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Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Hdanny(m): 9:30am On Mar 08, 2019
Actually I just finished my NYSC last year, in the process of getting a job just to survive through the days, I met this babe early last month, I walked to her and we talked, in the process I got to know few things about her which I confirmed she’s a new corper posted to my area


I invited her to my house that same day which she obliged, she sat on the bed and we talked a little before she said she wanna leave, she was about to leave then she turned and kissed me, I was so surprised cause I never saw that coming, well I kissed her back. To cut the chase, I invited her to my house the following day, we discussed some things and she confessed that she broke up while in school and immediately she saw me the day we met, she felt LOVE back.


As a hussling guy that just finished service am not ready for this but I have to play along so as not to turn her down, now here is the problem.

This corper is a VIRGIN, yes which i confirmed, now am getting into her which is normal but I can’t resist my urge when it comes to cuddling and romancing her, even in the process before I touch her pant she would have stripped everything off herself unclad, but it’s not easy for me seeing her and not hitting it but she always turn me down. Now this is getting out of hand for me

She always say am gonna drop her once I hit it, but am not that kind of guy, brothers and sisters am not ready to get married this year or next year not even in next three years, so guys should I drop this girl and let her go, cause am not the type that do double date, I see that as shiit but she not gonna allow me in just only romance and she’s ok with that once she reach her orgasm.

I’m not a sex addict but I can’t have my girlfriend around and can’t touch her once in a month or even in two months, that’s crazy for me. We are still getting to know ourselves more tho but that’s what she want, romance and no sex till marriage.
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Nobody: 9:34am On Mar 08, 2019
Hdanny:
Actually I just finished my NYSC last year, in the process of getting a job just to survive through the days, I met this babe early last month, I walked to her and we talked, in the process I got to know few things about her which I confirmed she’s a new corper posted to my area


I invited her to my house that same day which she obliged, she sat on the bed and we talked a little before she said she wanna leave, she was about to leave then she turned and kissed me, I was so surprised cause I never saw that coming, well I kissed her back. To cut the chase, I invited her to my house the following day, we discussed some things and she confessed that she broke up while in school and immediately she saw me the day we met, she felt LOVE back.


As a hussling guy that just finished service am not ready for this but I have to play along so as not to turn her down, now here is the problem.

This corper is a VIRGIN, yes which i confirmed, now am getting into her which is normal but I can’t resist my urge when it comes to cuddling and romancing her, even in the process before I touch her pant she would have stripped everything off herself unclad, but it’s not easy for me seeing her and not hitting it but she always turn me down. Now this is getting out of hand for me

She always say am gonna drop her once I hit it, but am not that kind of guy, brothers and sisters am not ready to get married this year or next year not even in next three years, so guys should I drop this girl and let her go, cause am not the type that do double date, I see that as shiit but she not gonna allow me in just only romance and she’s ok with that once she reach her orgasm.

I’m not a sex addict but I can’t have my girlfriend around and can’t touch her once in a month or even in two months, that’s crazy for me. We are still getting to know ourselves more tho but that’s what she want, romance and no sex till marriage.





Marry her then hit it

You have entered the same trap that have caught millions of men from time immemorial.
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by 2dice01: 9:40am On Mar 08, 2019
Guy want sex

Girl want romance

Well she only need assurance that you will not leave her when you hit it
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Oyindidi(f): 9:40am On Mar 08, 2019
Don't hit it without a ring on her finger.

Donstan18 see watin you dey find
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Davash222(m): 9:41am On Mar 08, 2019
One of the reasons I can’t date a virgin. The importance of sexx to me cannot be overemphasized. If I fall in love with you, I’m also going to establish a sexual intimacy with you. Love and sexx is connected, if you love someone, you’ll be sexually attracted to the person.
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Davash222(m): 9:43am On Mar 08, 2019
Oyindidi:
Don't hit it without a rig on her finger.

Donstan18 see watin you dey find
How do you mean The guy that hit you first, did he insert a ring first before hitting you

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Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by donstan18: 9:44am On Mar 08, 2019
Lol. You just finished your NYSC and you are planning on how to break a woman's hymen instead of breaking into success with your hustles. Smh!

My Gee! Let's reason this matter on a street levelz via jakpa parolz under koom-koom way!

You be guy, I be guy. We both know you don't love or give a damn about that lady except her pussay. You are not planning to marry her neither are you planing to care about her after popping that cherry. You just want a sex partner to keep chilling off with while you keep hustle going.

