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An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by Lukgaf(m): 1:51pm On Oct 11, 2018
Faatimah let out a sigh,but not a sigh of relief as it's in most books it's a sigh of exasperation. She's fed up with everything, with every fucking things!

She looked at the mirror again,for the umpteenth time. Oh! This is not her,this is not Faatimah Adegbenle Ewapo. She can't be this trash. I mean, the beauty she's been boasting of, and proud of can't go like that,it just can't.

She looks again at the face in the mirror. That old crooked face she wished the concealer would have helped her conceal. But she was wrong, the concealer even makes it worse.

Faatimah can still remember vividly how her friends used to endorse her beauty then, like indomie. Especially, Jaleelah,her best friend out of the five friends she kept then. Jaleelah will say in her tiny,Bell's voice, Ewapo, Omo to dara bi egbin, onimu bi imu larubawa (a praise of beauty).

She smiled at the memory, if she's asked her greatest wish now, it'll be to return to that prime days of her. That days when she would blush deep inside her when different brothers approached her. They had wanted her so badly them, as a wife. Many of them visited her father then, and his father accepted them very well. But none of them was her crush. She didn't like any of them, in fact, she hated them. Most especially, Alfa Rufai,who would not let her rest and always sent her gifts through her father. But she would reject them,all of them. She remembered how she had called the brother, onímú òpá ìwàkà. All she had wanted then was her masters degree and PhD. Nothing less! And all advice from her parents,especially, Mama Tooke,her mum, that lady's time is so short,had fallen into her deaf ears. She had called her mum the enemy of progress then. Little did she know that its for her own sake.
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by Lukgaf(m): 1:53pm On Oct 11, 2018
Now, she has her degree,the Masters and PhD, but no one comes for her again. No one wants the crooked-faced, proud woman again. If only they know she's changed!

Oh! She had definitely trespassed. She would be 39 next year and not a man,not a single man has approached her for the past six years. But its not their fault. Its her own fault. She's the authour of her own misfortune. She had always wanted certificate,and now she has the certificates. She uses the best of cars. But she has no crown, no man she can call her own. The beauty self is not there anymore, probably, they might have considered that. she had had opportunities, even different ones at that, but this is her today,a 38 years old single lady, not a widow, not a divorcee.

Only Allaah knows she's repented. Anyone that comes her now,na jam she go jam am. Even if she will be the fourth wife, she doesn't mind. But that's only if, cos she heard men look for sweet sixteen nowadays,not a old school like her.
Its enough, yah Allaah!she cried. Enough is enough!Because If only she will lie,this life as a single isn't easy,its a very big torture!
Humn! she sighed again, dropping the pulse sized mirror she's been looking at, now with a tear-soaken face. If only she had listened to advice...

To all Fatimah Ewapo out there, please take heed before its too late. You can still become anything you wanna be in your marriage. It only requires you to be focused. Verily, life as a searching single is not easy,ka ma paro o. May Allaah grant every singles, widows and divorcees out there, their source of joy,Aamin.

By:
Faatimah Luqman (Lukfat)

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Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by haywayboi(m): 2:31pm On Oct 11, 2018
nice one.... more of these plz...
keep it rolling
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by Rashduct4luv(m): 3:07pm On Oct 11, 2018
Ile Obinrin kin pe su!

A woman's time passes quickly!

The older a woman grow the lesser she becomes able to give birth!

Below are the common reasons for late marriage. And OP gave us a life example of option 2.

1. Money related issues/fear of poverty.

2. Waiting to complete Education.

3. Feeling immature.

4. Family troubles and non-agreements.

5. Not seeing your kinda partner/ being too selective!

6. Already got a bed partner, boyfriend/girlfriend things,baby mama/papa things etc or involving in masturbation, homosexualism, etc.

7. Fear of marriage.

8. Spiritual problems eg having spiritual spouse.

9. Medical problems. eg impotence.

10. Environmental problems eg bad friends.

11. Expensive dowry, wedding cost, bridal gifts, etc.


“Our Lord! Grant unto us spouses and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous. (Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhurriyatina qurrata a`yunin wa’j`alna li’l muttaqina imama)” [Qur’an, 25:74]

رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَاماً

Aamin

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Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by Donmedrac: 8:28am On Oct 12, 2018
Muslims are cool

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Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by BigBrother9ja: 8:30am On Oct 12, 2018
I'm Muslim and I have never really dated a Muslim girl. I find our sisters very hard to understand, especially the hijabites.

