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Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by SmellingAnus(m): 1:31pm On Sep 06, 2018
you don taste sweet preek... its difficult to totally leave sweet preek.. even if you leave am you go still cheat on you new guy if your never totally get over Mr. Sweet Preek... grin
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Shugavee(f): 4:27pm On Sep 06, 2018
Read this, hope it would be helpful


One of the key contributing
factors is a lack of self-love,
which leaves you completely
vulnerable in the relationship
since you end up relying on
the guy to fill that void.

And as Eric pointed out, that
dependence on him will
create a massive fear of
losing him, which inevitably
leads to you settling for less
than you want sooner or later.

The importance of self-love is
immense. In fact, I'd say it's the
number one antidote against
any relationship issue out there.

As women, we can't just know
something intellectually, we
need to feel it emotionally.

Think about it, why do you need
your significant other to keep
telling you he loves you?

This knowledge was established
the first time he said it, you
know he loves you, he wouldn't
have said it otherwise.

I mean, imagine if after your
boyfriend tells you he loves you
for the first time he said, "Okay,
glad we established that. I'll be
sure to let you know if anything
changes."

I don't think you'd be too thrilled
because the reason you want
him to keep saying the words is
not to know, it's to feel.

Every time he says it, you feel it.
The reason you feel it is
because you associate those
words with all the things he's
done to make you feel loved
throughout the course of the
relationship.

In order to really know
anything, you have to feel it.
This is true of just about
everything in life.

When it comes to developing
confidence and self-love, telling
yourself over and over "I have
self-love" won't work, neither will
keeping a running tab of your
attributes.

Sure it's nice to be aware of all
the wonderful things that make
you you, but telling yourself "I'm
smart, I'm beautiful, I'm caring,
I'm fun" isn't enough to firmly
ingrain these beliefs into your
psyche.

And if you aren't firm in these
convictions, you become
susceptible to question yourself
when something happens that
doesn't align with these notions
(not getting attention from men,
your boyfriend acting flaky,
someone undermining you
etc.).

To experience feeling whole
and complete, you need
to feel the things that you
already know.

Now comes the fun part.

I'm gonna share an exercise
that will give you the tools to
ingrain an unwavering love
for yourself, one that radiates
from within and makes you a
shining light that draws
people in.

Here's how it works. Take a
piece of paper and write Self-
Love in the middle. Then around
the self-love, write down 5-10
instances when you
experienced love.

They can be times when you did
something kind for someone
else, moments when you felt
proud of yourself, times when
you felt completely content and
secure with yourself or any time
that you gave or received loved.

You can also jot down quotes
about love that strike a chord
with you, or times when you
witnessed selfless love in its
purest form.

Once you have a list, meditate
on these memories. Close your
eyes and allow your mind to
reflect on each memory. Paint a
picture of the scene, see
yourself and how you felt in that
moment.

The second your mind starts to
wander, think about the next
example and keep going until
you've experienced all of them
(take about 5-10 minutes to do
this).

The mind is a tricky thing
because it doesn't want to focus
on a single topic for more than a
few seconds.

By creating images and
letting your mind move from
one instance to the next, you
will maintain an unbreakable
concentration.

As you go deeper, you will
actually feel the positive
emotions. When done right,
this exercise is incredibly
powerful and transformative.

In general, nothing anyone says
or does actually has the power
to affect your mood and your
opinion of yourself unless you
let it. If you're unsure of
yourself, you'll be a lot more
likely to allow the negativity to
penetrate.

When you form the foundation
of self-love, however, nothing on
the outside can get you down.

When you know and feel with
every fiber of your being how
incredible you truly are, you
will never again be at the
mercy of someone else.

If your significant other acts
in a way you don't understand
or appreciate, you won't be
sent into despair.

You'll realize that his actions
have nothing to do with you and
are no reflection of your inherent
value and worth.

Give the exercise a try and
please report back to me and let
me know how it worked for you!

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Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Nobody: 5:23pm On Sep 06, 2018
Uniquetani1:
I think I am stupid in love.
Why will a Lady love a guy so much?

Why do good ladies always fall victim of fake love?

Why is true love hard to find?

Why am I finding it difficult to believe that good guys exist?