Please Bruv, virgin-ladies are not best for what you need. There are ladies everywhere with lagoon pussay looking for men to swim, those are the kind of ladies you need, not a virgin lady who has been able to keep herself till now. She wants love, care, support and a friend. And these, are things you can never give her after sleeping with her.

In my opinion; I will advise you to Desist from her, so that you don't end up ruining all her moral efforts and leaving her trashed after popping that cherry.

Biko! Free am go look for ladies with lagoon pussay abeg!

My respect for virgin ladies na 101%.

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Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by greatnaija01: 9:46am On Mar 08, 2019
BRODA... you DO NOT KNOW what KIND OF GUY YOU ARE O.... until you HIT IT..... stop painting yourself RIGHTEOUS OR WITH INTEGRITY..... if you wanna HIT IT without marriage, THEN YOUR INTEGRITY and DISCIPLINE is questionable.

Shey SHE MET YOU SINGLE but you too are not a virgin.... SO THE OTHER GIRL YOU HAD IN YOUR PAST, DIDNT YOU HIT IT HARD ON HER and STILL LEFT HER? whatever the excuse you used to leave her..... YOU DIDNT HAVE THE EXCUSE BEFORE SEX.


See, after you have disvirgined this one, YOUR EYES WILL OPEN LIKE ADAM AND EVEN and you will notice things you do not like and the things may irritate you and you MAY grow weak and reluctant to MARRY HER.

Don't start what you are not ready to FINISH. GET A JOB OR BUSINESS and take good care of yourself first then allow her have her own MONEY or BUSINESS else she will RUIN YOUR POCKET directly or out of sympathy.

BE WISE and ZIP UP.
Don't lie to yourself..... else one day you may tell her ITS ONLY THE TIP you want to PUT INSIDE.... and BOOOOOOM... u have finished her..... see CHECK YOURSELF... you both are merely INFATUATED..... nothing about your story depicts TRUE LOVE.


LOVE is PATIENT.

Hdanny:
Actually I just finished my NYSC last year, in the process of getting a job just to survive through the days, I met this babe early last month, I walked to her and we talked, in the process I got to know few things about her which I confirmed she’s a new corper posted to my area


I invited her to my house that same day which she obliged, she sat on the bed and we talked a little before she said she wanna leave, she was about to leave then she turned and kissed me, I was so surprised cause I never saw that coming, well I kissed her back. To cut the chase, I invited her to my house the following day, we discussed some things and she confessed that she broke up while in school and immediately she saw me the day we met, she felt LOVE back.


As a hussling guy that just finished service am not ready for this but I have to play along so as not to turn her down, now here is the problem.

This corper is a VIRGIN, yes which i confirmed, now am getting into her which is normal but I can’t resist my urge when it comes to cuddling and romancing her, even in the process before I touch her pant she would have stripped everything off herself unclad, but it’s not easy for me seeing her and not hitting it but she always turn me down. Now this is getting out of hand for me

She always say am gonna drop her once I hit it, but am not that kind of guy, brothers and sisters am not ready to get married this year or next year not even in next three years, so guys should I drop this girl and let her go, cause am not the type that do double date, I see that as shiit but she not gonna allow me in just only romance and she’s ok with that once she reach her orgasm.

I’m not a sex addict but I can’t have my girlfriend around and can’t touch her once in a month or even in two months, that’s crazy for me. We are still getting to know ourselves more tho but that’s what she want, romance and no sex till marriage.

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Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Nobody: 9:47am On Mar 08, 2019
Guys can dull ehn!!!

Bro. So far she’s offing her clothes by herself. Just bone her for some days, even when she comes don’t agree to her romance anymore. If she’s curious to know why you acting that way, tell her say you wan fvck. Tell her you can’t be romancing all the time and having a boner all through, then suggest she gives you a very good BJ after every romance or she allow you fvck the damn pvssy, make every body for enjoy and Dey satisfied.


How you con take confirm virgin wey you never shuuk penls? undecided
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Oyindidi(f): 9:47am On Mar 08, 2019
Davash222:

How do you mean The guy that hit you first, did he insert a ring first before hitting you
When I get my first hit and now no be the same. I know better now.

Most of una na hit and run na im we dey give girls that advice, if you no go put ring take your small balls to pay-as-you-go
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by ShinqRambq: 9:48am On Mar 08, 2019
You would not be needing all this damned advice from worse lots if you had gone to your parents to select a wife for you instead you choose to have a girlfriend and you are not even ashamed to say you invited a girl not married nor bethroted to you to your home and she even touched your bed,that is tantamount to sex and it is a sacrilege in your case
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Nobody: 9:49am On Mar 08, 2019
Play along. It's a gradual process you need to assure her you will not dump her afterwards. I read somewhere that at the mention of marriage pants starts to drop smiley
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by 2dice01: 9:52am On Mar 08, 2019
Oyindidi:
When I get my first hit and now no be the same. I know better now.

