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Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Flickzvill(m): 5:43pm On Jul 18, 2018
Evening everyone names James, let me cut the long story short. I have been dating my gf for the past 3 years and we love each other so much. Recently my gf alerted me about my best friend how he flirt with her and I really don't know how to go about this i can't fight my fellow man bcz of a woman and on the other hand I can't take nonsense but how do I act. This is their conversation [12/07, 01:00] faith: y aren't u sleeping tho
[12/07, 01:01] lamzy: Lol... just got up..
This one a chatting with my friend babe.
[12/07, 01:02] faith: it's odd ba .. funny enough I.wonder y we new got along initially
[12/07, 01:04] lamzy: �... we find out the reason
[12/07, 01:06] faith: wah was the reason �
[12/07, 01:07] lamzy: Maybe because u too fine and hot�
[12/07, 01:10] faith: I wee tell ur friend �
[12/07, 01:10] faith: so I wasn't fine b4 ��
[12/07, 01:10] lamzy: Lol.. not saying so
[12/07, 01:11] lamzy:�
[12/07, 01:11] faith:loolxxx
[12/07, 01:11] lamzy: Just that we just getting along just like that
[12/07, 01:12] lamzy: �
[12/07, 01:13] lamzy: Sha... I don't like getting close to girls I know I won't like my self maybe after the event �
[12/07, 01:15] faith:y?
[12/07, 01:15] lamzy: You know it won't be cool now
[12/07, 01:17] faith: how u can't be friends with a girl?
[12/07, 01:17] lamzy:We could be friends
[12/07, 01:17] lamzy: But not close enough
[12/07, 01:18] lamzy: Once I know I won't like the after result
[12/07, 01:18] lamzy: �
[12/07, 01:19] faith: lol u need therapy
[12/07, 01:20] lamzy: Lol... am not lying to my self now

This happened days back I just told her it's nothing serious but yesterday evening she called my attention that he started again here is the chat

[17/07, 23:45] lamzy: The other day you said I need dotor�
[17/07, 23:48] faith: lol when
[17/07, 23:48] faith: and y
[17/07, 23:51] lamzy: Lol the day I Said I don't like strting what I won't like the after result.
[17/07, 23:52] faith: oh ok
[17/07, 23:52] faith: wah was it u meant tho
[17/07, 23:53] lamzy: Lol
[17/07, 23:54] lamzy: We can't spend much time together alone �
[17/07, 23:55] faith: so u don't have self control ?
[17/07, 23:55] faith: u need a leash to keep u check?
[17/07, 23:55] faith: is dah wah ur saying
[17/07, 23:55] lamzy: Lol....
[17/07, 23:55] faith: *in
[17/07, 23:56] lamzy: Am not say anything agin �
[17/07, 23:57] faith: ha! ya the one hu brought it up now
[17/07, 23:59] faith: that kinda thing can only happen to some1 uve got physical attractions for .. buh there's no physical or even psychological attraction lol btw us both
[18/07, 00:00] lamzy: Hmmmm
[18/07, 00:00] lamzy: Na u talk am oo
[18/07, 00:00] faith: lmao what is doing u this night
[18/07, 00:01] lamzy: Lol..don't want to put my self in truble
[18/07, 00:29] faith: wah kinda trouble
[18/07, 00:29] lamzy: Lol
[18/07, 00:31] lamzy: Just know that it will be wae
[18/07, 00:31] lamzy: War*

The thing is I like my best friend bcz we been together way back and wouldn't want to do something stupid i just need someone to advice me what to do. Thank you all
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by coolcharm(m): 5:50pm On Jul 18, 2018
Don't stress yourself boy.

Walk up to your guy and ask him point blank if he is eyeing your girlfriend. Make him understand that you don't fancy him flirting with your lady.

Do these for your girlfriend also. Let her understand she is your girlfriend and not a general girlfriend. Let her know what boundaries you both have as per relating and communicating with friends.

If you do that, if they both love and respect you, they will adjust. Else leave the Two of them alone and go find for yourself reliable friends.

