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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Snow87(m): 7:37pm On Dec 21, 2018
If we Nigerians can endure economic hardship for almost 4 year now, I don't see the reason why ur mom and fiancee will not tolerate a little time shift as little as two months unless there is underlying issue we don't know. Bro this is the time for u to prove to be the man in the center of all the matter make use of veto power abi executive 6. I wish u all the best.
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by 2buffagain(m): 7:45pm On Dec 21, 2018
Extremism:
Bros, any marriage plans wey don begin get K-Leg like this get as e be oo so better run. I had similar experience when I wanted to marry one Igbo babe like that. We had dated for three whole years and it was time to get married. Na wedding venue destroy our relationship oo. I'll advise you thread with caution at this stage. It may be a sign that you and the lady aren't meant to be together.

You should not go into marriage because of threats of calling off the marriage. That's not a good foundation to start a marriage. Take a decision and stand by it. If your woman and her family doesn't like it, so be it. But never ever bow to threats and blackmail. It's not a question of what your mother wants but what you think is best for you.

Lol lemme guess...she wanted it in her village and you didn't?
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by 1StopRudeness: 7:45pm On Dec 21, 2018
koyyes:
This is the main reason why ladies should never date for more than a year and men should not date when they are not ready for marriage.

It is very simple.

If after 6 months, the male you are dating is not talking about marriage,just move on to a serious and responsible person.

Ladies, be wise.

u pple will just be giving funny advice that u can't follow if u r in the same shoes.do u have a son or daughter..?? It's only desperation that will make one marry a person he has never seen or know from Adam in less than 6months
please...if ur son comes home with a potential in this terrible day and age..and tells u he wants to marry with 4-6months....u won't ask him any question ??
when it's not like he's 45 or 50 years old
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by DECENCY3: 8:12pm On Dec 21, 2018
This is clear sign that the marriage will be a shaking type. Talking from experience.

Someone else must have asked for your girls hand in marriage and she refused believing you are there for her. She is afraid of loosing you since she has rejected others. Hence her anger for the change of date.

How can your mom and mother inlaw intrude so serious. I bet you this is how they will still dictate for you after the marriage.

How can your mom threaten to curse. Are you sure she has accepted that girl? If I am that girl I will run 4:40 ASAP .

I SEE A MARRIAGE WITHOUT PEACE. Thread cautiously please.
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by koyyes: 8:21pm On Dec 21, 2018
1StopRudeness:


u pple will just be giving funny advice that u can't follow if u r in the same shoes.do u have a son or daughter..?? It's only desperation that will make one marry a person he has never seen or know from Adam in less than 6months
please...if ur son comes home with a potential in this terrible day and age..and tells u he wants to marry with 4-6months....u won't ask him any question ??
when it's not like he's 45 or 50 years old

Do you start dating someone the first day you meet the person? Or you are those type that are accustomed to one night stands, so you don't mind seeing a stranger for the first time and asking the person out without getting to be friends with the person first.

See, my advice is for smart and responsible people. You can be friends(I mean real friends)with someone for less than 1, 2 or even 10 years before you officially start dating the person. After few months of dating, you should already know he/she is the one if you are a smart person.

Only foolish people will date without purpose or date when they are not ready for what's coming next. It is these kinds of people that cause numerous problems for others with their numerous excuses of why they can't marry the other person. Then why tag the person along because he is not 45 or 50 ?

You think at 30+, the op is still a kid? Do you think all males want to still be paying school fees at 50/60 years?

Do you think all men have the biological luxury of fathering a child when they are past 35 years?

I don't expect you to understand my points. You will learn the hard way.
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by 1StopRudeness: 9:34pm On Dec 21, 2018
koyyes:


Do you start dating someone the first day you meet the person? Or you are those type that are accustomed to one night stands, so you don't mind seeing a stranger for the first time and asking the person out without getting to be friends with the person first.

