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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by somehow: 3:56am On Jul 22, 2018 |
HEseesall: So its now you want to use "jointly"? Even if your share is 60%, why would you use your name alone? Now that he has known and wants what you did to be reversed 360 degrees, you're now preaching "compromise", jointly bla bla bla. Na just property, 1 fire alone is enough to send it back to 0. The way some of us carry properties for head like we will need it in the world beyond. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Jesusgirl92(f): 10:06am On Jul 22, 2018 |
Evacroft:Hope u later got to read the husband's side of the story. Especially the part where he had to fly his sick father abroad for treatment. She conveniently hid that part by saying he used his own part of the money for "his parents". Making light the situation of things just so she'll appear as "the helper". And she also said they had a " disagreement " without telling us how she insulted her husband's background because she came from a rich family... Na this type of woman go call her husband "useless" in the presence of their children. I hope she's enjoying the house now sha. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Dyt(f): 10:33am On Jul 22, 2018 |
Jesusgirl92: Oh madam the judge Did you take your time to read every of the lady's posts? She has just 10posts Read it all I mean all of it 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Jesusgirl92(f): 10:52am On Jul 22, 2018 |
bukatyne:good question 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Jesusgirl92(f): 11:01am On Jul 22, 2018 |
Dyt:madam jury, I read all thanks. And I stated in my first post that he was wrong to have asked her to pack out and told her to change the property to his name alone. But she betrayed his trust. How on earth would you do that to your husband after you both planned to build together?? Huh?? What was her initial plan of buying the property in her name without even informing him to begin with?? If she knew she did right, why did she keep it away till they had that major disagreement so she could hit him hard with it?? 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by elmagnifico411(m): 11:04am On Jul 22, 2018 |
justjeff:you read her own side alone and judged the matter. Please go and read the husband's side of the story and add both together. Then u would see how she just came here for the sake of cheap points. She's the one ruining the family. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by elmagnifico411(m): 11:13am On Jul 22, 2018 |
adieora:madam, it's just a property. Are u even married at all? I'm sure u yourself wouldn't do what you're asking her to do. And before u on the husband being maipulative, go and read his side of the story, then come back and re advise. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Dyt(f): 11:46am On Jul 22, 2018 |
Jesusgirl92: Wehdone ma |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Jesusgirl92(f): 11:47am On Jul 22, 2018 |
Dyt:Thank you. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by LaudableXX: 1:12pm On Jul 22, 2018 |
Jesusgirl92:You are just blaming the woman left, right and centre without even offering the couple any single advice, on how to resolve the present situation. Na wa, o! Even the woman has tried to make amends, by offering to change the title deeds of the property to their joint names - Mr & Mrs Somebody. But the man refused, saying it must be in his name alone! Didn't they both contribute to the building of the property? He even moved out, seeking transfer to another state, while abandoning his wife & family, instead of trying to bring the issue under control. Yet you are still busy insulting & blasting the woman. Very few people said her actions were right. She has shown remorse, and is begging the husband. Yet, you are too busy itemising her sins, one by one without doing the same for the husband, too. Even Jesus offered solutions to every problem on earth. He never compounded it. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Jesusgirl92(f): 2:02pm On Jul 22, 2018 |
LaudableXX:. They should just forgive each other if not for anything at least for the sake of their children. She for no bring am come NL to begin with. Marriage is not suppose to be a public affair. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 4:59pm On Jul 22, 2018 |
He has NOT abandoned his children. He said he would rent a house and bring his kids. The woman decided to START a fight UNPROVOKED not knowing how much damage it can cause, now she is looking for pity... whatever she gets she deserves it since she decide to act TOXIC. The husband has the freedom to refuse her apology. Read his side of the story. LaudableXX: |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by egopersonified(f): 5:05pm On Jul 22, 2018 |
Change the name to your first son's name, if no son, your first daughter. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by LaudableXX: 5:08pm On Jul 22, 2018 |