BTW, I feel your girlfriend is still a teenager

NB: watch your friend closely. He is leading your girlfriend on and he will hit her bad if he sees any green light

He is one to be very careful off

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by madone: 5:50pm On Jul 18, 2018
grin Woman matter ni go kill man oo

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by nabegibeg: 5:52pm On Jul 18, 2018
Flickzvill:
Evening everyone names James, let me cut the long story short. I have been dating my gf for the past 3 years and we love each other so much. Recently my gf alerted me about my best friend how he flirt with her and I really don't know how to go about this i can't fight my fellow man bcz of a woman and on the other hand I can't take nonsense but how do I act. This is their conversation [12/07, 01:00] imabong: y aren't u sleeping tho
[12/07, 01:01] lamzy: Lol... just got up..
This one a chatting with my friend babe.
[12/07, 01:02] faith: it's odd ba .. funny enough I.wonder y we new got along initially
[12/07, 01:04] lamzy: �... we find out the reason
[12/07, 01:06] faith: wah was the reason �
[12/07, 01:07] lamzy: Maybe because u too fine and hot�
[12/07, 01:10] faith: I wee tell ur friend �
[12/07, 01:10] faith: so I wasn't fine b4 ��
[12/07, 01:10] lamzy: Lol.. not saying so
[12/07, 01:11] lamzy:�
[12/07, 01:11] faith:loolxxx
[12/07, 01:11] lamzy: Just that we just getting along just like that
[12/07, 01:12] lamzy: �
[12/07, 01:13] lamzy: Sha... I don't like getting close to girls I know I won't like my self maybe after the event �
[12/07, 01:15] faith:y?
[12/07, 01:15] lamzy: You know it won't be cool now
[12/07, 01:17] faith: how u can't be friends with a girl?
[12/07, 01:17] lamzy:We could be friends
[12/07, 01:17] lamzy: But not close enough
[12/07, 01:18] lamzy: Once I know I won't like the after result
[12/07, 01:18] lamzy: �
[12/07, 01:19] faith: lol u need therapy
[12/07, 01:20] lamzy: Lol... am not lying to my self now

This happened days back I just told her it's nothing serious but yesterday evening she called my attention that he started again here is the chat

[17/07, 23:45] lamzy: The other day you said I need dotor�
[17/07, 23:48] faith: lol when
[17/07, 23:48] faith: and y
[17/07, 23:51] lamzy: Lol the day I Said I don't like strting what I won't like the after result.
[17/07, 23:52] faith: oh ok
[17/07, 23:52] faith: wah was it u meant tho
[17/07, 23:53] lamzy: Lol
[17/07, 23:54] lamzy: We can't spend much time together alone �
[17/07, 23:55] faith: so u don't have self control ?
[17/07, 23:55] faith: u need a leash to keep u check?
[17/07, 23:55] faith: is dah wah ur saying
[17/07, 23:55] lamzy: Lol....
[17/07, 23:55] faith: *in
[17/07, 23:56] lamzy: Am not say anything agin �
[17/07, 23:57] faith: ha! ya the one hu brought it up now
[17/07, 23:59] faith: that kinda thing can only happen to some1 uve got physical attractions for .. buh there's no physical or even psychological attraction lol btw us both
[18/07, 00:00] lamzy: Hmmmm
[18/07, 00:00] lamzy: Na u talk am oo
[18/07, 00:00] faith: lmao what is doing u this night
[18/07, 00:01] lamzy: Lol..don't want to put my self in truble
[18/07, 00:29] faith: wah kinda trouble
[18/07, 00:29] lamzy: Lol
[18/07, 00:31] lamzy: Just know that it will be wae
[18/07, 00:31] lamzy: War*

The thing is I like my best friend bcz we been together way back and wouldn't want to do something stupid i just need someone to advice me what to do. Thank you all


the three of you are all mad

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by oshe11: 5:53pm On Jul 18, 2018
He is your BEST FRIEND but You are NOT HIS BEST FRIEND......


FLEE from FUCCK BOYS, UNLESS YOU ARE ONE

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Flickzvill(m): 6:01pm On Jul 18, 2018
coolcharm:
Don't stress yourself boy.

actually am not stressing the thing is if it where to be a stranger it's normal girls do see this things alot from guys but he is my best friend it hurts man
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by obibob2020(m): 6:04pm On Jul 18, 2018
Be careful with that kind of a friend. He can sleep with your wife with the slightest opportunity. Don't tell him anything concerning his conversation with your girl. Pretend as if you aren't aware of what is going on. Just gradually distance yourself from him. Your friend is a betrayal. He can even kill you if he have the opportunity to do so.

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by coolcharm(m): 6:09pm On Jul 18, 2018
Flickzvill:
actually am not stressing the thing is if it where to be a stranger it's normal girls do see this things alot from guys but he is my best friend it hurts man

I get you. See my updated post.

But then, your best friend has to show you some respect and stay away from your territory.
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Mekus68: 6:16pm On Jul 18, 2018
Just like someone wrote up there...the three of you are all mad if indeed this is a true story.

My questions;
1) Who gave/how did your best got your babe's number?

2) How could your gf be chatting with/responding to your best friend willingly and yet had the morale to report your best friend to you...to do what, fight him? Cheating has started already.

3) How could you not know,what to do, not even to talk to your best friend to desist from chaiking your babe?

