This group is for MATURE singles and COUPLES. It's an uncommon group to learn about your sexuality, spirituality, laws of attraction, godly dating, excellent courtship, blissful marriage. How to be UNCOMMON, fulfilling your destiny, getting blessed, being a blessing to the needy, walking in dominion in very area of your life. Living in abundance, prosperity and wealth! As you learn along with us,your life will never remain the same. We love you! Welcome to USAC!!!


Host: Seun Oladele.

Marriage is built on commitment not emotions. If you lack self discipline to do what must be done whether you feel like it or not, you are not ready for marriage. Marriage is very far from you!

HIGH SEXUAL PERFORMANCE IN MARRIAGE
Depends on how you make your wife feel not how big your penis is. Make her feel good, loved, needed, cherished and adored and you will enjoy stress without stress. I hope you understand?

HIGH SEXUAL PERFORMANCE IN MARRIAGE

Depends on how you make your wife feel not how big your penis is. Make her feel good, loved, needed, cherished and adored and you will enjoy stress without stress. I hope you understand?

When a woman combines brain, beauty, character and virginity, she becomes a very hot cake for eligible bachelors. How "hot" are you?

SO SHE SNATCHED YOUR HUSBAND

Look, your husband is not a baby. No one can "snatch" him without his permission.

Some women see their husband as a little weakling who has no brain of his own and can't think at all. They see him as an idiot who is too weak to resist any female attention so they swing into action to "protect" him by searching his phone, probing him, eyeing every female that hangs around him and caging him. No, they can't cage him 24/7. They pay cheap gossips at his office to monitor his every movement and eventually develop hypertension! Look, you will just kill yourself!

No one can snatch your husband like a handbag at Oshodi market. No one can steal your husband unless he is beaten to a state of comma and carried off. No woman can make him leave you unless he wants to. All these crap I hear from women that "My husband is innocent. He sat on his own when the lady came to meet him, seduced him, use juju on him and made him marry her" gets me worked up.

He slept with her because he WANTED to, period! She was able to seduce him because he WELCOMED her. If he said NO, she would stop dead in her track. He married her because he was sick and tired of your boring marriage and wanted something new and exciting, it's as simple as that.

You can't keep a man hell bent on straying. If he didn't do it with Ngozi, he will definitely run away with Bintu. A cheat will cheat whether you police him or not.

What you need to do is work on your marriage. Make your self so indispensable in your husband's life that no woman can snatch him. When a man is thoroughly satisfied at home, who is the witch that will carry him off?

When you totally adore him, creatively seduce him, generously feed him, lavishly make love to him, excessively forgive him, graciously accept his weaknesses, totally befriend him, completely trust him and ceaselessly pray for him, which woman from the pit of hell wants to carry your husband off?

Women will do well to focus on real things and stop chasing shadows. A successful marriage is not built on wishful thinking but HARDWORK. You can't fold your arms and let things slide only to wake up when another woman is chasing your husband.

Give your husband your best and he will not allow any woman to snatch him from you.

God bless.
© Seun Oladele, 2017; reposted, 2019.

SERIOUS QUESTIONS YOU MUST ASK THAT LADY BEFORE YOU MARRY HER

Marriage is not a joke! Who you marry determines how your life eventually turns out. Your rising or crashing in life is determined the day you walk down the aisle with that woman so you can't afford to pick another man's bone. Here are the questions you must ask to see if your marital destiny is going towards the same direction.

1. WHAT IS HER VISION? Your wife must help you fulfil your vision that is why she is called an help-meet. If her dream is to become an international super nude model while your dream is to become a local full time Pastor, you will to do well to end the relationship!

2. IS SHE REALLY BORN AGAIN? Forget about religion. I'm talking about Christ-like behavior, attitude and character. Some ladies can tie scarf 24/7 yet the poison in them is deadlier than the serpent's! If her character does not tally with that of a true child of God, you need to do a re-think!

3. IS SHE A VIRGIN OR NOT? You should find out to know what to expect on the wedding night and how to prepare for it.

4. DOES SHE HAVE AN EX? And what led to the break up so she won't repeat the same mistake in your relationship. If she still keeps a close relationship with her EX, she needs to choose between you and him. No rivalry is allowed in any relationship that will last.

5. HAS SHE BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSED/ ASSAULTED/RAPED? Abused women have complicated emotions and relationships. They suffer unexplainable mood swings, depression, paranoia and in extreme cases psychosis and neurosis. They seriously have anger and trust issues. You need to find out so you can know how to relate with her in marriage. Better still, she needs to go for therapy before marriage.

6. DOES SHE HAVE A CHILD IN HER PAST? You must accept her child as your own now that you are getting married to her. If you can't and she insists her child must live with her in marriage, you don't belong together. End the relationship!

7. WHAT DOES MARRIAGE MEAN TO HER? Real marriage means companionship, deep sharing and friendship. If all she wants to do is have sex, cook and bear your children, she is not ready for marriage, both of you should go for counseling.

8. WHAT DOES SUBMISSION TO A HUSBAND MEANS TO HER? A wife must submit to her husband as the head in marriage. That is what the Holy Book says. If she is a feminist and you hate feminism with passionate hatred, you don't belong together, end the relationship!

9. DOES SHE BELIEVE IN WORKING AFTER MARRIAGE OR SHE WANTS TO BE A FULL TIME HOUSE WIFE? Iron this out so you won't be shocked if she resigned from her job after her first pregnancy and refuse to do anything else aside cooking and bearing children.

