Nairalanders please help a brother to avoid future regret..

I met my current girlfriend in one of the states in the western part of Nigeria during NYSC and we were very close though we had nothing intimate between us.
After youth service we kept in touch and one thing led to another and we started a relationship, after I discovered that she was a rare breed.

She is every man's dream woman as she is supportive, understanding, loving, has foresight and very industrous and investment crazy.

The problem is that I am not emotionally attached to her. I don't want to marry her out of pity and have reasons to still being running after ladies outside,an act which will definitely bring regret and maybe shatter my dream of a blissful home.

I was thinking maybe, just maybe if we tie the knot I may come to love and b emotionally attached to her.

Please friends in the house I am in a dilemma...

1 Why did you ask her out when you knew you felt no love for her?
2. Why did you go as far as proposing to her when you knew there was no love?

if u ain't emotionally attracted to her then i guess u should let her be,let her be,no matter how painful it may be... She ain't yuh cake to cut..

Dear Op,
Don't be more confused than our president.

This is a precious gift given to you freely. Use your head like Atiku.

Then free the girl.

tee59:
Then free the girl.

I would have done that long before now, but I still think she is too good to let go just like that.

I think I should tell you some few things you should know about her:
After our service year I was struggling to get a job and she advice I set up a business and helped with about 50% of the capital with which I started my current business.

When we started, she bought a large plot of land in my state and just recently developing the plot for agricultural use.

On all the occasion she has visited me in my state, she has done so with her money and also getting plenty of goodies for me and my family.

Just recently, she bought into my lifelong plan of travelling out of the country. She has put visible plan on ground for us to leave the country soon after our wedding.

The truth, is that when I think of her inbuilt qualities, I am force to believe I will be on the losing side if she falls into the hands of someone else.
That's why I said I am in a dilemma.

And by not being emotionally attached I take it you don't find her attractive anymore.. You probably have straffed her a whole lot and now you've realized that you never did love her.. Why did you propose anyway?. Well, just don't bolt into an already doomed marriage cause you're too scared to call things off..

ariketalks:
1 Why did you ask her out when you knew you felt no love for her?
2. Why did you go as far as proposing to her when you knew there was no love?

Maybe there was no proposal.
There are some friendships like that just "like play like play" they are talking about the future, planning a wedding, how many kids to have and bam! E don happen.

No mind me jare. The OP no know wetin e want ni.
E don see another sweet 16 out there.

But on d other hand, they are so close now that he sees her like his sister.
He sha never "taste" her before n she is every man's dream woman o. Wife material....

my sister eiyah!

OP, I have been in your shoes and I do understand how you feel.
First of all, you have to do this, take out a pen and a paper and write down the good and bad qualities of this your fiancé, then if the good things are more than the bad side then I advise you stick to this lady.
Then secondly, get to understand the things you don’t find attractive about her and discuss it with her, if she is understanding like you said, then she will truly learn.
And also try and find attractiveness in those things you feel are not attractive about her.

Acetin:
OP, I have been in your shoes and I do understand how you feel.
First of all, you have to do this, take out a pen and a paper and write down the good and bad qualities of this your fiancé, then if the good things are more than the bad side then I advise you stick to this lady.
Then secondly, get to understand the things you don’t find attractive about her and discuss it with her, if she is understanding like you said, then she will truly learn.
And also try and find attractiveness in those things you feel are not attractive about her.

So bro, you married her?
#justaskingnio

Don't be stupid man. What you want is a big breasted and big assed slay queen who will kill you. You think marriage is always rosy? Someone got tired of fvcking Beyonce and cheated. You will also be tired of that type you are looking for. When that happens, what you need is all those qualities you enumerated.

Pity yourself and marry that girl and bloody well treat her right.

You don't have to marry the person you love, but you must love the person you marry. And your girlfriend is loveable.

Acetin:
OP, I have been in your shoes and I do understand how you feel.
First of all, you have to do this, take out a pen and a paper and write down the good and bad qualities of this your fiancé, then if the good things are more than the bad side then I advise you stick to this lady.
Then secondly, get to understand the things you don’t find attractive about her and discuss it with her, if she is understanding like you said, then she will truly learn.
And also try and find attractiveness in those things you feel are not attractive about her.

Wow Man You Are So Brilliant

There has to be something you're not telling us. Is it that She is boring? Your world views are different? Does She have bad breath? The straff no make sense? Or She just no fine?

Nigga, you just described a smart, industrious woman who is dedicated to you as a person. You also implied that she respects your family. Don't hold her hostage because of her good qualities if you're not ready to put in work. Don't also end up with someone you'll end up hating later.

I go advice you as a young Nigga coming up. Marry the babe. You guys will go places if She is as you have described. The love might develop over time. You might F around and end up faking it till you make it. She seems like who you need right now.

But bros tell us what you're holding back if any.

Dude doesn't like good girls.. lol.. dooh o

Op I knw hw u feeling. I am currently in such delima. My head is saying hold on to her but my dick is saying smthing else.

what is that thing that always leads to another.

manuel80:
what is that thing that always leads to another.

One thing.

coolestofall:
Op I knw hw u feeling. I am currently in such delima. My head is saying hold on to her but my dick is saying smthing else.

You will understand me better.

Brother, One mind is telling me to go and other is telling me to stay put.

Hed0nist:
There has to be something you're not telling us. Is it that She is boring? Your world views are different? Does She have bad breath? The straff no make sense? Or She just no fine?

Nigga, you just described a smart, industrious woman who is dedicated to you as a person. You also implied that she respects your family. Don't hold her hostage because of her good qualities if you're not ready to put in work. Don't also end up with someone you'll end up hating later.

I go advice you as a young Nigga coming up. Marry the babe. You guys will go places if She is as you have described. The love might develop over time. You might F around and end up faking it till you make it. She seems like who you need right now.

But bros tell us what you're holding back if any.

She doesn't have any of those "deformities" you listed up there.
She is better educated than myself as she has done her Msc while I am yet to further after by Bsc program.

I think it's a thing of the heart. Even when I try to fake it to make her happy, I know deep down that it's not real...

Hed0nist:
There has to be something you're not telling us. Is it that She is boring? Your world views are different? Does She have bad breath? The straff no make sense? Or She just no fine?

Nigga, you just described a smart, industrious woman who is dedicated to you as a person. You also implied that she respects your family. Don't hold her hostage because of her good qualities if you're not ready to put in work. Don't also end up with someone you'll end up hating later.

I go advice you as a young Nigga coming up. Marry the babe. You guys will go places if She is as you have described. The love might develop over time. You might F around and end up faking it till you make it. She seems like who you need right now.

But bros tell us what you're holding back if any.

She doesn't have any of those "deformities" you listed up there.
She is better educated than myself as she has done her Msc while I am yet to further after by Bsc program.

I think it's a thing of the heart. Even when I try to fake it to make her happy, I know deep down that it's not real...

You can learn to love her. Everybody deserves love. If you look at life on a matured level you will realize that if someone loves u genuinely do all u can to love her back

Do I give a Flying Fvck!

get super glue from the nearest shop

Use her for money rituals


You can't just lose the time and money for free.

Ehyah
doh

When two adults live in the same house, support and care for each other, chances are that they will fall madly in luv.

But u understand yourself more than anyone else. Then again, if u didn't fall in love with her all this while, u may never fall in love with her in the future.

Have you been fuckkking her?

Remember that stupid woman who was flashing money online and got her husband killed?

If you're not careful, na that kind woman you go still fall for.