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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by 2buffagain(m): 7:04am On Jan 13
obembet:
It's very bad to cheat, that is my regret so far that make me lose the man of my dream.I wish he can give me second chance but God knows the best

Share yours guys


kpele

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by schumastic(m): 8:12am On Jan 13
TessBiwom:


How much do you even have?please allow us to breathe fresh air in peace.
Alpha male!Alpha male!na woman matter you carry for head;please go get a life and you better don't quote or mention me.

Lol funny
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by schumastic(m): 8:17am On Jan 13
chiefqueen:
I've been in a relationship with only myself since I was born. I learnt that I need to start loving other people besides me. Single bell �, single all the way...

And you are happy that way? No offence but that sounds like a les talking if you ask me.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Nobody: 9:10am On Jan 13
schumastic:


And you are happy that way? No offence but that sounds like a les talking if you ask me.
I'm not offended. I'm not homophobic.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Les: 9:39am On Jan 13
schumastic:


And you are happy that way? No offence but that sounds like a les talking if you ask me.
its too early to be giving me undue mentions. Happy Sunday! kiss

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by OgaBuhari: 11:05am On Jan 14
TessBiwom:
..
just checked ur profile pics.
You're not really the type of girl I could roll with, talk more of spending my hard earned dime on u.
I got class mehn.
Slay queen with an empty head.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Ziggylady(f): 12:27pm On Jan 14
luminouz:

My bro,i have never given any gf any monthly allowance since I was born and unless she is my wife,no girl will collect that shiit from me...its a relationship,not a job opportunity.. The sooner men realise u overinflate women's egos when u do these 'allowance' thingies,the better...Don't u see Women are either wired for love or for materialistic gains....u deceive ursef when u think women equate the two...she either truly loves u or she is in it for the money.....
What dafuq is that rubbish statement...'taking care of me as my bf' when she couldn't visit u in Ibadan after Ur accident... What if you died She wouldn't ever give a damn.....Like a poster said above,learn to control ur woman.....be in charge, women are like lionesses...they respect strength,will and power....the moment u show weakness(being too nice,stop taking charge, being predictable,less mysterious,dull) they take over and take you for granted. If only men understood women like I do,the world would be way easier for us to live in.... No matter how pretty she is, a Lich Queen (leech mama) can never get my attention... U need to have something to offer as a woman(intellectually, hardworking, insightful, diligent and so on) before I even look at you... We are supposed to be MEN not he-goats controlled by sex and pheromones....

Until Men start acting like they are men,women will continue to use reverse psychology, click-bait technique and emotional blackmail to make men sissies....I watched a lion documentary of what happened to an old lion who couldn't control his pride...I could literally see the disgust on the faces of d lionesses,they booed him off,shooed him off, chase him round like a little bitch and force him to eat last over a meal...it was the most pathetic thing I have ever seen...they literally killed him themselves (allowing a new male to enter the pride and chase the oldie away,he died the next day from his battle wounds). It taught me a monumental lesson ...no matter what they say,women respect an Alpha,a male in control,it drives them insane and keeps them in check...u lose ur will,u lose their respect...so learn to say No to her demands,keep her guessing,be mysterious,being too nice to women(even the ones who love u truly) translates to weakness.....u were made by evolution to lead,be in control, take charge... Not begging her to 'manage' 25k as if she be Angel Gabriel when she hasn't even given u a kobo since u knew her....or buying her IphoneX cuz she asked for it(of cuz she might have used the line ' a bf must cater for his gf') as if u be her fada. I see some stuffs men do and i wonder whether I'm alone around here with some senses left...u already made her feel like the MAN in the relationship,so she took charge!!

Conclusion:

So,never ever ever ever kowtow or sissify ursef cuz of a woman...be an Alpha.. Be in charge..and watch while they beat themselves up to gain ur attention(money or no money)

#Luminouznuggets#



You dont sound like like an Alpha-male at all...I know enough about human psychology to kmow you are far from an alpha'male...not even close.

.I can bet you are about 4.9inches,weighing 35kilos with a big head and a receeding headline,bulky teeth and working in a cyber-cafe.

