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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Martinez39: 3:31pm On Feb 13
cococandy:
I’m assuming you have a little bit of enlightenment at this point in your life (I might be wrong)
But if you do, you should know by now that it’s only loser guys who (once they feel their logic failing) start to make the sexist joke about how a woman should go make them a meal instead of trashing their behind in a discourse.

Even children don’t use that line anymore. But if indeed I ran a sandwich bar, you couldn’t afford to eat there.
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Lol. I am not a loser guy, okay. It's not my fault that you can't get a joke. Sorry about that.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Martinez39: 3:33pm On Feb 13
cococandy:
I have a child. I’ll be the one to let you know how hard or not it can be.

You’re the unintelligent one here if at this point you haven’t grasped onto the hypothetical nature of this conversation.
Lol. I haven't lost grasp of the argument. Anyways, there is no point in arguing with you. You are going to believe what you want at the end of the day. Bye bye.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Dukeolumidemans(m): 5:14pm On Feb 13
CuddleBunnys:
I am not married but,,
Advice for Those Not Yet Married
If you have not yet married or even chosen a partner, you have, by far, the most power to affect your eventual likelihood of divorce. Those who are already married can only change how they think and act in their existing marriage. Singles who have not yet chosen a partner have a lot more that is still on the table for change. In other words, your stage of life shapes what is dynamic and static in terms of factors associated with your risk for divorce. The earlier you are in the process of finding a mate, the more your choices going forward can affect your future. Here are a few tips to keep in mind as you proceed.
1. Take it slow. Get to know a person very well before deciding to marry. We all know people who fell in love at first sight and married within months, and who have done well over many years in marriage. But there are many other couples who married fast and blew apart. By taking more time, you can see how a potential partner treats others, responds to stress, and handles disagreements with you on things that matter. Also, if your relationship is moving toward marriage, take some time to clarify expectations about marriage, family, and life.
2. Pay attention to major red flags. If you see evidence of controlling or abusive behavior, or serious substance use problems, don’t move blindly ahead hoping things will work out. Love does not conquer all. If you have trusted friends or family, listen to them about concerns they see in the person you are dating. Don’t marry a makeover project—or, at the least, don’t do so until there is great evidence of real, lasting change when there are concerns. And don’t move in together to test such a relationship. That’s the worst reason you can have to move in together.xiv
3. Look for someone who shares your beliefs and values. What are your central values in life? Are they shared? Avoid situations where you might fall for someone prior to determining these things. Once you sense some chemistry, it’s hard to hold onto what had been non-negotiable for what you wanted in a mate. This is where people can use online dating sites effectively: You can be clear about the big things you are looking for in life before you meet someone and it gets all complicated with chemistry. Chemistry is great. You want to have that. But chemistry is best developed in a sequence, not as a blinding, binding glue in a relationship you’d otherwise never have chosen.
Love does not conquer all.
4. Look for mutual dedication. There should be sustained evidence that you and a prospective mate are equally devoted to the relationship; for example, that you are both willing to make sacrifices for each other. If you consistently think you are more dedicated to the relationship than your partner, consider moving on. That’s a bad sign for future marital quality. It’s fine to be looking for love, but it’s smarter to be looking for sacrifice.
5. Don’t let constraints for staying together increase before you establish mutual commitment to be together. Many people slide into situations that make it harder to end a relationship before they have made a clear decision about what is best. this is what many people do not see about the risk of living together prior to marriage (or at least before engagement). For too many couples, living together makes it harder to break up before it’s clear that they really have a future together.
6. Do premarital training : While marital experts debate everything, there is solid evidence that completing premarital training (education, counseling, whatever it’s called) together can improve your odds in marriage

Nice

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by CuddleBunnys(f): 5:19pm On Feb 13
Dukeolumidemans:

Nice
smiley thank ya
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by consultancy: 8:41pm On Feb 13
hotspec:
Yes I am. and yes she is better off... But I live in South west Nigeria, and I believe if ure truly married and have ever faced any challenge from ur in laws, u will understand me. Dt story I summarised in 3 lines, if I should give u d full gist, it will be up to 500 pages of A4 paper, front and back.

did I mention my inlaws (I mean her father and mother came to beat me one night) just because we were having issues and she called them (we live in d same town). dt day she left home since 9am and came back around to 9 in d night, without telling where she was going to since dt morning. so I told her to go back to where she was coming from.

that was it, d next thing was to called her parents who came to pack her things. her father broke my door with his leg. and started beating me.


it was in my house one day dt her mother told her that she's too dull and dt is why I'm dictating to her. dt if it's her Elder sister (who is also now a single mother) she would have locked d husband, tear her cloth and beat him. since dt day, any little misunderstanding, she will pounce on me, tear my cloth and neat me. I can show u pictures of tore cloths. twice I've been to police station to report her.


madam, I can drop my digits for anyone who cares to listen to d full gist. my story is verifiable. I have loads of evidence to support my claims.
wow!!! a woman u paid her bride price and brought into your home, pounces on you, tears your clothes and beats you up? to add salt to injury, her father breaks ur door at will with his legs; Tekken style. Okay, continue
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Zither: 4:42am On Feb 14
uuzba:


The No 1 cause of divorce is Marriage.

The No 1 cause of burial is death.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Zither: 5:31am On Feb 14
realtalk19:


lol, it's obvious u ar a nassicist and a loner that's why u can't accept success or defeat. funny enough u ar not God . I wil get married and even send u an invite. just stay alive for it.

