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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by seyigiggle: 4:59pm On Dec 07, 2018
i think the wife is looking for ways to get him out of sight.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by omoskenso(m): 5:32pm On Dec 07, 2018
TonyeBarcanista:
She won't even dare slap my younger siblings whether male or female (though I don't have younger brother). But if my elder brother's wife slap me, I will call my younger sister to slap her in triple fold.

Because I won't want to do what will make me regret.

However, she won't dare. Everyone should respect themselves!


Lemme add a lil story:

While growing up (14 then) a woman came to where I was fetching water and gave me unexpected slap! I returned the slap grin and she fell down!

Her husband came and said to her, "I hope you learn to respect yourself in public", and left.


Why must you call someone else to do the dirty job, if it feels right then do it yourself and after the whole tension dies down reminisce all that played and how matured you handled poo.

That question they asked you, am asking you again... Can you let your younger sibling slap your wife in return for a disrespectful act??

The instance you sighted is a different scenario, like her husband said "it's public" watch what would he his reaction if you were in their compound fetching water.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by suco01(m): 5:45pm On Dec 07, 2018
Wuraola01:



Whether ur wife initiated it or not, it is quite rude of your brother to slap your WIFE even if it is in defence. I would advise you sit your brother down and make him apologize to your WIFE and promise you never to do that again!!!

This is the problem with bringing in siblings undecided

And the wife should not apologise too abi?. we have lost our culture, customs and norms totally.. once he ask his brother to apologise, ego will set in and the op should be ready for more troubles. i don't support any of them. Both should apologise to each other. simple
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Wuraola01(f): 5:47pm On Dec 07, 2018
suco01:


And the wife should not apologise too abi?. we have lost our culture, customs and norms totally.. once he ask his brother to apologise, ego will set in and the op should be ready for more troubles. i don't support any of them. Both should apologise to each other. simple

Yeah. Right smiley
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by suco01(m): 5:52pm On Dec 07, 2018
TonyeBarcanista:
She won't even dare slap my younger siblings whether male or female (though I don't have younger brother). But if my elder brother's wife slap me, I will call my younger sister to slap her in triple fold.

Because I won't want to do what will make me regret.

However, she won't dare. Everyone should respect themselves!


Lemme add a lil story:

While growing up (14 then) a woman came to where I was fetching water and gave me unexpected slap! I returned the slap grin and she fell down!

Her husband came and said to her, "I hope you learn to respect yourself in public", and left.

Exactly. meaning the woman doesn't have respect even to the husband
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 7:35pm On Dec 07, 2018
omoskenso:



Why must you call someone else to do the dirty job, if it feels right then do it yourself and after the whole tension dies down reminisce all that played and how matured you handled poo.

That question they asked you, am asking you again... Can you let your younger sibling slap your wife in return for a disrespectful act??

The instance you sighted is a different scenario, like her husband said "it's public" watch what would he his reaction if you were in their compound fetching water.
If my wife slap my younger sibling, it is permitted for my sibling to return the slap accordingly. In fact, my younger sibling slapping her is a welcome development.

My house belongs to me, my wife and my family and no one dare disrespect ANY of my siblings in my own house.

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by sisisioge: 9:48pm On Dec 07, 2018
Assually, which kind agbero brother and wife you get so? She dared slapped him...he dared slapped her ! Hian! We don't diss in-laws that that in Yoruba land. Hian!


Well, like my father would say, any tenant that dared sleep with his landlord's wife is ready to move out. Also, any tenant that catches his landlord forrking his wife would eventually move out too. It a loselose battle. Oga, your brother has overstayed his welcome. He has to leave, then continue to deal with your personal demon.

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by ayobamiJR(m): 10:52pm On Dec 07, 2018
sisisioge:
Assually, which kind agbero brother and wife you get so? She dared slapped him...he dared slapped her ! Hian! We don't diss in-laws that that in Yoruba land. Hian!


Well, like my father would say, any tenant that dared sleep with his landlord's wife is ready to move out. Also, any tenant that catches his landlord forrking his wife would eventually move out too. It a loselose battle. Oga, your brother has overstayed his welcome. He has to leave, then continue to deal with your personal demon.

Why you jus calm down day yarn rubbish likedis

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by sisisioge: 11:20pm On Dec 07, 2018
ayobamiJR:


Why you jus calm down day yarn rubbish likedis

I suggest you use the money for your own sense purchase o...arindin omo.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by ayobamiJR(m): 1:02am On Dec 08, 2018
sisisioge:


I suggest you use the money for your own sense purchase o...arindin omo.

