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My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by praxs(m): 9:17am On Jul 28, 2018
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by duduade: 9:20am On Jul 28, 2018
A cheap pack of condoms which goes for less than #500 would have saved you all these issues...
Your nemesis just started!!!!

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by nadalion: 9:38am On Jul 28, 2018
If you have a friend THAT (personally) KNOWS YOU, THE GIRL and HER FAMILY, the person will be a better adviser. Why I think so? It's because they can either Allay your fears or give you reasons to go with her abortion plans. Personally, I feel your on track in your decisions so far, Cheers mate.

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by praxs(m): 10:00am On Jul 28, 2018
duduade:
A cheap pack of condoms which goes for less than #500 would have saved you all these issues...
Your nemesis just started!!!!

Nemesis? Could you explain further

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by praxs(m): 10:03am On Jul 28, 2018
nadalion:
If you have a friend TO THAT (personally) KNOWS YOU, THE GIRL and HER FAMILY, will be a better adviser. Why I think so? It's because they can either Allay your fears it give you reasons to go with her abortion plans. Personally, I feel your on track in your decisions so far, Cheers mate.

The thing is we are from different states, so practically we have no mutual advisor. I am still thinking of the worst decisions the family could take? Any tips.

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by nahzyla: 11:11am On Jul 28, 2018
How far gone is the pregnancy

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by praxs(m): 11:40am On Jul 28, 2018
nahzyla:
How far gone is the pregnancy
Almost 4weeks now

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Oyindidi(f): 11:41am On Jul 28, 2018
praxs:


The thing is we are from different states, so practically we have no mutual advisor. I am still thinking of the worst decisions the family could take? Any tips.
Report yourself to your family

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by praxs(m): 11:52am On Jul 28, 2018
Oyindidi:
Report yourself to your family
My family isn't the issue.. The won't have choice than to accept my decision after the insults.. She's hellbent on abortion, and I am not comfortable with that.. Too risky for me,..convincing her is the issue here then the best way to bring myself to her family. The pregnancy is 4weeks old

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jul 28, 2018
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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by appsdope(m): 12:29pm On Jul 28, 2018
Let her abort it. Or do you want her to be a baby mama? A lot of children today will prefer not being born than their current situations. Let her abort it. It's not the end of the world. Get a good clinic and go do it there.

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by oolongtea(m): 1:03pm On Jul 28, 2018
praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:
a, she wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.
b, I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?
c, Both of us come from a very strick family.
d, I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?
What is just the best way to report myself?
I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

look at all the bolded parts. dude, you're being really childish and impractical. the idea of cute fatherhood u have in your head is FAR from the harsh reality of rushing into parenthood especially for a guy as naive and short-sighted as u are. be a man and make the necessary tough choice. the girl is right, find a hospital and get the abortion pills. she swallows and this madness is over.

from the part in italics, it's obvious you're a story teller, the ones that are drawn to drama. this will overwhelm u eventually, fantasy is a liar, the attention u crave will come and u wont like it. dont fvck up you life and dont fvck up a young girl's life with your weakness of mind. encourage her to get the abortion and for god's sake ALWAYS use a condom!!!

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Somzee(f): 2:54pm On Jul 28, 2018
praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

a, she wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.
b, I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?
c, Both of us come from a very strick family.
d, I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?
I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.
Let her break the news to her parents,maybe through someone her parents respects a lot or directly if she's close to them.
Since you're not denying responsibility I don't think it might be so bad.

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Zoharariel(m): 4:34pm On Jul 28, 2018
Do not allow her abort the pregnancy. Get her mother's phone number without her consent and text her the following:

"Dear Mrs. so so & so,

Blessings of the kingdom to you & your family in Jesus name. In this end times, all have sinned & have come short of the glory of God.

Your beautiful & virtuous daughter (insert her name here e.g Ada) is pregnant and contemplating abortion.

