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Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by pedrilo: 6:41pm On Dec 25, 2018
If u dey see beta food chop for naija regurlarly just dey tnk ur God
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Angela777(f): 6:52pm On Dec 25, 2018
MissRaine69:

Your are naive to what manipulation is and how some men make use of it in targeting vulnerable women. They do that in Nigeria too . Are young women not defrauded by men they thought they were in a relationship with? It’s not convincing it’s deceit and fraud as there is only one person benefiting from all this it’s not the lady. You are trying to defend something that’s despicable.
You are right.
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Originalsly: 7:04pm On Dec 25, 2018
Angela777:

Not all. Some are very nice, pretty and educated professional ladies who spent all their life working lots, taking good care of the family and suddenly a widow and alone, no needed by anybody. I guess the good, decent woman is an easy target for this scam.

White trash are very street smart and don't fall for marrying a foreigner and spending on his immigration, they marry but when a man pays her for to bring him to America and continue paying, so she can drink and use drugs and spend his savings or send him to work for her.

[i]Almost all the time....[/i]not all the time. And yes... the women are generally street smart... scam vs scam.... they will bleed the guys of the money and in the end... leave them hanging out to dry.
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by BlackAdam55(m): 7:05pm On Dec 25, 2018
Angela777:

white American in my 60s
Really? so how come you know the word "ashawo" undecided

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Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Angela777(f): 7:15pm On Dec 25, 2018
BlackAdam55:
Really? so how come you know the word "ashawo" undecided
Reading lots
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by BlackAdam55(m): 7:16pm On Dec 25, 2018
Angela777:

Reading lots
ok lipsrsealed
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Nobody: 7:23pm On Dec 25, 2018
Angela777:

Merry Christmas to you too.
yeah wink
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by EbukaHades10(m): 9:45pm On Dec 25, 2018
okwabayi:
Every time I see this picture I end up laughing. Abeg, where is the thing from?
Adont even know
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Atlanticfire: 10:22pm On Dec 25, 2018
Angela777:
Why? And they go after women over 50-60 years old. All this lots of love online to foreign much older women. Did you ever see real love in a couple where he is a Nigerian in his 20s or early 30s and she is an American or European white woman over 50-60 years old. Did you ever see this kind of marriage really working with love and respect for years and years?

Why the same guys do not marry a Nigerian old woman as they say age is just a number?

There is no single reason why some Nigerian men do this. It is a combination of factors, poverty, hopelessness, scamming tendencies, love, adventure all contribute.

Many Nigerian men trek through the Sahara desert to get to Europe, risking their lives on the journey. For some of such people, getting married to an older white woman just to "escape" from Nigeria might just be a better option than trekking through the desert.

I have seen women who marry just to get someone to care of them financially, so men can also do it if they are desperate to rise above their current financial status.


Also getting an older white woman to marry will be much easier than getting a young white woman to marry for a Nigerian because of several factors. If you are in a foreign land you tend to copy what your social groups are doing, if Nigerian men were easily marrying young white women, more Nigerian men will try that option, the fact that they are going for older white women means that it is the older women that is easier for them to marry.

Men and women marry for several reasons, as one grows older you come to realise that marriage needs more than love to survive, mutual respect, tolerance, finance and the desire to make the marriage work all goes a long way in making a marriage a success. So even though these men might not be marrying for love, it does not mean that the marriage can not work.

And one other thing, when the desirable is not available, you can make the available desirable.
Lastly, some do it for scam. They don't want the marriage, it is either they want green card or they want easy money from the older women so they will pretend that they want the marriage just to get what they are looking for.


All in all, people marry older women for several factors and age is just a number to some.

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Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Angela777(f): 10:27pm On Dec 25, 2018
Atlanticfire:


There is no single reason why some Nigerian men do this. It is a combination of factors, poverty, hopelessness, scamming tendencies, love, adventure all contribute.

Many Nigerian men trek through the Sahara desert to get to Europe, risking their lives on the journey. For some of such people, getting married to an older white woman just to "escape" from Nigeria might just be a better option than trekking through the desert.

