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Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by stinflame: 9:22am On Jan 12
;DU at the right place bro... Brb cool
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by jayextra(m): 9:24am On Jan 12
Paxie55:
Op should answer first.

Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Randy100: 9:30am On Jan 12
czarina:
Any time he wants. Even if he wants to wait until a walking stick becomes necessary.
Nawa for you people self. How is he going to train the children that will come out of the marriage? N.B procreation is the major reason why we marry.
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by KingzleyTLB(m): 9:38am On Jan 12
a player at 32 bros because of two girls ni.....




the player thingy will be boring to you soon enough...it ain't about those two cheats bro..its about you,,,,you have lost them.....don't lose yourself too
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by czarina(f): 9:40am On Jan 12
Randy100:
Nawa for you people self. How is he going to train the children that will come out of the marriage? N.B procreation is the major reason why we marry.
you're clearly incorrigible.

Have a pleasant Saturday.
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by ranmoor: 10:36am On Jan 12
Paxie55:

I'm not here for gender juxtapositions, I asked a question that demands an answer.

The question is, if it was the guy that cheated would you be asking the lady if was due to her private part shortcomings? "He who comes into equity must come with clean hands." The yard stick for the sexes must be the same
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Admin401(m): 10:38am On Jan 12
coolestofall:
Nigga hold ur horses. U dnt have 2 become a player. What u did wrong in both relationships is that we're trying, trying 2 please. Never do that, only do what u feel like when u feel like. D key is 2 please ur self, then others r secondary. I bet u wld become more real when u do that.

So you're saying this will stop women from cheating?
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by coolestofall(m): 10:56am On Jan 12
Admin401:


So you're saying this will stop women from cheating?
I give no damn if they cheat in d real sense. When u dnt suck up 2 a ladies bullshits, u realise u dnt get emotional when she bleeps up. Ur logic can easily kick in 2 take d right decision every time. Imagine being in pop's shoes. After trying so hard 2 please d gals, then they mess up. U sure wld feel like crying.

Btw, u dnt have 2 take my word 4 it.
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by faithfull18(f): 11:12am On Jan 12
x2x2:
Good day fellow nairalanders..
Don't mind my English pls..
I'm a regular and active member of this section,but I needed to open another account to seek for help in my relationship.
I will clock 32 soon and i have only dated two girls all my life.Both we agreed to be serious relationship and not just chop and go kind of...The first relationship lasted 3yrs and after i investested my all,i caught her cheating and telling me lies,i ended it. Second one ended days ago and I'm currently hrt broken as i type this right now. Same issue i had with her was cheating and lies...
I did my best in pleasing them,in s+x,funding and all that..I forgave several times,but this last one still continued..She lies more than devil himself,it took me special procedures to known that she was cheating on me.
I can swear that in these two relationships,i never cheated on any of them,because I really don't like sleeping around and deceiving anybody..Rather i gave my all and now i have been scammed again.
So i have decided never to be nice to girls anymore,so how can i stop being too emotional? I don't wanna love again, I want to start being a player(a very wicked one). Guys in the hux how can i make my hrt become stone towards girls please....Pls don't insult or blame me...All i need is advice regarding my questions...Thanks...
You just end up hurting yourself if you decide to go bad because some else wasn't good to you.
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Raalsalghul: 11:13am On Jan 12
Randy100:
Because it is the right thing. It is something divine.
That's how you folks go about forcing marriage on people's necks like a trend or something. Did the Op mention anything about marriage. How do you know he's capable of handling a family especially in this part of the world where our leaders don't have plans for your unborn kids? undecided
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Makaveli217(m): 11:47am On Jan 12
Guy you want your heart to be as hard as a rock? Which will kill your feelings for any thing, (be it ladies), try listening to foreign hardcore hip-hop & gangsta rap, thank me later.
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Hoodbilonia: 11:51am On Jan 12
ma niggi gettin his dick down in another biches throat
we all been thr done that
too much love and care dis bich dont deserve to be speared
u gave yur all in all and hopin her pussy is ypurs foreva. wake up ma niggi to dull.
ubthe type of fake niggi who dont help male niggis
buh rather help a ladybxpctn pussy and a baby
too much of everythin turn u to a client.
and when that love gets too pushy
it comes to a shove
ive been in this shiiit before
before i woke up
naija ladies are greedy ..and lie constantly like its a job.
ma niggi free your mind. wannk..if e dom hooknu get a bich off social media..romance her for a week on whatsapp .later bang her like say u neva fuc in a decade.
and wen u cum . ma niggi. dont add feelings to a slut
dont form am in love . lets starts a relationship. all that shiit gotta stop... fuc nd move on..dats whats sup
same pussy.same attitude
.only diff face
naija girls are all useless.

