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Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Nobody: 6:47pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
keepingmum:Didn't read his post but from what you wrote, as he is from anambra, he seems not to know the laws which govern child custody in the state. That child belongs to the girl's family. Period. That is the law. As long as he didn't pay the bride price. Take it to higher court, they will refer him to the customary court. He should know the law. Any child born out of wedlock in anambra belongs to the girl's family. 2 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by joyousever(f): 6:53pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
I disagree with your view point. Were you had out of wedlock? If no,then why will u subscribe to that? If yes, then it's not too late to change your mind set & accept God's standard of producing children,which is in holy matrimony. Thank u! Elder0001: 3 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Nobody: 7:07pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
No thank you I’m fine Earthbound: |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by ghettochild(m): 7:09pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
[quote author=faithfull18 post=75154042]Why do you men always do this, you think the woman isn't good enough for you to marry but she is always good for you to have sex with. Even if you start a court process, I doubt you will win the case. From all indications, she can duly take care of the child without your input. You talk as if u don't know ur fellow women..... How u explain when women pretend to be all good n godly n after marriage they show their true colour.. So shut up there o ye daughter of Jezebel.. U even talking premarital sex... As if u r a virgin.. May amadioha shut that ur Brain |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Melian(f): 7:10pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Elder0001: Nope. I don't see marriage as an achievement if I did I'd have been married a long time. That said, whether or not it's an achievement, men should learn to zip up or use protection. 1 Like |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by ghettochild(m): 7:12pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
ifyalways:In as much as ur advice seem nice n a lil edgy.... From d look of this.. If the op married this lady n starts having issues n come here to ask for advice.. Am sure u will blame him for marrying her n not seeing the signs.. We will be better people at judging others when we first try n psychologically put ourselves in others shoes/situation and u feel what they been going thru... Then u will know how best to judge or advice others... |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by ghettochild(m): 7:14pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Melian:Holy mary, mother of God I hope u r zipping up too.. Our dear virgin Mary.. 1 Like |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by ghettochild(m): 7:14pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Melian:Holy mary, mother God I hope u r zipping up too.. Our dear virgin Mary.. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by faithfull18(f): 7:19pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
[quote author=ghettochild post=75172006][/quote] And you with no brain, what should amadioha do? Last time I checked, one of my rights was freedom of speech. Ghettochild or whatever, take several seats down since you don't have anything reasonable to say. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by realtalk19: 7:20pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
TEYA: happily married indeed. it shows from ur unrealistic opinion that u av been used and dumped. I don't actually have time to be angry.u ar just upset am speaking my mind 2 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Simplicityboo: 7:21pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Op is just an egoistic man. anambra men are full of egos. despite being a lady from imo I can't date or marry a man from there. they are just one specie of a kind. my first love was from there it was after he had his way that he told me he can't marry me because they don't marry from outside. op u need to work on ur ego. take it slow slow and steady wins the race. look for a mediator to come into this matter because u can't pray that your sister should experience this . no girl in her right sense will pray to be a baby mama except the foolish ones but it has happened beg the girl settle it amicably because from all indications the girl has gone through trauma. 3 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by faithfull18(f): 7:22pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
ghettochild:And you with no brain, what should amadioha do? Last time I checked, one of my rights was freedom of speech. Ghettochild or whatever, take several seats down since you don't have anything reasonable to say. You can't even quote a post successfully, painment everywhere. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by realtalk19: 7:26pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
chrisj2: u sure have a valid point here. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by realtalk19: 7:27pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Bonjelomo: ok.thanks |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by tabithababy(f): 7:34pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Op, take the legal way but I can assure you that you will end up wasting your money and time |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by chrisj2(m): 7:36pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Melian: This is why the poster said the woman banging on about impregnating a woman is so in the past. Women can also put themselves in the Baby Mama position - some even steal sperms... It takes two when it comes to sex - was she forced? Could she have used the pill or insist on a condom. Whether the man was going to marry her or not is not that relevant: she got an unplanned pregnancy. I think marriage between the two is now too late - he does not love her and she is independent and strong enough (apparently) to be a single mother. Welcome to the 21 century! |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Mariangeles(f): 7:44pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
iloputaife: Shut up ! Dream crusher ! All you Anambra men are the same ! ndi mmanyi si na mpanyi YOU ALL HAVE NO MINDS OF YOUR OWN ! 1 Like |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Melian(f): 7:51pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
chrisj2: My point exactly. He has moved on without the mother. Let him learn to move forward without the daughter too. He's a sperm donor. Let him accept that. 2 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Melian(f): 7:52pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