The bible warns us against abortion in Psalm 127: 3 - "Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring - a reward from him"

I am ready to take full responsibility. May Jehovah Selichot - "God of Forgiveness" forgive us our sins - Amen!"

Now, after sending her this sms, switch off your phone for 3days and inform one of your Uncles about this incident.

You can never go to jail because of this. Ari iru eleyi ri, a fi n deru ba oloro nii. grin

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Nobody: 5:40pm On Jul 28, 2018
praxs:
Almost 4weeks now
tell her to find the solution herself.

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by oolongtea(m): 6:16pm On Jul 28, 2018
Zoharariel:
Do not allow her abort the pregnancy. Get her mother's phone number without her consent and text her the following:

"Dear Mrs. so so & so,

Blessings of the kingdom to you & your family in Jesus name. In this end times, all have sinned & have come short of the glory of God.

Your beautiful & virtuous daughter (insert her name here e.g Ada) is pregnant and contemplating abortion.

The bible warns us against abortion in Psalm 127: 3 - "Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring - a reward from him"

I am ready to take full responsibility. May Jehovah Selichot - "God of Forgiveness" forgive us our sins - Amen!"

Now, after sending her this sms, switch off your phone for 3days and inform one of your Uncles about this incident.

You can never go to jail because of this. Ari iru eleyi ri, a fi n deru ba oloro nii. grin

boy, how old are u? u have to learn to stop embarrassing yourself.. he should get her mother's number without her consent and talk your quoted trash. "her mother" "my people". once this child is here, mother becomes the girl in question here who does not want this child and father becomes this 28yr old who is obviously unprepared to be a father but is carried away with the wishful euphoria of the idea of having a cute newborn without factoring in cold hard facts into what it takes to bring a child here and how life will NEVER be the same after this and all the risk and all that could go wrong that one has to accept as far as a newborn is concerned.
this "her mother" you're talking of, maybe your nigerian parents traumatized u so u cant understand the concept of adult independence but everybody lives it. this girl's life will not revolve around her mother's sentiments and the responsibility this dude is foolishly jumping into without properly weighing will not be eased by her mother's moans and sighs in future. and the level of disrespect for this girl to suggest he should contact her mother without her consent. u obviously dont respect women and u are not very bright. if u were, u would weigh in the tremendous responsibility of parenthood and realize that if something this serious is attempted to be done by cutting corners with the number 1 person involved, then it wont end well for anyone and it's a sign to abort mission. it's like russia planning a war that vladmir putin knows nothing about, it will backfire. stop underestimating the importance of what this girl chooses to do about this.

u know what life is like for the average nigerian. imagine that life with a mother who hates u from her whole heart. u ppl have to be careful the advices u give and the spiritual consequences it will have in the long run. bringing innocent souls here that will curse the ones who brought them into such an unfair circumstance and u'll be somewhere saying but your hands are clean while life fvcks u shege. u'd probably pee yourself in joy if given a south african visa just so u can escape nigeria yet here u are suggesting an unstable 28 yr old boy should usher in a baby into a hard life with a 22 yr old girl he's dated for a very short time who absolutely does not want the pregnancy.
i am yet to see one of the keep-the-baby crusaders ask this boy what he does, how much he earns, what his living condition is like, the distance b/w him and the gf, what his realistic plans are for this child, if he plans to marry the mother, if the mother wants to marry him, if he does not plan to marry the mother.. who does he think will, if he loves the child so much why is he ok with the possibility of another man raising him if the mother marries someone else, what are their genotypes, has it ever crossed his mind the child could be born disabled, does he have a child-friendly environment to raise a child in the current nigerian climate(corruption, sexual abuse, kidnaps)

just goat-ish sentimental advices of keep it that wont matter in the long run and will keep everyone miserable and always hoping. the way u think is not what works and the ones who built countries that u would love to go to wouldnt have such great countries if they refuse to apply logic like u. why didnt u suggest he transfer the pregnancy to the girl's mother so he can kuku leave the girl out of the whole thing since u're already suggesting he leave her out of it when she can literally not be left out of it except she gets an abortion. mtchew

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by sisisioge: 8:37pm On Jul 28, 2018
grin grin grin

Just tell your parents and leave the job of telling her parents to them.