I have seen women who marry just to get someone to care of them financially, so men can also do it if they are desperate to rise above their current financial status.


Also getting an older white woman to marry will be much easier than getting a young white woman to marry for a Nigerian because of several factors. If you are in a foreign land you tend to copy what your social groups are doing, if Nigerian men were easily marrying young white women, more Nigerian men will try that option, the fact that they are going for older white women means that it is the older women that is easier for them to marry.

Men and women marry for several reasons, as one grows older you come to realise that marriage needs more than love to survive, mutual respect, tolerance, finance and the desire to make the marriage work all goes a long way in making a marriage a success. So even though these men might not be marrying for love, it does not mean that the marriage can not work.

And one other thing, when the desirable is not available, you can make the available desirable.
Lastly, some do it for scam. They don't want the marriage, it is either they want green card or they want easy money from the older women so they will pretend that they want the marriage just to get what they are looking for.


All in all, people marry older women for several factors and age is just a number to some.

This is a nice explanation. Thank you
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by JjBankys(m): 10:27pm On Dec 25, 2018
Angela777:

Yes but not to marry them. Many old ladies, specially UK, Germany go to Africa on vacation for sex.
For American woman to decide to marry a foreigner it's a very hard decision and not easy one (we have many laws and financial issues to consider), so Nigerian guy needs really convince her he loves her too much. Some Nigerian guys, the woman answered him saying not possible but anyway several times a day she receives messages how much do they love her and and they want to marry her and it goes for several months non stop.

Yet, I recognize, Nigerian men are very nice men and many are handsome, very attractive, it's possible the women chase them but not online, after meeting in person yes.
lol why will any young man marry white old woman for love undecided

Just check your profile you are white lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Angela777(f): 10:32pm On Dec 25, 2018
JjBankys:
lol why will any young man marry white old woman for love undecided
Just check your profile you are white lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
It's exactly what I am asking. Why?
Reading this forum and reading many Nigerians online, I have the feeling, black men despise white women regardless of age
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by JjBankys(m): 10:37pm On Dec 25, 2018
Angela777:

It's exactly what I am asking. Why?
Reading this forum and reading many Nigerians online, I have the feeling, black men despise white women regardless of age
lol that because some white women are crazy and they are also racists lipsrsealed mess with them as a Nigger they will call the cops on you or accused you of rapping them. and they can steal your properties if thing goes south.
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Angela777(f): 10:48pm On Dec 25, 2018
JjBankys:
lol that because some white women are crazy and they are also racists lipsrsealed mess with them as a Nigger they will call the cops on you or accused you of rapping them. and they can steal your properties if thing goes south.
I met black men racist and putting you in legal troubles, better you treat them, worse they treat you back. I heard an opinion from Nigerians, oh, I don't go to marry a white woman, she will make me her sexual slave and steal my child. Nonsense. We all are just human, different people in any place, race is not a bad stigma, different skin color doesn't mean any bad
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by JjBankys(m): 11:09pm On Dec 25, 2018
Angela777:

I met black men racist and putting you in legal troubles, better you treat them, worse they treat you back. I heard an opinion from Nigerians, oh, I don't go to marry a white woman, she will make me her sexual slave and steal my child. Nonsense. We all are just human, different people in any place, race is not a bad stigma, different skin color doesn't mean any bad
i agree *peace* Merry Christmas smiley

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Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Angela777(f): 11:12pm On Dec 25, 2018
JjBankys:
i agree *peace* Merry Christmas smiley
Merry Christmas! Peace and Love.

