I have this cousin that lost his Dad seven years ago. But since his Dad death, there has been constant dream of my cousin seeing his dad beating him up.

My cousin is a Christian and a very good one for that matter. Most times, during heated praying and fasting exercise, his dad would not show up, but some times, he does!

My Cousin felt he could not handle this alone and went to his Pastor. His Pastor read no meaning to it other than pray alongside him. Although for the past weeks his dad has not been visiting, my cousin felt there's more to this.

My cousin was abused as a child by his father until he was 17. Now my cousin felt his Mother is behind this dream as she wants him to live with her. My cousin moved out of his Mum's house five years ago, and found himself there again after just 4 Months. His Mum called his girlfriend and reigned curses on her that her son now seldom  come to her house due to the girls involvement. She threatened the girl that if she did not leave her son alone she'd join her mum in heaven. Soon after, they broke up.

Now my cousin is planning getting married next year and needs a house of his own. But his mum wants him to buy her a car and also complete her housing project in Nigeria before thinking of moving out of her house. My cousin is 29. My cousin says he's suspicious of his mum and often thinks his mum is behind those visits by his father.

I'm a bit terrified and don't know what to do. We've prayed and prayed, but now think we have to confront the mum. He's got his life to live and the mum should just back off.

And finally, anytime my cousin think of moving out, there's always something somewhere that stops him.

Pls help people! Can someone pls come up with the meaning of this dream, and the mum's attitude.


Pls Nairalanders, help!

, I don't know what to say to this one o. Seek elders advice.

it dosent make sence 4 ur cousine to confront his mother and accuse her of being a witch.
There is nothing God cannot do, only if he can pray and seek God diligently.

it dosent make sence 4 ur cousine to confront his mother and accuse her of being a witch.
There is nothing God cannot do, only if he can pray and seek God diligently.

As a traditional medicine practioner and spiritualist, I must say that your cousin has nothing to worry about spiritually.

His mother isnt a witch neither is she behind the visitation of his dead father in his dreams. O yes!! I searched for a spiritual link and found non. The visitation of his father is mre psychological than it is spiritual. Like your post read, his father abused him as a child for 17years (thats assuming the abuse started at birth). Your cousin needs to see a shrink and not a pastor. He needs to resolve the issues in his past so he can face the future.

On the issue of his mother, its nothing but over-bearing maternal love. His mum just needs to let off a little on the hold she has on him. Its all love and nothing diabolical. I suggest that your friend should sit his mum down and have a chat with her. I suspect that he is prolly her only child or only son. Either ways, your cousin needs to bridle his tongue lest he falsely accuses his mother of being a witch and behind his nightmares and loose the last remaining parent.

If he needs more advice or spiritual consultation, you know how to reach me.

Alusi_Okija^TM _{- This consultation is probono}

Prayer is the key!

With God all things are posible, let him pray and belief in the word he speaks.

Okija_juju:

As a traditional medicine practioner and spiritualist, I must say that your cousin has nothing to worry about spiritually.

His mother isnt a witch neither is she behind the visitation of his dead father in his dreams. O yes!! I searched for a spiritual link and found non. The visitation of his father is mre psychological than it is spiritual. Like your post read, his father abused him as a child for 17years (thats assuming the abuse started at birth). Your cousin needs to see a shrink and not a pastor. He needs to resolve the issues in his past so he can face the future.

On the issue of his mother, its nothing but over-bearing maternal love. His mum just needs to let off a little on the hold she has on him. Its all love and nothing diabolical. I suggest that your friend should sit his mum down and have a chat with her. I suspect that he is prolly her only child or only son. Either ways, your cousin needs to bridle his tongue lest he falsely accuses his mother of being a witch and behind his nightmares and loose the last remaining parent.

If he needs more advice or spiritual consultation, you know how to reach me.

Alusi_Okija^TM _{- This consultation is probono}

@okija-juju, thanks men, you're really very deep. But which one is a Shrink again o? And how does my cousin move out of his mum house peacefully?

tanx men

What happens when he beats him in the dream. Why is he living his life based on dreams.

@ Paris 10

Moving out of his Mums house shouldnt be that much of a big deal. He needs to first of all secure a place of his own and then inform her of his exit. Normally, its better if the relocation is to an out-of-state area (e.g shes in Lagos he moves to Abuja), but that not withstanding, he needs to have a heart to heart with his mum and explian to her that he feels smothered and needs to go out on his own. It may be difficult at first but she will learn to start adjusting to life without him.

My main concern here is to protect the relationship he has with his mother. Moms can be very over-protective (esp. in cases were the person in question is an only child or the most successful of all the kids). Tell your cousin that he needs to be gentle but firm with his mum. I'm sure he will be fine. If he is still in the same state/city with his mum, a visit every now and again when he eventually moves out wouldnt hurt. Mums are no different from a loving/jealous girlfriend, you just need to know how to handle them thats all.

B.T.W He also needs to be careful about introducing his female friends to his mum. A mom such as his might not relate well with his girlfriends. Just an advice. Any girl coming in would have to prove herself to his mum, and work super hard to win her over.

Alusi_Okija^TM

@paris10, I've always known that there's a link between being overly-protective and overly-caring individual and witchcraft.

