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|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by Doveheart: 12:47pm On Jan 14|
Please i will advice you to go for prayers, for prayers changes things.
Meanwhile, i want to create a topic on nairaland, how do i go about it as the "CREATE TOPIC" heading is no longer visible on the home page of nairaland forum
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by agaliboy: 12:49pm On Jan 14|
I also have this tendency. Its some kind of emotional and psychological detachment behaviour. Its not a natural tendency but developed knowingly or unknowingly over time.
It can be beneficial when one needs to leave toxic people 'behind' or forget them. But its definitely detrimental generally in other circumstances.
Just like me, try to invest emotionally into your relationships and you will develop stronger bonds to people,
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by TheWalkingMind: 12:49pm On Jan 14|
samysmoothfresh:same thing happening here. Been living like that for five years counting now.
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by TheWalkingMind: 12:56pm On Jan 14|
sparog:He doesn't, because he can't even get angry.
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by ItsOquakes(m): 12:59pm On Jan 14|
my brother dis is me point blank
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by MissRaine69(f): 1:00pm On Jan 14|
samysmoothfresh:What’s normal? Normal is so subjective.
Some people are expressive regarding how they process emotional distress , some take their time, and do things in segments while others just absorb things until they are saturated and then implode. We are not the same and you feeling that you are “abnormal” is you being hard on yourself unnecessarily. There is no need to feel odd. We are not the same you have been conditioned to think feeling and thinking a certain way is standard. It’s not.
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|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by sparog(m): 1:00pm On Jan 14|
Maybe d fact dat he doesn't get angry makes it easy for him to let go
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by segunmelvin: 1:07pm On Jan 14|
I wished this was me then I wouldn't be this depressed �
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by MyGeneration: 1:09pm On Jan 14|
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by Jtmanager(m): 1:11pm On Jan 14|
We on the same ship.
Quote me your solution, incase you find any
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by samysmoothfresh: 1:21pm On Jan 14|
actually i don't feel abnormal in any way..........i literally don't give a fvck TBH...............i've cared less about more important things and this wouldnt count even count as "important"
I just saw your comment and thought maybe that's the reason i'm like this..
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by alveene(m): 1:30pm On Jan 14|
Are you into psychotherapy or do you by chance know anyone who renders online services?
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by rs172(m): 1:32pm On Jan 14|
Does those friends really wanna win you
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by samysmoothfresh: 1:33pm On Jan 14|
feb 14th would mark my 8years anniversary living like this.
Sometimes this feeling is great cos when others are worrying (most times unnecessarily), i'm as cool as a monk but other times, e just still get as e be.
I myself would start wondering why the fvck i aint bothered about something that should freak me the hell out.
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by MissRaine69(f): 1:35pm On Jan 14|
alveene:Part of my job does involve psychotherapy but it’s focused on issues related to fertility and associated matters.
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by ikhileomotayo: 1:36pm On Jan 14|
Seriously what's your profession? Your thought process is so so different from other ladies in this forum. I admire that
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by Myzzyfrazzy(m): 1:37pm On Jan 14|
[This is my girlfriend we dont talk about our problems. She just wants to sleep and pretend it does not happen. Just recently we had an issue i complained that we have been dating for three years and she has not made one single sacrifice she acknowledged it and said she has not been in a situation to make. Since she is stil in school law school quote author=kingkuntaval post=74746860]
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by Tradeafriq: 1:42pm On Jan 14|
This is so me. Its difficult to forget when you see the person often, but once there is a consistent disconnection it becomes too easy.
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by kense88: 1:42pm On Jan 14|
MissRaine69:He doesn't appreciate such a wonderful trait
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by Topze(m): 1:43pm On Jan 14|
Well it's not that bad as far as you're still in good terms with your parents and siblings....
Wish you the best
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|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by khreus(m): 1:43pm On Jan 14|
bro we gather dey nio ah swear...and most people tenk its pride and believe me,i might be everything but pride is not one of em.....
so i think its jst our ways of moving on with things,like we are tired of fights we will never win and so on.
it might be a good thing buh its also bad cuz we can neva ave a healthy relationship...i dont even argue or fight with pple,i jst give em space
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by simplesearch: 1:45pm On Jan 14|
You actually exhibit the trait of someone who is self-seeking, self-absorbed, conceited, withdrawn, self-interested and self-loved(narcissistic), simply put you lack self self-confidence. A confident person allows occasional criticism, openly allow himself to be corrected and inculcate or assimilate viable lessons from those experiences. In your case you disallowed and undermine these instrument of growth and development and therefore became stunted. You are however at the mercy of time as you are already wishing for a permanent relationship for which you are uncertain of its successes because of your past experience. However if you adhere strictly to this one rule you'll get out faster than you think. And the rule is this, start doing exactly opposite the things you've been doing before. For instance, If you feel like not caring, tell yourself I will care, if your expectations are not met and you feel like getting offensive don't withdraw just say to yourself, they are Human after all. Start reaching out to positive people you ignored in time past, learn to say, am sorry to some of them. Don't be afraid to have good people around you because of demand, just learn to handle them. Whenever friends come calling with their numerous demand just learn to say: o.k i can afford that or not available at this time or I will get back. Sometimes attend friends wedding even if not invited, pay surprise visit to some old friends you've ignored and who've shut you out of their life in return. Mend fences but don't be sticky or compromise your worthy and lifelong principles. Most importantly don't go clubbing as that may be counter-productive, maintain a regular spiritual diet let that be your forte.
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|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by Tradeafriq: 1:49pm On Jan 14|
Exactly describes who I have found myself to be. Only problem is the lonely feeling that comes with it once in a while. What helps is immersing myself in work. . Work makes me forget about the loneliness.
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by Tradeafriq: 1:50pm On Jan 14|
lol, Because keeping a grudge is too much emotional stress ba?
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by Deicide: 1:56pm On Jan 14|
I never give up on people that are close and important to me i only give up on people that fell the relationship is a burden to them those that fell like they are doing you a favour
As for the chatting stuff op continue to do what you do once you detect useless behaviour quickly delete the number and if possible block them. Most people are not worth it. Matured people dont play games!
Frustration is the price we pay for unrealistic expectations. Dont expect too much from people.
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by Shugargal(f): 1:58pm On Jan 14|
You mentioned you just quited your relationship of five years, how have you been in that relationship till up-to five years? that means your gal has been the one suffering it, you need to learn how to be a little bit emotional, don't be too proud of what you can do, learn to have human feelings, show care and sympathy and forget about being cold cuz you can't live alone, like me that am very emotional, I go just die be that having your kind of person around. I know people can Bleep up but give them second chance.
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by Gracespecial101(m): 2:02pm On Jan 14|
my brother very correct, Mine is that I can't keep a relationship for long I easily lose interest for no good reason
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by handsomebenze(m): 2:11pm On Jan 14|
Almost Similar experience only difference is that my interest is lost after sex..
|Re: I Quit People Easily, Pls Help. by maiyee(f): 2:14pm On Jan 14|
krissconnect:non attachment, you don't attach yourself to people and things, because there is a part of you that's closed up, you expect people to 'be humans'
now the question is, do you want to become attached??
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