kunleweb:



Toks he made the first.move,he sustained the relationship. He's a boy thats scared of closure. If he lives.long,qhen he's 60 you'll hear his regret story. No be today. May he find what he's looking for

Before nko? Who will make the first move?

The point is ladies in most cases fall for bad guys and they know they are bad but will still shook head just to cry latter of avoidable heartbreak.

Toks2008:


In most cases you ladies are your own problems.

Most ladies have penchant for falling for bad guys and they usually know from the onset but that nature of loving the wrong guy won't let them be.

Not entirely true bro, some guys actually appear good with bad intentions.. they preach against who they really are.. Their words and looks don't match their actions.

victorian:









Very deceitful, the girl will think it's love.

A lecturer of mine was gisting with us way back in school and he said he met one lady in school, while he was still a student. She was a student too. He wooed her, but she turned him down. He didn't give up wooing her. He kept on wooing her for 5 more years even after graduating. Last last she fell. For him on the 6th year when he's gotten a nice ride and two jobs both in school and outside school.

She fell for his matured looks and car. So she finally said yes after 6years of wooing. He said when he slept with her few times , that was the end. He withdrew and became impossible to reach. She got angry and breakup with him.

He said he didn't care, she can go

I then asked him but Sir why allow her to go like that? Don't u love her? With all those years u were pursuing her

Guess what his answer was: he said, he wasn't persisting because of love. He persisted because of his ego. He was like how can a girl turn him down, so he must get her even if it take him the rest of his life. He must have her. At the end she fell at his packaging, said yes. He slept with her couple of times and was like, is this what have been slaving for all these years? He lost interest and cut off.

I was like, na WA o


So all those years, he was claiming he loves her.. He didn't love her but more Concerned with his ego.. Hmmmm

We men are.like this. But some.not all. The lecturer and guys like tbis have it in the reverse.


A healthy ego is walking away and wwishing the person well. the moment a person places their own psychological needs on people,thats where they fall.short. Na the same thing dey under every woman skirt. Men should be smart and spend.their lives developing people,society and themselves and stop.slaving to pvssy. Six years just for two fvck sessions aany broke dude can afford. Yeye man

Simply put,you're just a cheap OLOSHO who got pregnant in the process and had a baby outside wedlock. Considering how you boasted and mocked baby mamas,you're nothing but a huge disgrace. Go bury your head in shame,role model my ass!

victorian:







The two first things u typed are the main red flag.

She is too naive in the ways of men

Ladies when dealibg with men need a male.mentor. some.guys tried the marriage card with a gurl i qas mentoring, ii them.them all.off the bridge. She try with me,after pqtiently heeding to my counsel for years,shes married now to a wel-to-do guy.


Ladies shiuld be careful.when dealing with men of this generation

roseboma:
she should just move on, no need explaining herself to people as long as she can take care of the child without the man.

I think the issue is perceived hypocrisy on her part. That is the reason for the epistle otherwise no need for the long narrative.

airsaylongcon:
Note to. Self: On a Linda IKeji post book before reading

I was gonna read all that bullcheet until I got to the part were she said "I fell pregnant"... How do you "fall" pregnant? Like u slipped and when u fell it was into pregnancy?

That was hilarious for me. Fel, fell...

Desperate chick

MrNollyzone:
Meet My Son Jayce And Yes, Sholaye Jeremi Is His Dad! - Linda Ikeji Opens Up On Her Relationship



Finally Linda Ikeji Opens Up on her relationship, she shared this on her blog...

Read below....


Two days before my 38th birthday on September 17th, I welcomed my first child, my son, Jayce. I look at him and I wonder why I waited so long to have a child. I’ve never known love like this. I literally have tears in my eyes every time I look at him. I can’t believe he came out of me. He is by far my greatest blessing and I’m looking forward to navigating him through life!



Now to the reason why you are reading this. I argued with myself for a long time whether to put this out or not…and finally decided it was a story I wanted to share. I've always been open about my life but I'm sharing details about my personal life mostly because of the girls who look up to me. The girls I have mentored, mentoring right now and plan to mentor in the future. I’m very particular about our young girls and I have personally tried over the years to be an example in some way; tried to teach these girls how to fight for their dreams, how to live right and do right and then I go and have a child out of wedlock and that must be a little confusing to some of them and especially with so many untruthful stuff out there about me. The most hilarious is that I had a child for a married man. Lol. Here’s my answer to that! The married man that I will sleep with has not yet been born. If he’s been born, he will die, be buried, rise and die again before he will lay with me. I don’t do married men. The father of my child is a single man and his name is Sholaye Jeremi. To be honest, at some point I thought he was my final bus stop but you know how life happens...lol. Unfortunately he and I are a completely closed chapter. Sadly for our son Jayce, it’s the kind of chapter that can’t ever be opened again.