I'm Silent cos you're cute. That's a hell of an advantage
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Rocktation(f): 1:06am On Dec 08, 2018
I find it strange that you have time to be uploading gifs, in this serious mata. Abi, is it a Ugandan story?
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Samyj247: 6:29am On Dec 08, 2018
ImaIma1:


Does she have to be pregnant to get help? Why should the younger brother allow her to fetch water when he is around.
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I said both of them should b fetching d water.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by jashar(f): 7:22am On Dec 08, 2018
I don't care how old the brother is, but a slap to your wife should be taken like he slapped you.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by ImaIma1(f): 9:24am On Dec 08, 2018
suco01:


And the wife should not apologise too abi?. we have lost our culture, customs and norms totally.. once he ask his brother to apologise, ego will set in and the op should be ready for more troubles. i don't support any of them. Both should apologise to each other. simple


He has no right to slap the wife. Not for any reason. He has no regard for his brother for him to have done that.

Where I come from, it cannot even happen and if it does, that brother cannot remain in that house for a second.

Because for a younger brother especially, to slap his older brother's wife means that he has no respect or regard for his brother.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by ImaIma1(f): 9:28am On Dec 08, 2018
Samyj247:
I said both of them should b fetching d water.


I disagree.

I don't think my brothers inlaw will allow me fetch water if they are around and my husband is not around...even the one that is older than me.

Maybe because they were brought up to respect women. People behave towards others according to how they view them.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by suco01(m): 10:14am On Dec 08, 2018
ImaIma1:


He has no right to slap the wife. Not for any reason. He has no regard for his brother for him to have done that.

Where I come from, it cannot even happen and if it does, that brother cannot remain in that house for a second.

Because for a younger brother especially, to slap his older brother's wife means that he has no respect or regard for his brother.


what are you saying. the op question was what can he do and you're pointing blame fingers. keep pointing the fingers. OP my sincere answer still remains both should apologise to each other for peace to reign. Respect is reciprocal. Brother inlaw see ur brother wife as your brother and wife should see his brother inlaw as his husband.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Pussy2sweet: 10:23am On Dec 08, 2018
They will start fecking each other soon..
Na from slap e dey start..

Re: What Should I Do Now??? by ImaIma1(f): 10:31am On Dec 08, 2018
suco01:


what are you saying. the op question was what can he do and you're pointing blame fingers. keep pointing the fingers. OP my sincere answer still remains both should apologise to each other for peace to reign. Respect is reciprocal. Brother inlaw see ur brother wife as your brother and wife should see his brother inlaw as his husband.


The Op should know that his brother cannot live in that house again. After all it is supposed to be for the husband and wife.

That is why counselors advise that family should not live with a couple especially in their early years of marriage. It is to avoid insults and complications like this.

Op do the needful. You know what to do but you are stalling.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Shitface(m): 10:52am On Dec 08, 2018
Mr poster

How can your brother slap your wife because she asked him to fetch water

E make sense to u sef??

If your wife get mind slap your brother, he isn't at NY fault to return what was given to him.

I would never hit a woman, but no woman should dare go violent on me coz I will treat her as an equal
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Fabuloski(m): 9:58pm On Dec 08, 2018
ImaIma1:


The Op should know that his brother cannot live in that house again. After all it is supposed to be for the husband and wife.

That is why counselors advise that family should not live with a couple especially in their early years of marriage. It is to avoid insults and complications like this.

Op do the needful. You know what to do but you are stalling.
The wife slapped the brother, why are you guys missing that?.
She disrespected him by slapping him for refusing to fetch water.
A lady that hits a man or anybody is not a lady but a thug.
They should both apologise to each other and the brother should oversee chores sharing between them since the brother is also working. It will be understandable if the dude is tired and don't want to fetch water.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by mhizbel(f): 10:15pm On Dec 08, 2018
Wuraola01:


Lol. Wives with siblings with them are trying a lot. They have to just overlook and ignore everything done by them cry
Try to correct their wrong doings and you'd be tagged wicked.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by mhizbel(f): 10:24pm On Dec 08, 2018
Lajet:


You don't want your future husband relatives to live with you. but you will allow your own relatives to live with you
I said I don't want any relative living with me.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by ImaIma1(f): 10:27pm On Dec 08, 2018
Fabuloski:

The wife slapped the brother, why are you guys missing that?.
She disrespected him by slapping him for refusing to fetch water.
A lady that hits a man or anybody is not a lady but a thug.
They should both apologise to each other and the brother should oversee chores sharing between them since the brother is also working. It will be understandable if the dude is tired and don't want to fetch water.


Dude should have waited for his brother to come back rather than retaliating. At that point, the wife would have had a lot to answer to and apologize. In fact they could call family meeting on her head.

