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Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by adisabarber(m): 11:17pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
Monday200: Why complain if he will fund your expensive lifestyle? |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by SmartMugu: 11:25pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
If you can't adapt to his lifestyle, share his name and phone number here. Several girls will gladly adapt in a heartbeat. 1 Like |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by TheKingMurphy: 11:26pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
What do women want sef? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by grandstar(m): 11:27pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
prettysassygirl: Are you a Witness? 1 Like |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Nobody: 11:27pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
Sorry to say this, by the reason of monikers and som e local languages in each comment, I have come to know the tribe with the highest advice of " don't lose him are you mad" "your village ppl dey follow you" " You be Mumu" Why must ppl worship money so tey that at the mention of money their reasoning faculty starts malfunctioning. For Gods sake Money is not the only source of happiness, so if this lady can't cope let her leave the guy. Heaven won't fall and she might still end up marrying a guy as rich or even richer. Where Dangote money reach thats where Bill Gates own start. It is sure she won't have happiness in the marriage and it's wiser she leaves the relationship. Heaven won't fall 2 Likes |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by enone(m): 11:28pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
This is spot on. ibkayee: 1 Like |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Nobody: 11:31pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
SmartMugu: And that might be such girls worst decision in life. The Rich also Cries Many of the Divorce are Rich men divorce, the poor even have lasting marriages. Money can't buy happiness. |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by HeavenShield: 11:37pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
itsmeurLady: So Far reading... I think i will go with this advice from itsmeurLady But let me add..Are you a christian then read Prov. 30:7-9..think it will suffice.. |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Nobody: 11:42pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
donstan18: this opinion of yours is a very bad opinion are people in marriage for love or for financial gain so basically she should lose her sense of reasoning because she is married to a rich guy every body priority is different in life.if he truely loves her he wont allow other girls to take him and he will listen to her about flauntng i think it is childish for you to flaunt your wealth,if she wanna be modest,nothing stopping her from be who she wanna be. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by nikkyshyne(f): 11:46pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
@OP Abeg give me his number 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by flo249: 11:48pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
hmmm |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by johhnnie(m): 11:57pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
Acidosis: May God bless you real good! |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by kbright911(m): 11:58pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
Be there and watch small girls with big God take over your man.. Be happy you've found yourself such a man.. Remember! Such man is another woman's dream. |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by yelei(m): 11:59pm On Jul 13, 2018 |
I can totally relate dis sisters post. similar issue happened in ma church couple of years back. d sister was very reserved in d nature. she was everything he wants in a woman except DAT she wouldn't wia trousers wen he's taking her out or wen his friends r around, she wouldn't alter her virgin hair for anything cos she doesn't feel comfortable in it. is little is it looked, oda issues soon started generating from dis, church and family couldn't reconcile dem cos man was really full of life so deh opted for a divorce. so poster, pls think well if u should continue or not 1 Like |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by gforce5: 12:04am On Jul 14, 2018 |
OP, the problem you guys are a having is a clash of personalities and to some extent backgrounds. He is an extrovert while you are an introvert. Your fiance isn't immature. He's just used to a certain lifestyle and wants you to be part of his world. Both of you have to decide if there is a middle ground in your relationship, otherwise there will be a lot of conflict if you proceed with the marriage. This is why it is important to be with someone within your circle/level. |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Nwakannaya1: 12:25am On Jul 14, 2018 |
People fail to understand that simplicity is a choice and not necessarily as a result of penury. That she chose to live a simple lifestyle does not mean she is poor. Op... I think you should talk with him, not 'to' him on this issue. Both of you can make amends. It is no big deal, what attracted him was not your physical appearance. I just think he wants u to measure up with the look of his friends' babes and wives! There is nothing wrong with preferring to stay at home, but know as well that u should not be worried with his movements in the course of time. U are a lady, u know the best time to do the talking. 1 Like |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Nwakannaya1: 12:28am On Jul 14, 2018 |
nikkyshyne: Small girl with big god |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Platony(m): 12:28am On Jul 14, 2018 |
GOFRONT: U tink say guys no get sense? Dey al do al sorts of sh*t wit slayqueens, Then wen its tym to marry....dey wil look for a decent intelligent girl. Hw many slayqueens wey u knw wey sabi book?? Apart frm dressing lyk karishika n party al nite, travel frm one town to another. |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by jeff1607(m): 12:31am On Jul 14, 2018 |