One of the things many people have asked me is how I met this man because we don’t run in the same circle. Well, I met him 3 years ago at Wheatbaker Restaurant in Ikoyi in December 2015 shortly after I moved to my home in Banana Island, Ikoyi. It was a day after Christmas and I was having dinner with friends when he walked in. He saw me and the rest is history. He claimed at the time that he had never heard of me which was seriously a turn-on for me because up until then I’d only been meeting men who behaved like fans. At the time we met, I was 35 and he was 37 and I’d been single for nearly 4 years. I was definitely searching and I fell in love almost immediately and so we became an item.



At the time I met him he lived in a 3-bedroom flat at what used to be 5th roundabout in Lekki after Mobil. I used to drive for almost two hours in traffic from my house to go see him. Most of the time, I carried my laptop to his home to enable me to work and at the same time spend the whole day with him.



It was a whirlwind romance. He was the funniest and most romantic guy I’d met up until that point, so it was easy to fall in love and I truly believed the feeling was mutual. A few weeks after we met, it seemed like we were planning a future together. This man was already calling me Linda Ikeji Jeremi and making all these plans but then just like that, it was over between us. I went from waking up every morning to love text messages from him to no more calls. I was just thanking God for finally sending me my own man when all of a sudden we were no longer talking to each other. Later he would tell me what scared him off. My public life. He claims he’s a private business man and didn’t want the attention being with me would bring to him and I told him I understood and we went our separate ways. We tried to get back together in 2016 but it didn't work out so much so we separated again but stayed in touch (mostly him to be honest), stayed friends and that was how our back and forth started.



By mid-2017, we were both still single and we started seeing each other again quietly. There were times it was very intense and we talked about a future together, and there were times that I couldn’t figure out what exactly I was doing with this guy. We were not suited for each other. Totally different lifestyles. And there was the problem of my fame. I walked away from this man a million times and he came after me a million and one times. No matter how much I pushed him away, he kept coming back and me, because I couldn’t find anyone else, I kept going back. Lol. So I was basically going back to my ex because I couldn’t find anyone else. *sigh*.



Then I fell pregnant. It wasn’t planned, it just happened; though we talked about having a child together just two months before I fell pregnant. He said something about putting a billionaire baby inside me and I remember jokingly telling him that I’m also a billionaire so our child was going to be a billionaire on both side...and we laughed. But after I fell pregnant, things became extremely weird between us. If I tried to explain what happened, I wouldn’t be able to because it was confusing to me. We went from talking about the pregnancy and being okay with it; he even suggested I go to Dubai for my pre-natals as he didn’t trust doctors in Nigeria, to literally not talking to each other anymore. Around when I was about three months pregnant, he did come to see my parents and actually became very cool with my dad. They were literally exchanging Whatsapp messages every day. He later agreed to a traditional wedding which he didn’t follow through and then he switched. He began to treat me with so much hate and aggression that I and my family had to cut him off completely.



To be honest if anybody had told me when we met three years ago, considering how deeply we cared for each other that I would fall pregnant two years later and he would completely turn his back on me for most part of my pregnancy, I never would have believed it but that’s what happened. I had to draw strength from myself, my family and close friends.



And Jayce...oh my son Jayce, he was my biggest strength. It was almost as if he knew his dad was acting up so he came through for his mum. He was gentle with me when I was carrying him. I had an extremely easy pregnancy. I pushed him out under 3 mins and was in the labour room for less than 30 minutes. And then my snapback was amazing. Three weeks later, it was almost as if I’d never been pregnant. Jayce was my soldier when his dad turned his back.



But still, I have absolutely no iota of regret meeting Sholaye. Gosh, have you seen Jayce? How can I regret that? God doesn’t make mistakes. If you believe that you’re always led by God like I believe then I have to believe that God led me to this man for whatever reasons best known to Him. I thought God sent him as my life partner but I guess He just used him as a vessel for my greatest blessing. Now his part in my story is over. I know when to put my hands up and surrender. That God brought someone significant into your life doesn’t mean they are supposed to follow you throughout your life’s journey. We should learn to know when people’s part in our story is over. Don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers, just let them go and know that if God meant for you to have them in your life, He would have given them to you. Sometimes people just come to serve a purpose in your life and are not meant to stay and there’s no point holding on to them. This one is done and dusted. It’s just Jayce and I now moving forward and I know life will be beautiful for us.