EmmaFitBody:His side of the story has been read and digested. Nothing more for him to add. The woman did not start a fight unprovoked. His conduct gave rise to allegations of cheating, which his wife accused him of. Instead of providing proof to show he was not cheating, or trying to allay his wife's fears, he mishandled the situation. And the wife's insults got out of hand. I agree that the wife went overboard with her insults, but what kind of man just refuses to go back to his home over a property issue? You claim he has not abandoned his children. Ok, are the wife & children currently living with him, in his new place? Is he the one taking care of them, right now? Isn't he the one who moved out despite the wife's pleading? He said he would rent a house and bring his kids. When would this activity be carried out? Do you know? What if it takes 6 months, 1 year or 2 years to achieve? Don't forget that he has asked for a transfer to a totally different state, o! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 5:19pm On Jul 22, 2018 |
I always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it... A woman accusing her husband of infidelity when there is ZERO proof warants an angry response. I repeat she started the fight UNPROVOKED... she never anticipated how much damage her utterances would cause. If my brother accuses me of stealing when there is no proof (and I didn't steal) I would get offended... the same if my girlfriend accuses me of cheating! LaudableXX: |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by NoToPile: 5:23pm On Jul 22, 2018 |
Jesusgirl92: Madam she did not hide the sick parent part, if you read past page 0 of this thread you will see it. You are not saying anything about the part of his share he used to build for his own parent She said they had a disagreement the husband went into details she insulted the man, yes she was wrong but something triggered that- allegations of cheating which everyone is avoiding talking about. She never mentioned she was from a rich family, the husband did. The husband's story and the wife's story are the same, she did notlie or say anything about being from a rich home stop making it sound that way. 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by LaudableXX: 5:24pm On Jul 22, 2018 |
EmmaFitBody: It was not unprovoked. There is something he must have said or done, that gave rise to the allegations of cheating. Read the man's story here: https://www.nairaland.com/4629255/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home. He went verbally ballistic, because there was some truth to her comments. If your wife or girlfriend accuses you of cheating, your best bet is not to lose your temper, but to set the records straight. No woman would accuse a man of cheating out of the blue, if something did not provoke it. Basic Psychology 101. Her insults though, went overboard. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 5:31pm On Jul 22, 2018 |
Mr. Man, you don't know all women. Why hasn't she stated her proof that he was cheating? why? She should have stated it.... guess what? She has no proof. She mistakenly decided to stir up trouble based on a passing suspicion (which is NOT evidence of anything). He answered a phone call and she decided to accuse him. If you know basic psychology then you would know that people are NOT always logical.... some women can stir a storm in a tea cup. No need for debate, he has made his decision and whether you or I think he is wrong or right, he has made his decision. LaudableXX: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Jesusgirl92(f): 6:06pm On Jul 22, 2018 |
NoToPile:She would never talk about what transpired in the heat of the argument na... Because she doesn't want us to know the kind of insults she rained on him because she wanted to appear as the saint. If truely she had proof of the husband cheating, don't you think she would have mentioned it in her post? Why did she avoid to talk about that part? She just termed it "disagreement". #yinmu.... I duff my cap for her abeg 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by sweetlaw: 7:13am On Jul 23, 2018 |
mark2sunny: Thanks. My comment hurt u so much because u are in d same boat with d f**king asshole |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by eyinjuege: 8:26am On Jul 23, 2018 |
Jesusgirl92: She also did not tell us she brought the business idea that brought the huge profits in the first place, she did not tell us she married below her social class, she did not tell us what caused their argument aka suspicions of cheating, (the husband did this all by himself) also what the husband said in the heat of their argument. So many things she did not tell us because they would have made the narrative too long or even make some people belittle her husband. That doesn't mean she was trying to hide anything or avoiding anything. She sounds like a woman who just wants peace, despite it all and yet at the same time doesn't want to get cheated. 8 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by eyinjuege: 8:32am On Jul 23, 2018 |
