I am in a situation that is probably familiar to most. I married for love but unfortunately the igbo man married for other reasons that are unknown. Now before anyone bashes me or makes insulting comments. I made a mistake and I am going to learn and grow from it. Moving forward I have discovered my husband has been chatting with lady from Gabon. Now she has to apply for Lottery every year and she hasn't gotten picked yet. Also my husband came in the country illegally and after talking to lawyers I cannot file for him without him leaving the country or getting the 10yr bar. Recently he flew her mother down for the weekend without my knowing. I am trying to figure out what are they planning to do since the lady cannot fly to the US? Has anyone experienced this? Also we have been seperated awhile and he keeps promising that he is using this Nigerian woman for something but yet he will not divorce me. And they talk about my son like its theirs and she told him to bring my son home. It doesn't seem like he is using her so I am stomped. And yes my next step is divorce to protect me and my son. But I really would like to be enlightened to what they are planning. Is there anyway for him to file behind my back and sponsor her Why fly the mother down?

I really dont understand the story ib ur post. Couldnt you be more detailed?

Your post is not clear but i think flying her mother down may be for medical reasons

What is he using this 'Nigerian woman' for that he cannot tell you? Why is he flying this woman's mother to the US without letting you know?  He is hiding something that he doesn't want you to know. He knows if you know what exactly he is up to, you might take steps to protect yourself which might not favour him! I don't think it is fair that he is holding on to you when he doesn't want you! [b]It looks like he plans to hold on to you for as long as it takes his new woman to win the visa lottery! He needs to come out clean, let you know what is happening so that you can both look at how his plans affect you and your son! If he won't come out clean, it probably is because you are likely to be the loser in this game he is playing! And don't let him lie to you![/b]

Discuss what has been happening with your lawyer and let him advise you what steps you need to take to protect youself and your son! Don't let him take your son out of the country until you've finalised your divorce.

I do apologize for not being clear. Basically I married a Nigerian that illegally came into the country. He got me pregnant we got married. I have discovered for the past 2 years he has been communicating with a Nigerian woman back in Gabon. She even calls my phone and harrasses me. Since he is taking care of her and her mother I do not know why. I am going to meet with a lawyer this week to see what I can do about this. He obviousy doesn't respect or love me. And the safety of my son and I could be in danger. I am trying to figure out why he will not divorce me when I cannot file for him. I feel humiliated but I have to lean on God, be smart, and get the heck out of this mess and marraige before I get involved in trouble. They are probably doing scams. I saw where she was trying to convince somebody to talk to his brother so they could get her money. I stuck around to see if God would move in this marraige but its time for me to move on. We have been seperated for a year so I am glad that happened because I feel more safe. If this is not clear than I do not know how else to express myself. I am just trying to figure out what benefit would he have staying married to me when I cannot file for him? And also why is he flying the mother down The lady is from Gabon and they only pick about 30 people each year from that area so the chances are very very slim she will get citizenship! Thanks for all the replies and God Bless!!

Also I would like to add I saw an email where he sent her a pic of our son. She then said this is our son. He did not stop her from talking bad about me. She told him to bring my son home to Nigeria and he said be ready to fight because I am not going to let him go that easy. It looks like he loves this woman and is honest with her. I have never seen an attachment this strong considering she is in a different country. Can a man love that hard from afar? He told me he is using her for something but I cannot even imagine what that could possibly be. It seems like he tells her everything that goes on here. She knows we are not living together because he told her. But he lies to me. I just needed to vent and I thank those for listening!

Flying the lady's mom to the US makes me think he might have been married or betrothed to the woman before he came to the US. They might even have kids! If she is harassing you, she either thinks or is sure she is the main woman! Taking care of the woman and her mother means their is something really serious going on! If he is using the woman for something, is he also stringing the mother along? Very likely there is a bond he can't break. Be smart, don't let him take your kid out of the country!

Mama gee I am not sure what you mean by unecessary. I am sure your life is perfect and you haven't needed help for anything? You could've left that comment off the board. People go through trials and tribulations and for you to make snotty comments make it worst. Some of you people are insensitive and probably do not have blood flowing through your body.

lonelygirl:

Mama gee I am not sure what you mean by unecessary. I am sure your life is perfect and you haven't needed help for anything? You could've left that comment off the board. People go through trials and tribulations and for you to make snotty comments make it worst. Some of you people are insensitive and probably do not have blood flowing through your body.

lonelygirl, just ignore mama-gee.

it is a common knowledge here that she is a roaming lunatic that thinks and reasons with her butt rather than her head.

ignore her completely.

@lonely gurl,its so clear and glaring for all to see that ur man is in love with that oher woman nd dt he's a 419er.you are still still not clear on the nationality of the woman,u first said she's nigerian residn in gabon,and later said she's frm gabon.

May God have mercy on you mamagee

@Poster
Where was the mum before he flew her over?

Your story is still not quite clear, DID he come in illegally , got you pregnant, married you and then got his papers from there?

Did it ever occur to you that an illegal immigrant is a criminal and isnt someone you should trust your life and future with?

Unnecessary Cry for help.

@mama-gee

You are really incurably idiotic. You are definitely a slow-poke. If you know how your stupidity dey burn me for body. Idiot, Anohia.

favouredjb

why would you say its clearly that he loves the woman. You could've let your comment to yourself. We are not discussing whether he loves her or not we are discussing my situation and safety of me and my child? Your literacy seems to be challenged because your post is not clear english. Shame on you!

Jenny

Thanks for the insight. I would not automatically consider someone who came over to the states illegally a criminal. If I came from a country with lack of opportunity I might do the same. My story should be very clear at this point if you read my previous posts. Came over to this country with no papers. We date, I got pregnant, we married, and he still does not have his citizenship. I cannot further clarify myself but it should be able to comprehend. Thats the puzzling part. I really need to know where the mum was at before he flew her down here. Her flight originated from Dallas. But she could've flown there and he could've just paid for her flight from there. The mother would not fly down here without a very very good reason. Until I figure it out I am keeping my son safe and filing my court documents. Thanks ladies for your input!

Put a flag on your sons passport. Since you are already separated don't worry about what he is doing with the other woman. Plan your life for you and yoru son. Life is too short

jennykadry:
Did it ever occur to you that an illegal immigrant is a criminal and isnt someone you should trust your life and future with?

wow..this one dey use style advertise his product..

I wouldn't worry too much about the intrigues of others. . .ESPECIALLY IN MARRIAGE.
It appears you do not have a HUSBAND. . . but a 'BABY DADDY'!
Please, treat yourself as a BABY MOMMA ONLY. . . YOU HAVE NO CLAIMS TO THIS MAN IN QUESTION.
He is not a husband, but an OPPORTUNIST!

next time marry or date people from your race

thank you for all your help



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I wouldn't worry too much about the intrigues of others. . .ESPECIALLY IN MARRIAGE.
It appears you do not have a HUSBAND. . . but a 'BABY DADDY'!
Please, treat yourself as a BABY MOMMA ONLY. . . YOU HAVE NO CLAIMS TO THIS MAN IN QUESTION.
He is not a husband, but an OPPORTUNIST!

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