its funny reading all what most people are saying . Not all rich or well to do folks behave like how the Op describe. some like to be indoors, minding their business and not talking to anyone. even for days , some just like the simple lifestyle of not putting out all for all too see. no partying or clubbing, fear of being robbed or mobbed. You just met a guy who just like to show off not necessarily because he is wealthy. some guys just prefer showing to world the kinda of woman he has or probably her beauty. You just met someone who doesn't match up to your type of personality which is a bad sign. it will create friction between you two and how you guys have stayed this long without conflict is mind boggling 2 Likes |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by JoyceMeyersFan(f): 12:36am On Jul 14, 2018 |
Quit if you can't cope. Life is as easy as that. Except you can learn to slay the way he wants. You know what you want. |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Teniola2000: 12:36am On Jul 14, 2018 |
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Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Temptee101(m): 12:48am On Jul 14, 2018 |
If you can't cope, why don't you leave and allow the young man have rest of mind. Women are just insatiable, you spend on them, wahala, you don't spend, trouble. It's either you are timid or you are yet to liberate yourself from mental poverty. The young man is only asking you to look good for him, how is that a problem. |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by rayobaba(m): 12:55am On Jul 14, 2018 |
Girl! I think l understand you. See, l also think he likes you cos u are not slay girls and that you are not after his wealth. He would av noticed all ds good attributes of urs. My advice for u is don't change who you are and don't leave him. He has weakness accepted, but wt patient and proper tone, u can change him. Don't let it sound like he has bad life style, it wl amount to you judging him. Av u ever wondered why he chose u and not hundreds of slay queen out there! It's cos u are priceless and seen as wife material to him. Mind u that not all Ur attributes wl be right also, so be ready to bend a little. After bending, let him understand it's cos u love him and then use style to talk to him as per other things u want him to change. Don't be resistance and expect him to listen to you. God bless u in Ur journey. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by SirMichael1: 12:55am On Jul 14, 2018 |
ImaIma1: I guess we read different stuffs 'cause from what I read, there wasn't any part that implied that he tried to adapt a bit to her standard. Why does he always force his opinions on her? The type of dress to put on, makeup type and the rest. If he 'bends' for her, she won't be feeling suffocated in the relationship. The fiancé is control freak. My way or no way. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Nobody: 12:56am On Jul 14, 2018 |
Monday200: So u expected him to allow u to look like Mgbeke ogboju girl and be following him upandan?? 2 Likes |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Believe33: 12:57am On Jul 14, 2018 |
eezeribe: Thats not a good advice bro, not all people from rich family behave the same. Stop blaming the lady, she is a disciplined person and want to live a decent life. My wife dont like make ups or going for clubs but i am ok with it. 1 Like |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by SirMichael1: 1:04am On Jul 14, 2018 |
lilyheaven: It has nothing to do with temperaments. How many child dedications are they going to do in their marriage span. At most 5. If the lady births once in two years, it's okay to host a party. No big deal with that but going clubbing and partying every other Friday is a no no. I might be an introvert but I speak for all responsible fathers out there. From her writeup, he seem to be a party freak and that can be disastrous to their home if left unchecked. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Believe33: 1:20am On Jul 14, 2018 |
People always jumps in any thing concerning wealth. Being rich does not mean that he is living a promise life. I am sure, this lady just briefed a small aspect of his flamboyant life, there are more to it. Too much make ups can have a severe impact in the natural beauty of a person, can even cause some defects. Dressing properly and wearing high heals is not a bad thing but i have seeing ladies who dont like high heals but started using them at some point. This things are gradual process and this guy should just understand. My advice is that he appears to like you by given you all the support. Say it this in a low and lovely voice. Love, i acknowledged the level of love you have for me and want me to be a better person. I understand your feelings for me to change as soon as possible. I want you to also understand that i love you too, i am proud of you and willing to readjust my life to suit your test. I will also like you to consider the fact that change is a gradual process and dont happen quickly. Ask him questions like, do you think that a good relationship is good when third party is involve? Is going to club every time an ideal living style? i see too much make ups not good for healthy living? promise him that you will start to learn how to wear high heals, at the end ask him what he might be willing to give up as well for you, you might be lucky he say 'clubbing' |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by front4line: 1:23am On Jul 14, 2018 |
Monday200:You are not ready for marriage if you are not ready to make sacrifices. Plus you will be making a lot more whether you like it or not for dating a rich very guy. It’s like being married into royalty. If you not ready for that get someone your own level. |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Onyex65: 1:26am On Jul 14, 2018 |
donstan18:shuuuuuuuu, what's wrong if she's a deeper life member? for ur info, money isn't everything |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by Didifabz: 1:44am On Jul 14, 2018 |
Story for the gods � |
Re: I'm finding it difficult to adapt to the Lifestyle Of My Husband To Be. by generationz(f): 1:57am On Jul 14, 2018 |
eezeribe:you do realize that vp osibanjos wife came from a rich and influential family (awolowos granddaughter) but she is very reserved and never wears makeup. what about mark zuberrberg and prscillia chan,bill and Melinda etc. This has very little to do with money ,it has much more to do with prefreces shaped by family background . Haven't you heard of flashy poor people who will borrow money to show off. Everyone has preferences .The man might be what toke makinwa wants but not Priscilla chan or melinda gates . The only beautiful thing I like about the guy is that its obvious he loves this lady. 1 Like |
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