Or tell her mom, that would more than convince your babe to keep it.

Sharp shooter grin

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Restroom: 9:29pm On Jul 28, 2018
I must appreciate you bro, for being straight and not considering abortion.

Honestly, it is the best and right thing u done so far and should maintain as u go ahead.

In 2000, my elder did abortion.

My mom supported it but they kept my father in the dark.

Fast forward to July 2018, then I was 18 years old. I'm married now. But my elder bro, is not married.

Now, if he kept the baby, the boy would have been 18 years now.

So, Dont make any one rap you into accepting abortion.

Abortion is murder.

Exodus 20: 13 says
You must not murder

If your lady wants to make you a murderer, by committing abortion, well

you have 2 choices

agree
or
disagree

If you agree to abortion, O boy....your life will never remain the same again. The guilt of killing your own child will be with u till you die.

If you are comfortable with that, sign up to it, knowing, you have stolen Gods property, which you as a human being can't give back.

Now, if choose not to go down that road with her, it is perfectly fine. Dont listen to so many evil advise.

Do what is right.

Tell her abortion is murder
Tell her that it is your child
If she loves you, she will keep it
And that if she makes the decision to abort it, it is her decision not yours
that she will have to live with the guilt

for the rest of her life
mind u, if she aborts once for u, she will abort again and again

As for me,

I cannot keep a relationship with a girl that goes ahead and abort my child

no way!
No matter what excuse anybody gives, that heart is wicked!

As for me, I will tell her,
if you abort , just know that we are through!

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Restroom: 9:44pm On Jul 28, 2018
Say a little prayer, and break the hardast way possible

Dont look for the simple way to break the news

I think what you should be thinking is plan, how to help decide to keep the baby....and be there for her

But if you are not in the same state, I think it might make her easily decide to abort the child, damning u and whatever might come from u.

Just relax....and just continue to appeal to her in the name of God not to commit murder....

If she finally agrees, then you can inform your parents respectfully, of what happen and your decision to keep the Child...

I think what your goal should be in all of this, is seeking God's approval not ur parents approval.

To impregnate a girl is not a big deal these days, the big deal is the decision u make. Make the right decision,that you will be happy with.

If your girl decides to keep it, then, just travel back home, call your pops n mom for emergency meeting. Kneel down n tell them what you have done. And that you intend to keep your child. Accept your fault like a man, and take any critism hurled at you.

Then go ahead and plan.

Let me tell u what happened last year.
I work in UBTH SSA Secretariat.

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Restroom: 10:25pm On Jul 28, 2018
A student midwife, came to my office one day in July 2017.She was pregnant and wore a ring. She gave me the impression she was married. When she came, she was broke and wanted to do a seminar work. I did it for her, n didn't press for money when she said she would give me some other day. What I didn't know, was that she was under intense pressure psychologically and hungry. She kept sizing me and trying to read me. Well, she went for her seminar and some days, she came back with my money. Some how, she found my company relaxing. So she kept coming around. Around DEC last year she delivered a baby girl.

Around March this year, she finally opened up to me about her pregnancy and baby. You know why I am relating this story? She was impregnated by a staff of UBTH school of midwifery. The guy was mad with the girl for allowing herself to become pregnant.

He wanted abortion, but girl said no way. So, he cut her off. To reduce attention on herself, she started wearing ring in her hand, so when her lecturers saw her , they thought she was married. She told her parents what happened, and they came to gbege the guy. He told the girl s parent he can't marry a girl like her and insulted her badly. Threatened her, not to bring the child to him, that he won't accept. He said she was free to do anything, but he will never accept the child because he has a girl he wants to marry.