Did you even have to bother furnishing him with a reply? His infantile and puerile display are enough to discard his comments as trash. I say amen to your getting married in the nearest future.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by realtalk19(f): 7:29am On Feb 14
Zither:


Did you even have to bother furnishing him with a reply? His infantile and puerile display are enough to discard his comments as trash. I say amen to your getting married in the nearest future.

thank you Zither I appriciate your response.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 9:11am On Feb 14
Erums:


Leave dat woman, you see the long epistlsge wrote up there, tells alot abt her... She was de angel in the marriage and did not in wrong... A man would feel inferior when you try to dominate and he's Clapp back is always termed inferiority complex...

Just let her be.. Are you short?
No ooo.... I am 4feet tall grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 9:14am On Feb 14
realtalk19:


I didn't generalize but based on observations with most short people I have come across are aggressive and stubborn

Lol. I thought u didnt date any? undecided undecided
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 9:21am On Feb 14
MumD:


This is my man's hobby. Even me dey tire of he start. too much negative spirit. mtchew

May harmony, peace and love that conquers wrong fill ur home ever onwards

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by realtalk19(f): 11:08am On Feb 14
MacMkboy:


Lol. I thought u didnt date any? undecided undecided

the only short guy I came in contact with was my ex hubby.others were colleagues, school mates, friends etc
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 3:51pm On Feb 14
realtalk19:


the only short guy I came in contact with was my ex hubby.others were colleagues, school mates, friends etc
Ok. How Tall Are You? (just Asking)
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Nobody: 3:57pm On Feb 14
MacMkboy:


May harmony, peace and love that conquers wrong fill ur home ever onwards
Amen bro. thanks
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 4:02pm On Feb 14
Katier00:
I had a failed marriage and I was not just a victim, the marriage brought out another side of me. I felt trapped in a loveless marriage. There was violence and abuse but it will be very unfair to say I was saint though my actions were due to frustration. I know I am not a bad person but I have my limits too. Even though we're not in speaking terms, I don't have any thing against him
May God Heal You
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Katier00(f): 6:22pm On Feb 14
MacMkboy:

May God Heal You
thanks
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by opejulie10(f): 6:44pm On Feb 14
very sad thread
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by realtalk19(f): 8:58pm On Feb 14
MacMkboy:
Ok. How Tall Are You? (just Asking)
5 ft 9inches
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Zither: 9:58pm On Feb 14
realtalk19:


5 ft 9inches

Realtalk, why subject yourself to senseless interrogations? For all you know, he is a kid with a phone and internet. Nairaland is a faceless forum so anyone can say anything because their identity is protected by anonymity.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by sisisioge: 9:59pm On Feb 14
Wowzerful...may God help the world.
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by djon78(m): 10:17pm On Feb 14
Divorce is a very painful experience

What makes it sad is that you thought you would build a great future with your spouse only to find out you ended up with the wrong person. To add to it children are involved in the issue.


People should be very careful when getting married.
Check out for red flags
Be prayerful also
And be very watchful of the kind of person you are dealing with
This way, danger will be mitigated

And in conclusion
Always have this mindset
That whomever you associate with, you must leave a positive impression on that person memory. This has a way of turning negative situations in to positive ones.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by Martinez39: 10:21pm On Feb 14
realtalk19:


5 ft 9 inches
You shouldn't reply anyone with irrelevant questions.
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 11:40pm On Feb 14
realtalk19:

5 ft 9inches
Wow! Quite An Impressive Height!
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by murphyibiam15(m): 12:35am On Feb 15
I learnt a lot from here..For those that genuinely stated their experiences, thanks for sharing..

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by okikiosibodu(m): 1:45am On Feb 15
GREATESTPIANIST:
okay o
I fell in love with your moniker. Can you please post a link to some of your music pieces?
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by realtalk19(f): 7:20am On Feb 15
Martinez39:
You shouldn't reply anyone with irrelevant questions.

thanks Matinez39 .noted
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by realtalk19(f): 7:21am On Feb 15
Zither:


Realtalk, why subject yourself to senseless interrogations? For all you know, he is a kid with a phone and internet. Nairaland is a faceless forum so anyone can say anything because their identity is protected by anonymity.

noted.tanks
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 7:32am On Feb 15
Zither:


Realtalk, why subject yourself to senseless interrogations? For all you know, he is a kid with a phone and internet. Nairaland is a faceless forum so anyone can say anything because their identity is protected by anonymity.
And One Old Enough To Be Your Father. If You U're Used To Derogatory Name-Calling, Kindly Desist From Such. People Pickup Lots Of Bad Influence Via Unregulated Forums As Nairaland Which In Turn, Affect Them Negatively In Life. Be Mindful Of The Things U Think Matters Less Cos In The End, It'll All Matter.
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 7:51am On Feb 15
Martinez39:
Lol. Even my mum has a thing or two against short people. She characterises them as smart crooks and control freaks. grin
And I Bet Ur Mom Must Be 18ft Tall And You, Her Son Must Be Double Her Height
Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 7:54am On Feb 15
When Ur Eyes Are Fixed On The Superficial, U'd Only Get Superficial Results. Howeva, When U Look Beyond The Superficial, U'd Get The Real Result

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by MacMkboy(m): 8:02am On Feb 15
realtalk19:


very true based on those I have come across
My Dear Forget The Bias. Be Openminded To Everyone That Comes Across You But Never Rush Into Settling Down. Identify Your Areas Of Weakness And Work On Them. Don't Rush To Identify Peoples Weaknesses When Urs Have Been Left Unidentified. No Human Is Perfect. Its Just Our Understanding And Tolerance Level That Are Different. May God Grant U Peace.

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Re: How Did Your Marriage End? Any Regrets? by flyca: 8:12am On Feb 15
A very short boy is trying really hard to make a point cool

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