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Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Angela777(f): 7:58am On Dec 27, 2018
I found the answer why so many Nigerians are asking old white women to marry them and so sweet talk about love. They are just scammers, cheaters and users. Sad.

written by myk2mic: Everything thing is a risk, if you can convince them that ur marriage is real all good, I have lots of friends who went thru that route and today are citizens and have married someone else for real. Test the system but be careful. It is an open secret here in the country.
https://www.nairaland.com/4838308/boyfriend-moves-usa-without-green/8#74197981
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by spookem(m): 9:54am On Dec 27, 2018
Angela777:
I found the answer why so many Nigerians are asking old white women to marry them and so sweet talk about love. They are just scammers, cheaters and users. Sad.

written by myk2mic: Everything thing is a risk, if you can convince them that ur marriage is real all good, I have lots of friends who went thru that route and today are citizens and have married someone else for real. Test the system but be careful. It is an open secret here in the country.
https://www.nairaland.com/4838308/boyfriend-moves-usa-without-green/8#74197981
Nobody is sweet talking those old women into marrying anybody. 95℅ (if not 100℅) of those marriages are arranged. There is an illegal organisation responsible for that. You pay them, they take their own cut, pay the women and the two will get married. The man gets what he wants(to be a citizen) and the woman gets what she wants(money). The both parties are scammers.
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Angela777(f): 6:26pm On Dec 27, 2018
spookem:
Nobody is sweet talking those old women into marrying anybody. 95℅ (if not 100℅) of those marriages are arranged. There is an illegal organisation responsible for that. You pay them, they take their own cut, pay the women and the two will get married. The man gets what he wants(to be a citizen) and the woman gets what she wants(money). The both parties are scammers.
Hmmm, how fast Nigerians find out about to do anything illegal. Both parties scammers? Both parties criminal and if they caught, both go to jail.

Three Nigerian Nationals Living in Grambling and Texas Plead Guilty to Roles in Marriage Fraud Scheme
Release Date: Oct. 17, 2018
https://www.uscis.gov/news/news-releases/three-nigerian-nationals-living-grambling-and-texas-plead-guilty-roles-marriage-fraud-scheme

Nigerian Couple Sentenced to Probation for Conspiring to Commit Marriage Fraud for an Immigration Benefit
https://www.justice.gov/usao-wdpa/pr/nigerian-couple-sentenced-probation-conspiring-commit-marriage-fraud-immigration

Nigerian marriage fraud leader and 2 associates convicted in Houston
https://www.ice.gov/news/releases/nigerian-marriage-fraud-leader-and-2-associates-convicted-houston

Nigerian woman sentenced in marriage fraud scam that led to 11 convictions
https://www.chron.com/news/houston-texas/article/Nigerian-national-faces-federal-sentencing-in-12282732.php
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Nobody: 8:11pm On Dec 27, 2018
Angela777:
I found the answer why so many Nigerians are asking old white women to marry them and so sweet talk about love. They are just scammers, cheaters and users. Sad.

well as sad as it may be, these white old cargos are to blame as wellundecided I mean what where are they thinking?

how many times have they seen a white man married to a Nigeria woman who's old enough to be his mother hmm?
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by chris31(m): 8:25pm On Dec 27, 2018
Angela777:
If they go to marry for papers and money, they are just dirty male ashawo. lipsrsealed
Why been so harsh calm down if they come deport the guy u go like am ? The hustle is real
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by lefulefu(m): 8:39pm On Dec 27, 2018
i can never marry a wrinkled 97 yr old woman cos of yankee paper
eww
God forbid
those nigerian guys getting married to ancestors cos of papers are really trying
its not an easy job
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by lefulefu(m): 9:07pm On Dec 27, 2018
MariaLavina:
So you think they are doing this out of love?


