hopefulLandlord:
I wouldn't care if not that many coworkers assign Vic's behaviour to his atheism. This makes it bad for other atheists like me who are still in the closet at work.

if this is exactly why you're concerned then you really need to just ignore and keep on with your own work

I assume you're in Nigeria and the workplace is situated there. religious people see atheists as strange, they don't know what atheism is so they tend to connect bad things to atheism. If an atheist faces certain problems they'd connect the problem to his atheism even though there are lots of religious facing same or worse problems around them. if he's poor its because he doesn't believe in any god, if he's sick its because he doesn't believe in any god, if he's having marital issues its because the marriage wasn't build on god foundation, if he's fired from work its because he doesn't have a god to fight for him etc. they ignore the fact that whatever issues such atheists have aren't unique to atheism but it feels more convenient to blame atheism and really disturbing to see those are normal human challenges religious people also face

This extends to why they think atheism is responsible for the way the open atheist in your workplace behaves even though there might actually be a religious person in your work who's worse than him or at least you can think up someone in another company who's also as arrogant, is a womaniser, talks to people anyhow but is actually religious

With the understanding of why they think this way, if you feel you can't ignore their conclusion I advice you don't need to confront him but work on the thinking of those concluding atheism is responsible. explain to them that it has nothing to do with his atheism and that's just his own behaviour. explain that there's no creed or doctrine that says an atheist should fork any female in skirts or be rude and disrespectful to others just like there's no creed that states the Christian womanizers and rude Christians are to act the way they do. Tell them about atheists you know that don't behave this way but be careful not to expose your atheism in the process or make them suspect you if you're not ready to come out as one.

I believe with time the sensible ones amongst them would see sense in what you're saying and sense can be contagious

My 800 kobo

hopefulLandlord:
I wouldn't care if not that many coworkers assign Vic's behaviour to his atheism. This makes it bad for other atheists like me who are still in the closet at work.

if this is exactly why you're concerned then you really need to just ignore and keep on with your own work

I assume you're in Nigeria and the workplace is situated there. religious people see atheists as strange, they don't know what atheism is so they tend to connect bad things to atheism. If an atheist faces certain problems they'd connect the problem to his atheism even though there are lots of religious facing same or worse problems around them. if he's poor its because he doesn't believe in any god, if he's sick its because he doesn't believe in any god, if he's having marital issues its because the marriage wasn't build on god foundation, if he's fired from work its because he doesn't have a god to fight for him etc. they ignore the fact that whatever issues such atheists have aren't unique to atheism but it feels more convenient to blame atheism and really disturbing to see those are normal human challenges religious people also face

This extends to why they think atheism is responsible for the way the open atheist in your workplace behaves even though there might actually be a religious person in your work who's worse than him or at least you can think up someone in another company who's also as arrogant, is a womaniser, talks to people anyhow but is actually religious

With the understanding of why they think this way, if you feel you can't ignore their conclusion I advice you don't need to confront him but work on the thinking of those concluding atheism is responsible. explain to them that it has nothing to do with his atheism and that's just his own behaviour. explain that there's no creed or doctrine that says an atheist should fork any female in skirts or be rude and disrespectful to others just like there's no creed that states the Christian womanizers and rude Christians are to act the way they do. Tell them about atheists you know that don't behave this way but be careful not to expose your atheism in the process or make them suspect you if you're not ready to come out as one.

I believe with time the sensible ones amongst them would see sense in what you're saying and sense can be contagious

My 800 kobo

felixomor:
Insultive and arrogance.....

Abeg leave him
He is only exhibting his true nature.
The atheist real nature.

Just allow him to climb higher,
You will even see worse.

felixomor:
Insultive and arrogance.....

Abeg leave him
He is only exhibting his true nature.
The atheist real nature.

Just allow him to climb higher,
You will even see worse.

hopefulLandlord:
I wouldn't care if not that many coworkers assign Vic's behaviour to his atheism. This makes it bad for other atheists like me who are still in the closet at work.

if this is exactly why you're concerned then you really need to just ignore and keep on with your own work

I assume you're in Nigeria and the workplace is situated there. religious people see atheists as strange, they don't know what atheism is so they tend to connect bad things to atheism. If an atheist faces certain problems they'd connect the problem to his atheism even though there are lots of religious facing same or worse problems around them. if he's poor its because he doesn't believe in any god, if he's sick its because he doesn't believe in any god, if he's having marital issues its because the marriage wasn't build on god foundation, if he's fired from work its because he doesn't have a god to fight for him etc. they ignore the fact that whatever issues such atheists have aren't unique to atheism but it feels more convenient to blame atheism and really disturbing to see those are normal human challenges religious people also face

This extends to why they think atheism is responsible for the way the open atheist in your workplace behaves even though there might actually be a religious person in your work who's worse than him or at least you can think up someone in another company who's also as arrogant, is a womaniser, talks to people anyhow but is actually religious

With the understanding of why they think this way, if you feel you can't ignore their conclusion I advice you don't need to confront him but work on the thinking of those concluding atheism is responsible. explain to them that it has nothing to do with his atheism and that's just his own behaviour. explain that there's no creed or doctrine that says an atheist should fork any female in skirts or be rude and disrespectful to others just like there's no creed that states the Christian womanizers and rude Christians are to act the way they do. Tell them about atheists you know that don't behave this way but be careful not to expose your atheism in the process or make them suspect you if you're not ready to come out as one.