Most of una na hit and run na im we dey give girls that advice, if you no go put ring take your small balls to pay-as-you-go
grin grin

Easy lioness

We never reach this level na
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Davash222(m): 9:52am On Mar 08, 2019
Oyindidi:
When I get my first hit and now no be the same. I know better now.

Most of una na hit and run na im we dey give girls that advice, if you no go put ring take your small balls to pay-as-you-go
So, you even had first hit without a ring and you are advising someone to put a ring before hitting Interesting
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Oyindidi(f): 9:55am On Mar 08, 2019
Davash222:

So, you even had first hit without a ring and you are advising someone to put a ring before hitting Interesting
Davash, go use Pay-As-You-Go grin

Why the put a ring dey pain you like this? No wet my mention with your tears biko.
2dice01:
grin grin

Easy lioness

We never reach this level na
Lol, no mind me jare. Girls supporting girls
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Nobody: 9:59am On Mar 08, 2019
Guy, you better hit that damn pussy before someone else does. I no wan hear sey ur babe lost her virginity to a total stranger oo. Babe wey dey off clothes for you everytime...

Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Hdanny(m): 10:02am On Mar 08, 2019
[quote author=2dice01 post=76455182]Guy want sex

Girl want romance

Well she only need assurance that you will not leave her when you hit it


I understand bro, but she has no idea how i feel when I got erected while she turn me down and she get herself satisfied.
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Hdanny(m): 10:03am On Mar 08, 2019
2dice01:
Guy want sex

Girl want romance

Well she only need assurance that you will not leave her when you hit it



Sometimes I do feel she use me just get herself satisfied while am not.
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by grad2012(f): 10:07am On Mar 08, 2019
Wait have you told her you not ready to get married anytime soon?
If not please tell her before sex in other for her to know what she's getting into or just stick to what's she want which is romance.
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by 2dice01: 10:08am On Mar 08, 2019
[quote author=Hdanny post=76455798][/quote]and who told you she is satisfied angry


She only want to be sure you are worth it

You know that's Her Pride

The relationship is still young let her see you as someone who isnt only about her body but her soul and well-being in General



Las Las na you go run for sex cool
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Hdanny(m): 10:11am On Mar 08, 2019
Oyindidi:
Don't hit it without a ring on her finger.

Donstan18 see watin you dey find

I hope 99% of them got that before getting deflowered.

What will be will surely be, without ring or not wink
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by 2dice01: 10:12am On Mar 08, 2019
Oyindidi:

Lol, no mind me jare. Girls supporting girls

Defender of life angry

The girl might even want him to man up.. But as e dey slow.. The bae will just lockup full-time cheesy
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Hdanny(m): 10:16am On Mar 08, 2019
ceeroh:
Guy, you better hit that damn pussy before someone else does. I no wan hear sey ur babe lost her virginity to a total stranger oo. Babe wey dey off clothes for you everytime...

You are correct bro, I think of that always but I wouldn’t want to do it in hard way, she has to surrender herself for it and most times she complained about the pain and the tendency of leading to pregnancy.
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Nobody: 10:16am On Mar 08, 2019
This is a simple sturv na,if she says no sex before marriage...so be it.
And if you can't be in a relationship without shagging...spell it out to her and stop wasting her time.
Left to me,i would have taken to my heels the moment I discovered she's a virgin because

1.i wouldn't want to take her pride away when i'm not ready to marry her...except i'm conscienceless.

2.virgins are too stressful(this is personal)
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Hdanny(m): 10:23am On Mar 08, 2019
morningstar55:
This is a simple sturv na,if she says no sex before marriage...so be it.
And if you can't be in a relationship without shagging...spell it out to her and stop wasting her time.
Left to me,i would have taken to my heels the moment I discovered she's a virgin because

1.i wouldn't want to take her pride away when i'm not ready to marry her...except i'm conscienceless.

2.virgins are too stressful(this is personal)
Well said bro, I explained everything to her, I even mentioned that I can’t marry a virgin, I can’t, I was forced to tell her when she keeps turning me down and I could see the confusion on her face when I said it

She just said she gonna think about it.....she came back a week after that and did the same thing. She saw the anger in me bro.
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Newboss(m): 10:23am On Mar 08, 2019
Dude, grow some balls and fūck her. Most of us have been there and we fūcked without any fūcking marriage.