They don't really socialize (I don't mean flirting or being loose) and how does one understand someone who doesn't even know how to communicate or socialize not to talk of marriage?

Even as a Muslim, anytime I see a young and beautiful hijabite sister, I just usually conclude that they've been taken but I know many of them are still single and searching and reality, MOST of them are just stalk with unserious married men who wants to take them as second or third wife or maybe a Christian guy that would be hard for them to settle down with...
BUT HOW does one identify the single and searching ones?

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Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by Bsmartt(m): 8:37am On Oct 12, 2018
Alhamdulillah. For the 'Fatimahs' out there it is not too late to turn a new leaf because marriage in Islam is a password to the completion of half of our deen on earth.

Also, for many of our sisters that believe that they can do it all alone without a husband please think over the decision again and again and again!!!

May Allah (SWT) guide us.

I say asalam alaykum to all our Muslim sisters and pray ALLAH give them a caring husband(brothers). Aamin.

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Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by kehinde1588(m): 9:01am On Oct 12, 2018
BigBrother9ja:
I'm Muslim and I have never really dated a Muslim girl. I find our sisters very hard to understand, especially the hijabites.

They don't really socialize (I don't mean flirting or being loose) and how does one understand someone who doesn't even know how to communicate or socialize not to talk of marriage?

Even as a Muslim, anytime I see a young and beautiful hijabite sister, I just usually conclude that they've been taken but I know many of them are still single and searching and reality, MOST of them are just stalk with unserious married men who wants to take them as second or third wife or maybe a Christian guy that would be hard for them to settle down with...
BUT HOW does one identify the single and searching ones?
Seriously you are on point. Those sisters find it difficult to socialize with others especially men that are not deep in religion like them. Mere looking at them, one would think they are engaged or married not knowing they are single and dying inside. All these sisters need to change their perspective on socialization. Socializing does not mean engaging in haram. Simple conversation is an act of socialization.
The funny part is that, those sisters will say they can't marry someone who is not as deep in religion as them.

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Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by koolaid87: 9:26am On Oct 12, 2018
Oya 2005 muslima

Won sanwo Nikkah

Lawy gbogbo lautech, egbon gbowo muslima daku


Salam aleykum to my yaro for Sudan

Salam aleykum to Sharp boys

We outta game

Bless up hustlers
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by Fundamentalist: 9:26am On Oct 12, 2018
kehinde1588:

Seriously you are on point. Those sisters find it difficult to socialize with others especially men that are not deep in religion like them. Mere looking at them, one would think they are engaged or married not knowing they are single and dying inside. All these sisters need to change their perspective on socialization. Socializing does not mean engaging in haram. Simple conversation is an act of socialization.
The funny part is that, those sisters will say they can't marry someone who is not as deep in religion as them.

Its not ability to socialize , its called shyness , its part and parcel of a woman/lady with faith. There is no harm in asking if she is single or married just be polite and ask , simple .

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Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by Rashduct4luv(m): 9:35am On Oct 12, 2018
BigBrother9ja:
I'm Muslim and I have never really dated a Muslim girl. I find our sisters very hard to understand, especially the hijabites.

They don't really socialize (I don't mean flirting or being loose) and how does one understand someone who doesn't even know how to communicate or socialize not to talk of marriage?

Even as a Muslim, anytime I see a young and beautiful hijabite sister, I just usually conclude that they've been taken but I know many of them are still single and searching and reality, MOST of them are just stalk with unserious married men who wants to take them as second or third wife or maybe a Christian guy that would be hard for them to settle down with...
BUT HOW does one identify the single and searching ones?

Na'am our sisters are meant to be reserved and bashful especially towards the men they can marry. Today vulgarity and all its ingredients have become a common place even among well-known Muslims. They socialise among themselves and you may propose to them through a proxy or by meeting their father (or guardian).

Muslims don't date or court.

Islam forbids a man to be alone with a non-mahram woman (one who is not his wife or a close relative) even if he is teaching her the Qur’aan, which is the Book of Allaah, That is because the Shaytaan (Satan) would come between them. The Prophet of Islam (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan will be the third one present.”