Why I am always heart broken when I fall in love?

I know I am wrong but my curiosity made me to snoop in my boyfriend's phone. I found how his friend and him are labelling me bad. How he flirt with other ladies; he compliment their pictures, telling them that they are pretty, he want to marry them, using romantic words on them like sweetheart, I will kiss you and all. It hurt me because he don't compliment my pictures. We had a big disagreement three months ago and got back together. His friends and most especially females are saying bad words about me. In a nutshell, he came back to the relationship out of pity. I am just hurt, I don't know if I should cry or laugh. I love this guy so much that I can't imagine him leaving me. I am stuck in this love. If I think of leaving, it will make me sick.

Maybe I am not made for love. : embarassed
how do people fall in love self? Like what does it mean to be so much in love? I really don't understand how this love of a thing work self. Like falling in love that you don't want to leave, how please?
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 5:59pm On Sep 06, 2018
IntrovertedK:
how do people fall in love self? Like what does it mean to be so much in love? I really don't understand how this love of a thing work self. Like falling in love that you don't want to leave, how please?



Don't worry it will soon get to your turn. Be patient!
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 6:06pm On Sep 06, 2018
Shugavee:
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Thank you
I will try it

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Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Nobody: 6:17pm On Sep 06, 2018
Uniquetani1:
I think I am stupid in love.
Why will a Lady love a guy so much?

Why do good ladies always fall victim of fake love?

Why is true love hard to find?

Why am I finding it difficult to believe that good guys exist?

Why I am always heart broken when I fall in love?

I know I am wrong but my curiosity made me to snoop in my boyfriend's phone. I found how his friend and him are labelling me bad. How he flirt with other ladies; he compliment their pictures, telling them that they are pretty, he want to marry them, using romantic words on them like sweetheart, I will kiss you and all. It hurt me because he don't compliment my pictures. We had a big disagreement three months ago and got back together. His friends and most especially females are saying bad words about me. In a nutshell, he came back to the relationship out of pity. I am just hurt, I don't know if I should cry or laugh. I love this guy so much that I can't imagine him leaving me. I am stuck in this love. If I think of leaving, it will make me sick.

Maybe I am not made for love. : embarassed
you deserve better.

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Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Nobody: 6:20pm On Sep 06, 2018
Uniquetani1:




Don't worry it will soon get to your turn. Be patient!
ok oooooo. I hear oooo.. Maybe when i turn 40 i'd feel what i never felt since birth.
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Zhahovic(m): 6:25pm On Sep 06, 2018
Uniquetani1:
I think I am stupid in love.
Why will a Lady love a guy so much?

Why do good ladies always fall victim of fake love?

Why is true love hard to find?

Why am I finding it difficult to believe that good guys exist?

Why I am always heart broken when I fall in love?

I know I am wrong but my curiosity made me to snoop in my boyfriend's phone. I found how his friend and him are labelling me bad. How he flirt with other ladies; he compliment their pictures, telling them that they are pretty, he want to marry them, using romantic words on them like sweetheart, I will kiss you and all. It hurt me because he don't compliment my pictures. We had a big disagreement three months ago and got back together. His friends and most especially females are saying bad words about me. In a nutshell, he came back to the relationship out of pity. I am just hurt, I don't know if I should cry or laugh. I love this guy so much that I can't imagine him leaving me. I am stuck in this love. If I think of leaving, it will make me sick.

Maybe I am not made for love. : embarassed
..
My dear..true love is hard to find these days..
..
Do not love with your heart, so u don't get heart broken..
..
Love with your head and never let anything take u by surprise...
..

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Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 7:04pm On Sep 06, 2018
IntrovertedK:
ok oooooo. I hear oooo.. Maybe when i turn 40 i'd feel what i never felt since birth.



I hope you do
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by RexTramadol1: 7:33pm On Sep 06, 2018
Op so sorry




Dat bros dey chop u




And if u like allow make e chop u tire




Every mallam with him kettle.




You're just being used.
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Nobody: 7:42pm On Sep 06, 2018
ur boyfriend is a fukboy
sorry
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 4:42am On Sep 07, 2018
RexTramadol1:
Op so sorry

Dat bros dey chop u

And if u like allow make e chop u tire

Every mallam with him kettle.

