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Re: . by Tripleclick(m): 3:23pm On Oct 04, 2018
lefulefu:
i very much agree with the one about self esteem. Op really needs to build his self esteem but d one about d babe being above his level i fit no agree with that. There are instances wey a babe wey dey sell agbo go even dey form kim kardeshian over a guy wey dey track her. Na how a man take act towards a woman go make d woman know d way she go treat am.when a man acts too desperate and treats d woman like d woman is doing him a big favour talking to him the woman go waka all over his head and manipulate am to her satisfaction.
True!!
Re: . by Tripleclick(m): 3:25pm On Oct 04, 2018
StrongandMighty:

Bruh please wat do u mean by she's not within my level
I mean.. Maybe you are thinking she is too beautiful for you.. And then feeling insecure if you can hold on to her
Re: . by Ghnaija(m): 3:41pm On Oct 04, 2018
Amen God bless u to



StrongandMighty:

God bless you bruh
Re: . by Nobody: 4:47pm On Oct 04, 2018
StrongandMighty:

What do you suggest I do?
if u trust her u shouldnt worry about it. U can stil talk to her
Re: . by RussianKGB: 5:41pm On Oct 04, 2018
Before men were men they were first of all boys.
Well just to be on the same page with u and help assuage your feelings, many guys have been in ur shoes before. Truth is, there has been dt one girl who made every guy cringe and submit till a point of emotional turmoil. Don't mind what some braggarts here have been submitting in the name of emotional maturity, some of them don't have relationships or probably even suffered this fate of yours earlier or will probably suffer it in the future.
Now to your problem. You really love this girl. Trust me if u didn't, u won't have this problem. Secondly ure emotionally naive meaning u don't have much relationship experience. In situations like this it's quite difficult to break free of this torment especially when ur feelings keep playing with ur head and ur suspicions are not met with evidence. Truth is, your girl may be cheating on you or not...but the answer is not the problem. The problem is you getting out of this mental delirium that is messing with ur sanity. I suggest u take a break. When i mean take a break i want u to free urslf of anything that has to do with this girl. If you live together, let her pack her stuffs, expunge her messages or the ones you sent her, anything of hers in your vicinity that puts those thoughts in ur head should be expunged. It may sound harsh but it's d easiest way to get back to normal. Also avoid love songs & blues. You don't need those emotional triggers. Hangout with your guys, play video games, hussle, jst get involved with anything and everything but her. Avoid the temptation to reach out to her else you're back to square one. Give it time, in 2 weeks to a month u should be fine. While getting better rearrange your relationship priorities, try not to get too deep next time ure getting involved, and always have the notion that a woman is never totally yours, even in marriage(with exemptions though) but this ideology should guide u to be wise next time. This guidelines is just to help u seeing you're a newbie in the relationship game.
For some of us who've been there and done that, we don't have this type of problem, we just booze and call the next gal on the line...who says bachelorhood ain't interesting Lol. Stay safe and man up. Is just a phase bro, you'll be fine.

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Re: . by Nobody: 5:56pm On Oct 04, 2018
StrongandMighty:

As at that early morning I was typing this... I couldn't sleep bcuz I was just thinking about her... Am in emotional torture every single seconds, minutes of d day... I'll agree with you that love has finished me completely.. All I need now is help.. Am slowly dying inside while physically am deteriorating

So you are not strong and mighty after all.

Do you have a job? No?

Go get one. One that is mentally and physically challenging. One that you are already on the way to work at 6am and not back until 9/10pm.

I assure you, the next time you remember that you have a girlfriend will be in a year's time.
Re: . by Diamond23(f): 6:25pm On Oct 04, 2018
U really need help cux is dz type of [/s]LOVE[s] insecurity dey make person commit MURDER!!!....Crime of Passion!
Re: . by Darevofpeace(m): 6:44pm On Oct 04, 2018
The very first thing to overcome your fears is that you need to stop been idle, the fear of the "unknown" requires time of you sitting down and over assumption on what might not be actually true.Instead of you worrying whether she is cheating or not, why don't you increase your self worth by adding to your value's so as to increase your self esteem.Insecurity do stem's from low self esteem.
Re: . by StrongandMighty: 3:25pm On Oct 05, 2018
RussianKGB:
Before men were men they were first of all boys.
Well just to be on the same page with u and help assuage your feelings, many guys have been in ur shoes before. Truth is, there has been dt one girl who made every guy cringe and submit till a point of emotional turmoil. Don't mind what some braggarts here have been submitting in the name of emotional maturity, some of them don't have relationships or probably even suffered this fate of yours earlier or will probably suffer it in the future.
Now to your problem. You really love this girl. Trust me if u didn't, u won't have this problem. Secondly ure emotionally naive meaning u don't have much relationship experience. In situations like this it's quite difficult to break free of this torment especially when ur feelings keep playing with ur head and ur suspicions are not met with evidence. Truth is, your girl may be cheating on you or not...but the answer is not the problem. The problem is you getting out of this mental delirium that is messing with ur sanity. I suggest u take a break. When i mean take a break i want u to free urslf of anything that has to do with this girl. If you live together, let her pack her stuffs, expunge her messages or the ones you sent her, anything of hers in your vicinity that puts those thoughts in ur head should be expunged. It may sound harsh but it's d easiest way to get back to normal. Also avoid love songs & blues. You don't need those emotional triggers. Hangout with your guys, play video games, hussle, jst get involved with anything and everything but her. Avoid the temptation to reach out to her else you're back to square one. Give it time, in 2 weeks to a month u should be fine. While getting better rearrange your relationship priorities, try not to get too deep next time ure getting involved, and always have the notion that a woman is never totally yours, even in marriage(with exemptions though) but this ideology should guide u to be wise next time. This guidelines is just to help u seeing you're a newbie in the relationship game.
For some of us who've been there and done that, we don't have this type of problem, we just booze and call the next gal on the line...who says bachelorhood ain't interesting Lol. Stay safe and man up. Is just a phase bro, you'll be fine.
Thanks so much bruh.. Ur words made me feel a lot better, I'll reli love 2 keep in touch with you ... I couldn't reply yesterday don't know why I was banned
Re: . by StrongandMighty: 3:26pm On Oct 05, 2018
Darevofpeace:
The very first thing to overcome your fears is that you need to stop been idle, the fear of the "unknown" requires time of you sitting down and over assumption on what might not be actually true.Instead of you worrying whether she is cheating or not, why don't you increase your self worth by adding to your value's so as to increase your self esteem.Insecurity do stem's from low self esteem.
Thanks I'll do that...