4) How old are the three of you?

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by idibe24(m): 6:19pm On Jul 18, 2018
nawo just follow ur heart war ur heart tell u
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by eph12(m): 6:26pm On Jul 18, 2018
Your gf is the one longing the gist. Once she starts wasting time to reply things go normalize

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by youngds: 6:46pm On Jul 18, 2018
I foresee another thread coming undecided
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by mgtow: 7:46pm On Jul 18, 2018
Since nobody wants to tell you the truth, I will.

Your girlfriend is a HOE!

Why she dey encourage the guy? She enjoys the attention innit? I hope she tells you when they finally get down.

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by aswani(m): 8:08pm On Jul 18, 2018
Stop bothering yourself with their texts, if they are going to involve themselves with each other, they will. Nothing is in your hands.

If you can't trust them to behave, end both your friendship and relationship and move on with your life.

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Flickzvill(m): 8:14pm On Jul 18, 2018
Mekus68:
Just like someone wrote up there...the three of you are all mad if indeed this is a true story.

My questions;
1) Who gave/how did your best got your babe's number?

2) How could your gf be chatting with/responding to your best friend willingly and yet had the morale to report your best friend to you...to do what, fight him? Cheating has started already.

3) How could you not know,what to do, not even to talk to your best friend to desist from chaiking your babe?

4) How old are the three of you?

Ans- 1. Actually I do use his phone to get her atimes I guess he used the opportunity to store it

2. I respect her for coming to me she doesn't hide anything if she really wanted to cheat she wouldn't mention that's women maybe she just wants me to knw d kind of friend I have

3.bruh I am hot tempered I can do some really stupid shit when I am angry that's why i came here to get useful advice on what to do. Coz any slight negative response from him I might do something stupid don't want to go to jail for nothing.

4. Well I am 24 he is 24 nd she is 22 don't look at me like ama kid this kind of things happen to many people even married couples it's just I made a mistake from the onset

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Flickzvill(m): 8:16pm On Jul 18, 2018
aswani:
Stop bothering yourself with their texts, if they are going to involve themselves with each other, they will. Nothing is in your hands.

If you can't trust them to behave, end both your friendship and relationship and move on with your life.
thank you would put this into consideration

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Flickzvill(m): 8:20pm On Jul 18, 2018
mgtow:
Since nobody wants to tell you the truth, I will.

Your girlfriend is a HOE!

Why she dey encourage the guy? She enjoys the attention innit? I hope she tells you when they finally get down.
my gf is not a hoe she is like that she's not rude to anyone she just play along to know who you truly are
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Flickzvill(m): 8:20pm On Jul 18, 2018
eph12:
Your gf is the one longing the gist. Once she starts wasting time to reply things go normalize
yea we talked about this
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Flickzvill(m): 8:21pm On Jul 18, 2018
coolcharm:


I get you. See my updated post.

But then, your best friend has to show you some respect and stay away from your territory.

I think the best is to meet him one on one let's have an accord that way if he crosses the boundary am done.
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by SenhorSean(m): 8:26pm On Jul 18, 2018
You have to warn your so called best friend to stop flirting with your bae... #IRANU ABASHA

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Akinbahm(m): 8:34pm On Jul 18, 2018
Flickzvill:
Evening everyone names James, let me cut the long story short. I have been dating my gf for the past 3 years and we love each other so much. Recently my gf alerted me about my best friend how he flirt with her and I really don't know how to go about this i can't fight my fellow man bcz of a woman and on the other hand I can't take nonsense but how do I act. The thing is I like my best friend bcz we been together way back and wouldn't want to do something stupid i just need someone to advice me what to do. Thank you all
Guy what advice do u really need? In the first place why would ur friend have access to ur gurl numb(not really bad though) they r even having deep conversation, better converse with ur girl to block that fuckboy up now b4 i cme down there to tear u slap
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by brownhawk: 8:34pm On Jul 18, 2018
This is disgusting. Just warn ur nigga of ur capabilities (if u have one) if he doesn't back off. Do the slight to ur babe
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by ranmoor: 8:42pm On Jul 18, 2018
Flickzvill:


2. I respect her for coming to me she doesn't hide anything if she really wanted to cheat she wouldn't mention that's women maybe she just wants me to knw d kind of friend I have
U are so naive, well you are young. I remember when I was about your age my gf then told me that one of my area big bro was toasting her, calling him so names bla bla bla. I decided to share it with another big bro who just smiled and told me I should come to him around 8pm. On getting to his place we went to the other bro's house but he said we should wait across the street. Few minutes later I saw my so called gf leaving his house with the big bro telling her 'till tomorrow with a peck' The other bro told me he just wanted me to see it with my eyes that the girl is just trying to position me to mumu zone should in case someone told me.