You're just being used.



He can't again
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 4:43am On Sep 07, 2018
lefulefu:
ur boyfriend is a fukboy
sorry


Nothing to be sorry about grin
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by IamPlato(m): 7:17am On Sep 07, 2018
Uniquetani1:



OK thanks
...


So You Wont Commit Suicide One Day better Start Hangin out With Other Great Guys without Attachin emotions, make Him See You Enjoy Your Life Freely then Boldly end The Relationship and Occupy Your Self With Positive People Around You, think Of How To Make Money Let Him Keep Thinkin Of How To Marry Girls Who dont Like Him

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Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by IamPlato(m): 7:37am On Sep 07, 2018
Uniquetani1:





I don't know how I found myself so deep in it cry
...


Its Obvious You Love Him Better Than Yourself. You Have To Start Loving Yourself First. He Sees You As Shiit, there Are Guys Out There Who See You Are Extremely beautiful.


Be Proud Of Your Looks, carry Yourself With Pride. See Him As One Who Doesnt Meet Up To Your taste...


While He Is Busy Thinking Of Women Who Can Never love Him, you Should Be Busy Thinkin Of Making Money, surround Yourself With The Right People And Create the Right Atmosphere

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Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Hexzyz(m): 7:57am On Sep 07, 2018
Uniquetani1:
I think I am stupid in love.
Why will a Lady love a guy so much?

Why do good ladies always fall victim of fake love?

Why is true love hard to find?

Why am I finding it difficult to believe that good guys exist?

Why I am always heart broken when I fall in love?

I know I am wrong but my curiosity made me to snoop in my boyfriend's phone. I found how his friend and him are labelling me bad. How he flirt with other ladies; he compliment their pictures, telling them that they are pretty, he want to marry them, using romantic words on them like sweetheart, I will kiss you and all. It hurt me because he don't compliment my pictures. We had a big disagreement three months ago and got back together. His friends and most especially females are saying bad words about me. In a nutshell, he came back to the relationship out of pity. I am just hurt, I don't know if I should cry or laugh. I love this guy so much that I can't imagine him leaving me. I am stuck in this love. If I think of leaving, it will make me sick.

Maybe I am not made for love. : embarassed

I think you have disappointed someone who genuinely love you. Trace your step back and make peace with your past. Things will change for good.

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Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 9:02am On Sep 07, 2018
IamPlato:
...


Its Obvious You Love Him Better Than Yourself. You Have To Start Loving Yourself First. He Sees You As Shiit, there Are Guys Out There Who See You Are Extremely beautiful.


Be Proud Of Your Looks, carry Yourself With Pride. See Him As One Who Doesnt Meet Up To Your taste...


While He Is Busy Thinking Of Women Who Can Never love Him, you Should Be Busy Thinkin Of Making Money, surround Yourself With The Right People And Create the Right Atmosphere



Right smiley thank you
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 9:04am On Sep 07, 2018
Hexzyz:


I think you have disappointed someone who genuinely love you. Trace your step back and make peace with your past. Things will change for good.



Hmmm I will think about this
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by rosieluv(f): 8:19am On Sep 08, 2018
Zhahovic:

..
My dear..true love is hard to find these days..
..
Do not love with your heart, so u don't get heart broken..
..
Love with your head and never let anything take u by surprise...
..
Well said
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 10:36am On Sep 08, 2018
LBK1:





I think you should walk away from the relationship. The guy is immature and doesn't deserve u



Yes I hope my heart heal soon
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Zhahovic(m): 3:22pm On Sep 08, 2018
rosieluv:

Well said
..
grin
..
For real o
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by chigoizie7(m): 5:04pm On Sep 08, 2018
I am already taken, if not I would have proved u wrong.
that's if u are ready to tag along
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by Uniquetani1(f): 11:37pm On Sep 08, 2018
chigoizie7:
I am already taken, if not I would have proved u wrong.

that's if u are ready to tag along



Well I wish you guys long lasting love
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by rosieluv(f): 12:09am On Sep 09, 2018
HardMirror send it here
Re: I Think I Am Stupid In Love by HardMirror(m): 12:15am On Sep 09, 2018
rosieluv:
HardMirror send it here
buzz me.

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