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Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Plolly(f): 11:51am On Jan 12
My own advice as a lady to u is ; Don't rush into a relationship for now relax urself and enjoy the moment. Then whenever u are ready to mingle don't act desperate

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Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by xanderpeper(m): 12:05pm On Jan 12
Finally you have stopped existing want to start living welcome to the otherside bro,now you will get to know much about ladies
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Abcruz(m): 12:06pm On Jan 12
x2x2:
Good day fellow nairalanders..
Don't mind my English pls..
I'm a regular and active member of this section,but I needed to open another account to seek for help in my relationship.
I will clock 32 soon and i have only dated two girls all my life.Both we agreed to be serious relationship and not just chop and go kind of...The first relationship lasted 3yrs and after i investested my all,i caught her cheating and telling me lies,i ended it. Second one ended days ago and I'm currently hrt broken as i type this right now. Same issue i had with her was cheating and lies...
I did my best in pleasing them,in s+x,funding and all that..I forgave several times,but this last one still continued..She lies more than devil himself,it took me special procedures to known that she was cheating on me.
I can swear that in these two relationships,i never cheated on any of them,because I really don't like sleeping around and deceiving anybody..Rather i gave my all and now i have been scammed again.
So i have decided never to be nice to girls anymore,so how can i stop being too emotional? I don't wanna love again, I want to start being a player(a very wicked one). Guys in the hux how can i make my hrt become stone towards girls please....Pls don't insult or blame me...All i need is advice regarding my questions...Thanks...

Free yourself like a bird from the hand of the bird catcher...

Turn away from the "mistress of sorceries" and save yourself from the immoral union called "relationship"...

Beware of the one who has nothing to lose...

Remove the veil of emotional manipulation from your eyes, flee from fornication and return to JESUS for your own good...

Look!
I, the LORD, have put a curse on those who turn from me and trust in human flesh--Jeremiah 17:5

Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.--2 Timothy 2:22

A word is enough for the wise.
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by AnonymousBee: 12:12pm On Jan 12
Abcruz:


Free yourself like a bird from the hand of the bird catcher...

Turn away from the "mistress of sorceries" and save yourself from the immoral union called "relationship"...

Beware of the one who has nothing to lose...

Remove the veil of emotional manipulation from your eyes, flee from fornication and return to JESUS for your own good...

Look!
I, the LORD, have put a curse on those who turn from me and trust in human flesh--Jeremiah 17:5

Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.--2 Timothy 2:22

A word is enough for the wise.
Did you provide solution to the young man?

How will religion solve emotional problem?

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Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by x2x2(m): 12:23pm On Jan 12
Thanks to everyone for all your words of advice.God bless...As for DAT lad that was talking about sex life...I de well for DAT part.....with all that have been said here,my fault was being too nice to them and not giving them a reason to fight for their place.Right now,I'm gonna work on myself to ensure that never happens again....Once more ,God bless you all.
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Les(f): 1:53pm On Jan 12
Practice makes perfect.
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Randy100: 2:08pm On Jan 12
Raalsalghul:
That's how you folks go about forcing marriage on people's necks like a trend or something. Did the Op mention anything about marriage. How do you know he's capable of handling a family especially in this part of the world where our leaders don't have plans for your unborn kids? undecided
I tire for this generation. A man who is 32 should be talking of marriage. My take
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by emeejinsm: 2:27pm On Jan 12
My dear every body destiny no be the same
You want to become a wicked player na for your head oo cuz you fit contract hiv
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by x2x2(m): 2:34pm On Jan 12
emeejinsm:
My dear every body destiny no be the same
You want to become a wicked player na for your head oo cuz you fit contract hiv
Tanks ..