She also told me that, when, she finally delivered, it was the guy's NHIS she used to pay for her delivery in UBTH. As difficult, as the period was for her, she said it was her Christian friends encouragement and support that pulled her through that trial.She also thanked me for encouraging her.

She is in Warri now....finally graduated from school of midwifery. last time I saw the baby in early June, she was big n beautiful. Good enough, her parents have been of support to her in caring for the baby.It appears the girl's mother is happy with baby been around.

Now, this girl made the right decision to keep the baby and she is happier for it today. What's my point, tell your girl to keep the baby...it is not the end of the world.

My friend attended classes with pregnancies, gave birth and completed her program.

Her conscience is clean and clear, because she didn't commit abortion.

Many people think that commit formication is smart
When unwanted pregnancies results, they reason that abortion, done in secret, to conceal the acts of fornication is smarter

so the system keep breeding a world full of fornicators and child murderers...breakers of God's command.

Fornication is already enough

Just Dont add murder to it !

Tell your girl to show respect for Jehovah God, you, her reproductive ability and the unborn baby in her womb, which is a gift from God.

And you, stay from fornication till you are ready to marry!

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Shokipp: 10:30pm On Jul 28, 2018
Wobe

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by mazizitonene(m): 10:30pm On Jul 28, 2018
this one is strong....

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Nedfed(m): 10:30pm On Jul 28, 2018
You deserve to be jail

1. When u both are doing it u do not think of pastor messages every sunday? " that sex before marriage is a sin"
Now it happen u need the same pastor help abi shocked

2. You no her parents are strict yet u went on and impregnate her? Noooooo nooooo

3. She's still a student right and u want to end her career just because of 3min enjoyment?
Bros u no try@ all

4. She's pregnant now and you want my advice right? When u dey bang the pvssy u call me? When u dey suck the boobs u call me? When u dey press the yash (butt) u call me?

Bros u must be punish I swear.

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Dollabiz: 10:30pm On Jul 28, 2018
Why
Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by MANNABBQGRILLS: 10:31pm On Jul 28, 2018
Good father you will be....

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Ma2seater: 10:32pm On Jul 28, 2018
How did you know the pregnancy is yours? These girls ain't loyal, bro!

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Nobody: 10:32pm On Jul 28, 2018
If you were aborted then, would u be here today typing and reading this?! Why is this generation so selfish? Sex is more than a tool for satisfying selfish desire, it's for life continuity; a Power that the CREATOR gave us to create Lives. Why use it when you are not ready? Now, you gonna have blood on ur hands. Another news, all need to read and responds to
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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Lilknight(m): 10:33pm On Jul 28, 2018
Well since you ask us all this sort of questions it shows you don’t have all what it takes yet to be a father, den i suggest keeping the baby might be the wrongest decision you will make, you don’t have the liver yet bro it’s so obvious

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Lexusgs430: 10:33pm On Jul 28, 2018
praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

That pregnancy would surely disrupt her educational progress. Her parents would be very disappointed(hence her abortion stance), are you financially capable of looking after a baby, getting married and a wife?

Abortion is a very risky process, if not professionally conducted.......

And lastly, why have sex raw? Condoms are only N50.00....

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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by IMASTEX: 10:34pm On Jul 28, 2018
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Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by Issame: 10:34pm On Jul 28, 2018
Re: My Pregnant Girlfriend Wants Abortion. How Do I Convince Her To Keep It? by damola1: 10:34pm On Jul 28, 2018
God.. smartness..Money .

Happened to me exactly 10years ago at 22years too. Both of us were 22. And had him at 23.

My son is 10 now. Glory to God. The mom wanted same too but na... got her an apartment near school. Driver. Car. Maid.

She came out with 4.2 cpga second best in her dept at Unilag then.

But was very tough cos my business suffered. But eventually came out top.

What you have to realize is .. your child is lifelong.. other stuff like parents talk,,, money issues are temporary... and will fizzle out..

I can’t imagine life without my son. Best decision ever.

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