Which would you attend if they both happen to fall on the same day?

Yeah both. . .

definitely both,

Come on guys what if the distance is far? which one?

Spanishfly:

Come on guys what if the distance is far? which one?

Have the boyfriend do the birthday in the wedding venue

Wedding comes but 'ones'.

We can waive the birthday party. . . . . Boyfriend should understand.
Friend's wedding, it is.

Both but i will attend the Wedding First maybe during reception i attend the Birthday.

none

It depends . .

If they are in the same town, I'll definitely make sure I attend both . . against all odds!

If they are not in the same town and my friend is like my very very close frined and I'm one of the Aso Ebi's, I'll attend the wedding (my BF should understand)

If they are not in the same town and she's just one of those them freinds, then I'll go for my BF's party and bust the wedding!

Bf's birthday? mtshewwww! Do u know how many girlfriends will attend the bd? My friends wedding mbok

African_queen:

Have the boyfriend do the birthday in the wedding venue

That is completely otu of the question!

What if he can't afford the venue or the distance is just too far for him and his friends? Infact, the BF doesnt have to change his plans at all to suit the wedding!

Right now, I dont even know who to chose anymore b/w my BF and my girl friends! I used to think a BF was more important untill they truned into jerks; and then I put my GFs first and they proved they are just not worth it!

Now, I just do what pleases me the most . .  

I will attend the wedding, me and my bf would celebrate later at night.
beside my bf birthday is every year, my friend wedding is more important


P.S depends on the friend involve.

*contemplates answering but choses not to coz hez not gay and doesn't have a bf*

Ujujoan:

That is completely otu of the question!

What if he can't afford the venue or the distance is just too far for him and his friends? Infact, the BF doesnt have to change his plans at all to suit the wedding!

Right now, I dont even know who to chose anymore b/w my BF and my girl friends! I used to think a BF was more important untill they truned into jerks; and then I put my GFs first and they proved they are just not worth it!

Now, I just do what pleases me the most . .  

Hmmm are u taking this attitude into marriage? Not very health I tink.

rokiatu:

I will attend the wedding, me and my bf would celebrate later at night.
beside my bf birthday is every year, my friend wedding is more important


P.S depends on the friend involve.

God bless luv,

your friend will not wed again,I guess you should attend that,beside birthdays are celebrated any day.

both becos both cant happen de same tyme, so i will attend de wedding first den go for de brithday bash later

Lord_Reed:

Hmmm are u taking this attitude into marriage? Not very health I tink.

What's more unhealthy than living the rest of your life trying to please someone who will never be pleased anyways?

IF I AM UR BF AND YOU IGNORED MY BDAY FOR A FRIENDS WEDDING
THAT YOUR FRIEND WILL BE PAYING ALL UR BILLS AS FROM THAT MOMENT.

UNLESS PROPERLY PLANNED AND AGREED ON.

Attend my friend's wedding in the morning and then throw a surprise bash for my boyfriend at evening (wud have planned it that way beforehand)

I'll toss a coin

^Joke?


@OP We'll i can do both na ah ah but dis friend berra be worth it. . .

Both

Things to consider:

1) Friend already has her own  husband

2) Not attend BF's birthday and let another woman run the show


If you and  friend are that close you should have been involved in the planning to some extent and known far in advance about the wedding date . If you and BF are in a commited relationship you should have told boyfriend long ago date of Friend's wedding , besides you should be involved in the  planning  of BFs party and so you will have known better and not scheduled a conflict . So its clear you are neither close to BF or Friend . You will not be missed at either occasion

If it is possible to attend both, why not otherwise i go for the wedding. At least boyfriend has next year to celebrate birthday.

Ujujoan:

What's more unhealthy than living the rest of your life trying to please someone who will never be pleased anyways?

Quite so but wat was the pt marrying some1 who had no pleasure in u in d 1st place? I mean granted ain't no perfect person but hey there are people u still like despite their flaws. I tink dat should go double 4 d married 1's.

no body has really answred d question, permit me to add dis, d friend is ur very close friend, u wldnt want to miss her wedding, ur guys av bin talkin bout each ova weddings since college, ur boyfriend wants to celebrate his bday, wants it to take the whole day, u=v bin planning for months, bookings have already bin made, u r involved in EVERYTIN dat will happen dat day, @ dis point, i thank God i'm a guy,

I do not have a boyfriend

Pittbaby:

Things to consider:

1) Friend already has her own  husband

2) Not attend BF's birthday and let another woman run the show

We're talking of a Boy/f here not a husband.

Pittbaby:

Things to consider:
If you and  friend are that close you should have been involved in the planning to some extent and known far in advance about the wedding date . If you and BF are in a commited relationship you should have told boyfriend long ago date of Friend's wedding , besides you should be involved in the  planning  of BFs party and so you will have known better and not scheduled a conflict . So its clear you are neither close to BF or Friend . You will not be missed at either occasion

Can't You see that the total planning and fixing of date isn't within Your influence?
Your Boy/f's birthday is his birthday, You can't do much about it.
It's either he agrees to postpone the party or not.

As for the Friend . . . . even if You were involved in the planning, You can't ask her to change the date, simply because it happens to be Your boyfriend's birthday.
At the end of the day, You still have to choose where to be.