Deicide:
Shut up your Zodiac sign or position of distance planet relative to when you were born has nothing to do with anything

solasoulmusic:
First of all I don’t label people and also I’ve learnt to come from a place of love we all have our personalities and what I focus on is how can we work together to make it work first things first is recognizing and also finding a way to let them know how their actions affect yours I wouldn’t even know a narcicist because I’m not there to be your psychiatrist I’m there to be a friend a lover and a wife I can talk with you and leave everything open for you to share your heart with me but I’m not into labels I just love.

LordKO:


Lol. U wan provoke elder, e bi like say u don ready for wahala. my hand no dey.

Biglittlelois:



I'm not a sociopath, I let people in when I see the traits I like and admire, I'm actually fun to be with.

Great

funmisticqueen:
Part 1- THE NARCISSIST.
Good day Nairalanders, I decided to start a series to help others in relationships to recognize red flags and seek help where necessary and also avoid placing themselves in such situations.

This series will be like an expose especially on some B personality types like narcissists, borderlines, sociopaths and psychopaths. The continuity of this series will be based on your feedback, so please share and comment, you may be helping someone.

Who is a narcissist? He/she is someone who has an excessive in or admiration of themselves simple. While everyone has some narcissistic Traits so that we have good self-esteem. It becomes pathological when you have narcissist qualities to high degrees and at the expense of others. These are the narcissists I am referring to. We’ll call tem Narcs for short.

Narcs are usually selfish, entitled (believe they are the best thing since sliced bread), grandiose (believe that they are bigger and greater than they are or someone they aren’t), arrogant, manipulative, shallow/superficial and most importantly lack empathy (do not consider other people's feelings). They constantly seek validation and have a need for continuous admiration by all to boost their self-esteem and ego because they can’t draw such from themselves. Any person, thing or environment that provides this ego boost in any form to the narcissist is termed “narcissist supply”. Status symbols like sports cars, wealth, beauty; a yes man or sidekick or arm candy, a beautiful lady in the midst of less pretty ones so that she stands out more and so on are prime examples of narc supply

Narcissism is a spectrum, but we will broadly classify them into two but keep in mind that they overlap. The overt narcissists and the covert narcissists. Overt narcissists are easier to spot. They are usually extroverts. Most CEOs and a certain president who called our country a shithole are prime examples. We all know that arrogant person who doesn’t care for other people’s feelings, or that high and mighty boss who doesn’t care or give you leave because your mother is ill. Or that bf/gf who always want to be the center of attraction, it has to be about them. When in a relationship with such a person they do anything to make themselves look good even belittling you and chipping away your self-esteem so that you want to be like them, it can go on for so long you don’t know what is real anymore. ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS ANYONE!
Covert narcissists are harder to spot, they have narcissist traits but hide it. They are experts of victim mentality, blame shifting, sabotaging and passive aggression. When in a relationship with such a person, you will always feel bad and not know why, everything seems perfect on the outside but something nags you and you can’t pinpoint the problem. If you feel such you might be in a relationship with a covert narc. They will make you feel bad on your birthday, or show fake concern if you are overweight. Some spiritual leaders, marriage counselors and therapists are prime examples, when you got to them they throw it back at you and tell you the problem is your fault. A covert narc may apologize for wrong doing, and promise to change but will go back to old habits soon after.

Narcs are not capable of sustaining deep intimate relationships where give and take is involved. They take and take until the giver is half of themselves. The relationship becomes 11/2 = 1/2 instead of 1=1 and sadly Nigerian upbringing is producing a lot of male covert narcissists.

So the question is should one stay or leave a relationship with a narc? That is entirely up to the person. Narcissists cannot be completely changed because it is a personality disorder. But something can be done which we will address in part 2. Please ask questions and feel free to share personal examples or your ordeals with a narc.
Cc

LordKO:


Lol. U wan provoke elder, e bi like say u don ready for wahala. my hand no dey.

Austyno90:
This thing called relationship will run us all mad[/color]
Today this, today that. I weak
A girl will say I want a guy that is protective, good communicator etc 2maro she will say the guy is over protective he is this, he is that.
Abeg make this world just end[color=#990000]

Most are confused as to what they want.... Leaving us confused too

Biglittlelois:



This is true, I tend to cut off completely when I find out the deceit and lies, I feel it's demeaning to my person.

Deicide:
Narcissistic male are like cocaine to the female gender. Yes cocaine is harmful but they can't do without it

A guy would detect a Narcissist behavior from the female gender and he would run like hell but for women this is the moment they get closer cause they love it.