Being a single mum wasn’t the dream I had for myself; I’d prayed for the kind of happy home my parents built for us (they’ve been together for 40 years). Nothing is more important to me than family. For years I’d hammered on how much I was looking forward to getting married, having children and building my own family and I believed God was going to come through for me on that one, but I have come to understand that we have no control over what life throws at us no matter how much we plan, pray, or work. And we also have no control over the actions of other people towards us. One of the things I have learnt in my life’s journey is that your idea of how life should go might be different from the way life actually goes. It’s called Life Happening. Sometimes it unfolds into something we never dreamed of but because we don’t recognize the route we find ourselves on our journey through life, doesn’t mean God won’t get us to our destination. Remember, an uncertain chapter doesn’t ruin the whole book. Life will happen whether we are ready or not. All we can do is keep our heads up and keep moving.



Family and close friends told me I owed no one any explanation about the circumstances that led to the birth of my son, but I knew without writing this, I could never stand in front of the young girls who look up to me and talk to them again. I could never go on my secondary school tour and speak with these girls again about living right and doing right. I would always feel like I have no moral right to do so. I went to 15 secondary schools in 2017 and talking to those young impressionable girls has been one of the highlights of my life. I cancelled this year’s tour because I was pregnant and I haven’t made any preparations for next year’s tour because I wanted to set things right first.



I have so many plans for young girls next year and in the coming years with the Selfmade finance and mentorship projects with international collaborations, so this was important for me to do, to explain myself to the young girls who look up to me and feel disappointed that I got pregnant and had a baby out of wedlock. For years, I have preached decency, morality and uprightness and despite what happened to me, I mean it from the bottom of my heart. That should be the only way to live. That’s the only way I live. Don’t ever compromise your values. With this, I was led by my heart and my clock ticking and even though I have no regrets, I’m sorry if I let any of you ladies down by the decision I made, and I hope you learn from my experience. I hope you do better than I did. The ideal thing would be to find a man you love, who loves you back and gives you stability, get married, have kids and raise a family, not being a single mum or a baby mama. I was 37 years old at the time I conceived and if I want to be honest, my age played a role in me allowing myself to be pregnant out of wedlock. I don’t want to be having kids in my 40s or struggling with fertility later in life. This wasn’t the plan but like I said before, life happens. You just have to find a way to make the best of what life throws at you. And so for any young girl this means anything to, I am truly sorry. I am not sorry I had Jayce, I’m just sorry I didn’t go about it the right way.



But you know, despite this crazy love experience, I still believe in love and I believe in happy endings and I can’t wait to one day, God willing, have my fairy tale ending. The father of my child is the only man I’ve given a chance to in 6 years. Lol. I swear. I’m not really a relationship kind of girl. I’m more a career girl. I can go for years without a man. I’m one of those women who don’t need a man to validate their existence but biko, I’ve done the single life enough in the past…lol… going forward I’m looking forward to giving someone else a chance and try this love thing again. I was raised in a happy 2-parents’ home and that’s what I want for Jayce. So I hope I meet a great guy soon until then I’m enjoying motherhood. It rocks! Life has never been more beautiful!



I’d also like to address a few other issues. Number one is this celibacy issue. So many people have trolled me over it and I’d like to correct the misunderstanding. I have never ever in my life said people shouldn’t have sex before marriage. NEVER EVER have I said that. I have even argued with quite a few people that it is not feasible in this day and age. What I have always said and I maintain till today is; Do not ever sleep with men for money because any woman with a brain and determination can get her own money herself. And there’s nothing sweeter than your own money. I am 38 years old and I recently bought a N100million+ car; what the heck do you need to be sleeping with a man for? For designer bags, first class tickets and luxury holidays? GTFOH with sleeping with a man for rent money! You can give yourself all that and more if you apply yourself, fight for your dream and work your butt off. Men don’t have the exclusive right to create wealth; women can also create wealth. Money is not male. Wealth is not male. Success is not male. We women just need to believe in ourselves more and get off our butts and stop relying on our looks and charm instead of our brain, mind, will, and our God given talent/gift. We can be rich, we can be successful, we can break barriers, do what was formerly termed impossible, do what men can do, be CEOs of conglomerates and billionaires without ever having to lie on our backs. Please ladies, we are powerful beyond measure and can do anything and be anything we want to be.