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Re: . by StrongandMighty: 3:27pm On Oct 05, 2018
Ioannes:


So you are not strong and mighty after all.

Do you have a job? No?

Go get one. One that is mentally and physically challenging. One that you are already on the way to work at 6am and not back until 9/10pm.

I assure you, the next time you remember that you have a girlfriend will be in a year's time.
Thank you.. I'll get my hands on something that is really time consuming

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Re: . by StrongandMighty: 3:29pm On Oct 05, 2018
Diamond23:
U really need help cux is dz type of [/s]LOVE[s] insecurity dey make person commit MURDER!!!....Crime of Passion!
That's why I brought the matter here bcuz I know I need help
Re: . by StrongandMighty: 3:30pm On Oct 05, 2018
Ray97:
if u trust her u shouldnt worry about it. U can stil talk to her
OK.. Thnks
Re: . by StrongandMighty: 3:31pm On Oct 05, 2018
Tripleclick:
I mean.. Maybe you are thinking she is too beautiful for you.. And then feeling insecure if you can hold on to her
Yea she's beautiful
Re: . by StrongandMighty: 3:33pm On Oct 05, 2018
Botfuss:
grin grin

Let me make some assertions:

Your girl is very beautiful.
She has small money more than you.
Many rich guys(you know some) are chasing her.
You don’t know if she can wait for you to settle and marry her.
You didn’t know you loved her this much until now
You know if you broke up with her today,she will have another boyfriend(finer and richer) before nightfall’s.(she is that beautiful)



Here is the good news,she has cheated and still cheating on you. lol..Thing is,she is not yours honestly.

You have to break up with her before she does. That’ll restore some of your pride.

But if you are thinking this feeling will stop after the break up, you are so wrong. lol. As a matter of fact,it’ll grow stronger. But you have to let her go honestly. She is not yours.

This doesn’t mean she never loved you though ,it’s a decision she has to make as a woman.

The best news is,there are thousands of girls more beautiful than she is. Just make your money and steal the love of the life of another young guy who will in turn feel the way you feel now. lol. It’s a cycle bro...

You’ve enjoyed the love,now it’s time to suffer for it. Las las,ul be fine
OK bro.. Thank you
Re: . by Diamond23(f): 3:42pm On Oct 05, 2018
StrongandMighty:

That's why I brought the matter here bcuz I know I need help
Learn hw to control ur insecurity and jealousy.Dz type of tin do happen especially wen ur babe z Vry pretty. U always felt threatened by oda guys snatching her away.Communicate wit her xo she also know wot u r going through
Re: . by MissRaine69(f): 3:46pm On Oct 05, 2018
StrongandMighty:
Have you ever been in a relationship and you feel like your partner is cheating on you? Or perhaps your instinct keeps telling you that your partner is cheating on you or might leave you anytime soon? .. Anything your partner does makes your heart skip like not returning your texts on time, not calling you on phone or not even picking up your calls because of some reasons and your mood changes automatically and immediately ur partner replies ur texts or calls you back it immediately brightens up ur mood, Like you can't get the thought of your partner cheating on you out of your mind and you feel like you can't handle it if it happens .. You think about ur partner cheating on you every minute of the day, your heart is breaking already as a result of what your instinct tells you but you've no evidence to prove it.... This is the situation am in right now, it's like am drowning every day, I've totally lost my happiness because of a relationship not that I've an evidence of her cheating just that my instinct keeps telling me so.. Please guys nd ladies in the house help a brother, I need to get myself back, I never bargain for my happiness to depend on someone.. How can I get myself out of this mess...
You can help yourself by not being in a relationship until you resolve the source of your paranoia and deep insecurities.
First form a relationship with yourself and address your lack of trust because without that you are just one heck of a nightmare boyfriend no woman should be involved with.
Re: . by StrongandMighty: 5:03pm On Oct 05, 2018
Diamond23:
Learn hw to control ur insecurity and jealousy.Dz type of tin do happen especially wen ur babe z Vry pretty. U always felt threatened by oda guys snatching her away.Communicate wit her xo she also know wot u r going through
I believe you re a girl.. How come you know abt this?
Have you seen a guy who have tru this B4? Truly I feel threatened by d kind of attention she gets from oda guys
Re: . by StrongandMighty: 5:07pm On Oct 05, 2018
MissRaine69:

