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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by BlackSpanner: 1:05am On Jan 11, 2019
ademola721gmai:

I am a married man who had always erroneously thought getting married solves your sexual urge, believe me man I feel sexually frustrated in marriage

Please you said getting married does not solve the issue. Kindly shed more light on this issue so that some of us can learn.

Thanks in advance.
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Cantonese: 1:12am On Jan 11, 2019
CALEB65:
Hey guys,

I know the title seems creepy, but let's just think about it.
Religion discourages premarital sex but have failed to tell us how to manage our selves when the hormones are activated.

Often times, you get the urge to engage the opposite sex especially those that are in a relationship and then you are confused about what to do in order for you to not engage in sex, you just want to make the feeling go away.

I think this is 1 of the reasons why we have adolescents indulging in the act and then leading to unwanted pregnancies, HIV and STI's and others engage in masturbation which somehow turns into addiction and becomes complicated at the end of the day.

So to those who have mastered the art of controlling the sexual urge, please share how you do it for people to learn

Once you have tasted sex the bug catches up with you. How you self control depends on the way you take sex. For some sex is everything. For some it does not matter. If you find yourself over sexed than you have a problem. You can find a way to burn the excess energy by engaging in physically exercises. You may have to see a psychologist to teach you how to discipline your mind and your flesh when the thought overwhelms you.

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Toks2008(m): 1:13am On Jan 11, 2019
Emmanuelempire:



Getting a wife is not the cure.

◄ 1 Corinthians 7:9 ►
But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.


Now if you marry and you still have issues with your sex life then it is a problem you may have to fix with your spouse.

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by BraniacX(m): 1:17am On Jan 11, 2019
Oga fvck fvck again and fvck ad many girls as you like for once married to your boo, your piston rod is consecrated to only the warm moist enveloping embrace of your wife and any dalliance outside that is the real betrayal! Just make sure she never finds out sha
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Denton027: 1:22am On Jan 11, 2019
BraniacX:
Oga fvck fvck again and fvck ad many girls as you like for once married to your boo, your piston rod is consecrated to only the warm moist enveloping embrace of your wife and any dalliance outside that is the real betrayal! Just make sure she never finds out sha
And if he catches an STD from fuvking anything, na you go recommend treatment abi?

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by BraniacX(m): 1:25am On Jan 11, 2019
Denton027:

And if he catches an STD from fuvking anything, na you go recommend treatment abi?
dem dey forbid condom? All you moralizers sef! undecided

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Mozenge1: 1:30am On Jan 11, 2019
Goan Masturbate or sleep

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by LeonOgu(m): 1:32am On Jan 11, 2019
CALEB65:


Thanks bro...
Your words have been a blessing all day
God bless you brother
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Gyfty(f): 1:36am On Jan 11, 2019
Engage yourself in learning something new that could interest u,human mind only gets good distraction when attracted with something new... Like learning new handwork or a new game or sport.
CALEB65:
Hey guys,

I know the title seems creepy, but let's just think about it.
Religion discourages premarital sex but have failed to tell us how to manage our selves when the hormones are activated.

Often times, you get the urge to engage the opposite sex especially those that are in a relationship and then you are confused about what to do in order for you to not engage in sex, you just want to make the feeling go away.

I think this is 1 of the reasons why we have adolescents indulging in the act and then leading to unwanted pregnancies, HIV and STI's and others engage in masturbation which somehow turns into addiction and becomes complicated at the end of the day.

So to those who have mastered the art of controlling the sexual urge, please share how you do it for people to learn

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by ike007(m): 1:37am On Jan 11, 2019
Get busy trying to make money and overwork as toget tired at the end of the day or, get a video game and look for good game genre and play.
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Gyfty(f): 1:40am On Jan 11, 2019
Engage your mind in something new like learning a new game or sport
CALEB65:
Hey guys,
I know the title seems creepy, but let's just think about it.
Religion discourages premarital sex but have failed to tell us how to manage our selves when the hormones are activated.

Often times, you get the urge to engage the opposite sex especially those that are in a relationship and then you are confused about what to do in order for you to not engage in sex, you just want to make the feeling go away.

I think this is 1 of the reasons why we have adolescents indulging in the act and then leading to unwanted pregnancies, HIV and STI's and others engage in masturbation which somehow turns into addiction and becomes complicated at the end of the day.

