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Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by johnydon22(m): 11:47pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
Reader530: Tell him you want him to leave. It's your house. It's time you started acting like it is. I'm not gonna put up with someone on the expense of my own comfort and sanity. I can't afford that 3 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Greatzeus(m): 11:49pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
Reader530:Whatever you decided to do,do it with maturity,don't make him feel like he's a failure or no good before leaving. Believe me that guy can be someone who will help you tomorrow. Believe me bro,I have seen a grown ass man who once beg for N20(many years ago) become rich and was even helping others. No condition is permanent,not yours not his. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Ezeego1(m): 11:50pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
Reader530: Give him more time to arrange his self,,, sometimes try and inconvenience yourself for a friend. Such friends don't tend to forget easily when things goes well for them. Just help him. 3 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Jengbetiele: 11:53pm On Aug 09, 2018 |
Very simple just tell him or her in pidgin "guy I dey travel in 3 days time and I wan hol my key" . This was how someone evicted me from his house few years back when I overstayed my welcome. I was like really and he said yes. I started looking for a room immediately . I can never forget that encounter. 4 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Nancypunni: 12:00am On Aug 10, 2018 |
kimbraa: Wow..i hated you with passion,.infact because of the insults i gave you...my old account was banned till 2028...but seeing this qoute from you has realy made me regret all those bad things i said to you..although u never can tell what the guy might be enduring so far...but that quote there can only come out from a good heart..a kind heart...am saying sorry to you now..we need people like you Nothing is guaranteed actually |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by alezzy13: 12:02am On Aug 10, 2018 |
lolaluv1: Rather harsh but there is some truth in it. But really I fear some people o! How them go just tanda for a colleague house day after day, no be say una be of the same parents. Na WA! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by alezzy13: 12:06am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Maybe it's because I'm a very private person, but I'm not sure I can stay beyond a few days at a colleagues house and not contribute anything. I would be VERY uncomfortable. At worse I go back to my papa house. � 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by itsede: 12:13am On Aug 10, 2018 |
alezzy13:Hey bro, pray you don't encounter problem that's more than you. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Nancypunni: 12:22am On Aug 10, 2018 |
9japrof: Atleast its now clear to me that majority of the advice from nairalanders can be trash...just look at wht dis one is yapping here...and in ur mind u made a valid point..you think he will be stranded forever....wht if end up needing the same help from him tmao...wch mouth u go use ask am...sometimes u do tinz diplomatically..infact its better to be kind than clever.. |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by kev123(m): 12:24am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Oga wen u start weitin u no go fit finish we de there? So make we tell u how to scatter u and ur friend friendship abi? |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by usebog: 12:27am On Aug 10, 2018 |
To say the truth,it might be very hard to express your feelings to your friend but every1 for his/her life No friend and foe on a long run just reason am maturely to undestand your issue,surely if he is a good friend,he will understand and comply OTHERWISE..................... |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Nancypunni: 12:30am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Curry30: Nykka i pray that u dnt find urself in a homeless situation... I really pray |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by wallchat: 12:30am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Reader530:Guy u are funny wat do you mean by I told he said he can manage?? see next time, (if there will be any) go to ur friend with surprise like: oboi wen u dey leave?? my babe just called oo she say she dey come spend two weeks here... I dey try tell her say I get visitor but she still insist oo she say e be like say I camp girl for house nai make I no wan allow her come... dis way he will tell u wen he is leaving and if he is adamant, still play along tell ur babe to come tell her to complain bitterly that she cannot stay in the same room with two guys in fact she can even stay late outside the room den reluctantly go in and sleep.. see eh the next day him go back off... that way he won't see it as ur fault.. |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by EkeneElectrons(m): 12:33am On Aug 10, 2018 |
LMAO just make him feel uncomfortable |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by omojesu202(m): 12:39am On Aug 10, 2018 |
chicoMX: sometimes idle people eat more.... 3 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by darmochy1(m): 12:56am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Awon ore oshi. They only remember you when they're in problem. |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Bahddo(m): 1:03am On Aug 10, 2018 |
talktimi:lol |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Davoneskay(m): 1:07am On Aug 10, 2018 |
@ Reader530 , just tell him that you will b travelling to a far away place. Maybe to Togo for business in d next two days. If he doesn't take u too serious (cause is type won't...speaking from experience), on dat very purported day u r travelling, pack ur bag and baggage and go over 2 a friend's place unknown to dat stubborn dude. If he tells u to drop ur key that he still wants to stay, tell him u r not comfortable with that. I've handled worst scenarios, my brother. NB: be sure he leaves ur house before u return. In fact, monitor him with calls codedly. |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Davoneskay(m): 1:13am On Aug 10, 2018 |
