Wizklynd23:
Relationship issues
Bleep Love

val4sure:

My brother it's not easy ooo, it's giving me sleepless nights everyday

Mikaelson21:
Take a deep breath and relax...
Yes she is getting older, it's only normal family and external pressure will be all over her case, sadly in this part of the world that's what they do PRESSURE but she is the one who is gon stay in the marriage, obviously she loves you, I advice you both go and see the family, relax, before you start shouting you don't have the cash, this way by seeing the family together, she will introduce you as her fiancee, that's if the family hasn't know. Who you are all this while, so you both go, she introduce you, this way, it put a little break on the pressure nonsense, and stop the family from saying some so wrong with her, but that introduction, It could buy you a little more time, maybe let's say 6 months, I pray for you both sake, before then, let's business boom and God elevate you...
She too shouldn't be idle,let her find something doing, and also talk to God in prayers, I believe say na once person story dey change... Peace ✌

blackgold2018:
If this your story is actually 100% true. Nw my advise is you should have let her go from the beginning. It seems selfish of you taking her time or probably wasting her time till she's nw 28yrs.
I was in your shoes but I have to let her go even before our Nysc. Mind u a girl I dated right from our year one and also being her first love if u know what I mean.

I checked my time n found out i'l b in alot of pressure and also majorly considering her. She's nw happily married.
And you dey here dey waste person time. You r selfish and wicked.

Deicide:
So you want to raise the children you would have with her in poverty

val4sure:
Please nairalanders, I need advice on a pressing matter on my neck now, I will try and keep it very short.

There is this lady I have been dating way back during school days, we've known each other for ages, everybody knew us as the perfect couple then, until after our graduation, we passed out together last year from NYSC, after that reality sets in.

I searched for job, nothing was fort coming, I have to change plans and was introduced to an online business which am currently doing, with the business, I have been able to secure a self con apartment as a hustling guy, got it furnished and still doing the same business which has its good and bad times

The issue now is that my girlfriend is not getting any younger, both of us are going to be 28 years old this year and suitors has been flocking around recently to marry her

The issue now is that her family member thinks she is possessed by not accepting any of the suitors that is coming for her, everybody is on her neck to marry, the pressure on her body is just too much that the family members are conducting series of meetings all the time to know if something is wrong with her.

And the reason for her actions is all because of me and am not financially bouyant enough to be able to save her from the pressure by getting married to her now, business just started.

I love the girl so much that I really want to spend the rest of my life with her because she's a rare gem, never seen her type of woman before, but am worried also, no fund for such and I don't think asking her to keep on waiting for me is a good idea base on the pressure on her everyday.

Please nairalanders, am losing it seriously, I have asked so many of my friends for idea, different opinions from different people, please I seriously need advice on this case, what should I do in this situation.

greatnaija01:
WELL, there is good news?

TAKE A LOAN and marry. then payback. YOU CAN NOT AFFORD TO LOOSE HER O. You should have planned this from school days naaaa.... not all these things that now seem like a HURRY. ANYWAY... take a loan from here and there and marry... then payback while using contraceptives... once you have paid back u can now get her pregnant and raise kids.

If she too is jobless, kindly introduce her to the business too.

val4sure:
Please nairalanders, I need advice on a pressing matter on my neck now, I will try and keep it very short.

There is this lady I have been dating way back during school days, we've known each other for ages, everybody knew us as the perfect couple then, until after our graduation, we passed out together last year from NYSC, after that reality sets in.

I searched for job, nothing was fort coming, I have to change plans and was introduced to an online business which am currently doing, with the business, I have been able to secure a self con apartment as a hustling guy, got it furnished and still doing the same business which has its good and bad times

The issue now is that my girlfriend is not getting any younger, both of us are going to be 28 years old this year and suitors has been flocking around recently to marry her

The issue now is that her family member thinks she is possessed by not accepting any of the suitors that is coming for her, everybody is on her neck to marry, the pressure on her body is just too much that the family members are conducting series of meetings all the time to know if something is wrong with her.

And the reason for her actions is all because of me and am not financially bouyant enough to be able to save her from the pressure by getting married to her now, business just started.

I love the girl so much that I really want to spend the rest of my life with her because she's a rare gem, never seen her type of woman before, but am worried also, no fund for such and I don't think asking her to keep on waiting for me is a good idea base on the pressure on her everyday.

Please nairalanders, am losing it seriously, I have asked so many of my friends for idea, different opinions from different people, please I seriously need advice on this case, what should I do in this situation.

val4sure:

My brother it's not easy ooo, it's giving me sleepless nights everyday

Mikaelson21:
Take a deep breath and relax...
Yes she is getting older, it's only normal family and external pressure will be all over her case, sadly in this part of the world that's what they do PRESSURE but she is the one who is gon stay in the marriage, obviously she loves you, I advice you both go and see the family, relax, before you start shouting you don't have the cash, this way by seeing the family together, she will introduce you as her fiancee, that's if the family hasn't know. Who you are all this while, so you both go, she introduce you, this way, it put a little break on the pressure nonsense, and stop the family from saying some so wrong with her, but that introduction, It could buy you a little more time, maybe let's say 6 months, I pray for you both sake, before then, let's business boom and God elevate you...
She too shouldn't be idle,let her find something doing, and also talk to God in prayers, I believe say na once person story dey change... Peace ✌

Rosay15:
... You really made a valid point... D only tin I don't understand is why people put pressure on single ladies to go and marry especially wen dey are at the age of 25 and above... I swear its doesn't worth it...
Op shd just take dis advice.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Tell that to our society. Perhaps they've seen a wealthy suitor and u know parents always want d best for their kids. If the op and his gf can peservere through this trying time, good for them. I just pray they don't rush into anything that will cause resentments later.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Tell that to our society. Perhaps they've seen a wealthy suitor and u know parents always want d best for their kids. If the op and his gf can peservere through this trying time, good for them. I just pray they don't rush into anything that will cause resentments later.