zeb04:
You are a deadbeat father. To think you want to forget your children because you have problem with their mother.

You don’t have integrity.

cococandy:
Okay that’s messed. Very unconscionable behavior from her and her parents.

You’re better off divorced from her.

All the same 6k for your two kids is poor. Even if that’s what the court ordered, you should used your church mind. Don’t punish the kids for their mom’s behavior

Martinez39:
What if that's what he can afford? The mother too can also go and work?

fastseo:


I know I hit you very hard... See the way you are fuming just because I opposed your view and finally you now acknowledge that it's not all heaven on earth and there might be storm honesty if your type see marital issues you will do times 10 more than what was written here. I pray it shall not be ur portion.
I know who u are quoting that was why I mentioned and brought up his marital issues.

Even Jesus didn't meet bread and butter on earth that was why he warned his disciples about betrayal, this betrayal shall not come from ur village people, or your enemies but from the very ones that loves us

But most churches will teach you that life is all tea and bread

Mark 13:12 Now the brother shall betray the brother to death, and the father the son; and children shall rise up against their parents, and shall cause them to be put to death

Kpele

hotspec:
God forbid. mynchildren are my joy and I had to endure d marriage because of them as I don't want to see them suffer because their mum doesn't take normal care of them. I'm d one paying their school fees. I seen them in their schools. I give them things. d only thing they miss now is our evening and early morning playings

Martinez39:
What if that's what he can afford? The mother too can also go and work?

fastseo:
I wonder. The inlaws too can assist.

fastseo:
I wonder. The inlaws too can assist.

GREATESTPIANIST:
Or single?

GREATESTPIANIST:
You didn't hit me hard and am not fuming, I only want you to have a little glimpse of all I meant, of which am glad you now understand, I wasn't moved an inch by all you have been saying..... because you totally misquoted me, I never said or meant all would be Rosy.... and why telling me there are tonnes of marital issues, am I not a Nigerian? Wouldn't I know and I never quoted Pastor Chris, I am not a member of His church, I follow the word, the Bible says (proverbs 23:7)as he thinks in his heart so he is, notwithstanding , I respect him as a Man of God.....Run your own race and comot ur eyes from his mistakes, .. No real present church would teach you that it's all Rosy, 1john5 :4--- We have overcome through our faith, meaning there were actually problems and storms to be overcome, so its not all sugar sugar sugar road.......... do not misquote me .....


Kpele too

fastseo:

my brother

fastseo:

I won't commot my eyes from the mistakes we use others mistakes to learn and that is what this thread is all about .. It's no sin to talk about and analyze people's mistakes. We talk about it to learn one or two things. The only time it's not cool it's only when I insulted him of which I never did I only pointed out that he had a marital issue with his wife and that's all.

GREATESTPIANIST:
This year won't Waka pass you by ......it's your year.....

fastseo:

I didn't say am single ni unless you want give me number 2

hotspec:
for good 3 years I warned her. I only owe her 6k pernmonth to take care of d 2 children as court ruled

cococandy:
So while she’s working to provide for them since the only thing he can afford is 6k (hypothetically) then who will take care of the children?

hotspec:
Yes I am. and yes she is better off... But I live in South west Nigeria, and I believe if ure truly married and have ever faced any challenge from ur in laws, u will understand me. Dt story I summarised in 3 lines, if I should give u d full gist, it will be up to 500 pages of A4 paper, front and back.

did I mention my inlaws (I mean her father and mother came to beat me one night) just because we were having issues and she called them (we live in d same town). dt day she left home since 9am and came back around to 9 in d night, without telling where she was going to since dt morning. so I told her to go back to where she was coming from.

that was it, d next thing was to called her parents who came to pack her things. her father broke my door with his leg. and started beating me.


it was in my house one day dt her mother told her that she's too dull and dt is why I'm dictating to her. dt if it's her Elder sister (who is also now a single mother) she would have locked d husband, tear her cloth and beat him. since dt day, any little misunderstanding, she will pounce on me, tear my cloth and neat me. I can show u pictures of tore cloths. twice I've been to police station to report her.


madam, I can drop my digits for anyone who cares to listen to d full gist. my story is verifiable. I have loads of evidence to support my claims.

Martinez39:
the wife stays with her family.

cococandy:
You are assuming they don’t have lives of their own.

It’s quite ridiculous though that you’d think it’s okay for someone who’s taking care of two kids to not get the financial accountability she expects from her co-parent.

After all she’s with her parents right? .

In that case, if she has to go work extra hours than she normal would in order to make up for what the other parent’s should be bringing (thereby leaving her parents to take care of the kids), it means she and her parents now own full responsibility of the kids. The father doesn’t matter anymore then. And doesn’t get a say.

Martinez39:
Lol. You sound as if kids need their parents' presence 24/7. While the kids are in school, both parents can go to work. Even if she does night shifts, she and her husband should provide money, food and the children must learn to stay at home behave until mum comes back from work. Didn't you sometimes stay and managed yourself at home while your mum and dad were away for a while? Hian!

I am not saying that the money he is giving is enough for both kid but if that's all he has, he and his wife should double their hustle. We are now in the age of equality not tradition, both must now work to support their families. I didn't say he shouldn't give her money o.

highcollide:
you have time to reply that lady. She's a feminist who thinks a man has to lie down when a woman wants to walk.


Ignore her.

Martinez39:
Lol. You sound as if kids need their parents' presence 24/7. While the kids are in school, both parents can go to work. Even if she does night shifts, she and her husband should provide money, food and the children must learn to stay at home behave until mum comes back from work. Didn't you sometimes stay and managed yourself at home while your mum and dad were away for a while? Hian!

I am not saying that the money he is giving is enough for both kid but if that's all he has, he and his wife should double their hustle. We are now in the age of equality not tradition, both must now work to support their families. I didn't say he shouldn't give her money o.

cococandy:
You tried to severe someone’s relationship with her parents? And you have over 100 likes for that?

You’re an awful person.
She’s better off without you. .

Martinez39:
Lol. Don't mind cococandy. She has too much free time on her hands that's why she is talking like this. Oya cococandy, go into the kitchen and make me a sandwich, I am hungry. Hurry up. When you are through, let's get down to business proper this night 'cos work has really been stressful.

highcollide:
She's a feminist who believes men should treat women how they expect women to treat men

cococandy:


If you had led with saying that they should both be doubling their hustle to provide for their kids, then you would have made sense right off the bat instead of saying if 6k is all he has, she should do the rest.

That’s basically asking her to totally take care of the kids all by herself. Because 6k won’t even buy snacks in this day and age.

You’re talking about equality but trying to push all the responsibilities on the woman. What’s equal about that? True equality factors all the work and effort needed from all angles and not just the financial aspect. Just taking care of the kids alone surpasses providing for them in case you didn’t know. Add the financial responsibility and you’ll see she’s basically doing it all by herself. Equality indeed.

cococandy:
Dumb joke

Martinez39:
Lol. I never tried to push the responsibility to the woman. Taking care of the kids isn't as hard as you try to put it but it's hard. As they begin to grow, you teach them to be responsible and learn how to get things done. How do you know she is doing everything by herself? Have you met his wife before? Stop the unintelligent haste to assume things. #Equality

Martinez39:
Lol. Don't let my sandwich burn.