Virginity shouldn't be used as a bargaining chip. Make her understand that angry
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Raalsalghul: 10:25am On Mar 08, 2019
Hdanny:
Actually I just finished my NYSC last year, in the process of getting a job just to survive through the days, I met this babe early last month, I walked to her and we talked, in the process I got to know few things about her which I confirmed she’s a new corper posted to my area


I invited her to my house that same day which she obliged, she sat on the bed and we talked a little before she said she wanna leave, she was about to leave then she turned and kissed me, I was so surprised cause I never saw that coming, well I kissed her back. To cut the chase, I invited her to my house the following day, we discussed some things and she confessed that she broke up while in school and immediately she saw me the day we met, she felt LOVE back.


As a hussling guy that just finished service am not ready for this but I have to play along so as not to turn her down, now here is the problem.

This corper is a VIRGIN, yes which i confirmed, now am getting into her which is normal but I can’t resist my urge when it comes to cuddling and romancing her, even in the process before I touch her pant she would have stripped everything off herself unclad, but it’s not easy for me seeing her and not hitting it but she always turn me down. Now this is getting out of hand for me

She always say am gonna drop her once I hit it, but am not that kind of guy, brothers and sisters am not ready to get married this year or next year not even in next three years, so guys should I drop this girl and let her go, cause am not the type that do double date, I see that as shiit but she not gonna allow me in just only romance and she’s ok with that once she reach her orgasm.

I’m not a sex addict but I can’t have my girlfriend around and can’t touch her once in a month or even in two months, that’s crazy for me. We are still getting to know ourselves more tho but that’s what she want, romance and no sex till marriage.





Use protection.
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Nobody: 10:31am On Mar 08, 2019
Hdanny:


You are correct bro, I think of that always but I wouldn’t want to do it in hard way, she has to surrender herself for it and most times she complained about the pain and the tendency of leading to pregnancy.

Lubricate and prevent pregnancy, you should know how.
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Hdanny(m): 10:35am On Mar 08, 2019
donstan18:
Lol. You just finished your NYSC and you are planning on how to break a woman's hymen instead of breaking into success with your hustles. Smh!

My Gee! Let's reason this matter on a street levelz via jakpa parolz under koom-koom way!

You be guy, I be guy. We both know you don't love or give a damn about that lady except her pussay. You are not planning to marry her neither are you planing to care about her after popping that cherry. You just want a sex partner to keep chilling off with while you keep hustle going.

Please Bruv, virgin-ladies are not best for what you need. There are ladies everywhere with lagoon pussay looking for men to swim, those are the kind of ladies you need, not a virgin lady who has been able to keep herself till now. She wants love, care, support and a friend. And these, are things you can never give her after sleeping with her.

In my opinion; I will advise you to Desist from her, so that you don't end up ruining all her moral efforts and leaving her trashed after popping that cherry.

Biko! Free am go look for ladies with lagoon pussay abeg!

My respect for virgin ladies na 101%.
I swear you just said my mind, but I won’t lie to you, I only need sex mate while I keep my head straight for the hussle but I gave it a re-think, is not bad I have a girlfriend while I face hussle cause I don’t do hoes bro, I just wanna focus on a girl.

Now she seems to be a good girl which I can keep and she has plans too. But I think the best is to just let her go cause I don’t think I can cope with that sex till marriage thing.

Thanks for this advice bro
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by Hdanny(m): 10:44am On Mar 08, 2019
grad2012:
Wait have you told her you not ready to get married anytime soon?
If not please tell her before sex in other for her to know what she's getting into or just stick to what's she want which is romance.

Yeah, she said she’s not ready too that she wanna go for her masters and other things like that.

You know most times I feel she only use me to get herself satisfied while am not cause it hard to control it when I got erected.

She loves me no doubt about it but I can’t cope with that no sex till marriage.
Re: Need Serious Advice From Mature Minds On My Relationship by grad2012(f): 11:13am On Mar 08, 2019
Hdanny:


Yeah, she said she’s not ready too that she wanna go for her masters and other things like that.

You know most times I feel she only use me to get herself satisfied while am not cause it hard to control it when I got erected.

She loves me no doubt about it but I can’t cope with that no sex till marriage.
like it's a little complicated, If you love her strong enough to cope then stay since you said she loves you but if you cant cope i advise you break up, cause if this goes on and you keep getting hard you wont be able to control it one day you might have her with force.
Its like playing with a dogs tail.
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