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6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by EntertainingYou: 11:24pm On Sep 15, 2018
Make a decision to love by trying to let go of the past.The trust between a husband and wife is severely damaged by such deep betrayals. However ,this does not mean that the marriage isn't salvageable. Rebuilding trust in your marriage or relationship can be challenging when your spouse has done something significant to breach your trust.Trust in a marriage is about feeling safe with another person ,when something happens to cause one ,or both of you to feel unsafe with each other due to a one time event or series of events ,trust is eroded.It takes much time and effort to re-establish the sense of safety you need for a marriage to thrive.Below are few contributions and hep for rebuilding trust in your marriage.

1.Make a decision to love by trying to let go of the past.Stop obsessing about the situation which broke the trust between you and your spouse.


2.Be honest .You must be able to understand and state why the bad behavior occurred. You can't just say ''I don't know''. You must work to hard to know why it happened and why it will not happen again.


3.If you are the one in your marriage who lied,cheated, etc show that errant behaviors .That means no more secrets ,lies infidelity etc ,you must be completely transparent, open and forthcoming.


4.When this problem arises,all you need is time ,patience,honesty,commitment, love and forgiveness, don't treat problem with anger .At times problem of this matter will be solved by going on your kneel asking God to intervene in your case and him to restore peace ,trust and love back in your marriage where it have broken .


5.Be aware of your innermost feelings and share your feelings with one another ,you can comfort each other regardless of who the victim or perpetrator is.


6.Learn how to forget the past ,and focus on the future,when your spouse did something that you don't want ,don't recall the past ones he or she did wrong because remembering the past will make you not to trust again.


Source- http://www.skyworld.com.ng/2018/09/6-ways-of-rebuilding-trust-in-your.html

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by EntertainingYou: 11:25pm On Sep 15, 2018
5 THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE TAKING DECISION ON A CHEAT

Read Here- http://www.skyworld.com.ng/2018/09/5-things-to-consider-before-taking.html
Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by 93Miles: 11:40pm On Sep 15, 2018
What is broken can never go back to original even after fixed.
Ask JamaicanLove

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by Nobody: 12:06am On Sep 16, 2018
93Miles:
What is broken can never go back to original even after fixed.

Ask JamaicanLove




GO AND SLEEP ITS LATE.

winch

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by 93Miles: 12:11am On Sep 16, 2018
JamaicanLove:




GO AND SLEEP ITS LATE.
winch
Darling nsi do?
Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by Nobody: 1:33am On Sep 16, 2018
93Miles:


Darling nsi do?



Your whole life is here.


Enjoy while it last.


Dem go soon give you certificate

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by fruqy(m): 5:30pm On Sep 23, 2018
Why's this post just making it to fp?

Nice post, op
Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by eterisan(m): 5:30pm On Sep 23, 2018
K
Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by itiswellandwell: 5:31pm On Sep 23, 2018
This isnt applicable to a naija feminist. Just forget it when it gets broken with a Naija feminist.
Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by Sisijetue(f): 5:31pm On Sep 23, 2018
Twice beaten...forgiveness is a sin
Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by tstx(m): 5:32pm On Sep 23, 2018
All talk...

You cant mend a broken bottle..




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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by b0rn2fuck(m): 5:32pm On Sep 23, 2018
a broken relationship or marriage is a like broken mirror, once it fix, it can never be the same again

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by dan900(m): 5:33pm On Sep 23, 2018
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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by MANNABBQGRILLS: 5:33pm On Sep 23, 2018
..........sometimes, things never go back to the ways it use to be.

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by Mostfavoured010(m): 5:33pm On Sep 23, 2018
Nice info
Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by seuncyber(m): 5:33pm On Sep 23, 2018
Nice information
Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by bebe2(f): 5:35pm On Sep 23, 2018
Know dat divorce is not the easiest option


Look at those hot arguments as storms, just give it time and it will calm.

Dear women, control ur tongue in times of quarrels. U don’t need to have the last word, sometimes Let ur husband win the argument, U will not die.

23years and counting and it’s been working for me cool

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by Tomoyayi(m): 5:35pm On Sep 23, 2018
JamaicanLove:





GO AND SLEEP ITS LATE.

winch

grin
Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by kuntash: 5:36pm On Sep 23, 2018
93Miles:
What is broken can never go back to original even after fixed.

