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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by LeonOgu: 9:09pm On Jan 10
Judek2:


At 32, a virgin??

Who I'm I to doubt what thou hast said..

My dear brother, John 6:63 said; It is the Spirit of God that quickense. By strienght shall not man prevail. It can only be by the Grace of God. At times, the pressure would be much on me to resist, but I call on God to help me out.

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Okoroawusa: 9:18pm On Jan 10
LeonOgu:
I'm 32 and still a virgin. But by God's grace, I will marry this year. I don't masturbate. I'm only a spirit filled young man who is only moved by the things of God. I fast and study my Bible and sing spiritual songs at all time. To overcome sexual urge as a young man is just simple, only if your spirit is high in the things of God, then the flesh doesn't have any option than to surrender.

Read Proverbs 23:26. It says; My son give me your heart and let your eyes observe my ways
Ephesians 5:18. says, Be filled with the Holy Spirit.

Finally brethren, look unto God and you will overcome the flesh and the urge. You'd only have the urge for Holiness and Righteousness. Remain blessed for now!
I don't envy you.

When you marry,u go understand. You might even regret this your many years of virginity.
Who virginity help?

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by MzDeeb(f): 9:20pm On Jan 10
The key is to get busy with your life and stay away from stuffs that will trigger it.

I can categorically tell you that i don't feel any urge at all. because I don't put my mind to him.

It is what you feed your mind with, that will have an effect on you


CALEB65:
Hey guys,

I know the title seems creepy, but let's just think about it.
Religion discourages premarital sex but have failed to tell us how to manage our selves when the hormones are activated.

Often times, you get the urge to engage the opposite sex especially those that are in a relationship and then you are confused about what to do in order for you to not engage in sex, you just want to make the feeling go away.

I think this is 1 of the reasons why we have adolescents indulging in the act and then leading to unwanted pregnancies, HIV and STI's and others engage in masturbation which somehow turns into addiction and becomes complicated at the end of the day.

So to those who have mastered the art of controlling the sexual urge, please share how you do it for people to learn

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by CALEB65(m): 9:22pm On Jan 10
MzDeeb:
The key is to get busy with your life and stay away from stuffs that will trigger it.

I can categorically tell you that i don't feel any urge at all. because I don't put my mind to him.

It is what you feed your mind with, that will have an effect on you



Thanks ma'am.. these are strong words

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by MzDeeb(f): 9:23pm On Jan 10
Well done. I have a friend who is 31yrs and a virgin. When i tell pple they think I'm lying, or he is lying. I'm glad i know someone else.

LeonOgu:
I'm 32 and still a virgin. But by God's grace, I will marry this year. I don't masturbate. I'm only a spirit filled young man who is only moved by the things of God. I fast and study my Bible and sing spiritual songs at all time. To overcome sexual urge as a young man is just simple, only if your spirit is high in the things of God, then the flesh doesn't have any option than to surrender.

Read Proverbs 23:26. It says; My son give me your heart and let your eyes observe my ways
Ephesians 5:18. says, Be filled with the Holy Spirit.

Finally brethren, look unto God and you will overcome the flesh and the urge. You'd only have the urge for Holiness and Righteousness. Remain blessed for now!

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by MzDeeb(f): 9:24pm On Jan 10
CALEB65:


Thanks ma'am.. these are strong words

You are welcome. Just try and avoid sexual talks, videos etc.

Try and stay away from porn too. If you are addicted to it, try not to stay alone. Always be around people.

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by MzDeeb(f): 9:26pm On Jan 10
Okoroawusa:

I don't envy you.

When you marry,u go understand. You might even regret this your many years of virginity.
Who virginity help?

Smh.. It helps a lot of people from sexual transmitted disease, risk of loss of lives during abortion, heartbreaks, shame etc.

The fact that you ain't one, doesn't mean you should condemn others.

Pls tell me the disadvantages of being a virgin?

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by donbrowser(m): 9:35pm On Jan 10
donvoice:


A true religion didn't only condemned it but also gives a way out.

