christyanah:
I've been married for three years now but I think I might've made a big mistake. I used to be sexually attracted to women before I gave my life to Christ and it's been amazing so far. I'm blessed with a couple of kids which I love and adore but I'm afraid, I haven't been fulfilled.

Ofcourse, I love my husband and he's been nothing but amazing but I don't think i'm sexually compatible.
I've never been aroused by a man.
Never enjoyed kissing a man
I've never been sexually attracted to men, no matter how gentle they are. I've tried. Prayed. Fasted.
I seem to achieve all these easily with women.

I think I need help
Even my husband notices how sexually lazy I've been towards him. I'm so worried.

DEMONIC ACTIVITIES AT PLAY. GENUINE SALVATION IS TO UR RESCUE. LESBIANISM IS SATANIC and UNGODLY. GOD'S PURPOSE IS MAN AND WOMAN...

oaselemi:
The solution is simple, anytime you and your husband want to perform gymnastics activities in your room you invite one more lesbian to join

Brother. Can you suck a man's dik while he taking a $hit?. We call it gallop. It's the new thing in town. Gay is best. Brorher Please can I know you?

Pls search for Mike Davidson on Youtube. He might be able to point you in the right direction for effective help. May God's grace suffice for you in Jesus name.

Ur hubby is prolly not good in bed. If I were him I'd have f*cked d lesbianism out of ur system.

ednut1:
In 2017 ur kids were 6 and 3. Now u say uve been married for 3 years

OP is a troll

cenaman:
hell is ur potion in jesus name.

Wow! I was actually talking about a similar situation with my Nigerian friend, I really wish some countries would stop being so judgmental towards gay people, a lot of Nigerian men in South Africa have wives back home but they dated other Nigerian men here and hearing their stories is really sad because some of them only got married because of the word " abomination ". I just think everyone should be happy and not be judged on his or her sex. Please my nigerian people don't attack me o

Yoshy:



Yiu were not born a lesbian and nobody is born gay, dont take the advice that its who you're.

The most important question is, are you ready to fight to overcome this?

She has been fighting

sparkle6:

What? Just to reach a land of 2mins pleasure, you want her to break a home. A knot being tied up in the church and blessed. What do you mean sexual orientation? Are you okay? Nobody was born gay or les! Its just a self decision and western societal orientation.
My sister get that shitty mindset off your head.

People are born gay. Just because you aint gay doesn't mean some people aren't born gay. Self decision? You think all the gay men in Nigeria choose to be gay in such a homophobic country?
And mr, it's not as easy as "getting the shitty mindset" off her head.
If you read her post well and wasnt so focused on attacking, you'd find out she has been battling that orientation for years.

calliope:
You can't pray away the gay; it'd only make matters worse. All I could imagine is the poor girl you left 3years ago to go chase this charade of a life, you live now..

Take responsibility for your darn actions, stay miserably in that marriage and make it work regardless, after all you consciously knew what you were getting into, yet you chose the life, so bear the consequences however unsuitable it feel.

Prayer changes things, so yes prayer can change the madness. You can't live selfish all through life only doing what you feel like. Many people feel like cheating, lying, stealing, abusing and other such sins like homosexuality. It's called temptation, which can be overcome.

JasonScoolari:
I won't condemn you, but I have to advise you to do away with those lesbian friends...

Do it for your marriage and the kids.

Her marriage only? or her soul in particular. The desire for anything that negate natural attraction between a man and a woman is referred to as inordinate affection by God, whether between a woman and a woman or a man and a man, daughter in law, sister in law or even someone else's wife or husband. She may have open up some spaces in her life for intrusion by some spiritual forces who might be hell bent on luring her back into her old ways. The end might not augur well for her if she reclines, the solution is for her to sincerely open up to her Husband and together they can seek help from a true man of God, except she's made up her mind on toeing such dangerous path.

FluidQueen:
This isn't rocket science. You're a lesbian. He's an heterosexual man. Don't punish him any further. Divorce him.



He'd get joint custody of the kids. Everybody's happy. You can finally chase that orgasm. Cest fini.
Why people think they can just pray their sexual orientation away is just baffling and the apex of stupidity.

What sexual orientation. Is rape also a sexual orientation, because there are people who want to do it. And stealing phones, money, pick pocketting, sleeping with animals, corruptions. These are things many people are inclined to do but for one restraining factor or the other.

chinnyonwu:

People are born gay. Just because you aint gay doesn't mean some people aren't born gay. Self decision? You think all the gay men in Nigeria choose to be gay in such a homophobic country?
And mr, it's not as easy as "getting the shitty mindset" off her head.
If you read her post well and wasnt so focused on attacking, you'd find out she has been battling that orientation for years.

