Hello people of nairaland. I faced an issue in would I say wooing my new girlfriend- our relationship is just about 2 weeks old and bubbling (typical of all newly found love). Fact is I'm staying with a roommate who liked her first- three of us work at the same place but different branches, so we see on a weekly basis but our house is close to hers, so we see her off almost on a daily..
When she was first employed, twas my roommate who got her number first and even got on a personal with her. They would chat through the night, even sometimes when he would see her off I would just chill and they talk bout their stuff. Some weeks later, we were transferred to the same branch (the girl and I), that was when I started getting green light from her. Tbh, I liked her too but I just had to follow the bro code- my guy was already interested and I didn't it to seem like we were gaming her..
I did something silly though..I never chatted her up even when we had our numbers, so I decided to chat her up and her reaction was interesting. I had to know what stage she and my guy were so I peeked at his chat with her while he slept (that was the silly thing). To say the least the girl is mine now.
Where I'm facing a dilemma is, the girl still takes him as a best friend (I'm very hubristic- I'm not scared of that), what I'm scared of is things he says to her- like she's naive relationship wise (cos we see almost everyday, play romance and all that); but consulting with people and reading stuff- all I'm getting is that our early romance might be our greatest undoing, that we need to slow things down a bit but she says she's into me a whole lot and that she can't do without seeing me everyday. I'm confused as whether to give her space and how to tell her that or satisfy her and keep seeing her everyday. Cos I really love her and I'm not ready to see this relationship fail. Those who see their girlfriends everyday or who have been in this situation and every sane nairalander can chip in words of advice..I don't want this early spark to go down much.

Bestie

You aren't a good friend brother.... You just allowed a woman to come between your friendship with your best friend. Be ready for the consequences

I didn't read because the post wasn't organized. Whatever you wrote, keep it up.

I'm seeing a triangle here, with the girl at the top. Wait for the love experts.

iLegendd:
I didn't read because the post wasn't organized. Whatever you wrote, keep it up.

Ilegend, can you pls read and advice pls..

dingbang:
You aren't a good friend brother.... You just allowed a woman to come between your friendship with your best friend. Be ready for the consequences

Bro, we still friends we've passed that stage.. All I'm concerned right now is keeping my woman happy

Ytea:
I'm seeing a triangle here, with the girl at the top. Wait for the love experts.

Babe your two cents will still help

guy... chop... pass to ur friend ... he chop... you are happy... your friend is happy... and i bet you.. she'll be happy

sugarsoul:

Ilegend, can you pls read and advice pls..

Sorry sir, I wish this was 2016 or 2017 when I was proffering solutions for free. You really missed. Now, everything has been monitized.

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Ytea:
I'm seeing a triangle here, with the girl at the top. Wait for the love experts.

We can count on your technical advise ma!

mycare:


We can count on your technical advise ma!

Biko o, you're the technical analyst

You no try at all, no matter how I like girl reach, once my friend get any parole with am, the feelings go die automatically

Ytea:
Biko o, you're the technical analyst

Looool.
Am on the bench waiting for your technical instructions

mycare:
Looool. Am on the bench waiting for your technical instructions

You'll be waiting for a long time Mr, I can't help you

Why are you writing like this?

Guy, not every relationship has to follow rules. Right now she loves you and you love her, spend as much time as you want with her, enjoy yourselves and forget about this your fear that she will soon get tired of you. At some point in time both of you will get busier anyways so enjoy all you can now with neglecting you guys or your other responsibilities.
And remember, the fear of failing actually makes people fail more or stops them from achieving. Throw your fears away and enjoy your new love.

Ytea:
You'll be waiting for a long time Mr, I can't help you

I don't like to give up
I keep hoping sha

mycare:

I don't like to give up I keep hoping sha

That's the spirit!

ehis010:
Guy, not every relationship has to follow rules. Right now she loves you and you love her, spend as much time as you want with her, enjoy yourselves and forget about this your fear that she will soon get tired of you. At some point in time both of you will get busier anyways so enjoy all you can now with neglecting you guys or your other responsibilities.
And remember, the fear of failing actually makes people fail more or stops them from achieving. Throw your fears away and enjoy your new love.

Thanks a lot bro! I'm taking things step by step though. One love