I believe with time the sensible ones amongst them would see sense in what you're saying and sense can be contagious

My 800 kobo

felixomor:
Insultive and arrogance.....

Abeg leave him
He is only exhibting his true nature.
The atheist real nature.

Just allow him to climb higher,
You will even see worse.

JeromeBlack:

Normally, I do not put my nose in other people's beliefs (or lack of beliefs). However, there is this atheist at my place of work that really needs to change his attitude towards others. Let us call this atheist "Vic".

I wouldn't care if not that many coworkers assign Vic's behaviour to his atheism. This makes it bad for other atheists like me who are still in the closet at work.

This Vic of a guy is tall, handsome and is in a higher position at work but he is also very much disliked. He is arrogant and he is a womaniser. He talks to people anyhow. Even when he debates atheism, he comes off as arrogant. I am happy that he challenges people to think about their beliefs but insulting them will only make them hate you.

The problem is, how do I tell him to calm down? I am not exactly his boss but I have a slightly higher position than him. I really do not talk about religion in public and this makes me nervous.



atheist brothers in the house- johnydon22, hahn, hopefullandlord, dalaman, capslocked, npcomplete

DeSepiero:
Tell him what you think he does wrongly.
Tell him why you think he does wrongly.
Tell him the effects when he does it.
After that, go on to:
Tell him how you think he should do it rightly.
Tell him how helpful it would be if he does it rightly.
Finally, ask him what he thinks.

NB. Do this privately and politely.

Thank me later

DeSepiero:
Tell him what you think he does wrongly.
Tell him why you think he does wrongly.
Tell him the effects when he does it.
After that, go on to:
Tell him how you think he should do it rightly.
Tell him how helpful it would be if he does it rightly.
Finally, ask him what he thinks.

NB. Do this privately and politely.

Thank me later

DeSepiero:
Tell him what you think he does wrongly.
Tell him why you think he does wrongly.
Tell him the effects when he does it.
After that, go on to:
Tell him how you think he should do it rightly.
Tell him how helpful it would be if he does it rightly.
Finally, ask him what he thinks.

NB. Do this privately and politely.

Thank me later

felixomor:
Insultive and arrogance.....

Abeg leave him
He is only exhibting his true nature.
The atheist real nature.

Just allow him to climb higher,
You will even see worse.

dalaman:


All the people that have made Nigeria the hell hole that it is today including you are not atheist.

felixomor:

Do you know the people?
The same way your relatives think you are not an atheist....because u pretend to be "christian"
Meanwhile u are an atheist

felixomor:

Do you know the people?
The same way your relatives think you are not an atheist....because u pretend to be "christian"
Meanwhile u are an atheist

dalaman:


So all the past and present Nigerian leaders are all claiming to be atheist abi? You too are are closet atheist abi? Because all he past and present leaders of Nigeria and citizens like you are responsible for making Nigeria the hell hole that it is.

superhumanist:


Felixomoron.

felixomor:


Dumbo jumbo

JeromeBlack:



Thanks for the advise but there are other atheists on this thread saying that I should ignore and move on. Why do you think otherwise?

RuthlessLeader:

[s]Your clown in chief butterflyliar has told you to stop engaging atheist[/s].

felixomor:


Hehehe
Buharis brother.
Always blaming others.

You are part of the problem

felixomor:

Rubbish

dalaman:


Am.glad you mentioned Buhari, just recently Nigeria was declared as the poverty capital of the world because it is now the country with the highest number of its people living in abject poverty(87 million people out of about 180 million people ) more than India with a population of 1.1 billion people because of the useless policies of Buhari, are you saying that Buhari is an atheist? Or are citizens like you that have also destroyed Nigeria atheist?

RuthlessLeader:

Your life you mean

felixomor:

No.
Your brain

felixomor:


Maybe.
But The fact remains No category of people have contributed mpositvely to the world and to Nigeria more than christians.
Not even your kind nor atheists. You guys have almost zero value

dalaman:



What are the positive contributions of Christians to Nigeria knowing that Nigeria is a failed state and its major cities are among the worst places to live on earth?

RuthlessLeader:

[s]What? You want to know where you can buy one? Sorry that`s impossible. Instead, you can exercise your brain by reading up on scientific facts and applying logic and reasoning, and best of all: Accepting your buy-bull is bullshit[/s]

felixomor:

Here we go again.
They start mentioning "science" to look intelligent...
As usual. Same route again
Dumbos