Jennyhot:
So r u telling me since u engaged her, you've not given out your No 2 girls? U go swear??
Chai! Men with their insecurity... Don't u know that you guys r not to be trusted... U only engaged her & not to cage her... Have seen engagement that lasted over 7yrs without even proper introduction; we called that type monitoring spirit & destiny destroyer...When u marry her u can as well change her phone /sim card, Ok?

MariaLavina:
So? she should start calling herself since she's engaged to you right?.

Hain! Insecurity at it's peak!

CyberWolf:
And I put it to you that if you eventually go ahead to marry that girl, your first born child will be fathered by one of her numerous male friends, go and mark this somewhere.

Lordbellish:



the one that got me mad was that she came over for the weekend and her phone rang when we wanted to eat, she was answering call and the food was getting cold, I called her baby this food with get cold Oooo... let's eat na. she said I should be eating that she will join Later....

Now she reply the person on phone that it was nothing, just a minor distraction

Lordbellish:



Now this is the full story, I'm saving up funds to further my studies by September fall abroad...

Me and my family agreed I should finalize everything about marriage so that when I by year end, I will be going down the alter by 4th January 2020 ....

So me and my patents with some elders went to her village with Palm wine 2 jars according to tradition and we collected full list and gave them Easter as our return date... check my previous post, I made mention of getting list from her family against my coming by Easter...

maybe she's misbehaving cuz I don't spend like I used to before but she should understand that I'm entering into a huge project that will better the lives of our unborn babies

Lordbellish:



Now this is the full story, I'm saving up funds to further my studies by September fall abroad...

Me and my family agreed I should finalize everything about marriage so that when I by year end, I will be going down the alter by 4th January 2020 ....

So me and my patents with some elders went to her village with Palm wine 2 jars according to tradition and we collected full list and gave them Easter as our return date... check my previous post, I made mention of getting list from her family against my coming by Easter...

maybe she's misbehaving cuz I don't spend like I used to before but she should understand that I'm entering into a huge project that will better the lives of our unborn babies

Proudlyngwa:

I remember that episode.

emkz:
I am sorry, but your engagee is someone that has the tendency to disrespect you and ultimately cheat. From my experience, a man would appreciate a woman who respects him more than a woman who loves him.

Don't establish any rules in the relationship. That would be daft. If I am you, I'd immediately call off the engagement. Tell her family members you are postponing it by a year. Don't give them the reason. But tell her she has a year to get her acts together to decide whether she wants to be committed to you or she wants to grow her talents in stupidity. If she still no get sense after that, WALK.

Most of these slay queens are just bags of stupidity, proudly allowing their foolishness to rule their lives until they ruin themselves and everyone. The psychology and mentality of a woman is complex, I doubt if they understand it themselves. If a woman doesn't value you, show her you can cut her off without blinking, by actually cutting her off.

Decrypter:
Dear Lordbellish,
Haven read through your ordeal are you sure you want to continue with this wedding plans at the moment?
She still picks calls at odd hours and calls you a minor distraction.

She barely enjoys sex with you.
You’re also getting ready to travel abroad and leave her here alone where she can do as she likes.

You might be in love with this girl but you have to take a chill pill and decipher if she actually loves you too. If she’s really into you or she just wants to use you to get her family off her back(pressure to get married).

Does she chat on WhatsApp late into the night? If so clone her WhatsApp and follow her chats.

Lordbellish:
Hello Nairalanders, please I'm in serious Situation right now... There's this girl (my girl friend) that I proposed to, she accepted that we will spend the rest of our lives together..

But there's this thing I noticed about her, strange numbers (men) do call her and they call in odd times (late nights and early morning)...

I have asked her, why will she give out her number to any random man that demands for her number and she will boldly answer the call... I'm just so tired of this calling of a thing.

what should I do

I love her and I want to marry her. we have even fixed date for wine carrying

I have sat her down countless time telling her that I'm not comfortable with that call stuff but she just won't stop.

Hamid7:

A very likely occurrence. But Op is giving different excuses to marry her by force and I wonder why he wants our opinion in the first place

Lordbellish:
Hello Nairalanders, please I'm in serious Situation right now... There's this girl (my girl friend) that I proposed to, she accepted that we will spend the rest of our lives together..

But there's this thing I noticed about her, strange numbers (men) do call her and they call in odd times (late nights and early morning)...