The Prophet (s) said: “Indeed haya (modesty,shyness) and Iman are Companions. When one of them is lifted, the other leaves as well.” (Baihaqi)

The Prophet (s) said: “Haya and Trustworthiness will be the first to go from this world; therefore keep asking Allah for them.” (Baihaqi)

The Prophet (s) said: When lewdness is a part of anything, it becomes defective; and when haya is a part of anything it becomes beautiful. (Tirmidhi)

Prophet (s) said: “Haya does not bring anything except good.” (Bukhari)

“Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty…….” (Qur’an: Surah Nur, 30-31)

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Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by sirzent(m): 10:33am On Oct 12, 2018
Na'am
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by realmadrid1(m): 11:00am On Oct 12, 2018
Jazakumullah for the enlightenment
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by Alepa(m): 11:33am On Oct 12, 2018
Rashduct4luv:


Na'am our sisters are meant to be reserved and bashful especially towards the men they can marry. Today vulgarity and all its ingredients have become a common place even among well-known Muslims. They socialise among themselves and you may propose to them through a proxy or by meeting their father (or guardian).

Muslims don't date or court.

Islam forbids a man to be alone with a non-mahram woman (one who is not his wife or a close relative) even if he is teaching her the Qur’aan, which is the Book of Allaah, That is because the Shaytaan (Satan) would come between them. The Prophet of Islam (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan will be the third one present.”

The Prophet (s) said: “Indeed haya (modesty,shyness) and Iman are Companions. When one of them is lifted, the other leaves as well.” (Baihaqi)

The Prophet (s) said: “Haya and Trustworthiness will be the first to go from this world; therefore keep asking Allah for them.” (Baihaqi)

The Prophet (s) said: When lewdness is a part of anything, it becomes defective; and when haya is a part of anything it becomes beautiful. (Tirmidhi)

Prophet (s) said: “Haya does not bring anything except good.” (Bukhari)

“Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty…….” (Qur’an: Surah Nur, 30-31)
Exactly! At the bolded.
That’s the point he’s missing. There’s no courtship in Islam !
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by idrisaleo1: 11:42am On Oct 12, 2018
Searching for a beautiful dark in complexion muslim sister with AA genotype. Age doesn't matter
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by BigBrother9ja: 11:52am On Oct 12, 2018
Rashduct4luv:


Na'am our sisters are meant to be reserved and bashful especially towards the men they can marry. Today vulgarity and all its ingredients have become a common place even among well-known Muslims. They socialise among themselves and you may propose to them through a proxy or by meeting their father (or guardian).

Muslims don't date or court.

Islam forbids a man to be alone with a non-mahram woman (one who is not his wife or a close relative) even if he is teaching her the Qur’aan, which is the Book of Allaah, That is because the Shaytaan (Satan) would come between them. The Prophet of Islam (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan will be the third one present.”

The Prophet (s) said: “Indeed haya (modesty,shyness) and Iman are Companions. When one of them is lifted, the other leaves as well.” (Baihaqi)

The Prophet (s) said: “Haya and Trustworthiness will be the first to go from this world; therefore keep asking Allah for them.” (Baihaqi)

The Prophet (s) said: When lewdness is a part of anything, it becomes defective; and when haya is a part of anything it becomes beautiful. (Tirmidhi)

Prophet (s) said: “Haya does not bring anything except good.” (Bukhari)

“Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty…….” (Qur’an: Surah Nur, 30-31)
I disagree with SOME of your idea.
This moral thing USUALLY reeks plenty hypocrisy
How many guys can go to their fathers to ask for daughter's hand in marriage?
P.S
I CANT MARRY A GIRL I HAVE NOT DATE! NOT IN THIS GENERATION!!!!
SO I SHOULD GO AND END UP WITH A PRETENDER OR A LEFTOVER ??
(AND DATING IS NOT ALWAYS ASSOCIATED WITH SEX AND ROMANCE)

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Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by adeolu21: 12:22pm On Oct 12, 2018
BigBrother9ja:

I disagree with SOME of your idea.
This moral thing USUALLY reeks plenty hypocrisy
How many guys can go to their fathers to ask for daughter's hand in marriage.
P.S
I CANT MARRY A GIRL I HAVE NOT DATE! NOT IN THIS GENERATION!!!!
SO I SHOULD GO AND END UP WITH A PRETENDER OR A LEFTOVER ??
(AND DATING IS NOT ALWAYS ASSOCIATED WITH SEX AND ROMANCE)
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by babsy01(m): 1:12pm On Oct 12, 2018
Nice one may Allah increase you in knowledge
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by UltimateDayg: 1:26pm On Oct 12, 2018
BigBrother9ja:
I'm Muslim and I have never really dated a Muslim girl. I find our sisters very hard to understand, especially the hijabites.

