Its your wedding. Do it according to your pockets

famousbowale:
Hello guyz, sorry for been the first to comment on my own post.

I'm currently planning for my wedding towards March next year. My self and my wife to be are trying to keep it as simple as possible, if possible just for family members and friends of about 250.
Believe it before I could say jack our budget is already hitting #3.2 million.

The post above was share by a Nigerian base abroad, this made me begin to wonder if it is necessary to even wed at all?
Why spend our hard earned money on wedding of a day?
That money can get us a land or start a little business.
Just thinking

I did a good traditional wedding and invited my pastor to witness and pray for us, afterwards I headed to the court.

Why spend a fortune to impress people who don't care about you. No matter how much you spent, your wedding will be forgotten in less than a month, be wise.

Simple but classy. My perfect idea of marriage events

The ops 3.2m budget dey give me nightmare. My budget is between. .5-.8m

Mek I hear word, jor! For a woman, your wedding day is the happiest day of your life so go for it if you can afford it!


O pari

chiommy123:
I don't think any sensible person that's still struggling should kill him/ her self cos of wedding. there's no guarantee you'll get back your money as gift or other things so better advice yourselves

If me my spouse have 3.2million naira budgeted to feed some people that didn't ask to be fed, asswearugod we're investing 3million to our GROWTH, let the 200k cater to whatever it can.

With Both families (highly important ones) in attendance, the rest people can watch from my whatsapp and IG story.

flyca:
OP, we are Russians (or any other) are different cultures, different ideologies, different religious principles. We have our own way of doing stuff.

We Africans have our heritage and we must be proud if it! We are tied into closely knitted family units. We love to celebrate together as communities. We also mourn together. Economic factors should not be the reason why we would not do what we are supposed to do, especially when we can.

My point is: We must not copy everything we see. We must not be like them!

I don't even know how to reply such a senseless post like this.
They brought education, you people copied it.
They brought religion and democracy, you people copied it.
But when it comes to weddings, "we" should not be like them? SMH.
What the **** is my business, blow money like a drug dealer on your wedding, it's your life.

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flyca:
OP, we are Russians (or any other) are different cultures, different ideologies, different religious principles. We have our own way of doing stuff.

We Africans have our heritage and we must be proud if it! We are tied into closely knitted family units. We love to celebrate together as communities. We also mourn together. Economic factors should not be the reason why we would not do what we are supposed to do, especially when we can.

My point is: We must not copy everything we see. We must not be like them!

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Ask your village people

It's a question of personal choice. One can decide to stand out. Wedding is even easier compared to burial expenses that are mandatory as required by certain traditions. I think it is high time these unnecessary practices are reviewed

highchief1:
u Dey crase I spent over 12m on my wedding if u love your wife you will spend on ur wedding.my intro alone was over 1.5m

who love help Abeg forget that thing

haconjy:
Have started crying when my wife to be spend all the money I gave her to buy her bags and shoes at cost of 90k I bust into cry as a teacher, how will I get that amount again before DEC 8... Next time no wedding on my agenda o

You mean you, a teacher, gave your fiancée a whopping 90k to buy shoe and bags?

princfred:
All those local feminists no go see this one to emulate. Na after Nigerian men spend heavily to buy ...ehmm ...marry them finish then they will suddenly forget who should be primarily responsible for cooking.

Compare Humans with Humans.
Not with Rabid Dogs!

The moment you start living your life to please people, you start planning your downfall. If it had been you alone who wanted a simple wedding and your wife wishes otherwise, then that'd be a different issue. But since you and your wife are of similar opinion, screw everyone else.

But wait, 250 people you say? They say 3 is a crowd, that should make 250 a congregation. Uncle, if you had 250 in mind, then you weren't planning small at all. Try 50 for a 'small' figure. 100 max

flyca:
OP, we are Russians (or any other) are different cultures, different ideologies, different religious principles. We have our own way of doing stuff.

We Africans have our heritage and we must be proud if it! We are tied into closely knitted family units. We love to celebrate together as communities. We also mourn together. Economic factors should not be the reason why we would not do what we are supposed to do, especially when we can.

My point is: We must not copy everything we see. We must not be like them!

Really?

It simply shows that you have not really cut down the expenses and excesses. When you get really serious, you will cut it down to 500k-1m. We have lesser wedding expenses.

famousbowale:
Hello guyz, sorry for been the first to comment on my own post.

I'm currently planning for my wedding towards March next year. My self and my wife to be are trying to keep it as simple as possible, if possible just for family members and friends of about 250.
Believe it before I could say jack our budget is already hitting #3.2 million.

The post above was share by a Nigerian base abroad, this made me begin to wonder if it is necessary to even wed at all?
Why spend our hard earned money on wedding of a day?
That money can get us a land or start a little business.
Just thinking

Most ladies in Nigeria already started dreaming of their wedding day right from the womb.