See, my advice is for smart and responsible people. You can be friends(I mean real friends)with someone for less than 1, 2 or even 10 years before you officially start dating the person. After few months of dating, you should already know he/she is the one if you are a smart person.

Only foolish people will date without purpose or date when they are not ready for what's coming next. It is these kinds of people that cause numerous problems for others with their numerous excuses of why they can't marry the other person. Then why tag the person along because he is not 45 or 50 ?

You think at 30+, the op is still a kid? Do you think all males want to still be paying school fees at 50/60 years?

Do you think all men have the biological luxury of fathering a child when they are past 35 years?

I don't expect you to understand my points. You will learn the hard way.


Sincerely u are speaking as if life is a textbook....
After few months u should already know if the person is the one??
Every relationship don't start with with friendship, people meet in different ways. On Facebook on twitter, on the street, some are lucky they marry their friends from primary school or college.. inshort....
There's no point conversing with you, you have a sterotype view about relationship...
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by OLAJADON: 1:47am On Dec 22, 2018
PrimadonnaO:



I started by advising him to walk away if he's nursing hopes that this un-submissive woman would change for the better.

But if he has decided that it is her who he must marry, then he's got no choice but to stand by her. That's how leaving and cleaving works. Either he's in or out!
better

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Ayobami7(m): 2:57am On Dec 22, 2018
na wa o
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by faithugo64(f): 8:07am On Dec 22, 2018
Op
1. Your mum does not like the girl, mother in-law/daughter in-law brouhaha loading - RED FLAG
2. Your mum does not have a good relationship with the girl's family, that explains why she has been reluctant to meet with them concerning the date - RED FLAG
3. Her old self keeps coming back, believe it or not, that is who she really is. She is just trying to keep the relationship going. Marriage will open the parcel well - RED FLAG
4. If something like wedding date can make her threaten to call the marriage off, biko what would happen when bigger Storms in marriage appear? - RED FLAG
5. You are not in charge here, your fiancee, mother and in-laws are the ones behind the wheels, you are just their passenger - RED FLAG

Because you are going to live with your fiancee not your mum or in-laws, you have to consider this

Can you in the long run accommodate and tolerate that attitude of hers in marriage?

Believe me, if you settle every other thing without this one, your marriage may not be successful.
My 2 cents

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by sunnyt1(m): 8:34am On Dec 22, 2018
Please about this relationship seriously, there are too many red flags
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by jefdr001: 4:47pm On Dec 22, 2018
[quote author=thelish post=74036606][/quote]. Haba mama na.
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Cindy95(f): 9:04pm On Dec 22, 2018
Donlexino:
Babe u smoke weed with that your eyes like that
yea... I sniffed cocaine too... I can give u some if u re interested...
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by excessmon(m): 10:09am On Dec 23, 2018
I understand you so well but the way you pushed ur point is too aggressive.... 6 months is the starting stage for friendship to grow.........I vote for 2 - 3 years of relationship
1StopRudeness:


u pple will just be giving funny advice that u can't follow if u r in the same shoes.do u have a son or daughter..?? It's only desperation that will make one marry a person he has never seen or know from Adam in less than 6months
please...if ur son comes home with a potential in this terrible day and age..and tells u he wants to marry with 4-6months....u won't ask him any question ??
when it's not like he's 45 or 50 years old
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by amanikondo: 8:07pm On Dec 23, 2018
prettyesther20:
And a man that listens to his family is ready to leave his family? U are too baised
Another one spotted.
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by monalicious(f): 8:57am On Dec 24, 2018
Dogalmighty17:


Her family has been very accommodating. They have been open to see my mom. My mom however, keeps finding one excuse or another not to go.