The other thing I’ve always said is; do not sleep around with multiple men who just use your body for their pleasure; that is; too many one night stands, casual sex, many sex partners in a short period of time all in the name of relationships. Your body deserves better. I feel sex should only happen when you’re in a loving, committed relationship with someone you love. I was celibate for many years until I met my son’s father and fell in love. And instead of increasing my body count, I just went back to the same eggplant…lol. My mistake was I should have walked away when the relationship became a waste...lol... but then again, Jayce wouldn’t be here today if I had. So really, there’s nothing that I have preached that I didn’t practice. So you guys stop trolling me over this abeg! Lol.



Thank you for reading and thank you for your understanding.

Love and kisses to you and yours

Hugs

Linda





Source: https://nollyzone.com/meet-my-son-jayce-and-yes-sholaye-jeremi-is-his-dad-linda-ikeji-opens-up-on-her-relationship/

Some people will still read this epistle, God forbid!

kunleweb:



God bless.you my sister. Why out men of my generation aew heartless i dont know. Anyone that counters you or me ogun qill kill that person. He just came in to mar her life. Which kund of excuse is that he cant date her cause he's famous. Was he blind for four years. When ladies suffer we men weunderstand its tge fault of some men before us. They are experts,they are only targetting getring career ldies pregnant without marryibg themthem.What it profits them i eont know. They will leave women who will give them peace of mind and go settle for the obes that will kill their mother at the end of the day.Some men are cursed never to see good and even when they do ut diesnt fit them. I'm sure he's bosses and business partners wont like the developmebt. I expect him to start having problems with work.from tomorow morning.


Ladies if a man doesnt want to be in the light seen around you,its because hr doesnt want to be held accountable. Libda didbt ubderstabd this part. Thus is whyfirst born ladies shiuld find male.friends who will guide their steps. Thubdr fire that guy

Men in his category full town!

Then hate and envy career women who are making it.

And they feel these career women are arrogant . so in their twisted mind, to make these successful women humble and feel ashamed to face the public and hide in their homes . Let's deceive them we love them to pieces and want to start a family quickly by getting her pregnant and go for introduction, even do the introduction in a big way but don't take her to the alter,then dump her as soon as the pregnancy cannot be aborted That's their strategy.

That's their main goal.

The career lady will be like this hunk of a guy is still single, he's rich, single and cute. Mehn thank God, God has remembered me today and he's talking of marriage! As in? Marry me! Wow! Thank you Lord!

In the guy mind as you are silently jubilating inwards thanking your God. He's saying in his mind, by the time I am done and through with you! U go see man dey run! Lol


Chai! Very heartless men.

kunleweb:



We men are.like this. But some.not all. The lecturer and guys like tbis have it in the reverse.


A healthy ego is walking away and wwishing the person well. the moment a person places their own psychological needs on people,thats where they fall.short. Na the same thing dey under every woman skirt. Men should be smart and spend.their lives developing people,society and themselves and stop.slaving to pvssy. Six years just for two fvck sessions aany broke dude can afford. Yeye man

Lol

victorian:








Men in his category full town!

Then hate and envy career women who are making it.

And they feel these career women are arrogant . so in their twisted mind, to make these successful women humble and feel ashamed to face the public and hide in their homes . Let's deceive them we love them to pieces and want to start a family quickly by getting her pregnant and go for introduction, even do the introduction in a big way but don't take her to the alter,then dump her as soon as the pregnancy cannot be aborted That's their strategy.

That's their main goal.

The career lady will be like this hunk of a guy is still single, he's rich, single and cute. Mehn thank God, God has remembered me today and he's talking of marriage! As in? Marry me! Wow! Thank you Lord!

In the guy mind as you are silently jubilating inwards thanking your God. He's saying in his mind, by the time I am done and through with you! U go see man dey run! Lol


Chai! Very heartless men.

I feel sorry for ladies of these generation. Wetin our papa dem.do qey no pay them.on the long run. Its life experiences that teaches one good principles and ethics. May he find a woman that will deal.with him. guys that do that to carwer women, na m, ental.sickness.dey worry them.they should be in.rehab,all.of them.


Wetin we dey talk.self.a man at 37 a billioaire still sibgle is completely useless and irresponsible. It took him years to reach a billion,why didnt he marry in between thise years guven that guve or that it coukd have takeb five years to reach a bil. Irresponsibility is deep.in his brain


Anyone that challenges me argye with your ancestors

Osinachi1:
Na me wan read all these?


Check my signature sha.. Thankss

Started reading then started skipping segments then jumped straight to comments then jumped to last page. I feel you.

Will I get paid to read the travials of a baby mama. Hell no.

C.c mantiger

Jeremi looks like a militant,

Paul112:
Jeremi looks like a militant,

I thiught i was the only.one who saw crookedness.in the guy's face.