ghettochild: Naaa it's not about that. It's just what it is. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Tellemall: 7:54pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Lexusgs430: Must he be involved in the child's life? He said the family take care of her. He's just looking for a weapon to use on the woman and it would seem the child is a tool of his vengeance. He's only interested in annoying the woman. It's obvious she doesn't want his involvement because nothing will come out of it, so why does he keep pushing and pushing to be included? There's something he's not saying. He said the woman takes care of the child herself, now he says he does that. Let him pick a side of the fence. If he has made things so bitter it is best he gets another family with whom he's ready to provide a stable family structure and not this caricature he presents while looking for sympathy and support. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Lexusgs430: 7:59pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Tellemall: The ideal situation for a child, is to have both parents involved (if they are both alive)...... He must have handled some situations, in the wrong manner in the past, possibly hoping he would still win the battle with his attitude. It seems he has realised that the longer he left the issue, things are going from bad to worse...... What he needs is resolution, through the right channels............. Not litigation........ 1 Like |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Tellemall: 8:10pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Lexusgs430: It's ideal, but believe me when I say that some of such children do not care about the missing parent. Sometimes not both parents must be there. He doesn't need to force himself there and try to be included. He sounds so full of ulterior motives. He hates the mother, there is no way the child will not pick up on that. He hates the grandparents, too. What is he forcing himself there for? Why did he not take the child from birth since he wanted her so much? It seems like Vengeance. He should settle it peacefully (and it seems it's only a marriage or disappearance from their lives that is the solution). Why he will not move on is a sign that he does not really love this child. The child is just a tool for him. Or he can take it to court. He will lose even if he gains custody of the child. He will lose by depriving her of a loving family. He should move on like the woman has. His only claim on the child is DNA not fatherhood. 4 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by TEYA: 8:17pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
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Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Lexusgs430: 8:17pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Tellemall: Let's give it to him, he is at least trying to be involved in his child's life (albeit many burnt bridges later)...... To every problem, a mutually agreed solution is always available........ |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by chrisj2(m): 8:27pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Melian: The sperm donor part is way off - OMG! If he truly moves on without a second thought about the child, people will say he is irresponsible. At least, he is trying to contribute. Like I said, small mistakes can easily escalate into big issues and in fact, the small mistake might also be just an excuse. The OP thinks he is acting as a father and making decisions when he is not in the position to make those decisions. The funny thing is that if he were married to the lady, she will probably have accepted that the child goes to school in September and the father's family will be making decisions too. We men learn the hard way sometimes but it is not always about Ego... Why is the child starting school in April? Is it about child care issues or the mother think that it is better to start really early. I would have questioned that decision too as a father even if it is not based on money. * I think we are fixated too much about classroom learning and going to school in Nja - children are bundled off to school in uniforms at the age of 2+ in Nja. Does that make us better educated than the Scandinavians that start after 5 or 6? I dont get Nigerian to be honest but this is a universal problem all over the world. Both parties should zip up if they do not want unplanned pregnancies. And marrying someone you do not love just because that person got pregnant is not the solution. 2 Likes |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Melian(f): 8:34pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
chrisj2: He can't love her but he can Bleep her. Is this how we want to reason? |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by chrisj2(m): 8:35pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Melian: Great! The women do not have to zip up - they can just lie there and get pregnant for anyone. if this man was so bad, why did she want to marry him? Another thing is that we do not know exactly what the woman is thinking or feeling - we are just taking sides and labelling and generalising. Someone said the man wants to use the child as a tool? How is that? It is actually easier to be single-mother than an absent father trying to carry on in a man's world (it is for all its fault) and yet try his best for his absent children. There is nothing more emasculating than being a caring and loving absent father; especially one that has to bend to all the whims of his ex without being able to make contradicting decisions - he just has to take things easy all the time. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by chrisj2(m): 8:39pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Melian: Stopping using terms like 'bleep' because you make it sound like she was being taken against her will. Do women not enjoy casual sex? Does it have to be love all the time? Come on! What are you saying here? He might even have loved her at some point and falling out of love and it works both ways. Some women get married and soon regret it - despite all the mutual bleeping and the bride price and the rest... I will not advice my sister to stay in an unhappy marriage if she has tried to work it out and could not bear it. I find you kinda of funny because I have lived a sheltered life and have never met anyone that thinks like that... 1 Like |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Melian(f): 8:39pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
chrisj2: Lol. I already addressed this in my previous posts.
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Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Melian(f): 8:43pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
chrisj2: That is why he should have used a condom. Responsible men wear condoms!!!!!! Foolish women let themselves get bleeped without protection. |
Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by Melian(f): 8:46pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
chrisj2: I'm a very objective person and don't take sides. I've addressed this too earlier.
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Re: Impending Child Custody Battle: Baby Mama Preventing Access To My Daughter by chrisj2(m): 8:48pm On Jan 27, 2019 |
Ok o. You win! LOL. * BTW, the woman moving on just like that without the man can also have repercussions for the child especially a female child in Nja. I think you women should also keep the man on side because you never know when you will need them. Fast forward to a new relationship - many questions about where the dad of a her child is, who is going to give consent for this and that. You might need to prove full parental responsibility and so on. Everything in a relationship takes two |
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