All men are born sinners and don't have to remain so. Some are born killers, thieves, liars, cheats etc. Many others pick up these so called orientation from school, media and friends. Should they all give in to these sickness?

cenaman:
hell is ur potion in jesus name.

And this person will call himself a Christian.SMH

bro ...u can fall hand ehnnn lol thanks for falling her hand biko

chinnyonwu:

She has been fighting

She hasn't fought enough or doesn't have the will to fight long enough.

christyanah:
I've been married for three years now but I think I might've made a big mistake. I used to be sexually attracted to women before I gave my life to Christ and it's been amazing so far. I'm blessed with a couple of kids which I love and adore but I'm afraid, I haven't been fulfilled.

Ofcourse, I love my husband and he's been nothing but amazing but I don't think i'm sexually compatible.
I've never been aroused by a man.
Never enjoyed kissing a man
I've never been sexually attracted to men, no matter how gentle they are. I've tried. Prayed. Fasted.
I seem to achieve all these easily with women.

I think I need help
Even my husband notices how sexually lazy I've been towards him. I'm so worried.

Sorry

chinnyonwu:

People are born gay. Just because you aint gay doesn't mean some people aren't born gay. Self decision? You think all the gay men in Nigeria choose to be gay in such a homophobic country?
And mr, it's not as easy as "getting the shitty mindset" off her head.
If you read her post well and wasn't so focused on attacking, you'd find out she has been battling that orientation for years.

Just stop the crap, nobody is born gay, most of this filthy lifestyle is the result of either voluntary or rarely involuntary actions. Voluntary actions such as developing and imbibing of wrong culture, exposure to obscene and morally debasing materials, allowing the environment to freely dictate ones lifestyle without questioning, desire to experience everything practically, low self-esteem and sometimes an unwritten code in some fraternity which is usually obligatory. Involuntary actions, like early child abuse experience whether for pleasure or ritualistic purposes. Nobody is born to be attracted to people of same sex, it always has a starting point from where if allowed to fester unchecked can develop into something bigger beyond one's immediate and wishful control as obtained in most addiction cases.
Some people develop appetite for alcohol very early in life, this definitely does not translate into been born an alcoholic or possessing an alcohol induced gene, this is what most deluded advocate of same sex relationship refuse to think or accept.

Eberechi24:
if you are married to man who makes your life amazing, don't leave him because of deficient sex.
Hormones can be controlled, a bad husband/partner cant be


I can't leave a good husband for anything. They are things i can forfeit for my happiness, sex is one them.

Those full breasts of yours can easily make a 1 minute man turn to an hour man

cenaman:
hell is ur potion in jesus name.

The lady needs help, she's acknowledged that and you're here condemning her. Even Jesus won't do that.
Don't judge others because they sin differently than you. Let he who's without sin be the first to cast a stone.

Rajosh:
The lady needs help, she's acknowledged that and you're here condemning her. Even Jesus won't do that.
Don't judge others because they sin differently than you. Let he who's without sin be the first to cast a stone.

any man or woman who has sexual feelings for same sex is a davil incanate, no pity for such people. even the bible is against homosaxual.

ednut1:
In 2017 ur kids were 6 and 3. Now u say uve been married for 3 years

Maybe she is asking for a friend who is related to lai Mohammed

simplesearch:


Just stop the crap, nobody is born gay, most of this filthy lifestyle is the result of either voluntary or rarely involuntary actions. Voluntary actions such as developing and imbibing of wrong culture, exposure to obscene and morally debasing materials, allowing the environment to freely dictate ones lifestyle without questioning, desire to experience everything practically, low self-esteem and sometimes an unwritten code in some fraternity which is usually obligatory. Involuntary actions, like early child abuse experience whether for pleasure or ritualistic purposes. Nobody is born to be attracted to people of same sex, it always has a starting point from where if allowed to fester unchecked can develop into something bigger beyond one's immediate and wishful control as obtained in most addiction cases.
Some people develop appetite for alcohol very early in life, this definitely does not translate into been born an alcoholic or possessing an alcohol induced gene, this is what most deluded advocate of same sex relationship refuse to think or accept.

Ive heard you, and i still ask you, do you think any Nigerian will choose to be gay in a homophobic country like this?

Many stories I've heard of gay people has to do with people who have tried their best to convert from their sexuality for obvious reasons to no avail. Some even end up marrying the opposite sex and find out later they just can't build that connection (just like OP) and will either spend their lives in silent depression or accept their sexuality and damn the consequence.