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Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Raalsalghul: 4:14pm On Jan 12
Randy100:
I tire for this generation. A man who is 32 should be talking of marriage. My take
A man at 32 can talk about whatever he wants to. undecided
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by danieljessy: 4:40pm On Jan 12
x2x2:
Thanks to everyone for all your words of advice.God bless...As for DAT lad that was talking about sex life...I de well for DAT part.....with all that have been said here,my fault was being too nice to them and not giving them a reason to fight for their place.Right now,I'm gonna work on myself to ensure that never happens again....Once more ,God bless you all.
Go read ubunja's threads you'll be fine
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by passionate87(m): 4:47pm On Jan 12
bro I feel ur pain cos I'm 32 and married,I planned to marry earlier but got my heart broken by my first ex gf.I had serious trust issues and I call many relationships quit without blinking,I think one of ur problem is that u enter into the relationship more invested than the ladies and they have assessed that if the relationship falls apart,you've got more to lose.from the day one I enter into any relationship,I start with an I don't give a damn attitude,if the lady messes up I immediately scold her.and I call the shots all the time,I showed them I had options to fall back to if they peradventure mess up,you've got to man up and put these ladies straight or else,they would use u to play ping-pong.mind u I love my wife but she can attest to the fact that there are some things I won't tolerate because I started doing that in the relationship.
Here is the secret,have a lot of female friends and u can be in romantic relationship with few,take time to study their character,go for women above 25years of age or mature minded ladies.
Don't ever show commitment initially till ur are 80% certain,u can be serious with the lady in question based on her being serious minded, don't try to be sentimental because relationship are for the strong hearted. break off relationships when u notice foul play,be less tolerant about it or else it would come back to haunt u.
Initially during ur relationship pay surprise visit and always be prepare for the worst,never let emotions take the best part of you,for this u would thank me later.
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Abcruz(m): 5:45pm On Jan 12
AnonymousBee:

Did you provide solution to the young man?

How will religion solve emotional problem?

Patience is better than power, and and controlling one's emotions, than capturing a city.--proverbs 16:32

It is embedded in a Man's will to make his choice, and the one who allows emotions to rule over him has sold his will to the merciless.

However,
Submit to God and be at peace with him; in this way all will be well with you--Job 22:21

The ear that listens to the reproves of life abides among the wise!!!

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Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by x2x2(m): 6:46pm On Jan 12
passionate87:
bro I feel ur pain cos I'm 32 and married,I planned to marry earlier but got my heart broken by my first ex gf.I had serious trust issues and I call many relationships quit without blinking,I think one of ur problem is that u enter into the relationship more invested than the ladies and they have assessed that if the relationship falls apart,you've got more to lose.from the day one I enter into any relationship,I start with an I don't give a damn attitude,if the lady messes up I immediately scold her.and I call the shots all the time,I showed them I had options to fall back to if they peradventure mess up,you've got to man up and put these ladies straight or else,they would use u to play ping-pong.mind u I love my wife but she can attest to the fact that there are some things I won't tolerate because I started doing that in the relationship.
Here is the secret,have a lot of female friends and u can be in romantic relationship with few,take time to study their character,go for women above 25years of age or mature minded ladies.
Don't ever show commitment initially till ur are 80% certain,u can be serious with the lady in question based on her being serious minded, don't try to be sentimental because relationship are for the strong hearted. break off relationships when u notice foul play,be less tolerant about it or else it would come back to haunt u.
Initially during ur relationship pay surprise visit and always be prepare for the worst,never let emotions take the best part of you,for this u would thank me later.
Thanks bro...
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by waywardpikin(m): 6:54pm On Jan 12
x2x2:
Good day fellow nairalanders..
Don't mind my English pls..
I'm a regular and active member of this section,but I needed to open another account to seek for help in my relationship.
I will clock 32 soon and i have only dated two girls all my life.Both we agreed to be serious relationship and not just chop and go kind of...The first relationship lasted 3yrs and after i investested my all,i caught her cheating and telling me lies,i ended it. Second one ended days ago and I'm currently hrt broken as i type this right now. Same issue i had with her was cheating and lies...
I did my best in pleasing them,in s+x,funding and all that..I forgave several times,but this last one still continued..She lies more than devil himself,it took me special procedures to known that she was cheating on me.
I can swear that in these two relationships,i never cheated on any of them,because I really don't like sleeping around and deceiving anybody..Rather i gave my all and now i have been scammed again.
So i have decided never to be nice to girls anymore,so how can i stop being too emotional? I don't wanna love again, I want to start being a player(a very wicked one). Guys in the hux how can i make my hrt become stone towards girls please....Pls don't insult or blame me...All i need is advice regarding my questions...Thanks...

