Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master.
The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners.
If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.
In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.
When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.
When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?
Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.
Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him what to do.
I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility. If this is understood in every home then you won’t have problems.
I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the Word Seminar. Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.
Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister.
A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a place of excellence.
Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely.
Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart.
A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.
Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style. Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.

Yes o. From the message "if these things be in you" part 2

Where em girls?

Is it rev chris okotie or oyakhilome that wrote this?

He is just angry that his wife had the guts to leave him

Eketem:
He is just angry that his wife had the guts to leave him

Hahahahahahahahahahahahhaha!

It is well.

Nonsense! Leadership/headship doesn't mean mastery and shouldn't be mistaken for one. A husband is simply first between his equal in a union (marriage); his wife. Only subjugators derives pleasure in denying others their right to self-dominion and feel of equality.

Meanwhile, man and woman in a marriage is, and should be, husband and wife (both in words and actions) not partners, with conscientiousness as they bond to keep them together.

Partnership, in any guise or form, lose its meaning the very moment selfishness is absent, while marriage is considered a sacred union because of absence of selfishness. Literally there's no marriage where there's no love and, of course, there's no love where there's no altruism.

Which of the Rev. Chris? The one that just divorced his wife or the one that has married about three times now?

The one who the wife dumped like tissue, he has been very angry and aggressive with wives since then, those mature single women hanging around him make him believe he is actually a god

Ioannes:
Which of the Rev. Chris? The one that just divorced his wife or the one that has married about three times now?

Eketem:
The one who the wife dumped like tissue, he has been very angry and aggressive with wives since then, those mature single women hanging around him make him believe he is actually a god

That explains a lot then.

Ioannes:


That explains a lot then.

He expected her to stay in London all alone for years building the church there while he stays here with rumored mature church sisters who take care of his needs, even when he travels to London there is no chance for them to be together. He is still very angry that she finally had enough and left him. How dare she? She was supposed to stay and keep up the perfect family happy image while she was miserable hence his regular sermon now is to tell wives that they were not part of God's plan

Eketem:


He expected her to stay in London all alone for years building the church there while he stays here with rumored mature church sisters who take care of his needs, even when he travels to London there is no chance for them to be together. He is still very angry that she finally had enough and left him. How dare she? She was supposed to stay and keep up the perfect family happy image while she was miserable hence his regular sermon now is to tell wives that they were not part of God's plan

Seems the ex wife is your pastor, right?

See argument!!! For there to be a master, there must be a slave. So therefore, women are slaves.

This is the summary of what Rev Chris preaches. Odikwa serious.

I know the teaching is bound to irritate the arrogant 'feminists' who always like to believe they are even superior to men including their husbands!

The essence of this teaching is that there can not be two masters in a boat. In any institution, there has to be the head or the master(not two heads or two masters!) and God made a husband the head of the wife, the wife's role is to be submissive to the husband irrespective of her social status! Unwillingness to accept this fact by arrogant women of this generation with their puffed-up ego is a reason many marriage is bound to crash!

bitbillionaire:
Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master.
The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners.
If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.
In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.
When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.
When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?
Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.
Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him what to do.
I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility. If this is understood in every home then you won’t have problems.
I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the Word Seminar. Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.
Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister.
A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a place of excellence.
Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely.
Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart.
A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where your beauty is.
Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style. Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.

Remember you will reap what you sow, so be careful of talking trash about the man of God just because his teaching doesn't appeal to your sentiment. He is simply teaching what the Bible teach about the role and place of a wife, okay.

bitbillionaire:
I know the teaching is bound to irritate the arrogant 'feminists' who always like to believe they are even superior to men including their husbands!

The essence of this teaching is that there can not be two masters in a boat. In any institution, there has to be the head or the master(not two heads or two masters!) and God made a husband the head of the wife, the wife's role is to be submissive to the husband irrespective of her social status! Unwillingness to accept this fact by arrogant women of this generation with their puffed-up ego is a reason many marriage is bound to crash!

Eyaa, sorry for you and your pastor, May he find healing for his broken heart instead of using that to mislead other married people so they can join his divorce group.

men = masters
women = servants

summary

^^^ That's not what the bible teaches about marriage.

yvelchstores:
Yes o. From the message "if these things be in you" part 2

,could you pls give me a link to the message ?

So many hate talks here.if you aren't married you might get where this message is coming from. And if you are !arrived and do not have issues of submissiveness in your home ,you might never appreciate this message .All this bitter comments won't help you guys.

gidjah:
,could you pls give me a link to the message ?

it's on you tube. I remember downloading it from there years ago

In marriage there's no master and theres no slave. If husbands should also play their roles then our homes will be heaven on earth. The Bible didn't just talk about submission it also talked about loving your wife just as Christ loved the church.

2 bad eggs pastor Chris! I don't care which of them own this sermon but looking at their marital way of life, I smh at the gullible members following this their yeye sermon. Bad examples!

yvelchstores:
it's on you tube. I remember downloading it from there years ago

alright thanks maam