Saviour22:
tell hollandis that the Bsuedu of a person is and African american lady. And PS. The op Is a troll

hollandis:

You foolish?

khiaa:


I know the op is a troll that is why I gave the stupid advice. Who is hollandis? Bsuedu is AA.

u are smart .

khiaa:


I know the op is a troll that is why I gave the stupid advice. Who is hollandis? Bsuedu is AA.

hollandis:


God will punish the two both of them for making me use my last data kb on them

May they experience poverty this year

THREAD OFFICIALLY CLOSED

hollandis:


What is AA? No be only AA na AS
It's either you are American or African

Mtchewww

Saviour22:
u are smart .

hollandis:
That makes sense Irish and German but African American is a useless designation

CaptJeffry:
Are you waiting to hear that he has been admitted in a psychiatric hospital before you believe he's sick.

khiaa:


Africa is a continent and America is a continent, a person can be from both continents.

hollandis:

Lost tribe . They are Americans full stop
It's this stupid designation that begets racism

Bsuedu:


My dear, that is what abusers do. They make you feel like you are deficient and that their behavior is normal. And because they are usually charmers, friends and family wont believe you are being abused.

A man treating you this way is acceptable bc he's Nigerian?? I dont understand the questions you are asking.
Bluntly, based on what you are saying, you are being emotionally abused. I would also like to say kindly that you might be giving off some vibe that is attracting abusive men to you. I believe you are American. There are domestic violence support groups in your city. Please find yourself at one. If I knew where you lived, I would come get you myself

hollandis:



Come get you kwa
Instead of you to advise the lady ,you are wooing her
Typical Nigerian mentality
Taking advantage of vulnerable women

hollandis:



Come get you kwa
Instead of you to advise the lady ,you are wooing her
Typical Nigerian mentality
Taking advantage of vulnerable women

khiaa:


I know the op is a troll that is why I gave the stupid advice. Who is hollandis? Bsuedu is AA and female.

hollandis:


God will punish the two both of them for making me use my last data kb on them

May they experience poverty this year

THREAD OFFICIALLY CLOSED

CaptJeffry:
That boy is sick. His threads litter Nairaland and if you go through all of them, you'll understand he needs a doctor.
Every sane Nigerian man reveres his mother unlike an American who can insult him mom even without lighting a cigarette let alone smoking weed.

HeWrites:


This is not a matter of hearing from other party.. Seems you don't read

"He grabbed my neck slightly and told me I’m not going anywhere."

He's an animal.

Ariella25:


Thank you for being so thorough. The only reason I posted on this site is because a lot of the times he will tell me that this is typical Nigerian/African/Caribbean behavior and that I need to date a white guy because that’s all that will want me. And that’s not what I want

khiaa:



What does racism have to do with it and who are you to tell me who my people are/are not?

austyn0:



How is that statment taking advantage of women?? It also turns out the adviser was a lady....The way some black ladies de reason sometimes de tire me.

Bsuedu:


Thunder fire you for saying that.

Ariella25:


Thank you for being so thorough. The only reason I posted on this site is because a lot of the times he will tell me that this is typical Nigerian/African/Caribbean behavior and that I need to date a white guy because that’s all that will want me. And that’s not what I want

hollandis:


Your people ?
Who exactly is your people ?

hollandis:
You mean Americans ?

Ariella25:
So this is going to be a long story but I have been dating this Nigerian man for awhile. At the beginning he was nice, attentive, communicative, giving etc and seemed like the ideal man. He’d always compliment me on how sweet and soft spoken I was too. The only thing that made me weary was his father was abusive towards his mother. I had recently been in an abusive relationship as well but he assured me he didn’t hit women bc of his mom. He was always praising her too. I was always told to look at how a man treats his mother so I felt like that attitude was good.

Not long after we had a very deep convo about abuse in relationships and he seemed to kind of take his fathers side saying it was her fault for staying and “some people are just weak while others are strong.” I told him I felt that was slightly insensitive and he just said “I wasn’t saying you’re weak, I’m just saying some people are.” So I just let it go. Sometimes he’d say how he hated women but shortly after he’d take it back.

But now he’s a completely different person. I don’t mind a little jealousy and control but everything has to be exactly how he wants it. Any time I interact with the opposite sex I feel like he punishes me. If I talk to his friends he calls them my “boyfriend” and says go be with them. He says how he can’t trust women because his father said women are the devil. If he flirts with another woman in my face and confront him he just tells me to stop speaking and says this is why he should go date a white girl bc they aren't hard headed (I’m mixed). When I don’t listen or he’s mad he’ll ignore me for a long time. And on top of that his mommas boy attitude changed. He will purposely ignore her calls. He’s let me listen to voicemails of her crying and he just laughs and deletes it. He flip flops between saying he loves her and calling her annoying/ a b*tch.

The thing is he is seemingly only like this with the females in the family and now me. Around other women he is charming and fun. When I brought this up in an argument he said it was because “he actually likes them but hates me.” Only to deny saying it a week later. I told him I’m tired and needed space but he grabbed my neck lightly and told me I’m not going anywhere. But now he’s back to ignoring me.

I hate to stereotype but my friend who is half Nigerian and also dated one for 7 years said it only gets worse and to watch out bc they can be abusive. But I feel like he's not like that he just gets annoyed with me. Is this typical Nigerian behavior? If I act better will he be nicer to me?

Ariella25:
So this is going to be a long story but I have been dating this Nigerian man for awhile. At the beginning he was nice, attentive, communicative, giving etc and seemed like the ideal man. He’d always compliment me on how sweet and soft spoken I was too. The only thing that made me weary was his father was abusive towards his mother. I had recently been in an abusive relationship as well but he assured me he didn’t hit women bc of his mom. He was always praising her too. I was always told to look at how a man treats his mother so I felt like that attitude was good.

Not long after we had a very deep convo about abuse in relationships and he seemed to kind of take his fathers side saying it was her fault for staying and “some people are just weak while others are strong.” I told him I felt that was slightly insensitive and he just said “I wasn’t saying you’re weak, I’m just saying some people are.” So I just let it go. Sometimes he’d say how he hated women but shortly after he’d take it back.

But now he’s a completely different person. I don’t mind a little jealousy and control but everything has to be exactly how he wants it. Any time I interact with the opposite sex I feel like he punishes me. If I talk to his friends he calls them my “boyfriend” and says go be with them. He says how he can’t trust women because his father said women are the devil. If he flirts with another woman in my face and confront him he just tells me to stop speaking and says this is why he should go date a white girl bc they aren't hard headed (I’m mixed). When I don’t listen or he’s mad he’ll ignore me for a long time. And on top of that his mommas boy attitude changed. He will purposely ignore her calls. He’s let me listen to voicemails of her crying and he just laughs and deletes it. He flip flops between saying he loves her and calling her annoying/ a b*tch.

The thing is he is seemingly only like this with the females in the family and now me. Around other women he is charming and fun. When I brought this up in an argument he said it was because “he actually likes them but hates me.” Only to deny saying it a week later. I told him I’m tired and needed space but he grabbed my neck lightly and told me I’m not going anywhere. But now he’s back to ignoring me.

I hate to stereotype but my friend who is half Nigerian and also dated one for 7 years said it only gets worse and to watch out bc they can be abusive. But I feel like he's not like that he just gets annoyed with me. Is this typical Nigerian behavior? If I act better will he be nicer to me?