People should marry who worships them.abeg

TarOrfeek:


In this life.

The only role model you can have. Is God.

Follow him. Hold him. Like his words. Retweet his commandments.

You will never be disappointed.


Next!

After reading her story, I learnt a lot... also understood a lot, then I stumbled on your comment and everything made sense. I have blamed God so much for My OWN past Mistakes, I have queried Him several times, grumbled, complained and almost gave up my faith in Him. But today, all that has changed! I realized, I wrote my own story, I made those decisions, it is all on me... everything! Absolutely everything is all on me! I caused my own problems because I was too foolish to make a right decision, I got carried away, I always felt I know it all, never listening to anyone, just doing things without thinking of it's consequences. If I had made Godly decisions, I wouldn't be complaining and grumbling today because those mistakes would have been avoided to some extent. God is so kind and full of, to the extent of bringing out something good out of our mistakes, and this kindness from God make us feel God was behind our mistakes.... hummmmm.... No! God is not an author of confusion, He is just so amazing, kind and loving to us.


What I have learnt from this... OBEY GOD simple!!!! No sex before marriage would have averted this long epistle we are getting from her and full submission to God would have been my best decision.

Osinachi1:
Na me wan read all these?


Check my signature sha.. Thankss

Abeg shift make I join u sleep jare. See epistle dis kain hot afternoon

Wiseandtrue:
Took my time to read your story Linda Ikeji

Hmmmm I pray today that may God never give us a burden this big

The truth is that that guy Jeremi doesn't deserve You!

Infact he is not responsible!

He has no brain or should I say that his brain is filled with his money!

It makes me question his home! What kind of upbringing does he have

Its funny how u used ur moniker to compliment for what u actually lack

Thank God your boy resembles you, I still love and adore you mama Linda.His grace i wish you.who marriage epp sef?

So inspiring, this lady is very intelligent, l like her command of English wow. God bless woman. Let God reconcile your union. is not you fult Thank you so much,

AngelicBeing:
But my lion has one fúçk to give to the bulshit story

Lol

The lion sef don tire to argue

.

...sh once swore never to be with anyone sh is richer than...

So she knew the man's worth and went after him. That's y sh said sh couldn't find another man. Cuz for her the quality of a man is how much u have. Again it's only baby mama sh can be. Nothing else!

kunleweb:



God bless.you my sister. Why out men of my generation aew heartless i dont know. Anyone that counters you or me ogun qill kill that person. He just came in to mar her life. Which kund of excuse is that he cant date her cause he's famous. Was he blind for four years. When ladies suffer we men weunderstand its tge fault of some men before us. They are experts,they are only targetting getring career ldies pregnant without marryibg themthem.What it profits them i eont know. They will leave women who will give them peace of mind and go settle for the obes that will kill their mother at the end of the day.Some men are cursed never to see good and even when they do ut diesnt fit them. I'm sure he's bosses and business partners wont like the developmebt. I expect him to start having problems with work.from tomorow morning.


Ladies if a man doesnt want to be in the light seen around you,its because hr doesnt want to be held accountable. Libda didbt ubderstabd this part. Thus is whyfirst born ladies shiuld find male.friends who will guide their steps. Thubdr fire that guy

You made so many typo errors on this comment. Why not edit it for easy reading

Please who read the epistle?

Lilimax:
You made so many typo errors on this comment. Why not edit it for easy reading

Fvck using a fone tp.do this. Too hard. endure

Vic74real:
Linda said,"I fell pregnant" what the hell is that ? How did she get pregnant without sex?

No mind her.. she don't wanna say "we had s*x"

No jokes.. Linda sabi write sha.. wow...

Ok let me start here. For all you lazy people who didn't read the write up but came here to say crap and give
useless and irrelevant comments y'all are the most useless beings alive and are lower than scum. I salute you all with my two middle fingers.

I support Linda's decision to bear her child, I see it as a great win for women everywhere, she is the real 'WonderWoman' but still Bleep her too for pushing her ex under the bus.

This explanation clears the air about a lot and I wish people in general could see that society has changed, the fact that a woman can't find a man should not mean that she should deny herself the joy of motherhood, I know women who did that and their cases are worst off.. Hurray for Linda..

Waiting for kemi to read this long Tory and summarize for comment reader association

Epistle according to linda...

Pot calling the kettle black,
She has now tested it,
Until I hear the man's side of the story, I won't believe what comes out of her mouth.

I can really see how she practiced what she has been preaching,

Trying to justify her actions and plays innocent.