So to those who have mastered the art of controlling the sexual urge, please share how you do it for people to learn
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by MondayOsunbor(m): 1:56am On Jan 11, 2019
LeonOgu:
I'm 32 and still a virgin. But by God's grace, I will marry this year. I don't masturbate. I'm only a spirit filled young man who is only moved by the things of God. I fast and study my Bible and sing spiritual songs at all time. To overcome sexual urge as a young man is just simple, only if your spirit is high in the things of God, then the flesh doesn't have any option than to surrender.

Read Proverbs 23:26. It says; My son give me your heart and let your eyes observe my ways
Ephesians 5:18. says, Be filled with the Holy Spirit.

Finally brethren, look unto God and you will overcome the flesh and the urge. You'd only have the urge for Holiness and Righteousness. Remain blessed for now!
...


32 and a virgin something must be wrong somewhere

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by HeyCorleone(m): 1:58am On Jan 11, 2019
jzamani:
It once happen to me ,I had this strong urge for s*x for a a whole month I couldn't get over it..why it was so is because of what I engaged my self into.there was a day I was surfing the net when an AD poped on my screen,I couldn't resist my self from clicking becose it was so enticing to the eye's. Since that day my life changed I started streaming pornographic video on YouTube.I really suffered from it,having this strong urge for sex after watching. I tried my best to disease from it on till I conquered it eventually.


The bottom line to this,when u engage your eyes in watching ponrngraphic movie,it tends to stick to your head,the only way to get rid of it is to quit and have a pure mindset


There are no pornographic videos on YouTube lol.

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by MondayOsunbor(m): 2:00am On Jan 11, 2019
Toks2008:


Get a wife.

Now he have two problem

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Konquest: 2:03am On Jan 11, 2019
AkataNYC:
Buddhist methods are the only time tested proven way. It involves segregating Male/Female, and high amounts of discipline instilled by a ritualized lifestyle in nature. Most importantly lack of stimulus and exposure except for the most Senior monks who eventually graduate and can interact with society without temptation. It takes decades of training to achieve this ability. There is no way for the average untrained Man to do this.

It is impossible to expect humans in regular city environments where Sex is everywhere on TV, Ads, Social media, etc. to conform to rules made 2000+ years ago.

So if you want to control the urge, join a buddhist monastery. Otherwise you are out of luck.
^^^^
^^^^
I love your brilliant summations.


grin ... Statistics show that before the age of 18,
over 90% of male and female teenagers would
have engaged in m. astubation because of
the sex hormones that are naturally part of the
biochemistry of the Human Animal.


I think men and women are naturally wired to get married...
say from the age of 20, but the pressures of life have pushed the age of marriage
higher.


All the best!

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by biyiwyle(m): 2:10am On Jan 11, 2019
Bible has answered the question : if you burn and can't control it. Get married. Argue with your Bible.
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by jubrilELsudan: 2:13am On Jan 11, 2019
CALEB65:


What kind of book is that?


Ikebe Super

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by LeonOgu(m): 2:19am On Jan 11, 2019
Okoroawusa:

I don't envy you.

When you marry,u go understand. You might even regret this your many years of virginity.
Who virginity help?

My dear listen to me, to please God is optional. It's not by force! This your ideologies cannot work in my life. I'm not a virgin to please any man but God the father. HE had set His standards for man. If you like meet it, if you don't like don't meet it. The Bible says that; "Without Holiness, no eyes shall see the Lord".

I have nothing to regret in marriage. I have what it takes to satisfy my wife in any way. My parents told us at home that they married as virgins and they made it in marriage. They were blessed with 6 children. 2 of my eldest sisters married as a virgin and they made it in their marriage. My elder brother the same thing and still counting.

So Bro, as you can see, it didn't start from me. It's in the blood. I'm very sure of all these. If you like envy, if you don't like don't envy. It's only God that will reward me.

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by LeonOgu(m): 2:27am On Jan 11, 2019
MzDeeb:


Smh.. It helps a lot of people from sexual transmitted disease, risk of loss of lives during abortion, heartbreaks, shame etc.

The fact that you ain't one, doesn't mean you should condemn others.

Pls tell me the disadvantages of being a virgin?