What an elder sees while seating, a child wouldn't even if he climbs the highest mountain.
There's more to this than meets the eye
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by monalicious(f): 9:00am On Dec 24, 2018
MichaelBukamzy:
oga,this is enough warning sign to back off.you are still skeptical about marrying her.at this stage,the both families should have been close friends already. you wanna go with your inlaw's date against your mother's? she might have her own reasons too,she went to the extent of laying a curse must you go against her. also,as you are doing all you can for the wedding to hold,remember to observe wheather madam has shed off that bad character as she promised,trust me relationship is always time for mutual deception.when you settle down,she will dig out those attitudes been burried just to keep the courtship going. if i am you,i will back off if inlaw is not ready to go with my family's date,i cant ditch my mother because if unfortunately poo hits the fan,you fit clean am alone .

The guy strikes me as one who doesn't care much about his family's opinion. He seems to be doing much to talk down his mom and painting his in-laws as saints. The same mother in law who said he should break up the relationship if he feels her daughter is disrespectful.
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by MichaelBukamzy(m): 9:58am On Dec 24, 2018
monalicious:


The guy strikes me as one who doesn't care much about his family's opinion. He seems to be doing much to talk down his mom and painting his in-laws as saints. The same mother in law who said he should break up the relationship if he feels her daughter is disrespectful.
Exactly dear. his dad is late.his mum ought to be listened to.family first, unless he has plans of going to marry her alone.
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by MzErica(f): 7:21pm On Jan 11
Cindy95:

God/Allah bless you dear... the guys are all shouting that the girl is obeying her family forgetting that the man is doing the same.
please both of you are practicing sane thing. it's not easy changing wedding dates, it looks embarrassing and childish. it's better you don't fix a date if you guys ain't ready nd before you fix a date, the two families ought to be there to deliberate on it.
you are the man, you know your woman and your family better than us, besides we just heard one side of the story.
nobody knows what the lady in question is also passing through. so please before we judge, let's put ourselves in the girls shoe. (it's better we don't fix a date rather than change it thrice and it's enough to end everything cos no one knows what will happen in April too)
please, I'm not here to judge anyone but this matter should be resolved between the two families...
nairaland just might not give you the perfect answer cos we dont know the situation.
the best advice you will ever get is the one you actually gave to yourself so please I'll advice you to do it the right way.
thanks
Too many 'gbagauns' in your write-up. Are you literate at all?
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Cindy95(f): 4:46pm On Jan 12
MzErica:
Too many 'gbagauns' in your write-up. Are you literate at all?
ask your father that question... English us not my mother tongue. fake asses killing themselves for another man's language. English professor wehdoneooooo.
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by XhosaNostra(f): 4:52pm On Jan 12
"Threatening to curse me with her breasts"

Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Jaqenhghar: 5:09pm On Jan 12
XhosaNostra:
"Threatening to curse me with her breasts"
LMAO

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by XhosaNostra(f): 5:23pm On Jan 12
Jaqenhghar:

LMAO

What does that mean lol
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Jaqenhghar: 6:23pm On Jan 12
XhosaNostra:


What does that mean lol
Laughing my ass off
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by XhosaNostra(f): 6:39pm On Jan 12
Jaqenhghar:

Laughing my ass off

No, not that. I meant cursing with breasts. It's such a funny phrase.
Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by Jaqenhghar: 12:15am On Jan 13
XhosaNostra:


No, not that. I meant cursing with breasts. It's such a funny phrase.
Hehehhee. Id like to know how that os done.

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Re: My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date. by excessmon(m): 10:48am On Jan 13
Is it possible to have a better platform even on nairaland where boys and girls won't be allowed to post on issues that's just for older adults....


A 20 -27 year old guy has nothing to tell u about a good relationship.....


To the op I believe u haven't grown up coa in your 30s u still can't decide for you and your wife to be....u look like someone that will run back to the mum over every little issues you have with wifey in marriage.....



Pls before you marry learn to go for seminars, conference and talkshows about relationship


Lastly I advice you to read a book titled men are from mars ,women are from Venus.it will help you to relate better with ur mum and ur wife in future


Take this piece u need peace of mind from them both for you to live longer....

My piece though

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