Your stories are for your Nairaland boy-friends who can only reward you with 'likes' which in turn makes a lonely fella like you feel good with himself.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Ziggylady(f): 12:33pm On Jan 14
OgaBuhari:
and u had to present urself this way so u would get a husband on nairaland Abi?
Cos that's what brought u here.
Keep searching.
Bye



Grow up! sad

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by hansomb: 12:43pm On Jan 14
chiefqueen:
Nah.
give it a try
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by OgaBuhari: 12:54pm On Jan 14
Ziggylady:




You dont sound like like an Alpha-male at all...I know enough about human psychology to kmow you are far from an alpha'male...not even close.

.I can bet you are about 4.9inches,weighing 35kilos with a big head and a receeding headline,bulky teeth and working in a cyber-cafe.

Your stories are for your Nairaland boy-friends who can only reward you with 'likes' which in turn makes a lonely fella like you feel good with himself.
why are u really pained??
Sorry guys Don wise up from ur scams.
Gone are those days.
Go an hustle with ur two hands and stop peddling ur burdens on ur boyfriend.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by luminouz(m): 1:51pm On Jan 14
Ziggylady:




You dont sound like like an Alpha-male at all...I know enough about human psychology to kmow you are far from an alpha'male...not even close.

.I can bet you are about 4.9inches,weighing 35kilos with a big head and a receeding headline,bulky teeth and working in a cyber-cafe.

Your stories are for your Nairaland boy-friends who can only reward you with 'likes' which in turn makes a lonely fella like you feel good with himself.
Lmaooooooo!!!!
U sound so pained,u will be aiit las las!!!
Bye Felicia (if ur really a woman)
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by bobobooge: 5:22pm On Jan 14
PrinceBBlack:
Well for me, i had a girl who i met in 2016. She is currently in her final year and i work with Nigerian Breweries in Enugu. I give this babe a monthly allowance of 50k while she doesnt even get 10k from being that her parents are in the village and he uncle gives her schoolfees.
First, i realized that i loved her so much with my heart that i forgot to use my head. I had a car accident in 2017. i was in the hospital for four months and then relocated to Ibadan where i was till september in 2018 where i was recouperating getting ready for a final surgery. I got her an Iphone X in that same september. In october, i told her that i was no longer getting salary that i wont be able to keep up with the 50k allowance but i could still manage 25k. Do u believe this girl said she cant come to Ibadan cos its far to visit and that i reduced the allowance i give her that what is 25k going to do for her. She finally said if i cant carry out my duty as a bf, that i should let her be. Well it was easy for me... i could part with the money but i personally sent someone to collect the Iphone X i bought for her and told her that the phone isnt my problem but she is an ungrateful piece of a person. Broke up with her and the phone is still in my wardrobe with full accessories since its not up to 1month i bought it waiting for the next person. I didnt love with my head but loved with my heart. If u dont take care of them, na war, if u do, na still wahala.



shocked

50k monthly from 2016 to 2017, a whole year before you discovered how cruel she was. What a waste of investment.

Sisisioge must see this.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by sisisioge: 5:37pm On Jan 14
bobobooge:




shocked

50k monthly from 2016 to 2017, a whole year before you discovered how cruel she was. What a waste of investment.

Sisisioge must see this.

Ooohhk! You are the full masculine version...but your name no fine tongue

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Biglittlelois(f): 6:15pm On Jan 14
Magnifik18:
Never ever go into a relationship with someone who is jobless. they must be working for someone or entrepreneurs.

Don't ever date a jobless man or woman !!

The woman will suck you dry financially.

The man will dump you and go after his desired "class" the minute he gets a job.








Hmmmm
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Biglittlelois(f): 6:35pm On Jan 14
flyca:

Lol. You know why it's so?

Good men meet good women and have good relationships. So let's say that good people are busy with living and loving their lives, careers, businesses, families and so on. They ae busy intertwining into each other and navigating life together. They don't have excess time to come online to rant or whine. In fact, nothing to rant or whine about, because they solve their problems amicably. And forge ahead.

What you have here is basically slay queens and slay kings, underaged, who don't understand a thing. Here they are bashing the woman while forgetting that who they get into a relationship with is a reflection of who they are.

Odimma! grin


Apt!!
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Biglittlelois(f): 6:37pm On Jan 14
placeofallure:
Very interesting thread.

This is a typical case of kettle calling pot black. Men are not faithful and women are not only unfaithful but also money crazed.