Any thing less than superflousity, and they will not forgive you.

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akaahs:
The ops 3.2m budget dey give me nightmare. My budget is between. .5-.8m

For what? What you should use to balance your new family and the new child... Stop impressing people who don't give a damn. They will still laugh at you if things get awry or you can't pay bills or rent.

You never start to dey watch Nigerian wedding on fox life? Na wetin dem know us for now

ImaIma1:
Most times it is family members...especially parents that make things difficult in planning a wedding. It is supposed to be the couple's wedding.

But then, as you are planning for 150 guests, your mum or MIL has her extra 100 guests. It can be really frustrating having issues over "show-off" motivated decisions.

The blame should be on the couple not in-laws. If couple can stand their ground on having small wedding, the families of the bride or groom will obliged. But when they are swayed by what their parents feel or need it becomes a problem. I blame ladies most times for putting men in stress to get married. They make men to perform two weddings whereas in developed countries it is just one.They are good at copying the whites but they wouldn't copy well

Just do your traditional wedding and go and rest

It is church wedding that eats up the bulk of people's funds, not the traditional wedding. It is you people that insisted that you must honour the white man's tradition and wed in his ways, so, increase your budget to appeal to the ways of foreigners or maintain your low budget and marry on the ways your ancestors did.

flyca:
OP, we are Russians (or any other) are different cultures, different ideologies, different religious principles. We have our own way of doing stuff.

We Africans have our heritage and we must be proud if it! We are tied into closely knitted family units. We love to celebrate together as communities. We also mourn together. Economic factors should not be the reason why we would not do what we are supposed to do, especially when we can.

My point is: We must not copy everything we see. We must not be like them!

That is why u are single..
Evening newspaper

yettymuse:
If me my spouse have 3.2million naira budgeted to feed some people that didn't ask to be fed, asswearugod we're investing 3million to our GROWTH, let the 200k cater to whatever it can.

With Both families (highly important ones) in attendance, the rest people can watch from my whatsapp and IG story.

na so everybody day talk until their mama or MIL hijack the wedding

E sweet to talk sha

twosquare:
For what? What you should use to balance your new family and the new child... Stop impressing people who don't give a damn. They will still laugh at you if things get awry or you can't pay bills or rent.

Many Nigerians never wake to reality. Partners and couple that realize OYO is their case are living happier

safarigirl:
Just do your traditional wedding and go and rest

It is church wedding that eats up the bulk of people's funds, nor the traditional wedding. It is you people that insisted ghat how must honour the white man's tradition and we'd in his ways, so, increase your budget to appeal to the ways of foreigners or maintain your low budget and marry on the ways your ancestors did.

It is easy said than done. Would you accept just traditional wedding? If yes would you do low key traditional wedding? If yes would you allow persuade your family to reduce bride price because your are not a commodity? If yes would you love your husband for who he is even if he is poor?

myettiallah:

That is why u are single..
Evening newspaper

You kind of mean

safarigirl:
na so everybody day talk until their mama or MIL hijack the wedding

E sweet to talk sha

MIL is free to do whatever she so desires as long as the funding is coming from her or her husband....

highchief1:
u Dey crase I spent over 12m on my wedding if u love your wife you will spend on ur wedding.my intro alone was over 1.5m

Heigod!... I dont even understand why this man is lying like this. Even if he's not, Uncle its your money, your wedding, your expenses, enjoy it all, but please allow other people express themselves jor. The man has a valid point abeg. All fingers are not equal. Stop showing off.

asuustrike1:

It is easy said than done. Would you accept just traditional wedding? If yes would you do low key traditional wedding? If yes would you allow persuade your family to reduce bride price because your are not a commodity? If yes would you love your husband for who he is even if he is poor?

i am not poor, so, why will I accept a poor man? I am not rich, so, what am I doing with a rich man or a fancy wedding? If trad is all we can afford, fine. I don't even like seeing people, so, the fewer people I have to see on my wedding day, the better for me

The bride price in my village is #5, surely anybody I am marrying ought to have #5.....i don't come from a big family, I barely even know members of my extended family, so, who is my husband paying to? People that are not in Nigeria?


I have no business with a poor man, especially one who is not only financially poor, but also mentally poor. I cannot be with anyone who has no ambition, no plans to better himself and no gifts whatsoever with which he can better himself. So, what do you mean "if he is poor"? Because even my father would not collect bride price from any man who has no promise

twosquare:
MIL is free to do whatever she so desires as long as the funding is coming from her or her husband....

of course

That is what most Nigerians don't put into consideration. Truth is, nobody really cares what the couple wants when it comes down to it. It's your marriage, but the families' wedding