They don't really socialize (I don't mean flirting or being loose) and how does one understand someone who doesn't even know how to communicate or socialize not to talk of marriage?

Even as a Muslim, anytime I see a young and beautiful hijabite sister, I just usually conclude that they've been taken but I know many of them are still single and searching and reality, MOST of them are just stalk with unserious married men who wants to take them as second or third wife or maybe a Christian guy that would be hard for them to settle down with...
BUT HOW does one identify the single and searching ones?




some of them are really compromised.....but if you are with good intentions.....you can approach her and tell her that you want her to be your wife....simplee...if she likes you shell agree and if she dont....... You are a man
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by missyQween(f): 1:28pm On Oct 12, 2018
BigBrother9ja:
I'm Muslim and I have never really dated a Muslim girl. I find our sisters very hard to understand, especially the hijabites.

They don't really socialize (I don't mean flirting or being loose) and how does one understand someone who doesn't even know how to communicate or socialize not to talk of marriage?

Even as a Muslim, anytime I see a young and beautiful hijabite sister, I just usually conclude that they've been taken but I know many of them are still single and searching and reality, MOST of them are just stalk with unserious married men who wants to take them as second or third wife or maybe a Christian guy that would be hard for them to settle down with...
BUT HOW does one identify the single and searching ones?


If you are ready to marry a Muslim lady.
You will find one.
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by missyQween(f): 1:32pm On Oct 12, 2018
Jazakallahu khair. Tho,Our men ain't helping matters. They want the Kim and Nicki Minaj shape.Lol. May Allah bless us with a spouse that will be the coolness of our eyes
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by EmmGee: 2:18pm On Oct 12, 2018
missyQween:
Jazakallahu khair.
Tho,Our men ain't helping matters.
They want the Kim and Nicki Minaj shape.Lol.
May Allah bless us with a spouse that will be the coolness of our eyes
Ameen.

our minds operate in very different ways
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by missyQween(f): 3:19pm On Oct 12, 2018
EmmGee:
Ameen.
our minds operate in very different ways

Yeah,You are right. I hope you ain't one of those men. Just kidding. How is Sudan?
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by BigBrother9ja: 4:20pm On Oct 12, 2018
missyQween:



If you are ready to marry a Muslim lady.
You will find one.
I am more than ready
The problem is finding one that is deserving...
Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by empressteemah06(f): 4:42pm On Oct 12, 2018
Asalam Alaykum,
For those brothers looking for Sisters to marry, you should try and attend Muslims gathering and also you can try Facebook even naira land...

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Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by Rashduct4luv(m): 5:12pm On Oct 12, 2018
BigBrother9ja:

I disagree with SOME of your idea.
This moral thing USUALLY reeks plenty hypocrisy
How many guys can go to their fathers to ask for daughter's hand in marriage?
P.S
I CANT MARRY A GIRL I HAVE NOT DATE! NOT IN THIS GENERATION!!!!
SO I SHOULD GO AND END UP WITH A PRETENDER OR A LEFTOVER ??
(AND DATING IS NOT ALWAYS ASSOCIATED WITH SEX AND ROMANCE)

I think it is better to go and learn about Istikhara and Istishaarah as it applies to marriage. Stick with what Islam gave and it will suffice you!

The argument that you can know a lady/man by dating/courting has been debunked a long time. What will you test in each other?

1. How neat is she? She can only be neat in appearance!

2. How much can she cook? will you live with her?

3. How good is she on bed? Can she bear kids? shocked lipsrsealed Zinna!!!

4. How far can she manage meager resources? undecided
And so much more!

And we have heard so many couples pretend in a long time courtship and after marriage they discovered what they detest.

We ask Allah to guide us all.

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Re: An-nikkah (Marriage): A Soft Admonition To Our Sisters by missyQween(f): 6:22pm On Oct 12, 2018
BigBrother9ja:
I am more than ready The problem is finding one that is deserving...

In sha Allah, You will find

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