When ever the urge comes as a Christian, change your immediate environment because definitely it's something around there that brings out the stimulation. Pick up your Bible or hymn book or better still play a deep rooted gospel songs on your phone and set my mind on the heavenly race.

Trust me, it works better than any other remedy
Bible say flee, you're here quoting nonsense.

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by lefulefu(m): 9:39pm On Jan 10
Toks2008:


Get a wife.
bros op has super high sex hormones
e go kill im wife with sex grin

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by lefulefu(m): 9:44pm On Jan 10
Okoroawusa:

I don't envy you.

When you marry,u go understand. You might even regret this your many years of virginity.
Who virginity help?
grin grin

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by jzamani(m): 9:52pm On Jan 10
Abcruz:


Hear the word of the Sovereign LORD O simple one:

If only you had paid attention to my commands, your peace would have been like a river, and your well-being like the waves of the sea.--Isaiah--48:18

"each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed.
Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.--James 1:14-15

How can a young man keep his behavior pure? By guarding it in accordance with your word.--psalm119:9

Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.--2 Timothy 2:22

A word is enough for the wise.
that's true if u don't abhorre any evil thought it wouldn't surface

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Okoroawusa: 9:55pm On Jan 10
MzDeeb:


Smh.. It helps a lot of people from sexual transmitted disease, risk of loss of lives during abortion, heartbreaks, shame etc.

The fact that you ain't one, doesn't mean you should condemn others.

Pls tell me the disadvantages of being a virgin?
So u think people that married as virgins don't have STDs,abortions,heartbreaks n shame?
Then think again.

Am not condemning him.Am just telling him that the fact that he is a virgin is no big deal.

There is life after being a virgin n getting married. He should prepare himself for that.It's a whole new world.

As for being a virgin.It has no advantage or disadvantage. It's like asking if being a woman or man has advantage or disadvantage. Its just a state of being.
BTW,a man can be a virgin n be a horrible, wicked,selfish husband.
a woman can be a virgin before marriage n turn out to be barren,a bad cook,a gossip,a horrible mother,a bore in bed and so on.
And as for the religion part...forget it! So many people in this world don't believe in that ur God n they are virgins at 40.

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by LeonOgu: 9:55pm On Jan 10
kollinzgee:


big bro,truth be told search deep within your heart you will know that a born again should not be on the romance section it is poisonous to your mind some sexual topics will even arouse you consciously or subconciously ,i am a sinner but dont judge me.but if i was a born again i will never visit this section even God is not happy with that..if you know you know.

My Bro, it takes maturity and self control to be a real Christian. Every human being responds biologically. It's not bad nor sinful. What some folks refer as being born again is more of self righteousness.

However, even children in schools learn sex education as a subject this days. So it's not about bornagainism, it's about allowing the Spirit of God to control your mind and imagination. And when that is done, you can be on any platform and still be an agent of positive change, correcting some wrong notions.

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by donvoice(m): 10:02pm On Jan 10
donbrowser:

Bible say flee, you're here quoting nonsense.

Urge and temptation are two different things. You have to flee from temptation but change your mindset when it comes to urge.

Kindly understand a matter before insulting people sir

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by jzamani(m): 10:09pm On Jan 10
It once happen to me ,I had this strong urge for s*x for a a whole month I couldn't get over it..why it was so is because of what I engaged my self into.there was a day I was surfing the net when an AD poped on my screen,I couldn't resist my self from clicking becose it was so enticing to the eye's. Since that day my life changed I started streaming pornographic video on YouTube.I really suffered from it,having this strong urge for sex after watching. I tried my best to disease from it on till I conquered it eventually.


