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Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by peacengine(m): 5:37pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
NairalandFAYOSE: Bro, is it you or ur family that married her? Don't let them disrespect ur wife. Secondly, I'm not in support of adopting the girl officially. You can look after her but adopting her is another issue that might bring problems in future 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Lomprico2: 5:40pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
rman: Well he seam to be a responsible dude that's why we are pleading he takes d child. Unlike d jackass real dad. Who will u choose to give a very sharp knife to hold for you, a 15yr old or a 2yr old? I guess ur choice will be same as mine. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 5:52pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
revolt: It's not more dangerous unless you are insinuating that the op is a child molester, huh? The man married the woman and all her burdens, so also did the woman marry the man along with all his burdens. That's what is defined as marriage. They can't keep all children born out of wedlock out of the house. If they did are you the one that's going to take care of those offsprings? Or are you saying that the woman shouldn't be allowed to raise her daughter because she is now married? Should she go and dump the child in an orphanage because the father of the child is marrying someone else and she is married to someone else and the child's grandparents are also rejecting her? Put yourself in that child's shoes. Is it really soo difficult to be empathetic? To try to do to others what you want others to do to you? Would you be talking like this if it was the man that had the child out of wedlock? I bet you would come here and start saying "He is the head of the family..." What if the child's father was dead? Is the woman to kill her child because her husband is afraid of what his family would say? Some of you haven't really experienced life, have you? 2 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:01pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
ladies will always want men to accept their children which they conceived outside marriage but would never want to set their eyes on the husband's outside kids if it was the other way round. They'll go any length to kill the child yet some sentimental mods like Dominique are here berating this man because he refused to take in the child. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:03pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Ioannes: She should sue that man so that they he can take the child or they should both come into agreement as to how they'll take care of the child. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by remioshy(f): 6:03pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
NairalandFAYOSE: Please if you love your wife truly you will love and take her daughter. I already had a daughter when I met my husband, he won my heart the moment he told me he wants to marry me and be a father to my daughter and whatever God provide for him he will take care of me and my daughter, my mother insisted I leave m6 daughter with her but my husband said no way, my daughter moved in with us the next day after our wedding. She was 5 yrs old. Fast forward to now 21 yrs later, he is the best dad I can ever wish for, my daughter loves him to bits, she confides in him more than myself, she loved him more than her biological father who is even nowhere to be found, We did not have a child of our own unfortunately but he always insisted my daughter, is enough for him, My husband is one in a million, a good man. So Man up and take the child in if you really love your wife . A child should be with her mum. Your family cannot live your life for you. My husbands family said lots of things especially my mother in law, called my husband nanny and child minder, but my husband ignores all of them. Today my daughter is the one taking care of his needs , if you don’t know us from beginning you won’t belief he is not her biological father. Yoruba proverbs says “ Eni to bini, ko to Enito wo ni dagba ” 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Countersam(m): 6:20pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Donjazzy12: Ode ni yen walahi! Onye obi akpor. Tufiakwa As you are now you may not even be potent,better learn to appreciate children. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:23pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Sisomugo: Says a woman who would likely not contribute anything to the building of a family house.. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:23pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
LaudableXX: ok, I get what you are saying now 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:25pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
remioshy: ladies will always want men to accept their children which they conceived outside marriage but would never want to set their eyes on the husband's outside kids if it was the other way round. They'll go any length to kill the child yet some sentimental ladies like you are trying to use emotional blackmail into cajolling him to take in the kid. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:38pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Elder001: Well if she can get the man to pay for child support, cool. But the woman should insist on having her daughter live with her. That's the only way a mother can care for her child appropriately. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:43pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Ioannes: Under Nigerian law only married couples who got divorced can ask for child support. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Moji12(f): 6:46pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Ioannes:please ignore him, he's actually talking out of experience, trust me 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:53pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Elder001: I'm not all that versed in Nigerian law or any law for that matter, but I'm thinking that alimony might be quite different from child support. Alimony is the money you pay to support your ex-wife and kids while child support recognizes that you were never married to the woman but you are the father of her kids and so must pay for their support too. I stand to be corrected. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:55pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
MsGood: he's now head of the family? African women never seize to amuse me. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:57pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Ioannes: That is in other countries not Nigeria. also, alimony doesn't exist in the Nigerian constitution. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 6:59pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Elder001: Oh, I see. Thanks. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Moji12(f): 7:03pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