When the Narcissist finally leaves them they become bitter and angry

If you are a guy and you wanna get pǔssy, you want women to be your slave you wanna treat them like shit and get away with, you wanna have them come begging you like there is no tomorrow. I say be a NARCISSIST.

Chisos!!!!

PIPnator:


Yes, a scorpio dont like or entertain bullish.
They simply walk out than fight back but if they ever say, i will deal with you then you have reason to be scared.
They will surely deal with you.

However they have one narcissistic tendency which is they are always VERY busy being just with themselves (loner) but if you are able to break into them, you will have someone who will always be there for you come rain, come sunshine. They all believe people dont always understand them, as such they retire to their shell. They are also very truthful people, and they expect you to be truthful to them no matter how bleeped up the situation is. They are very understanding too.

Like I said, always be truthful to them because they all have natural tendency to smell a lie.


As a matter of fact, the best relationship anyone will ever have is with a scorpio.
They are crazy fun. When they love, they love with their all.

Biglittlelois:



I can see you're a frustrated being, I hope you find a cure soon.

pocohantas:
I had a friend like that, fine, average height, good skin, ass and fcking intelligent. She was just something else (i.e) words and actions to her man. I used to look at her bf and I saw how drained he was. But it seems each time she turned and he saw that ass, dude fell back into the zone he desperately wanted out from.

He never left,

After few years, she called it off.

Biglittlelois:



Are you Scorpio? This is soo me, thanks

PIPnator:


Yes, a scorpio dont like or entertain bullish.
They simply walk out than fight back but if they ever say, i will deal with you then you have reason to be scared.
They will surely deal with you.

However they have one narcissistic tendency which is they are always VERY busy being just with themselves (loner) but if you are able to break into them, you will have someone who will always be there for you come rain, come sunshine. They all believe people dont always understand them, as such they retire to their shell. They are also very truthful people, and they expect you to be truthful to them no matter how bleeped up the situation is. They are very understanding too.

Like I said, always be truthful to them because they all have natural tendency to smell a lie.


As a matter of fact, the best relationship anyone will ever have is with a scorpio.
They are crazy fun. When they love, they love with their all.

funmisticqueen:
I apologise for that. There are a lot of narcissistic women, it is just that they are usually covert because narcissism is not believed to be feminine. But a lot of gorgeously beautiful women are narcissistic because they were reinforced on their beauty growing up and it is all they have. They then engage in attention seeking behavior to gain validation.

funmisticqueen:
cancer can be narcissistic supply for leo

Mariangeles:
Say you be who naaaa??

Madiba ??

solasoulmusic:
First of all I don’t label people and also I’ve learnt to come from a place of love we all have our personalities and what I focus on is how can we work together to make it work first things first is recognizing and also finding a way to let them know how their actions affect yours I wouldn’t even know a narcicist because I’m not there to be your psychiatrist I’m there to be a friend a lover and a wife I can talk with you and leave everything open for you to share your heart with me but I’m not into labels I just love.

Rubbiish:

I am not happy with u

UyaiIncomparabl:


Lair lair, pants on fire!

As a 39 years old woman that you're, meeting a guy with such spec as you defined up there, you'll gladly and forever cling to his shirt. You'll even be a door mat for him to walk on. Don't tell us lies, please.

Stop living a lie!

Newton8:



Got some questions for you...but just gonna ask this first!
So, are you saying narcissists can't be in true love with their spouse/partner? Cause from all you noted, they seem to be very bad their love isn't genuine.

Deicide:
Narcissistic male are like cocaine to the female gender. Yes cocaine is harmful but they can't do without it

A guy would detect a Narcissist behavior from the female gender and he would run like hell but for women this is the moment they get closer cause they love it.

When the Narcissist finally leaves them they become bitter and angry

If you are a guy and you wanna get pǔssy, you want women to be your slave you wanna treat them like shit and get away with, you wanna have them come begging you like there is no tomorrow. I say be a NARCISSIST.

DanDeeBoss:
I am introverted too but not a sociopath....

wickedworld:
Pls run they are bad news. They lied about everything, they are manipulative, makes empty promises a lot, their attitude is different from what they say, they will use u to get another supply, down grade u in present of family and friends, always taking and when is time for them to give u will be discarded.

They will discardu for a new supply after 2 months they will be back as nothing happened. Their wrong is always ur fault because they are perfect. They like show off, brag a lot, womanise a lot, drama king, they are mean, heartless, frustrating, control freak, stubborn, u will always feel like walking on egg shell in relationship with them, relationship will them always end bad, they think u don't deserve them in their head.
Etc

Once u know u are dating narcissist play them back with the mind of discarding.