Lol @ 32 you are coming very late to the party but better late than never. Over to the gurus to toughen you up. Cheers mate!!!
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Fourwinds: 7:34pm On Jan 12
Paxie55:
Okay.
Good luck in your molosho journey.
Don't come and ask us the symptoms of HIV grin grin
But then,
Did you consider why they are cheating? How's your sex life? Do you need divk enlargement? How long can you last? 2 secs man?
The fault may be from You, cos two ladies can't break your heart with the same reason and you still think it's not your fault. Work on yourself, are you potbellied?

hmmmmm.....so the guy was not hitting the G---Spot
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by Fourwinds: 7:42pm On Jan 12
lovebishop:
Every woman's relationship need: A sense of stability, security and monogamous commitment that is life-long, from her man. That is the ideal need of every woman (even a prostitute).
So, when a woman is in a relationship with you, and doesn't have this need met, she'll feel like a passenger aboard a ship cruising without a definite destination. If she sees another ship heading to her destination, she'll cry "Ahoy, ahoy!!!!".
So, I ask you bro: what is the destination point of your "relationships"? Because I no go tell you lie: once woman see say you no get destination, she go begin find "auxillary gear".
Money and time investments wen you don use take do "relationship", don reach you arrange 1 traditional marriage o! No vex o...But na how i see am be dat.
Wetin you dey relate for 3yrs, 5yrs, etc.? Time dey go o. Na when you clock 45, na im you want begin buy pampers?
Me feel say you dey waste time. If you see babe wen your spirit love and accept, no waste time; marry am... Chikena! No fear. After all, all women are 'basically' the same. Again, you no fit study woman finish. If you like date am for 30years before marriage; she go still exhibit some kain character wen you neva see before...After you marry am. Na love and patience, na im you go take manage am. Me wen dey talk; I meet and toast my wife for December 2013...Com marry am for August 2014. 8months coursthip. If to say I bin dey waste time 3years, 5years....She for don fashee me since; find anoda man wey ready to go where she dey go.
my brother..u have spoke well...i hate relationship that goes beyond two years...what are we studying or observing in each other that we will see to the end....as a man i will marry u and dare u to cheat....i will divorce u sharp sharp for the society to see how useless such a girl is. .to marry no be my problem but cheat let me see
Re: Guys Help A Brother Please!! by emmaodet: 8:33pm On Jan 12
Paxie55:
Okay.
Good luck in your molosho journey.
Don't come and ask us the symptoms of HIV grin grin
But then,
Did you consider why they are cheating? How's your sex life? Do you need divk enlargement? How long can you last? 2 secs man?
The fault may be from You, cos two ladies can't break your heart with the same reason and you still think it's not your fault. Work on yourself, are you potbellied?


It is always about the man, the man is always at fault and never the woman. This manipulation and table-turning is not good.
Alot of ladies are sex machines now adays because they have dated several guys, some with big joystick and some blow them with marijuana, tramadol etc to the extent that they have turned to sex maniacs and if they eventually settle down with an average guy that is clean and not using drugs, just is normal body and self, they will start shifting the blames on him and not doing a self appraisal on their self for long sexual intercourse, mummy and daddy life style at school, may abortions but the man is the one at fault.
The lady should have settled down with the bad guys but no, they will prefer the good guy for marriage and give excuse for cheating with the bad boy again.
The man should run around to get a good job, set up a house or apartment, buy a car, think of how to invest for the future, feed his family, still wake up in the morning to be jogging up and down and avoid getting a pot belly, prepare for expensive emergencies like medical bill for the old parents and in-laws, burial, wedding, everything inside only ONE human being and you wonder why guys don't want to marry again and to cap it all, some unfortunate ladies will still cheat on the man and still give excuses, so much to be a man

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