I just dey boil as I dey read dis stuff. Oga, start parking ur stuff tonight. Tell him u r leaving in d next two days. Make it look real...fake calls wit d people u r a about to meet. |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by babadee1(m): 1:33am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Reader530: Tell him you don't have any money again that he has to contribute to his own upkeep. Hopefully he will open up to you when you start asking him for money and he will tell you what is really going on and what his plans are. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by StellarJo(m): 2:41am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Babyforever: ....stating an ultimatum. |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Smartjob1(f): 2:52am On Aug 10, 2018 |
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Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Willokafor(m): 3:04am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Allow him to stay for 1 more year, then he will get tired and leave..... |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by kushme: 3:09am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Reader530: Op. If only you were truthful to yourself.. Smh. The guy is not your friend, period... If he was, you would not have brought it to nairaland. If the guy is a true friend, then, a reason to leave your house in the first place won't come up in your head.. Just find a way to send him away so that the fake friendship can end between you guys.. Respect to true friends... Always there for friends in need.. No wonder, I no dey keep pretending guys as friends.. If I call you my guy, then I go help you wella if I get the means... If na your guy then talk to am.. |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by EmekaBlue(m): 3:31am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Relax ur mind....I know its not easy I'm sure he is also not comfortable being a pest in ur life and probably trying his best to shorten his stay. Be a good friend...Help him,Give him time...He will leave ur house one day |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by rollyfst: 3:44am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Look for a sharp cutlass then light your weed and tell him GUY IT EITHER YOU KILL ME TODAY OR I KILL YOU. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by hi3: 3:49am On Aug 10, 2018 |
kimbraa:Madam, na money matter o.....npower salary is 30k. I m sure if he's contributing to the daily expenses he won't chase him |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Pauladex(m): 4:12am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Quiescere:Why can't you just invite him over and continue from from here. |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Bianda24: 4:43am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Reader530: I have taken time to read your post and people's responses. Brother, don't chase him out. Don't lie to him that you want to travel. The problem you have is that he is draining your meagre resources. This is understandable, call him, you are men. Explain things to him and tell him to come clean with you. You never can tell what will happen tomorrow. You have started very well and don't spoil it with small thing. I can give you minimum of five examples but I don't have time now. Just accommodate him, okay |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Le2money(m): 4:49am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Reader530: Bro, I think as a man, you need to call him and explain situation of things at the moment for him politely, don't allow your wife to be involved bcox women are always deadly in this type of situation...they can spoil the good friendship btw two best friends and mind you, always remember that "A friend in need is a friend indeed" and the person scouting with you today might control a whole state tomoro...its wot u do today that would speak for you tomoro....i was such a victim like 3 weeks ago...i travelled to Lagos having it in my mind not to spend more than a week in my friends house which he built by himself...bt unfortunately I spent more than a month,....he travelled back to abroad leaving me and his wife and some of their families at home...he dropped me a message rudely that I only said I won't use more than a week bt now it's getting close to 2 months In which I have not even tell him wen exactly I will leave...i felt embarrassed bcox I blv b4 he taking such action, he should ask himself....is dis guy a family man, does this guy have his own apartment too...though, I'm not as rich as him but I left my wife and my 3 bedroom flat which I build with my own money too...which I blv his brain supposed to tell him dat dos guy can not leave all that to continue to stay with him if he has actually finished wot he came to do in Lagos....meanwhile, I have been the one accommodating his wife in my hoise during her service year (NYSC) cox she was posted in my state....ans weneva she wants to leave, I would be the one telling her not to leave yet....so before you take any action bro, ask yourself some questions...u guys might be taking garri togeda today blv me, u can never tell what lies ahead of him tomoro and remember "woteva you sow, u shall reap". It's either u take him to a bar house, there, you would be able to explain to him every situation of things and what you are also passing through financially....never ask him when he is going to leave...he is matured, with dat he will grab ur message 3 Likes |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by missjane: 5:07am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Telling him shouldn't be something that's bothering u..every well meaning Nigerian knows how difficult the country is even for some rich pple, to not come n add their own burden to them. You have done ur best, try n get the money for his transport to the burial first n then tell him that you have spent so much since he came n that he shd try n go for the burial while u use the time to recover from expenses n find your feet again as their r personal projects u r pursuing that needs finances too. Then next time tell him the capacity u can accommodate a friend is just maximum two days that u r not buoyant enough for extra mouth in a long time. If he chooses not to understand then cut him off as a friend.. easy.. pple are prone to ingratitude anyway so what ever u do for them don't expect gratitude too. He can come if he gets a job n Willing to share expenses with u |
Re: How Can I Ask A Friend To Leave My House In A Good Way? by Nobody: 5:19am On Aug 10, 2018 |
Ask him to start paying rent and for food. It always works. 1 Like |
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