some" ladies than "most" lastly even guys don't read. Fewer people have a sound mind these days.

Doesn't need to confirm potency right?

Na wa for Op oo you block me

Which one be, "a submissive man will make a good husband"? Don't turn the Bible upside down please.

Colourich:
A submissive man will make a good husband unlike their dominant counterpart.

"Submissive"

... and the woman will make a good wife by...?

#No. 8

Learn how to give it to me hotter and sweeter than my past experiences and I ll forever stuck on ya cos you top it all with other qualities you possess.

ominiriches2016:
Which one be, "a submissive man will make a good husband"? Don't turn the Bible upside down please.

I tire o...

I remembered when naira land used to have good front page materials like this one
https://www.nairaland.com/801338/man-raises-family-under-lagos

Colourich:
A submissive man will make a good husband unlike their dominant counterpart.

I put it to you that you are looking for a weakling and a she in the skin of a "he".

Woe be that man that will submit his nature given authority to his wife...

Colourich:
A submissive man will make a good husband unlike their dominant counterpart.

You will never find such man.....
Even if you see one,look very well....he is only bidding his time to tell you what he thinks.....

Colourich:
A submissive man will make a good husband unlike their dominant counterpart.

Please let's be friends, I love your stand. 07084045648

Brightgem:
not every body understands the meaning of "work on yourself" And maybe you should change that to "some" ladies than "most" lastly even guys don't read. Fewer people have a sound mind these days.

Most Ladies is most suited.

Very few are willing to develop their minds.

Colourich:
A submissive man will make a good husband unlike their dominant counterpart.

you mean a simp?....

If only ladies,women and slay queens would listen to this advise we wont have short term marriages I pray they would read , meditate on this advise @OP is giving them.

desiregold:
Why didnt you add financially ready too?


Ladies, if you are a member of this forum and you dont have any source of income, you dont have any job or biz that brings atleast 20k in a month.., Then you dont have any bizness with marriage.


I hate hearing some married women say things like "Aunty, borrow me 500 naira to cook food for my children, I will pay you back when my husband comes back from work".

Money gives you voice in life. it gives you voice among your friends, It gives voice among your family members, it gives you voice in your church, It even gives you voice in your marriage.

This is Excellent ......much wisdom here ....i strongly agree with you .

HARDDON:
2. Positive Mentality:

Instead of seeing the cup half empty, see it as half full.
Instead of thinking he is coming home late because he went to see some side Chick, think "maybe he is stuck In hold up.

Instead of always trying to chop off his head because he didn't do something right, see it as a perfect partnership where the short comings of one is quickly absorbed by the other.


3. Working on the Mind as it relates to God and prayers for your union and all


4. Developing the mind with books on the difference between being single and been married. Friends, family and mentors in marriage.

5. Working on the mind as it relates to finances. NO, what is his isn't only for the Fam and what is yours, yours. It is a partnership. Everyone must have everything in common.


And a host of others, but the bottom line is, Knowledge and marriage wisdom don't jump on people from outa space. They must be acquired through good books from people who have made impact in their marriages, vids and the guidance of the Holy Spirit!


Life is in the mind ( spiritual). You can't apply physical approach to it.

I think you make very valid points, but your points relate to things you believe women should do when they get married, but the OP is suggesting things to work on before.

Take for instance, your point about thinking all men are dogs, if you consider the point about making a list of things that are important in your future partner and you don't feel like you've been forced into the marriage, then you'll be with someone you respect, trust and love (if that's what's important to you).

Some people aren't comfortable in their own space (time they could be using to read, learn something new), so they want you to do everything with them.

Bottom line is I think both your lists work hand in hand.

I'm honestly sick of these threads

op for add these but its common among Nigerian ladies 8. Taste Every Available D!ck Before Getting Married TO Know The One That Will Last?

Then wicked men most still break thier heart so no need if e work e work