aariwa: Would the law courts still consider it as marital property when they both shared the money equally and she used hers to purchase property? I'm thinking that could be argued, as the man has received his own share of that particular marital wealth. I'm sure there would be bank documents showing they shared that money, and also her own transfers in buying the property. This is just a discourse o, because you said you're a lawyer. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Mznaett: 4:07pm On Jul 23, 2018 |
HEseesall: What a loyal wife she is! Continue... 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Themandator: 6:43pm On Jul 23, 2018 |
HEseesall: You are not a wife to him but a dubious business partner. He is right to want to relocate and leave you and the house alone. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by sevule(m): 9:58pm On Jul 23, 2018 |
peepydelano: What kind of CRAPPY advice is this? Why don't you just come out and tell the woman to be a door mat? She should beg to keep her husband, beg him to take the house, BEG, BEG, BEG. With this kind of advice she will still be begging him when he is taking a second wife. HEseesall:@HEseesall I am glad that you are trying to compromise and you offered to change ownership of the house to you and your husband. Marriage is all about compromise and you have taken the first step. However DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT change ownership of the house to your husband's name alone!! Your husband already told you to pack out of the house when he thought that the house was in your name. Imagine what he will do when the house is actually in his name! I am also a father and I can't fathom how a man would leave his wife and children just because of an argument. Try your best to reconcile with your husband, but REMEMBER YOU HAVE TO LOOK OUT FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR KIDS FIRST! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 10:12pm On Jul 23, 2018 |
sevule:urs became more crappy afterall, learn to set space for peace in situations like this,she started d whole brouhaha and she alone can quench it.this is marriage not dating,it doesn't work your ways.shes got a lot to do to salvage this union,so mind what you say . |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 1:25am On Jul 24, 2018 |
She has won... he doesn't want the property anymore and he has made his decision. It doesn't matter if anybody approves of it or not. sevule: |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Themandator: 7:59am On Jul 24, 2018 |
nikenry: The fact that the man did not take a look at the documents tells you that he is not materialistic.....he is not too crazy about property. Ask the woman what she did to have made the husband to ask her to get out. She must have hurt him real deep with words..... Only the married can understand this. This lady is not a wife but a partner...probably she did partnership accounting and took the principle into marriage. Jow can you explain that a wife got a property that was planned between the two parties in her maiden name. Refers to the business return as his share and my share. And that he spent his own returns on his parents. This kind will ruin a chance at a big breakthrough for the husband because she doesn't see the husband success as hers until it is written down in her name or a percentage is expressly written in her favour..... She is not trained to be a under any man but as an equal The union is threatened by her conduct. She may retain the property after all but let her prepare her mind for a bigger surprise, going forward, for she has taught the man a very useful lesson on, my own and your own. This issue would encourage the man to worker harder and independently and be indifferent to her and her activities. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Jesusgirl92(f): 8:35am On Jul 24, 2018 |
Themandator:Exactly. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Biglittlelois(f): 12:18am On Jul 25, 2018 |
Themandator: Nicely put, have you seen the husband's thread? i'd like know your view on that too |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 10:51pm On Jul 25, 2018 |
Oga, she started the fight unprovoked. The man doesn't password his phones and he answered the call in her presence meaning he has nothing to hide. She started a fight without proof if NOT she would have stated it. How can she insult his family, background, parents, personality simply because he refused to tolerate bad behaviour (false accusation of infidelity)? It really tells the kind of TOXIC person she is and how she regards her husband. Let her come and tell us the proof she had for accusing him of cheating... like other guy said, SHE HAS NO PROOF! And incase you don't know this: some women are PARANOID! Some women can cause trouble over little things... I have seen a case where a woman accused her husband of cheating because of a dream she had. (Since when is a dream proof of anything?) LaudableXX: |
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