The bottom line to this,when u engage your eyes in watching ponrngraphic movie,it tends to stick to your head,the only way to get rid of it is to quit and have a pure mindset

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Feranmicharless: 10:56pm On Jan 10
AryEmber:
Simple, think of a mate of yours that has moved far in life.
what if I'm the one that's gone far in life amongst my mates

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Kira290(m): 10:57pm On Jan 10
ashawopikin:
that one sef dey work o, my mind will be like, " mumu see that your mate don buy car and don finish him house, u Na fuuuuck be your problem". Everytime I think about it, my priick go just weak

Una no go kill person with laugh grin grin grin

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by CALEB65(m): 11:21pm On Jan 10
lefulefu:
bros op has super high sex hormones e go kill im wife with sex grin
LoL... not really
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by IamPlato(m): 11:36pm On Jan 10
Thank God I Am A Virgin
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Seandisputed(m): 11:39pm On Jan 10
jzamani:
It once happen to me ,I had this strong urge for s*x for a a whole month I couldn't get over it..why it was so is because of what I engaged my self into.there was a day I was surfing the net when an AD poped on my screen,I couldn't resist my self from clicking becose it was so enticing to the eye's. Since that day my life changed I started streaming pornographic video on YouTube.I really suffered from it,having this strong urge for sex after watching. I tried my best to disease from it on till I conquered it eventually.


The bottom line to this,when u engage your eyes in watching ponrngraphic movie,it tends to stick to your head,the only way to get rid of it is to quit and have a pure mindset

Pornography on YouTube??

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by od501: 11:42pm On Jan 10
AkataNYC:
Buddhist methods are the only time tested proven way. It involves segregating Male/Female, and high amounts of discipline instilled by a ritualized lifestyle in nature. Most importantly lack of stimulus and exposure except for the most Senior monks who eventually graduate and can interact with society without temptation. It takes decades of training to achieve this ability. There is no way for the average untrained Man to do this.

It is impossible to expect humans in regular city environments where Sex is everywhere on TV, Ads, Social media, etc. to conform to rules made 2000+ years ago.

So if you want to control the urge, join a buddhist monastery. Otherwise you are out of luck.



Sorry oo ma man... But it's kinda easy. If you want to control sex urge, get busy ! Go get a job. Think about your bills and I swear ur dick will crip inside its shell.

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Interesting15: 11:46pm On Jan 10
SlayQueenSlayer:
It takes enormously discipline. I am on my 5th week of no sex. The longest time in 10 years. It gets better with time. My goal is 90 days in the first instance.

Like, anytime I see posts like yours, I'm like 'seriously'? Is self control that difficult? I mean, I'm 24 this year, I never had sex before in my life.. And I don't see myself having sex till I get married by God's Grace.

Well, I believe if you decide honouring God with your body, He will give you strength

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Tundexxy(m): 11:47pm On Jan 10
kingsmaila:


Fast every Monday and Thursday weekly. It reduces sexual urge.
..
Wtf..... You better explain or idonbelieveit
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Akiika: 11:48pm On Jan 10
Pray na! no be prayer una dey pray for everything.... good governance, promotion, riches etc ?

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by spyy: 11:49pm On Jan 10
CALEB65:


What kind of book is that?

the book of life- enter za oda room & read za bible cool
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by abiaumo(m): 11:49pm On Jan 10
Playing video game takes my mind off sex.

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by TGMISKY(m): 11:52pm On Jan 10
Watch a football game. It's more ecstatic than sex

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by BalogunIdowu(m): 11:53pm On Jan 10
Mary if you have the means right away
Or
Keep fasting to lure away the urge
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by delerx(m): 11:55pm On Jan 10
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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by jhalaljnr(m): 11:55pm On Jan 10
AkataNYC:


It is impossible to expect humans in regular city environments where Sex is everywhere on TV, Ads, Social media, etc. to conform to rules made 2000+ years ago.
.
It's not impossible as you said, rather, it's difficult for one to avoid temptation in our contemporary societies.

My opinion :
-Try as much as possible to restrict yourself from mixing with the opposite gender. unless the one you have affection and your family.
-Lower your gaze all the time.
-Desist from watching music videos, music tv channels, and all other content that explore nudity and sexuality.
-Unfollow all those slay queens on your instagram, snapchat, facebook and twitter. if possible quit instagram and snapchat.
-Desist from any intimate chat.
-Advise lalasticlala to remove romance section from nairaland.

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by papyskinsy: 11:58pm On Jan 10
Read Psalm 37 vs 1 - 40

Thank me later grin cheesy

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