I have never experienced a heartbreak, not once, in the relationships I've had. I do the heartbreaking.
But then I don't demand either. I remember I don't know how to ask for money. But I got favours, more than I would have gotten if I had asked. I prefer you just be sensitive enough to see a need and meet it instead of me asking. Maybe that's why each one thinks this must be the 'wife material' he's been looking for.

Ladies should be content with the little they have and be hardworking too. For every Kobo you hope to get from a man, you can get a dozen of it from your own sweat. It's called self esteem. No man will disrespect you when they know you can breathe without them.

Men, don't throw humaneness away in your attempt to be an Alpha male. When you look well, you'll see those girls with the extraordinary qualities you crave. Where have you been looking? Insta pages? Snapchat? Tweeter?Any serious minded person won't mark register everyday on social media. Great girls still abound trust me.


This is an aside. Sorry to all the guys whose heart were broken in my search for the One. I know you're good now.


This is my own offering.

Nice!!!
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Biglittlelois(f): 6:55pm On Jan 14
selfwife:
I once gave love a trial. we trusted each other explicitly. I could breathe love. I was working(i made sure I never made the mistake of asking for anything) he was working. he was a single father and I accepted him and is baby (the baby already called me big Mummy). we had goals, dreams, to me, everything was damn set. we were planning to get married,we got the parents involved, excitement was everywhere.... Suddenly, I started seeing him with small small stuffs like nice clothes and perfumes that I knew he didn't buy(we buy on budget) I became inquisitive. I will never check my man's phone.... so I took him out that weekend as usual, made sure he drank double of what he is used too( though he can still talk sense) I started asking questions and he replied (he was now going out with a rich ex who was ready to give him this and that -all material things) I told him that with a steady growth, we will achieve all her promises.......... the next week, he told me not to come to his place again that he will look for another means for us to meet each other by now, I was in tears, I cried my eyes out, what will I tell everybody? for what reason? money? I forgot about my health, bp start to go up.headache.me that have hormonal issues before hmm my body was in a mess. I increased the number of Guinness I took per day, I ate uncontrollably. I couldn't figure out what I did wrong. I called and called. I cried and cried and yes I ate and ate. I landed in the hospital my blood pressure was high something I never experienced before.................... to cut the long story short, I tooky life my the horn..... I had no savings again all spent at the hospital, I took a loan, and got a room apartment, I changed my church, and changed those contacts (our mutual fake friends) he is now with the woman and I am now with my peace of mind......... ........I Am happy to inform you that as of yesterday, he is looking for a divorce lawyer because everything did not turn out as expected.HE THINKS HE CAN COME BACK AND I LAUGH IN MY LANGUAGE because my peace can not be compromised.


Wow, tough one for you, and i'm glad karma showed it's face on time, to guys who capitalise on ladies going for men with money, some men go for rich ladies too, we have leeches in both genders

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Nobody: 6:57pm On Jan 14
Biglittlelois:



Wow, tough one for you, and i'm glad karma showed it's face on time, to guys who capitalise on ladies going for men with money, some men go for rich ladies too, we have leeches in both genders
is it wrong to date rich women undecided
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Biglittlelois(f): 6:59pm On Jan 14
AngryNigerian22:
is it wrong to date rich women undecided


No, it's also not wrong to date rich men undecided
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Biglittlelois(f): 7:33pm On Jan 14
sophiathefirst:

Ok I hear u.
Just remember and let me say it again; all those things u typed about ladies is 100% much applicable to the men. No one is an escape goat. Period

Your monicer, you really love Sophia the first right? Same here smiley
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Biglittlelois(f): 7:38pm On Jan 14
smeag0l:
Never date a lady that's not working. She'll just end up milking you dry. I tried it last year when I was dating a lady in Abuja. I pay her flight tickets(return) to come see me in my location. I take care of her and even send her between 30-50k almost every month(I wasn't giving her an allowance but just helping with basic needs). Mind you, the money wasn't my problem as this wasn't even up to 20% of my monthly income. However, this girl was till not loyal as she calls another guy to come pick her from the airport in Abuja whenever she leaves. I also later found out that she was secretly having an affair with someone that works with one of these agencies that arrange holiday flight bookings and accommodation for people. I just stopped talking with her after so many confrontations and denials. Never give a girl that's not your wife, sister or mother money except you just want to help the person. Now, I only roll with ladies in my class-ladies that have well paying jobs!