Ask JamaicanLove

From what thesis?

Are you referring to materials or human?

And if humans, to what extent have you reached in the union being talked about?

You can only be correct if you had lived in marriage for years with at least 1000 men if you are female or 1000 women if you are a male at least 50yrs each with them before you can make such statement..

If you have not.. Pls shut up

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by Tomoyayi(m): 5:38pm On Sep 23, 2018
MANNABBQGRILLS:
sometimes, things never go back to the ways it once was.

Especially when one of them cheated

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by Nobody: 5:38pm On Sep 23, 2018
For this age??
OP it's not practicable

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by Pavore9: 5:39pm On Sep 23, 2018
Rebuilding trust in a marriage is truly a journey as the hurt spouse will likely not give his/her all again in the relationship.

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by Nobody: 5:39pm On Sep 23, 2018
There will always be suspicion especially when both in-laws are now involved.
Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by MANNABBQGRILLS: 5:41pm On Sep 23, 2018
Tomoyayi:


Especially when one of them cheated
EXACTLY

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by oloriooko(m): 5:41pm On Sep 23, 2018
I think marriage is over hyped with too much expectations from the partners
Marriage that has no room for error is a blatant lie
Humans will always make mistakes over and over but we have made marriage a perfect spotless place where errors are not condoned which actually is a fantasy!
Marriage should be seen as a place where your love is tested to its limit
Marriage is a place where true forgiveness is exhibited
Marriage is constituted by 2 imperfect error prone individuals, so how on earth do we expect an error free place
When you encounter what you least expect in your marriage, just buckle up and face it
Personally, the only exception I have to marital errors is physical abuse which has its ways of being dealt with too

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by egwekwe: 5:41pm On Sep 23, 2018
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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by Nobody: 5:46pm On Sep 23, 2018
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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by Nobody: 5:46pm On Sep 23, 2018
True be told.
When the husband cheats.There 95% chance that the marriage can still work else forget it if it was the woman hu cheated.

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by wink2015: 5:48pm On Sep 23, 2018
EntertainingYou:
Make a decision to love by trying to let go of the past.The trust between a husband and wife is severely damaged by such deep betrayals. However ,this does not mean that the marriage isn't salvageable. Rebuilding trust in your marriage or relationship can be challenging when your spouse has done something significant to breach your trust.Trust in a marriage is about feeling safe with another person ,when something happens to cause one ,or both of you to feel unsafe with each other due to a one time event or series of events ,trust is eroded.It takes much time and effort to re-establish the sense of safety you need for a marriage to thrive.Below are few contributions and hep for rebuilding trust in your marriage.

1.Make a decision to love by trying to let go of the past.Stop obsessing about the situation which broke the trust between you and your spouse.


2.Be honest .You must be able to understand and state why the bad behavior occurred. You can't just say ''I don't know''. You must work to hard to know why it happened and why it will not happen again.


3.If you are the one in your marriage who lied,cheated, etc show that errant behaviors .That means no more secrets ,lies infidelity etc ,you must be completely transparent, open and forthcoming.


4.When this problem arises,all you need is time ,patience,honesty,commitment, love and forgiveness, don't treat problem with anger .At times problem of this matter will be solved by going on your kneel asking God to intervene in your case and him to restore peace ,trust and love back in your marriage where it have broken .


5.Be aware of your innermost feelings and share your feelings with one another ,you can comfort each other regardless of who the victim or perpetrator is.


6.Learn how to forget the past ,and focus on the future,when your spouse did something that you don't want ,don't recall the past ones he or she did wrong because remembering the past will make you not to trust again.


Source- http://www.skyworld.com.ng/2018/09/6-ways-of-rebuilding-trust-in-your.html



Nice share!