Talking about exposure to obscene materials, desire to practice everything is just laughable. All your secondary school mates who u watched pron with are gay abi?

Even the people who might have voluntarily got themselves into fcking same sex will probably be BI SEXUAL since by your logic, nobody was born gay and therefore they must have been attracted to the opposite sex at some point. Thats not the case of most gay people. They simply don't have sexual feelings for the opposite sex period.

If i were to succumb to your opinion now and ask you to profer a solution to these gay people, you'd probably reply that they should keep praying. Something most gays esp in Nigeria would've been begging God to make them normal ever sinxe to no avail.

Boxer007:




Brother. Can you suck a man's dik while he taking a $hit?. We call it gallop. It's the new thing in town. Gay is best. Brorher Please can I know you?

Why you no want come back? We dey miss you plenty

How did you know?you know the op?

Nwodosis:

Bros, most of these stories may be fictitious but knowledge are acquired and lessons learnt.

Yoshy:
She hasn't fought enough or doesn't have the will to fight long enough.

How do you know she hasnt fought enough? Someone that gave her life to christ and thought she had overcome it all these years and even got married.
I believe a lot of men comitiing suicide and jumping off 3rd mainland are closet gays. They've probably been praying and battling it in their private places and cant handle the guilt and depression anymore..

How can someone choose to be gay in Nigeria? For the fact that a guy can see a nice shaped pssuy and not get attracted to it should be mind boggling. Its not a thing of choice.
Even if i CHOSE to ignore a nicely shaped woman standing nekkid infront of me, my prcik must stand and obey the clarion call.

Its easy to judge if you aint gay.

Image123:


All men are born sinners and don't have to remain so. Some are born killers, thieves, liars, cheats etc. Many others pick up these so called orientation from school, media and friends. Should they all give in to these sickness?

Theres a BIG difference between those people and gays. Gays dont cause harm to an external person by their actions. A killer takes a life he didnt create.. A thief takes what doesnt belong to him etc.
I dont prefer if my son was gay.. But why i speak up in gays favour a lot is that they are being ostracized for something they have little control over, which doesn't even harm anybody.
Its also a bit hypocritical cos some people that can't understand gays have anal sex with their babes, and a whole lot of them enjoy anal porn.

chinnyonwu:

How do you know she hasnt fought enough? Someone that gave her life to christ and thought she had overcome it all these years and even got married.
I believe a lot of men comitiing suicide and jumping off 3rd mainland are closet gays. They've probably been praying and battling it in their private places and cant handle the guilt and depression anymore..

How can someone choose to be gay in Nigeria? For the fact that a guy can see a nice shaped pssuy and not get attracted to it should be mind boggling. Its not a thing of choice.
Even if i CHOSE to ignore a nicely shaped woman standing nekkid infront of me, my prcik must stand and obey the clarion call.

Its easy to judge if you aint gay.

I'm not judging, but what am saying is habits can be unlearned. I still maintain the fact that being gay doesn't happen at child birth, it's an external factor. If all gays can be realistic and honest, they will attest to this.


My point is, that she hasn't dropped this habit doesn't mean that she is not trying, but there is still an existing chance of getting reoriented again. Some don't have this strength and they say "Well, that's who I am" lies from the pit of hell. Both science and religion agreed on this one.

You can unlearn anything within 90 days.

Trash!!!

sparkle6:

What? Just to reach a land of 2mins pleasure, you want her to break a home. A knot being tied up in the church and blessed. What do you mean sexual orientation? Are you okay? Nobody was born gay or les! Its just a self decision and western societal orientation.
My sister get that shitty mindset off your head.

I wonder where you people get this idea that gayism is a western thing.

How well do you know your history?
Homosexualism is as old as the existence of man itself.

Reference to it can be found in ancient Roman, Egyptian and African history.

The holy books make reference to them.

chinnyonwu:

Theres a BIG difference between those people and gays. Gays dont cause harm to an external person by their actions. A killer takes a life he didnt create.. A thief takes what doesnt belong to him etc.
I dont prefer if my son was gay.. But why i speak up in gays favour a lot is that they are being ostracized for something they have little control over, which doesn't even harm anybody.
Its also a bit hypocritical cos some people that can't understand gays have anal sex with their babes, and a whole lot of them enjoy anal porn.

The point remains that being born a particular way or having a certain orientation doesn't mean you must remain the same. Some people are born with some sickness, inability, weakness for instance. But they do things to overcome it, not just excusing it as born that way. Illiteracy, fear, some bodily weakness are things many are born with. We cannot just wave them off as right or harming no one. What is not good enough is not good enough.