Hmmm smeagol, I sure hope you don't look like him smiley
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by sophiathefirst: 10:07pm On Jan 14
Biglittlelois:


Your monicer, you really love Sophia the first right? Same here smiley
Yeah. A lot. I love it
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by schumastic(m): 12:15am On Jan 15
chiefqueen:

I'm not offended. I'm not homophobic.

OK. Sorry my reply is coming, had a stressful day.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by schumastic(m): 12:16am On Jan 15
Les:
its too early to be giving me undue mentions. Happy Sunday! kiss

Can there be any word someone will say and tomorow it ends up being someone else moniker shocked
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Just2endowed2(m): 11:47am On Jan 15
slowbreeze:


Arrogant scum;clearly cheating and expecting one to accept his nature & endure;that they mean nothing; tight-fisted with money inspite of him being the better earner;someone in this century that believes that all women who are smart & have a career/successful business will make bad wives & dat all women belong to za oza room & kitchen;and d list goes on and on.......Smh

some men are like that so also some women, but men own is too much
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by PrinceBBlack(m): 12:03pm On Jan 15
bobobooge:




shocked

50k monthly from 2016 to 2017, a whole year before you discovered how cruel she was. What a waste of investment.

Sisisioge must see this.
Well,, it wasnt obvious tho
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by smeag0l(m): 10:00pm On Jan 15
Lol...I don't. So do you look like the picture on your profile?
Biglittlelois:


Hmmm smeagol, I sure hope you don't look like him smiley
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by HolyGan: 12:07am On Jan 16
Stupid bitch
You're all the same
Idiot
Advising him to change and come and marry your pretentious foul brain
Eberechi24:

Chai, some babes dey misbehave o.

People wey get nyash no sabi sit. People wey sabi sit no come get nyash. Uwa nka self. Life is unfair

still on still, don't be what you are not because of your bad encounter with one. be smart while being good
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by HolyGan: 12:08am On Jan 16
I support him
You're a hoe
Bi*tch
Evercurious:



It"s obvious that you are really frustrated.. Guess the women you ve been with have really done hell to your life.. And one more thing. YOUR MOTHER AND SISTERS ARE THE HOES YOU ARE REFERRING TO. BASTARD LIKE YOU. HOW DARE YOU CALL ME THAT, FRUSTRATED BEING
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by JayIlych(m): 4:42am On Jan 16
PrinceBBlack:
Well for me, i had a girl who i met in 2016. She is currently in her final year and i work with Nigerian Breweries in Enugu.I give this babe a monthly allowance of 50k while she doesnt even get 10k from being that her parents are in the village and he uncle gives her schoolfees.
First, i realized that i loved her so much with my heart that i forgot to use my head. I had a car accident in 2017. i was in the hospital for four months and then relocated to Ibadan where i was till september in 2018 where i was recouperating getting ready for a final surgery. I got her an Iphone X in that same september. In october, i told her that i was no longer getting salary that i wont be able to keep up with the 50k allowance but i could still manage 25k. Do u believe this girl said she cant come to Ibadan cos its far to visit and that i reduced the allowance i give her that what is 25k going to do for her. She finally said if i cant carry out my duty as a bf, that i should let her be. Well it was easy for me... i could part with the money but i personally sent someone to collect the Iphone X i bought for her and told her that the phone isnt my problem but she is an ungrateful piece of a person. Broke up with her and the phone is still in my wardrobe with full accessories since its not up to 1month i bought it waiting for the next person. I didnt love with my head but loved with my heart. If u dont take care of them, na war, if u do, na still wahala.



There's only one of two things I want you to do.

First, you either place your hand on your head and say, "My Father, my father, anywhere that my village peuople are using my brain to do tem tem, I destroy it by fire"
Use Psalm 35 to fast for 3 days.

OR

You can buy a big goat, palm wine, kolanut, alligator pepper and white cloth and use it to beg your village people
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Nobody: 4:54am On Jan 16
What I learnt? Never make it easy for a man, if he wants to be with you, he will make it possible whatever country he is. If he doesn't love you, he will use you and leave anyway.

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