White women in that age bracket are the least desirable women overseas, this make them vulnerable and an easy target for cunning Nigerian men seeking stay permit over there. My dear, it's all for the papers. grin
many benin boys don dey bring their maga come home for christmas.there was one i see last wk for one bar to close to my side.na so d oyibo woman jus large full everywhere.she jus dey down bottles of beer .i come count about 8 empty bottles near her.dem say d owner of d bar im pickin from austria na im carry her come asper na im wife.i jus dey wonder why our brothers overseas no dey ever date or marry attractive or even average looking oyibo girls.either they must marry grandmoms or obese ugly white women.
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by Angela777(f): 2:12am On Dec 28, 2018
lefulefu:
many benin boys don dey bring their maga come home for christmas.there was one i see last wk for one bar to close to my side.na so d oyibo woman jus large full everywhere.she jus dey down bottles of beer .i come count about 8 empty bottles near her.dem say d owner of d bar im pickin from austria na im carry her come asper na im wife.i jus dey wonder why our brothers overseas no dey ever date or marry attractive or even average looking oyibo girls.either they must marry grandmoms or obese ugly white women.
It's what I am saying. If the Nigerian man value himself, why not meeting and convincing the young pretty white woman or a woman any race around his age? I only see 1 reason, these men marrying the old ones, are too lazy and believe the old woman will support him and he doesn't need to work hard for to establish in a new country. And yes, they are very convincing talking about love and showing their love to old women. By the way, not all women drink or are low level trash, read the real stories about marriage fraud and marriage with foreigners, how many sad stories you can read and about the American people being scammed and robbed not only financially but emotionally, some even killed or killing themselves when they realized it was a scam.

It's true, age is just a number, we all are young at heart but there are ways to do it right and achieve more than being a lazy man and going to bed with older woman for papers. Hard work you say It's a male prostitution.
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by y3mi(m): 3:25am On Dec 28, 2018
Angela777:
Why? And they go after women over 50-60 years old. All this lots of love online to foreign much older women. Did you ever see real love in a couple where he is a Nigerian in his 20s or early 30s and she is an American or European white woman over 50-60 years old. Did you ever see this kind of marriage really working with love and respect for years and years?

Why the same guys do not marry a Nigerian old woman as they say age is just a number?
It is obvious, the induced immense poverty which continue to be sustained by successive corrupt administration from the days of the military junta to this so-believed democratic era have led the deliberatelly pauperized and impoverished Nigerian male-folks from the previous generation to pass on to those, you've deduced based on your statistically observed majority by random occurrence, a mentality that presupposes every white women falls into elderly age bracket, obese, ugly or not would go to any length to finance their social need in exchange for love, feigned or real.

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Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by y3mi(m): 3:36am On Dec 28, 2018
MissRaine69:
It’s plain and simple because they are an easy target. Poverty and desperation makes many overlook the 60+ year old vagina. The final goal is a red book or a green card. It’s not a Nigerian issue, it is widespread. These women come to Africa to seek young black men, walk on a beach in Gambia it’s rife with this sort of thing, same in Ghana, Senegal, Kenya and Southern Africa.
We see more Nigerians simply because Nigeria has more people than any African country but it’s not only Nigerians who do this let’s get that clear.
Following your posts led me to this thread.
I kind of agree with you, you made good points, but why then don't we see young white males for whatever ulterior motives targeting older African women with fat bank accounts, if we can answer that, therefore I think the root of this matter can be identified.

Angela777:
Why? And they go after women over 50-60 years old. All this lots of love online to foreign much older women. Did you ever see real love in a couple where he is a Nigerian in his 20s or early 30s and she is an American or European white woman over 50-60 years old. Did you ever see this kind of marriage really working with love and respect for years and years?

Why the same guys do not marry a Nigerian old woman as they say age is just a number?
It is obvious, the induced immense poverty that continues to be sustained by successive corrupt administration from the days of the military junta to this so-believed democratic era have led the intentionally pauperized and impoverished-minded Nigerian male-folks from the previous generation passing on to those, you've deduced based on your statistically observed majority by random occurrence, a mentality that presuppose every white women falls into elderly age bracket, obese, ugly or not would go to any length to finance their social need in exchange for love, feigned or real.
Would be back to read response already submitted by others.
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by lefulefu(m): 11:01am On Dec 28, 2018
y3mi:
Following your posts led me to this thread.
I kind of agree with you, you made good points, but why then don't we see young white males for whatever ulterior motives targeting older African women with fat bank accounts, if we can answer that, therefore I think the root of this matter can be identified.