But he took matters in his hands and a made things complicated. First, there are other ways to drive home your point as a man rather than hitting a woman even if she struck first. Hitting your older brother's wife, is extreme
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Fabuloski(m): 10:34pm On Dec 08, 2018
ImaIma1:


Dude should have waited for his brother to come back rather than retaliating. At that point, the wife would have had a lot to answer to and apologize. In fact they could call family meeting on her head.

But he took matters in his hands and a made things complicated. First, there are other ways to drive home your point as a man rather than hitting a woman even if she struck first. Hitting your older brother's wife, is extreme

You are uprightly advocating for female to abuse male and frown on male retaliating? The lady should have been wise enough to keep her hands to herself.
I have a nephew, I am about 13years older, and no matter what he does I will never hit him because I respect him. After all respect is reciprocal.
Like I said any lady that hits a guy is a thug and you are entitled to defend yourself.
The husband should make them apologise to each other and share the chores between them.
The age difference is even 5years and she slapping him as if she gave birth to him.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Wuraola01(f): 10:53pm On Dec 08, 2018
mhizbel:

Try to correct their wrong doings and you'd be tagged wicked.


Abi grin grin.

May God help us

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by ImaIma1(f): 10:55pm On Dec 08, 2018
Fabuloski:

You are uprightly advocating for female to abuse male and frown on male retaliating? The lady should have been wise enough to keep her hands to herself.
I have a nephew, I am about 13years older, and no matter what he does I will never hit him because I respect him. After all respect is reciprocal.
Like I said any lady that hits a guy is a thug and you are entitled to defend yourself.
The husband should make them apologise to each other and share the chores between them.
The age difference is even 5years and she slapping him as if she gave birth to him.


I am sure you have not seen anywhere where I said it was ok for her to slap him. She was wrong but he cannot slap his older brother's wife. That is a big insult.


He is supposed to extend the same Accord and respect he has for his brother to her.

But I noticed that some families/cultures see a wife as an outsider that comes to disrupt their family.

I had to ask my husband now what he feels about this case. His exact words were...

"she was wrong to slap him but he should not have slapped back. Would he have slapped his brother if he slapped him?"
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by ayotukanmi(f): 11:36pm On Dec 08, 2018
ayobamiJR:
I just got home from work about 7:15PM. I saw my wife crying that my younger brother that lives with us just put a slap to her face after she asked Him to fetch water for her but I could get a detailed explanation from both as they had become a captive of anger but My brother had claimed to have received the Initial slap before retaliation. What should I do pls

Mehn! Your brother hitting your wife.
What arrant nonsense?
She might have hit him first which is wrong but your brother has no right whatsoever to slap your wife. Would you like your sister to be treqated that way by her brother-in-law.
It's very disrespectful of your brother to slap your wife. That's slapping you now.

Admonish them both to leave in peace and warn you brother seriously not to slap your wife again. She's even older than him. She's not his age mate now. If your wife did slap him. Tell her it's very wrong to slap her in law.

Peace be into You Sir.
Re: What Should I Do Now??? by Rayes3: 8:55am On Dec 09, 2018
omoskenso:
1) she's your wife which makes that place her house a claim your brother cant make unless you're dead, so he should learn to live by her rules of coexistence.

2) she's 24 & his 19, she's older and can issue a slap if she feels disrespected as a senior

3) A man should not hit a woman not to talk of another man's wife (how was he brought up??)

4) there's an underlying issue here that you failed to see as the head of the house, the slapping was to me as a result of previous accumulated events (either she has been slapping him since and it has gotten to a point of retaliation or they both despise each other) what am saying is, it didn't just happen that day because of mere water!

5) she has right to send him on errands so long he stay under her roof, feeds him and the water isn't it for the general house??

6) your brother is stupid and disrespectful (you too can get a slap from him one day) how do you refuse an errand from someone older, your elder brother's wife and expect to go free!

Imagine Aisha Buhari been slapped by a Governor for whatever reason (weather his democratically elected or not) it would be seen as a slap to Mr president himself, though her position is ceremonial but she's accorded almost same respect as her husband and the said Gov must be punished directly or indirectly but he must feel the venom and nothing would justify his actions

In all sir, do not focus on the slap rather the cause of the slapping, there is a rift between them and your brother continous stay in that house belittles your wife even after resolution( how does she endure the presence of a boy that slapped her and your brother will definitely cross her path some other time)

Do the needful or you might just come home 1 day to meet your brother dead of food poisoning or your wife in the pool of her blood.
Awesome and fair judgement. From a matured mind.

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Re: What Should I Do Now??? by NoToPile: 8:47pm On Dec 09, 2018
Why would :the brother refuse fetching water in the first place, if not for anything he should have done it out of respect for his brother.

You disrespect your brothers wife you have disrespected your bro ,at least thats how we were taught.

Lots of wayward teenagers nowadays anyway.

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