cruchenutii:


Damn !!! I'm shocked after reading the response of the husband Biko I need to get the Man's number so he can teach me Wisdom & Patience, I'm pretty sure I won't be this patient. The funny part was when he was driving to the Village, I thought he was going to take her Father's house

NoToPile:
SifonAbasi I couldn't help but comment
Your husband is a MAN not a boy.
So matured and wise
Good you came out clean
E-hugs

Deadlywoman:
A world where prostitution is rewarded

Twilight zone

appsdope:
Don't call him again. Tell your husband about the whole thing cos that guy will tell him and there will be issues when he does. Now you're married madam face your marriage or you won't like the end result. Why is that guy behaving as if sex is everything. He didn't even care when you told him that you're married. Just tell your oga and he will trash out thing with him.

SifonAbasi:
Thanks. God bless.

donstan18:
He was giving you money while you kept on offering him sex. That's PROSTITUTION, but I don't have problems with that, it's common with you ladies.

Back to your issue.

MISTAKE ; When you were dating your husband, you made a mistake by not letting your him know about an unfulfilled agreement you had with one of your exes. This wouldn't have gotten to this extent had it being you told him.

AGREEMENT ; Your ex has every right to do whatever he's doing now because it was bargained and an agreement between you both, you took his money in an agreement to sleep with him, it doesn't matter if you are married or not, it's an agreement.

WAYWARDNESS ; You were a prostitute during your school days, sleeping with a man to get financial rewards is prostitution, waywardness, irresponsible and very bad. And you are now paying the price.

RISK ; You are married, if you sleep with your ex, you will regret it, he MIGHT end up blackmailing you with pictures, videos or proofs that you just slept with him, and with that he'll keep asking for sex from you.

STRANGE ; I'm yet to understand the kind of pussay you have that someone had to travel outside all to come back insisting he'll sleep with you even when you pleaded to refund him twice, this your pussay na Belgium made o.


ADVICE ; I might not be able to give you a good advice that will help resolve the issue, but I can give you an advice on how to remain on a safer side.

My dear. Don't fulfill that promise, don't do it.

Why? Because It's better to fail a promise you made out of desperation than to break the vows you made to your husband before the altar and loved ones.


KINDLY TELL YOUR HUSBAND. You can't handle this alone without falling astray, I know how hard it might seem for you to tell him, but just do it.

appsdope:
Don't call him again. Tell your husband about the whole thing cos that guy will tell him and there will be issues when he does. Now you're married madam face your marriage or you won't like the end result. Why is that guy behaving as if sex is everything. He didn't even care when you told him that you're married. Just tell your oga and he will trash out thing with him.

SifonAbasi:
Good afternoon my good people of Nairaland. Happy Sunday!

Yesterday after a dinner with my husband, I told him everything about me and my ex.
My husband asked me a lot of questions concerning my ex like "Where's he from? What's he into? How did we meet?" A lot of questions about him. I was very honest with him and told him everything. Even told him that he (my ex) disvirgined me.

After telling him everything, my husband response was "okay". I noticed his countenance changed.

He sat for few minutes in the sitting room then went to the bedroom and slept.

Normally we always pray before going to bed no matter how tired we are but yesterday my husband went to bed without praying and I was scared to ask him why he didn't pray.

Early this morning he was moody. He told me not to make breakfast that we will eat when we returned. He went into the restroom had his bathe then dresses up and I did same.

My husband face wasn't bright. We entered the car, he started it and we drove off.

While on the road we were both silent. All of a sudden he diverted from the church route to another route. I wanted asking him where we are heading to but I remained calmed.

Before I could know it, I saw him heading to my village road. I pee on myself. I asked him where we are heading to he told me not to worry.

I began begging him with tears in my eyes. He increases the volume of the car's radio just to distract me.

After 45mins drive, we arrived my village and he asked me to show him the guy's compound so I took him there.
We met the guy's mother, we greeted her then my husband told her everything I told him.

The old woman begged us to forgive her son. My husband collected the guy's number and called him in his mom's presence.
My husband was friendly on the phone. He thanked my ex for the help he rendered to me then told him to send his acct number that he will send him back his money.

My ex told my husband not to bother that he was just helping me as a friend.
That he is sorry, he thought I was joking when I told him I'm married.

My husband gave the phone to his mom and the old woman spoke with him (my ex) and warned him to stay away from me that I am a married woman.

My husband collected the phone and told my ex that for the help he offered me, he (my husband) is going to sponsor his wedding from start to finish whenever he (my ex) is ready to marry.

My husband also told him that his (my ex's) name will be on the police watchlist in case anything happens to his wife.

My ex was begging and promised never to hurt me.

We left their compound to my father's compound, greeted my mom and we headed back to the town.

On our way home, my husband was smiling all through and gave me the car to drive.

We branched an eatery to have our lunch and he bought me my favorite.

We just arrived home not quite long.

BIXYBABE:

I don't know d Sweetness some guys derive from sex as if their life is connected to it.