Quite informative and educative.
Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by DavidEsq(m): 5:53pm On Sep 23, 2018
Isaiah 48:17 tells us that it is God who teaches us to benefit ourselves. The best way to be faithful to ur spouse is to rely on God's word, the bible and read bible based publications, such as this:

Marital Loyalty

16, 17. What challenges to loyalty do married Christians have to face?
16 To whom else do we owe loyalty? If we are married, in view of our marriage vows, we have to meet the challenge of being loyal to our marriage mate. Loyalty to our mate will keep us from making the mistake of being nicer to other women or men than we are to our own wife or husband. Loyalty to our mate also requires that we do not betray to outsiders the weaknesses or shortcomings of our mate. It is easier to complain to others than it is to work hard to keep open the lines of communication with our spouse, which we should do in harmony with the Golden Rule. (Matthew 7:12) Actually, the marital state presents a real challenge to our Christian loyalty.

17 To meet this challenge of loyalty, not only must we avoid being guilty of gross misconduct but we must also guard our very thoughts and feelings. (Psalm 19:14) For instance, if our deceitful hearts are greedy for pleasure and excitement, it is so easy for us to go selfishly from admiring to desiring. Urging marital fidelity, King Solomon counsels husbands figuratively to ‘drink water out of their own cistern.’ (Proverbs 5:15) And Jesus said: “Everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28) Husbands indulging themselves in pornographic material run the risk of being induced to commit adultery, thus cheating on their wives and being disloyal to them. By the same token, a wife caught up in the spirit of soap operas dealing with adulterous episodes could be tempted to become disloyal to her husband. By being truly loyal to our mate, however, we strengthen the marriage bond, and we help each other in our efforts to please Jehovah God.

Aids to Keeping Loyal

18. Appreciation of what will help us to be loyal?
18 What will help us to meet the challenge of loyalty in these four areas: loyalty to Jehovah, to his organization, to the congregation, and to our marriage mate? One aid is appreciating that meeting the challenge of loyalty is bound up with the vindication of Jehovah’s sovereignty. Yes, by remaining loyal we show that we view Jehovah as Universal Sovereign. Thus we can also have self-respect and the hope of everlasting life in Jehovah’s new world. We can help ourselves to stay loyal by considering fine examples of loyalty, from Jehovah on down to those mentioned in the Bible and in our Watch Tower publications, including Yearbook accounts.

19. What role does faith play in our being loyal?
19 Strong faith in Jehovah God and fear of displeasing him will help us to meet the challenge of loyalty. We strengthen our faith in and fear of Jehovah by diligently studying God’s Word and by engaging in the Christian ministry. This will help us to act in harmony with Paul’s counsel recorded at Ephesians 4:23, 24: “You should be made new in the force actuating your mind, and should put on the new personality which was created according to God’s will in true righteousness and loyalty.”

20. Above all, what quality will help us to be loyal to Jehovah and to all others to whom we owe loyalty?
20 Appreciation of Jehovah’s qualities helps us to be loyal. Above all, unselfish love for our heavenly Father and gratitude for all that he has done for us, loving him with all our heart and soul and mind and strength will help us to be loyal to him. Furthermore, having the love that Jesus said would identify his followers will help us to be loyal to all Christians in the congregation and in our family. To put it another way, it is actually a matter of being either selfish or unselfish. Disloyalty means being selfish. Loyalty means being unselfish.—Mark 12:30, 31; John 13:34, 35.

21. How can the matter of meeting the challenge of loyalty be summarized?
21 To sum up: Loyalty is the sterling quality manifested by Jehovah God, by Jesus Christ, and by all of Jehovah’s true servants. To have a good relationship with Jehovah God, we must meet the challenge of loyalty to him by living up to his righteous requirements, by having nothing to do with his enemies, and by coming to Jehovah’s defense in witnessing formally and informally. We must also meet the challenge of being loyal to Jehovah’s visible organization. We must be loyal to our congregations and loyal to our marriage mates. By meeting the challenge of loyalty successfully, we will be sharing in the vindication of Jehovah’s sovereignty, and will be taking his side of the issue. Thereby we will win his favor and will receive the prize of everlasting life. What the apostle Paul said about godly devotion can also be said about our meeting the challenge of loyalty. It is beneficial both for the life now and for that which is to come.—Psalm 18:25; 1 Timothy 4:8.

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Re: 6 Ways Of Rebuilding Trust In Your Marriage After It's Been Broken by mmsen: 5:58pm On Sep 23, 2018
AKA how to come to terms with the fact that your wife is ashewo.

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