You can help yourself by not being in a relationship until you resolve the source of your paranoia and deep insecurities.
First form a relationship with yourself and address your lack of trust because without that you are just one heck of a nightmare boyfriend no woman should be involved with.
U sounded a bit harsh.. Honestly am not even close to wat u described above
Re: . by Karaske: 5:16pm On Oct 05, 2018
Bros Go Visit A Rehab, Dats D Only Way Out Man
Re: . by StrongandMighty: 5:19pm On Oct 05, 2018
Karaske:
Bros Go Visit A Rehab, Dats D Only Way Out Man
Why?
Re: . by romenna: 6:25pm On Oct 05, 2018
Trust your instincts.
Re: . by Diamond23(f): 7:52pm On Oct 05, 2018
StrongandMighty:

I believe you re a girl.. How come you know abt this?
Have you seen a guy who have tru this B4? Truly I feel threatened by d kind of attention she gets from oda guys
Of course am a girl. I knew cux I v been der!!!, once u r sure she z not cheating on u let d fear slide. Communicate ur fear with her.
Re: . by MissRaine69(f): 8:04pm On Oct 05, 2018
StrongandMighty:

U sounded a bit harsh.. Honestly am not even close to wat u described above
It’s based on how you described yourself not my annalysis of you.
Re: . by StrongandMighty: 8:21pm On Oct 05, 2018
Diamond23:
Of course am a girl. I knew cux I v been der!!!, once u r sure she z not cheating on u let d fear slide. Communicate ur fear with her.
Telling her my fears won't mk matters worst? And if I've to let her know please wats d ryt way u tink I shud put for me not to look too desperate or be at her mercy?
Re: . by StrongandMighty: 8:22pm On Oct 05, 2018
romenna:
Trust your instincts.
OK u re saying I shud believe she's cheating
Re: . by StrongandMighty: 8:23pm On Oct 05, 2018
MissRaine69:

It’s based on how you described yourself not my annalysis of you.
That I voiced out my fears and challenges doesn't make me a terrible person or a nightmare.. I was only looking for solution
Re: . by Diamond23(f): 10:00pm On Oct 05, 2018
StrongandMighty:

Telling her my fears won't mk matters worst? And if I've to let her know please wats d ryt way u tink I shud put for me not to look too desperate or be at her mercy?
Went through ur previous posts nd saw were ur problems started. First u v to work on urself to get ur self-esteem bk.As for d right way to put it to her pls ask d guys to help u out cux dat I know not!......Maybe start by discussing ur last relationship with her, hw it ended, d causes, wot u went through nd wouldn’t want such to repeat itself again.
Re: . by daviesblaze(m): 7:37am On Oct 06, 2018
StrongandMighty:

That I voiced out my fears and challenges doesn't make me a terrible person or a nightmare.. I was only looking for solution
Firstly, op never listen to the advice this female monikers are giving you. secondly, rather than orbiting her around you thoughts, you should start adding more women to your circle. this is where game comes in. to achieve this, you need as small as a little level of confidence to get started. lastly, in addressing your girlfriend, you should start making her to get more emotionally invested in the relationship.
Re: . by StrongandMighty: 9:10am On Oct 06, 2018
Diamond23:
Went through ur previous posts nd saw were ur problems started. First u v to work on urself to get ur self-esteem bk.As for d right way to put it to her pls ask d guys to help u out cux dat I know not!......Maybe start by discussing ur last relationship with her, hw it ended, d causes, wot u went through nd wouldn’t want such to repeat itself again.
Alright thanks so much

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Re: . by StrongandMighty: 9:11am On Oct 06, 2018
daviesblaze:
Firstly, op never listen to the advice this female monikers are giving you. secondly, rather than orbiting her around you thoughts, you should start adding more women to your circle. this is where game comes in. to achieve this, you need as small as a little level of confidence to get started. lastly, in addressing your girlfriend, you should start making her to get more emotionally invested in the relationship.
Please do you know how I can build that confidence.. It's really lacking in me
Re: . by RussianKGB: 9:27am On Oct 06, 2018
StrongandMighty:

Thanks so much bruh.. Ur words made me feel a lot better, I'll reli love 2 keep in touch with you ... I couldn't reply yesterday don't know why I was banned
You welcome, you can reach me via pm. As for the ban well it could be anti spam bot. Anyways take k and hope you're getting urslf back 2gether.

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