Deadlywoman:
A world where prostitution is rewarded

Twilight zone

Daeylar:
Just had to say something.
Your Story is so sweet.
You married a MAN, not all these boys masquerading as men because just their years on this earth are increasing.
A MAN


I especially love the way he took steps to ensure your safety and made it very clear that your safety is not something he will play with. Also the involvement of his mum

Blessings, peace and love in your home
You seem really sweet.

SifonAbasi:



Thank u sis.

How are u?

Daeylar:

I'm good luv, thanks, and you?

ifiokjohn:
Woman i can tell you, you married a mature man. Pls always love that man and adore him because it is only few of us left on earth.

SifonAbasi:

Thank you sir.

djojo:
Thanks to your creator that those kids on Nairaland were not around when u post this otherwise you would have gotten a wrong advices.
Your husband acted so well and mature which only few men can do what he did.
You can show him comments on Nairaland how people are praying for him being able to handle the matter with matured state.
May Almighty God continue to bless your home and mine.

SifonAbasi:
Hello Nairalanders, good afternoon and happy weekend.

I have been a guest on this forum for some years now. I just created this acct because of this situation I am in. Please I need advice.

There's a guy I met in 2010 and we started dating, in 2013 we broke up since things didn't longer go well between us.

After our breakup, we remain friends. He called me and I called him.

I noticed ever since we broke up, he has not been in a relationship and I didn't bother to ask him why, while I have been in several relationships since our breakup.

Whenever I am in need financially and I have no one to turn to, I most times go to him for help and he's always ready to offer help whenever he can.

One day in 2015, I had challenges raising my school fees, I was able to get half of it so I went to him for help to balance the fees.
He told me that he is going to offer the help on a condition that I have sex with him. Since I didn't have anyone else to go to and the deadline for my fees was approaching, I accepted his condition. After all we have had sex before so it wasn't really a big deal.
He gave me the money and we had sex.

Since then, whenever I approach him for help I have to compliment him with sex.

Early 2016, I met him for help for my school project and he out gave me the money I requested for then asked for sex that same day he gave me the money.
I told him I am on my period that I will give him sex once my period is over and he accepted it.

After my period, I called him and told him that I was ready. He told me he was not in town I should wait when he returns. I told him no problem.

After then I didn't hear from him again. Four months later, an international number called me. When I picked the call, lo and behold he was the one. He told me he's on a course that when he returns back he will have sex with me to compliment that help he offered me during my school project. I told him no problem.

Late 2016, I met a new guy and we started dating. On May this year we got married. I called my ex to inform him about my marriage but the international number he called me with was not reachable including his Nigerian number.

On Wednesday this week, he called me and told me that he's back in the country and he asked me when I will be chance to come to his place and fulfill my promise of having sex with him. I told him that I am married. I tried calling him to tell him but his numbers were off.
He told me that marriage shouldn’t stop me from fulfilling my promise and he reminded me of how kind he was to me during my days of needs. I thanked him for his help so far then told him I will refund his money back even with interest but he said no.
That our agreement was sex and not a refund.
I told him I will get back to him.

Yesterday evening he called again.
I ignored his calls then sent him a text that I will call him today evening when my husband goes out.

Dear Nairalanders, I am really confused.

Please what should I do? I don't want to break my marital vows.

Please pardon my grammar and typographical errors.

God bless you all.

realtalk19:

wow!

SifonAbasi:
Yes so! God is God. Goodmorning.

Mizwisdom:
Are you sure that man is not using your destiny? why must he have are with you all the time? you don't have regard for yourself please go for deliverance. That man is using your future

BIXYBABE:

I don't know d Sweetness some guys derive from sex as if their life is connected to it.

donstan18:
He was giving you money while you kept on offering him sex. That's PROSTITUTION, but I don't have problems with that, it's common with you ladies.

Back to your issue.

MISTAKE ; When you were dating your husband, you made a mistake by not letting your him know about an unfulfilled agreement you had with one of your exes. This wouldn't have gotten to this extent had it being you told him.

AGREEMENT ; Your ex has every right to do whatever he's doing now because it was bargained and an agreement between you both, you took his money in an agreement to sleep with him, it doesn't matter if you are married or not, it's an agreement.

WAYWARDNESS ; You were a prostitute during your school days, sleeping with a man to get financial rewards is prostitution, waywardness, irresponsible and very bad. And you are now paying the price.

RISK ; You are married, if you sleep with your ex, you will regret it, he MIGHT end up blackmailing you with pictures, videos or proofs that you just slept with him, and with that he'll keep asking for sex from you.

STRANGE ; I'm yet to understand the kind of pussay you have that someone had to travel outside all to come back insisting he'll sleep with you even when you pleaded to refund him twice, this your pussay na Belgium made o.


ADVICE ; I might not be able to give you a good advice that will help resolve the issue, but I can give you an advice on how to remain on a safer side.

My dear. Don't fulfill that promise, don't do it.

Why? Because It's better to fail a promise you made out of desperation than to break the vows you made to your husband before the altar and loved ones.


KINDLY TELL YOUR HUSBAND. You can't handle this alone without falling astray, I know how hard it might seem for you to tell him, but just do it.