Not saying your cousin's mum is a witch o, just making a point!

It's my opinion that your cousin should see a therapist. All this talk I'm reading about spiritual this and spiritual that is rubbish. The guy has gone through something that's left him feeling deep hatred towards himself and ashamed, and he doesn't know how to deal with it. It isn't something that he can ignore or somehow "pray away" because it's a battle between him and his sub-conscious. I would seriously recommend he see a professional psychologist/psychiatrist who can guide him through this.

The issue with his Mom is nothing more than both their sub-consciousness talking. They need therapy.

ikenwan:

It's my opinion that your cousin should see a therapist. All this talk I'm reading about spiritual this and spiritual that is rubbish. The guy has gone through something that's left him feeling deep hatred towards himself and ashamed, and he doesn't know how to deal with it. It isn't something that he can ignore or somehow "pray away" because it's a battle between him and his sub-conscious. I would seriously recommend he see a professional psychologist/psychiatrist who can guide him through this.

The issue with his Mom is nothing more than both their sub-consciousness talking. They need therapy.

You're not making any sense dude. Your interpretation of the whole thing is preposterous.

Tell your cousin to stop dreaming! The dead are conscious of nothing.

bee444:


You're not making any sense dude. Your interpretation of the whole thing is preposterous.

Your superstitions are even more.

ikenwan:

It's my opinion that your cousin should see a therapist. All this talk I'm reading about spiritual this and spiritual that is rubbish. The guy has gone through something that's left him feeling deep hatred towards himself and ashamed, and he doesn't know how to deal with it. It isn't something that he can ignore or somehow "pray away" because it's a battle between him and his sub-conscious. I would seriously recommend he see a professional psychologist/psychiatrist who can guide him through this.

The issue with his Mom is nothing more than both their sub-consciousness talking. They need therapy.

Now I have to say that you may just have a point. Of course there are powers and principalities but it would be too precipitate to say for sure that the guy is a victim of these powers.
The most relevant part of the post is not the unfounded suspicions but this:-

paris10:

My cousin was abused as a child by his father until he was 17.

He definitely DOES need counselling and therapy for this and should seek it quickly.

Aside from that he should stop trying to discern spiritual matters with carnal eyes. It is very possible that his mum is completely innocent of ANY act of spiritual evil.

tensor777:

Now I have to say that you may just have a point. Of course there are powers and principalities but it would be too precipitate to say for sure that the guy is a victim of these powers.
The most relevent part of the post is not the unfouned suspicions but this:-
He definitely DOES need counselling and therapy for this and should seek it quickly.

Aside from that he should stop trying to discern spiritual matters with carnal eyes. It is very possible that his mum is completely innocent of ANY act of spiritual evil.

, very possible

I've read this page carefully, and here's one advice from non-nairalander:

I am from other culture (Europe-Balkans) but I had similar problems. I went to psychiatrists, even took pills, and nothing could help me a bit but God. As I am from socialist country (ex-Yugoslavia) I went to be baptized at age 40. On my first mass with blessings from the priest all the torture I had from my mother when I was a child and later bursted out. I've seen demons that held my mother and me in terror, and I saw The Holy Spirit and saints. And I realizied that the only way to save myself is TO FORGIVE my mother for what she did to me.
Of course I can't forgive her with my own strength, so I prayed the Lord to give me His strength to forgive her, and I succeedded!
Not willingly I liberated my mother too (she's allive), because when I stopped reacting to her attacks, she stopped attacking me.
Have your cousin FORGAVE his father for what he was doing?
Because if he forgives him, he breaks the links of evil that keeps the bad memory attached to him.
The same will happen with the relationship with his mother-if cousin will be strong in God's peace, only her good deeds will reach him.

This sentence is also importaint:

"And finally, anytime my cousin think of moving out, there's always something somewhere that stops him"

There are special prayers that block souch a evil forces. You cannot imagine what problems I had when I realized that souch a forces exist in my atheist scientist's country! But no science and no psychiatry can help when this happens.
The main key is your cousin himself: if he forgives to his father, if he stops quarreling with his mother and raises himself in God's Love, no evil force will be able to catch him.

Eh, this sounds as if I am telling him he should become a saint,

Even in my sorrounding people used to say that my mother is a witch, but as I felt God's presence and gave myself to God, I stopped caring if she's a witch or not, I stopped wishing any argue with her about what she was doing to me; I felt on my knees and for one year I was praying many times every day for God to give me His strength to forgive her. One layer after the other were falling of me untill I was FREE of any bad feelings about her, and now we both are FREE.

, have I helped a bit?

bee444:

@paris10, I've always known that there's a link between being overly-protective and overly-caring individual and witchcraft.

Not saying your cousin's mum is a witch o, just making a point!

WOW!

ezeagu:

WOW!

Wow indeed! Now you know my dear!

paris10:

Wow indeed! Now you know my dear!

WOW²

@ Paris10

Send me a PM. Have words for you

Most of the things typed here are bulls.
Once dead,forever gone!
Too much of religion and religious jargons,haba,how can one possibly become a victim of the dead and dreams.Very funny

Blood of jesus!