It is obvious, the induced immense poverty that continues to be sustained by successive corrupt administration from the days of the military junta to this so-believed democratic era have led the intentionally pauperized and impoverished-minded Nigerian male-folks from the previous generation passing on to those, you've deduced based on your statistically observed majority by random occurrence, a mentality that presuppose every white women falls into elderly age bracket, obese, ugly or not would go to any length to finance their social need in exchange for love, feigned or real.
Would be back to read response already submitted by others.
chinese and lebanese contractors in nigeria are now getting married to nigerian women to legalise their long stay in nigeria.so they learning from nigerian men.
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by CaptainMitch: 11:12am On Dec 28, 2018
One chic I know is married to a Russian and she likes guys a lot, maybe na contract marriage sef. shocked

lefulefu:
chinese and lebanese contractors in nigeria are now getting married to nigerian women to legalise their long stay in nigeria.so they learning from nigerian men.
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by lefulefu(m): 11:12am On Dec 28, 2018
Angela777:

It's what I am saying. If the Nigerian man value himself, why not meeting and convincing the young pretty white woman or a woman any race around his age? I only see 1 reason, these men marrying the old ones, are too lazy and believe the old woman will support him and he doesn't need to work hard for to establish in a new country. And yes, they are very convincing talking about love and showing their love to old women. By the way, not all women drink or are low level trash, read the real stories about marriage fraud and marriage with foreigners, how many sad stories you can read and about the American people being scammed and robbed not only financially but emotionally, some even killed or killing themselves when they realized it was a scam.

It's true, age is just a number, we all are young at heart but there are ways to do it right and achieve more than being a lazy man and going to bed with older woman for papers. Hard work you say It's a male prostitution.
its all for papers i guess and some of our brothers overseas are not even helping matters when they sow the seed into our mindset that the only way to survive overseas is to hook up with a grandma.there are other ways to attain a greencard but it seems most nigerian guys prefer the route of marrying a grandmother and getting papers and divorcing.but i dont believe any of these old women are innocent cos how on earth will u just believe that a 26 yr old man is in love with u when u are 86 Yrs old.i guess the old women want to suck up the guy''s youth while the guy needs papers and a free house.trade by barter things.
Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by lefulefu(m): 11:20am On Dec 28, 2018
CaptainMitch:
One chic I know is married to a Russian and she likes guys a lot, maybe na contract marriage sef. shocked

many white guys and chinko guys wey dey do business contracts for naija don dey marry naija women too oo. nigerian federal govt dey quick award contracts to foreigners married to nigerians hence many of these foreigners dont want to lose out.bur they dont get married to our grandmoms like we get married to their grandmoms cos naija babes dey go gaga for oyibo men.they can get a fairly attractive naija babe for contract marriage.dem even rumour say Roman Goddess the guy she is married to is a lebanese business mogul and their marriage is a contract marriage.

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Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by ghettochild4u(m): 11:29am On Dec 28, 2018
TimiRume:
No they look cool with it most of the time. If you can convince these women to rip them off, you can always convince them to stay off social media. These guys suffer a complex problem too, no matter how you want to look at it.
May I come in at this junction...
I once married a Californian lady who came down to Nigeria for d wedding in 2015..
I warned her bout not putting our wedding pix on fb.... Been that am a superstitious type n believe all this family curse thingy...
I didn't put our pix on fb...
At a point she started to complain saying that I didn't love her bla bla bla.
Note: she was 38 and I was 34.....
So it was never about chasing green card..
This was someone I met on fb in nov 2014..
And she said d most inspiring word I have ever had....
Why don't u come to America n let me help u achieve ur dreams... My response was that... Its not as easy as it sounds.... And she asked what I needed... And I said money n she promised she was gonna send me $3500
Which she did in march 2015..
Story cut short... She became insecure... Wanted out..
I had to introduce some guy who happened to be a Babcock graduate living in Cali....
Fast forward to April 2016..
These snitch started dating her.... And now he's used her n her eyes son clear...
I'm having d best laugh. I did warn her bout this dude.

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Re: Why Young Nigerian Men Try To Convince And Marry An Old White Woman? by ghettochild4u(m): 11:30am On Dec 28, 2018
CaptainMitch:
One chic I know is married to a Russian and she likes guys a lot, maybe na contract marriage sef. shocked

The end to a mean..
Its survival instinct

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