I have asked her, why will she give out her number to any random man that demands for her number and she will boldly answer the call... I'm just so tired of this calling of a thing.

what should I do

I love her and I want to marry her. we have even fixed date for wine carrying

I have sat her down countless time telling her that I'm not comfortable with that call stuff but she just won't stop.

rame18:


Are you one of the coded olosho we are talking about ?
Get a life bitch!!!












Hey! Hold yourself well...... Then put your hands into your pocket before it lands you in trouble.

Lordbellish:
Hello Nairalanders, please I'm in serious Situation right now... There's this girl (my girl friend) that I proposed to, she accepted that we will spend the rest of our lives together..

But there's this thing I noticed about her, strange numbers (men) do call her and they call in odd times (late nights and early morning)...

I have asked her, why will she give out her number to any random man that demands for her number and she will boldly answer the call... I'm just so tired of this calling of a thing.

what should I do

I love her and I want to marry her. we have even fixed date for wine carrying

I have sat her down countless time telling her that I'm not comfortable with that call stuff but she just won't stop.

Lordbellish:



she always telling me she dry, baby can't u see am dry and me being dry means I'm not in the mood...

or if she concepts to making love, once she cums, she pushes me away... and now do a hand job on me b4 I cum... (sorry I'm spelling everything out like this) I'm seriously hurting

MariaLavina:
So? she should start calling herself since she's engaged to you right?.

Hain! Insecurity at it's peak!

biosilicon:


Bro you know what to do. All the evidence is there. But you love her so much you can not bring yourself to do it . So you keep deceiving yourself and keep blocking out the obvious from your mind. In your desperation to keep her You seek validation from nairaland.
How do i know this? I have been in your shoes the girl was doing exactly same thing your girl was doing. I told my self she loves me more than those other guys and i was her main man and she was just flirting. And she cant break our sacred bond. Looking back now i marvel at how stupid and gullible i was. Damn!

Now brace yourself for the hard truth.
1) She is cheating on you. She is a woman and i can bet my life that some other men are fucking her. They may be upto 3 or more sorry but that is the truth.
2) she is just using you for security. Its hard to see a woman refuse engagement from her boyfriend.
3) Even if she stops giving her number out and you guys settle and get married. I have absolutely no doubt she will cheat in the future. Absolutely no doubt. This i know because of encounters with so many married women.(i did not say i slept with them ooo. But itvis glaring what they want.) My brother women are no more what they used to be. The world don spoil. Marriage means nothing.

Now there are 2 types of men.
A) those that can live with a cheating spouse
B) those that cant.

I think you fall into category A. So carry go. Las las na somebody go marry hoe.

RhickardoJesus:
Guy... If you can't cope with that part of her attitude don't marry her else, you will not be happy in your marriage. If a girl you plan to settle down with refuse to change after much talks waka o! Marriage is a life time affair. To waka no easy but you have to put on the heart of a lion and move on. I am talking from experience.

Lordbellish:



the one that got me mad was that she came over for the weekend and her phone rang when we wanted to eat, she was answering call and the food was getting cold, I called her baby this food with get cold Oooo... let's eat na. she said I should be eating that she will join Later....

Now she reply the person on phone that it was nothing, just a minor distraction

Lordbellish:


bro how can I do at the bolded, her whatsapp chats with some numbers are always blank...

Lordbellish:


bro how can I do at the bolded, her whatsapp chats with some numbers are always blank...

GGirll:


I got engaged to my hubby in August n last week we did our traditional wedding thank God for that. I will use myself n my man as an example to you...immediately I got engaged I stopped giving random guys my number except it's on career or academic basis. In his part he kept telling all girls in his life that's he's gotten married n some stopped calling while some spoke on phone with me to confirm or whateverin their heads. So for me I don't see d reason why she fancy giving out her number n all. Even when I'm called I would put it on speaker for my man to hear if I'm with him n I will explain to him that I'm not interested in any one except him but as a beautiful lady with brains...men must come after me n that he should be rest assured that I wilk never cheat o him n we have done traditional wedding last week n next week we shall do our court wedding n in February this year our white wedding shall be held. Good wife n husband is really hard to get I thank God I got mine....I can't advise you quit on her I can only tell you that its not proper for her to disrespect you to d extent of telling d caller that its just a distraction to me that spells doom. God help you to do the right thing dear.

MariaLavina:
So? she should start calling herself since she's engaged to you right?.

Hain! Insecurity at it's peak!