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by mgtow: 8:44pm On Jul 18, 2018
Flickzvill:
my gf is not a hoe she is like that she's not rude to anyone she just play along to know who you truly are

She's enjoying the attention trust me. Tell her to stop replying his chats and stand firm on it. If afterwards she continues to chat with him, then maybe, just maybe, I am right.

You don't need to confront your friend. You may or may not, all I know is that some guys can be very stewpid. So face your gf and bar her from replying him.
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by mgtow: 8:48pm On Jul 18, 2018
Flickzvill:
my gf is not a hoe she is like that she's not rude to anyone she just play along to know who you truly are

Most of these things na from innocent play e dey start...
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by mgtow: 8:54pm On Jul 18, 2018
ranmoor:

U are so naive, well you are young. I remember when I was about your age my gf then told me that one of my area big bro was toasting her, calling him so names bla bla bla. I decided to share it with another big bro who just smiled and told me I should come to him around 8pm. On getting to his place we went to the other bro's house but he said we should wait across the street. Few minutes later I saw my so called gf leaving his house with the big bro telling her 'till tomorrow with a peck' The other bro told me he just wanted me to see it with my eyes that the girl is just trying to position me to mumu zone should in case someone told me.

This guy has explained it in all the ways that I couldn't. The annoying thing is that the more you complain, the more she would be intrigued by the thought of 'running things' with the guy. Because anything that is forbidden, na him woman dey like pass. So lay down the law just once, and if she breaks the law, you ex her straight.

Sounds extreme but I know her type. I've seen them all.

I'm not a fan of challenging a fellow guy over a broad, I feel it's demeaning. If una con fight sef it's even worse and makes the girl seem more special. Just change your attitude in a very obvious manner towards that guy until his guilty conscience forces him to fess up to you, then you can take it up from there. But challenging him is a no-no.

I believe in operating from a position of strength.

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Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Flickzvill(m): 8:54pm On Jul 18, 2018
ranmoor:

U are so naive, well you are young. I remember when I was about your age my gf then told me that one of my area big bro was toasting her, calling him so names bla bla bla. I decided to share it with another big bro who just smiled and told me I should come to him around 8pm. On getting to his place we went to the other bro's house but he said we should wait across the street. Few minutes later I saw my so called gf leaving his house with the big bro telling her 'till tomorrow with a peck' The other bro told me he just wanted me to see it with my eyes that the girl is just trying to position me to mumu zone should in case someone told me.
damn I can only imagine how that felt well maybe my love for her has blinded me but no more
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Flickzvill(m): 8:59pm On Jul 18, 2018
mgtow:


This guy has explained it in all the ways that I couldn't. The annoying thing is that the more you complain, the more she would be intrigued by the thought of 'running things' with the guy. Because anything that is forbidden, na him woman dey like pass. So lay down the law just once, and if she breaks the law, you ex her straight.

Sounds extreme but I know her type. I've seen them all.

I'm not a fan of challenging a fellow guy over a broad, I feel it's demeaning. If una con fight sef it's even worse and makes the girl seem more special. Just change your attitude in a very obvious manner towards that guy until his guilty conscience forces him to fess up to you, then you can take it up from there. But challenging him is a no-no.

I believe in operating from a position of strength.
one of the best advice thanks so much
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Abbey2sam(m): 11:49pm On Jul 18, 2018
coolcharm:
Don't stress yourself boy.

Walk up to your guy and ask him a point blank if he is eyeing your girlfriend. Make him understand that you don't fancy him flirting with your lady.

Do these for your girlfriend also. Let her understand she is your girlfriend and not a general girlfriend. Let her know you don't what boundaries you both have as per relating and communicating with friends.

If you do that, if they both love and respect you, they will adjust. Else leave the Two of them alone and d for yourself reliable friends.

BTW, I feel your girlfriend is still a teenager

NB: watch your friend closely. He wants to hit your woman bad

He is leading your girlfriend on. And he will hit her if he sees any green light

He is one to be very careful off



You got your answer right here


@op do as he said
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Flickzvill(m): 8:16am On Jul 19, 2018
Abbey2sam:




You got your answer right here


@op do as he said
I will thank you guys so much
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Nobody: 8:48am On Jul 19, 2018
Just promote her to general gf
Re: Please I Need Advice I Don't Know What To Do About My Gf And Best friend by Saff(f): 9:10am On Jul 19, 2018
mgtow:
Since nobody wants to tell you the truth, I will.

Your girlfriend is a HOE!

Why she dey encourage the guy? She enjoys the attention innit? I hope she tells you when they finally get down.
When men go their own way, unfortunately their common sense follows.

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