It takes two to tango… This is one of the most common relationship quotes people often use. It indicates that a relationship is all about togetherness.

A relationship will definitely succeed when both parties are committed to it. However, the relationship will die a natural death if only one person is putting all the effort while the other person is less concerned.

Most times, you may not know that you are putting too much effort into a relationship. Even though you are putting so much effort in your relationship out of love, there should be some positive reaction from the other party. After all, to whom much is given, from him much is expected.

Even though a successful relationship requires effort, the relationship itself should worth your effort. Otherwise, you will be wasting your time. To put it differently, your partner should be putting an equal amount of effort to the relationship.

Do you regularly surprise your partner expensive gifts and romantic dates, yet feel underappreciated? If yes, you are putting too much effort into the relationship. Below are some of the signs that you are putting too much effort into a relationship.

7 Signs That You Are Putting Too Much Effort In A Relationship

#1. You Always Feel Underappreciated

An appreciative partner is worth more than a million dollars. Yes, I mean it. When your partner appreciates you all the time, it grows the love and makes you put more effort. But if you constantly feel underappreciated, it is a red flag that you are putting too much effort in a relationship.

Well, sometimes your partner may be busy with work and may not really have time. You should understand situations like this, especially if it is not always. But if it persists, it is one of the signs that you are putting too much effort in a relationship.

#2. When Your Relationship Is More Of Work Than Reward

While there is no such word like “perfection” in a relationship, partners still share a good time together. It is normal for people to argue, fight and disagree in a relationship. And these same people will also have some nice and romantic time together. It is normal.

However, when the argument, fight, and disagreement outweigh the good and romantic time you spend together, it is an indication that you are putting too much effort in a relationship.

Even though building a relationship requires effort, it should worth all the effort you are putting. The compromises you make for your partner should give you rest of mind and happiness in return.

If this isn’t the case in your relationship, try to reevaluate things and know if your relationship is still worth your time and effort. If your partner that ought to have been your source of joy and happiness, has suddenly become a nightmare, that is a warning sign of exit.

#3. Your Needs Are Not Being Met

Everybody in a relationship has needs that need to be met. While you put in effort to make the relationship work, your partner should be able to meet your need. However, when these needs are left unmet, it is an indication that you are putting too much effort in the relationship.

#4. Your Partner Expect You To Fit In His/Her Life

It is common for people to take your effort for granted. When you do things for them regularly, they expect you to continue. If this is the case in your relationship, it could be an indication that you are putting too much efforts in a relationship.

#5. You Are Exhausted


Your relationship should motivate and energize you. It should give you endless joy, but when you are still bored and exhausted always in a relationship, you are putting too much effort.

The danger of putting too much effort in a relationship is the fact that your partner takes advantage of it. He or she will take your caring and kindness for stupidity and ignorance. If this is what your partner is fond of doing, trust me he or she doesn’t deserve your effort.

#6. Your Partner Doesn’t Make Out Time For You

It is a common experience in a relationship for your partner to give excuses of being busy. Oops! This is a scam. The trust is that nobody is actually too busy, it all about priority.

When your partner can’t make out time to be with you, it is a glaring sign that you are putting too much efforts in the relationship. If someone cares about you, he or she will make out time just to be with you.

It is foolhardy for you to be the only one putting all the effort in a relationship, why your partner keeps giving one excuse or the other. There is no way you can be happy in a relationship when there is no reciprocity in caring and attention.

#7. When Your Partner Manipulates You

Some partners are so manipulative in relationship. They always find their way around and make you unconsciously do things you ought not to have done. Sadly, most people out there are in a manipulative relationship without them knowing. You could be one of them.

When you start questioning your actions in a relationship, it could be an indication that you are putting too much effort in a relationship.

How To Stop Putting Too Much Effort In A Relationship

Nothing is as painful as your partner taking your kindness for granted. It makes you look foolish…

But you can still turn things around and be the superhero in your relationship. It’s all about knowing what to do and how to do it.

The first thing you should do is to discuss with your partner. Let them know that they aren’t putting the same amount of effort you are putting. This could help, but not all situation.

Again, let your partner know how much you love spending time with him and all the effort you are putting into the relationship. And inform them that you will feel appreciated if they can do same.

Source: http://www.24hoursreporter.com/2019/02/17/you-putting-much-effort-relationship/

Read Also; 7 Things That Make Couples Happy In Marriage===> http://www.24hoursreporter.com/2019/02/16/7-things-make-couples-happy-marriage/

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When you meet the right person, relationship becomes so sweet and easy, you have rest of mind and feel very appreciated.

Then you realize you have been wasting your previous time with the wrong people, giving love to people who are undeserving of it.

Valerie47:
When you meet the right person, relationship becomes so sweet and easy, you have rest of mind and feel very appreciated.

Then you realize you have been wasting your previous time with the wrong people, giving love to people who are undeserving of it.

True

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True that

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Good one but happiness is a choice, don't stay in a loveless relationship.

Wehdone, relationship experts.

No relationship is itch-free. It takes grace to keep/manage one successfully

Some people still don't believe love is a scam..the only true love is mother to child love.mothers can stand and be proud of you no matter your condition,but your wife or girlfriend will abandon or hate you when the thing that attracted them to you goes off.

If you are caught as an Armed robber ,at a point of trying to burn you alive your mother will cry for your rescue but at that point your wife or girlfriend will disappear out of shame.

True relationship shouldn't be an agreement,it should flow naturally.people go into agreement when they only want to exchange some thing,example;the man needs kids or sex from you while the woman wants money/material things and security.

I just love her/him unconditionally,this statement is a scam.

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We learn everyday

Aijaybaby123:
True that

Who proclaimed you a wife material?

When it seems forced

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vingeophysicist:
Who proclaimed you a wife material?

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the solution is simple:
1. put some distance between the two of you.
2. no more intimacy
3. reduce the home visits

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Galaticos444:
Buhari must go

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All these so called "Relationship experts" are usually the ones with the worst kind of Relationships plus frequent heartbreaks and divorce.

They usually write articles like the above to make their sense of guilt feel less submerging.