My dear he won't understand

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by LeonOgu(m): 2:44am On Jan 11, 2019
MondayOsunbor:
...

32 and a virgin something must be wrong somewhere
Bro absolutely nothing is wrong anywhere

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Afonjas: 3:10am On Jan 11, 2019
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donvoice:


A true religion didn't only condemned it but also gives a way out.

When ever the urge comes as a Christian, change your immediate environment because definitely it's something around there that brings out the stimulation. Pick up your Bible or hymn book or better still play a deep rooted gospel songs on your phone and set my mind on the heavenly race.

Trust me, it works better than any other remedy
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I don't know what to tell you but

You're a religious mumu
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by xtremeTall(m): 3:28am On Jan 11, 2019
Thinking about money!!!
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by larryking540: 3:35am On Jan 11, 2019
Randy100:
Every drugs comes with it side effect and the side effect of those drugs are less common unless it is taken for a very long time.

As ur peniss day stand every day u kw like am abi
I pity u,,,,make social media day confuse u and u turn ur self to impotent with drugs

Mumu
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by cardoctor(m): 3:36am On Jan 11, 2019
Stop looking at women.
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by enemyofprogress: 3:43am On Jan 11, 2019
Na this for this kind thread wego find funkeshugar, lalasticlala, funjosh, ajepako, eleko1 and Pa Seun olori oko nairaland

Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by enemyofprogress: 3:46am On Jan 11, 2019
pedrilo:
read a very big book

Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Ifeanyimike123: 3:47am On Jan 11, 2019
Just order a Fleshlight on Amazon it's like the real thing that's what I did

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by olmoRoc: 3:49am On Jan 11, 2019
AkataNYC:
Buddhist methods are the only time tested proven way. It involves segregating Male/Female, and high amounts of discipline instilled by a ritualized lifestyle in nature. Most importantly lack of stimulus and exposure except for the most Senior monks who eventually graduate and can interact with society without temptation. It takes decades of training to achieve this ability. There is no way for the average untrained Man to do this.

It is impossible to expect humans in regular city environments where Sex is everywhere on TV, Ads, Social media, etc. to conform to rules made 2000+ years ago.

Just a fistful of cases.

So if you want to control the urge, join a buddhist monastery. Otherwise you are out of luck.

https://www.cnn.com/2018/08/02/asia/china-buddhist-monk-scandal-intl/index.html

https://www.scmp.com/news/china/society/article/2175880/chinas-sex-scandal-monk-resigns-key-political-advisory-body
https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/holiest-thai-monks-purged-in-money-and-sex-scandal-l6djbdgtl

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Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Nobody: 3:56am On Jan 11, 2019
donvoice:


A true religion didn't only condemned it but also gives a way out.

When ever the urge comes as a Christian, change your immediate environment because definitely it's something around there that brings out the stimulation. Pick up your Bible or hymn book or better still play a deep rooted gospel songs on your phone and set my mind on the heavenly race.

Trust me, it works better than any other remedy


The urge for sex can not be satisfied by anything on earth than sex
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by koyeni(m): 3:58am On Jan 11, 2019
U take ur mind off it. Not easy tho

Check my signature!
Re: How Do You Manage The Urge For Sex? by Ejykesantus: 4:00am On Jan 11, 2019
Truth must be told. Sexual urges are not ordinary, and requires an extra ordinary effort/power to deal with. And the only way to deal with this is through the knowledge of the word of God not in words but in deed. The spirit behind sex is a powerful one indeed, and if not handled with all sense of diligent and discipline, would mar ones destiny instead of make it. A lot of destinies have been shattered because of this act-premarital and post marital sex. It is powerful as a lot of spiritual exchange takes place during the act that resulting in what is called SOUL TIE, which takes only the grace of God to break out from upon serious and sincere repentance of victim

Sex urges can only be completely handled through the power of God. WHY?. God is spirit and it takes spiritual power to fight spiritual battles and nothing more or less.

How can the knowledge of God helps someone in this regard? .

When the urge comes, it can be defeated and comfortably quench by countering every of its evil undertone by the word of God otherwise, the victim is moved to act in that direction, and the aftermath is regret.

So the word of God helps us to discipline our self in every situation so that we are not move by sight but by conviction of the right and wise act.

For more enquiry kindly don't hesitate to contact for you will surely subdue at the end.

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