remioshy:may God bless u my sister ur adage is sooo right, may God bless ur man abundantly he is indeed a rare gem, one in a million truly. I say there r still good men out there I don't base my judgement about men cos of some mofos around me. Live n let live. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 7:10pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
femichill: This is the only sensible and non-sentimental post on this thread. The rest are sentimental and overly emotional people who can't do what they advice in real life. They think it's that easy.. insulting op because he refused to accept the child instead of insulting the idiot who rejected his own blood. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 7:14pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Moji12: True talk. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 7:15pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Ioannes:unfortunately the childs father is alive ...tht being said, marriage isnt run by empathy. Its strictly tactics and wisdom. Thats why babaymamas shouldnt go looking for husbands since they have a kid they do not want to let go of. The child will be the one to suffer for their selfishness. The man and his wife probably had a discuss with his wife b4 marriage. There were terms and conditions. Unfortunately on desperation she probably assured him the child would be with the father. You cannot suddenly chamge and expecr him to jes accept it. She should wait and probably pray he accepys to allow the child come not form good mother and bring the chld in by force. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by MsGood(f): 7:16pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Elder001:Oga Elder, what exactly is amusing about my statement? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Coldfeets: 7:17pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Elder001: You are right. This is one problem I will always have with women. They will expect you as a man to measure up to their own standards but they will never want to measure up to your own standards. They will want you as a man to accept their baggage but they will never even consider your baggage even for one moment not to mention accepting it. Like I read in one red pill book, if you want to maintain your position in any relationship with a woman, make sure you hold her under the same standards that she will hold you. Most women are selfish in relationships and always looking out for their own benefits first. Make sure that you as a man will always be looking out for your own benefits first too. Once a woman learns that you are not the type that will just be accepting her selfish tendencies, she will have no other option than to reset her senses to selflessness which will favour all concerned. Simply stated, treat a woman exactly the same way she treats you. That's how you can always maintain your position when you are in a relationship with a woman. If all men will simply learn this rather than accepting any bullshit women throw to them all in the name of love or just allowing peace to reign, I tell you, no woman will ever think it is her right to be telling men what to do and be criticizing such men when they refuse to do it. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 7:18pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Elder001:i tire for them......was he there when they wer banging their lives out.. then the woman now decided to remarry after that she don trap the guy she wants to gve hm anoda mans fvck trophy. Abeggggy |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by perfectedmee: 7:21pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
TheCongo2: Dealing with the dad? If the boy was important 2 gim, he did be growing up in his House na. I've been paying his fees, I HV been dre even at his birth. If the Father was responsible the mum wouldn't be my fiancée. 1 Like |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 7:24pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
remioshy:all these blatant lies you ppl post here sha. You thnk were all kids here abi? Well if the man accepted the child like ur story suggests thats a different story but if u convonced him tht u were moving on from the child and starting a new life then different case. Why do some women leave wen they hear their husbands have kids outside...why dont u tell them to accept the kids wholeheartedly in love mtchweee. If she wants to care for her child let her free the marriage than to put tht man into unnecessary expense. Then later the child will now go bk to the dad. What rubbish 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Nobody: 7:26pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Coldfeets: Truer words have never been said. Most men don't have a problem with this issue but if it is the other way round the women won't want to set their eyes on the kid especially if the man is wealthy. All these women berating the man on this thread are not normal. Instead of them to direct their grievances to the idiot who rejected his own blood they're blaming the OP. A typical African woman can't condole what men condole every day in the family. |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 7:30pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
lielbree:the man is nt freaking heartless he owes no obligation for a child he ddnt cum for. He just entered one chance. Whay about the mans kids born in wedlock u think the court will destroy theor lives because of a child born out of wedlock. The woman should be ready to let fo off the legitimate ones and go and take care of the illegitimate. Cos of one dsyfuctional kid u destroy the lives of the rest ..and destroy the mans family. He can accept the child but the child will suffer if hes forced . |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Coldfeets: 7:32pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Elder001: Before nko? What did you expect these women to be doing other than supporting the foolishness of their fellow women? You are even blaming the man the rejected his own blood. How come no one is even blaming the wife of the man who rejected the child of her husband who has been living with the man all this while before she came along? That will show you how wicked and terrible women are. Do not show them any mercy. They will never show you any mercy when the advantage lies with them 4 Likes |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Donjazzy12(m): 7:39pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Countersam:Adopt the child na! Good Samaritan |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by revolt(m): 7:39pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Moji12:who is this one? |
Re: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by Donjazzy12(m): 7:40pm On Aug 06, 2018 |
Coldfeets:Don't mind foolish men here supporting rubbish! |
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