10. WILL ANY OF HER FAMILY MEMBERS BE LIVING WITH YOU AFTER MARRIAGE? Talk. Find out if you can cope with her siblings or parents living with you immediately after wedding. If you honestly can't, talk about it!

11. WHAT IS HER VIEW ABOUT MONEY? Some women believe money is meant to be spent while some believed it is to be saved. A lot of others believe in accumulating liabilities. Though the right way to handle money is earn, save, invest and give. Spending should follow budget. What is your own way of handling money? Make sure your view on money tallies lest you end up in the divorce court few years after marriage.

These and more are the serious questions you should ask your partner before saying "I DO". Amos 3:3 is a proof of God's will.

If you claim you heard God and both of you are not ending the same direction, you need to pray again. God's will is not an excuse to walk in foolishness.

Yes, you must marry God's will for your life and your God's will must give you peace. If you are scared, troubled and your relationship is going no where to happen, end it before it ends you.

May the Lord grant you understanding. Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 201; reposted, 2019.

WRONG REASONS PEOPLE HAVE SEX!

1. SHE DIDN'T DRESS WELL SO I HAD TO SLEEP WITH HER. That's nonsense! Will you sleep with a badly dressed mad woman with a double barrel gun? You had sex with her because you lack self control, period!

2. I HAD SEX WITH HIM BECAUSE WE HAD CHEMISTRY! And when the Biology happens, you start reading Economics to take care of the baby, you are simply not serious!

3. HE SPONSORS MY EDUCATION, I NEED TO APPRECIATE HIM. Prostitutes also appreciate men for paying for their meals and bills. What's the difference between you both?

4. SHE ASKED ME FOR SEX. What happened to your mouth? Can't you open it and say a clean clear no? Nonsense!

5 HE ALWAYS ASK FOR SEX. So what? Men will always ask you for sex, stop making a big deal out of it. Simply say NO and walk out on the son of Satan!

6. HE IS MY FIANCE. So what? Has he married you? What if he dumps you tomorrow? You become a used and dumped! How many guys do you want to have sex with in your life time?

7. WE SLEEP TOGETHER ON THESAME BED BECAUSE SHE IS MY FIANCEE. You are a thief! You are stealing sex from someone whose bride price you have not paid. Will you be happy if some man you do not know "service" your daughter in darkness without showing you honour as a father? No bride price, no wedding, nothing, except a protruding tummy, few months after she met you. You throw the innocent father into perpetual shame forever! You deserve to be flogged!

8. I AM NOT A VIRGIN. And so? That is not an excuse to jump from bed to bed like a frog!

9. MY FIANCE'S FAMILY WANTS ME TO GET PREGNANT BEFORE WE GET MARRIED so you disobeyed God to please a family who have no single respect for God and His word because you want to wear a wedding ring! Welcome, the devil himself is already your father-in-law!

10. IF I DON'T GIVE HIM SEX, HE WILL MARRY SOMEONE ELSE. So you are nothing but a intimacy gadget or sexual machine to him? No value whatsoever for your personality, talent, dream and vision. Come on girl, where is your brain? Use it and get out of that sick relationship!

These and more are the wrong reasons people have sex today and get battered and broken when the relationship eventually hit the rocks. Relationships built on pre-marital sex don't last. Even if you marry each other, one or both of you is prone to committing adultery thereby jeopardizing the peace and love in your marriage.

Avoiding pre-marital sex is the smart choice you will make. It helps you build the self control you need to succeed in life and marriage. Say NO to premarital sex and start your life on the foundation of purity, godliness and virtue. The benefits far our weigh the pains of pre-marital sex. You will be glad you waited. Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele.

NO EXCUSE!

When I was single, I like every where to be in perfect order before I prayed. My bed well laid, my chairs and table well arranged. Television and video off, no food on the cooker, light off and get enveloped in a nice sweet communion with the Lord. Worship song, speak in tongues, pray, read my Bible, pray, speak in tongues, worship the Lord and round off.

Marriage has changed my routine. If I chose to try that in marriage, my spiritual life will die a painful death! With my first son very active and always asking endless questions from morning till night and my second son always chirping, disturbing his brother who keeps reporting and shouting in his high pitch soprano voice and the endless demand for food: breakfast, lunch and dinner plus snacks in between talk less of the toilet and bathroom demands, house chores, personal business, projects, vision and ministry and then yes, giving the President of the Adewunmi Oladele country his due attention, no more time for spiritual exercise but THAT IS NOT AN EXCUSE!

The Bible says "pray without ceasing", "pray at all times..." Marriage is beautiful. It makes our lives better not worse! It's not an excuse to go into the cooler at all. We must keep growing. Our relationship with the Lord must get deeper, higher and wider so every avenue to pray must be explored.

I now pray anywhere I'm chanced. While my son is eating, I pray. Admist my toddler's chirping which provides the background music to my prayers, I pray. I tell my first son to keep quiet when I'm praying and pray. Now, he joins me voluntarily to pray too. In the kitchen, on the road, in the toilet, bathroom, anywhere I'm free, I pray.

Every time I see Bible apps, I download different versions on my phone and read. Hubby plays audio bible we listen to every morning instead of the sad news raking the country! I listen to audio Bible on my phone too.

When singles tell me they struggle to grow spiritually, I just wonder what they use all the time to do.

Now is the time to maximize your time with the Lord, there is no excuse for spiritual death. Don't wait for a perfect time. There is no perfect time any where! Don't wait till you are on the mountain. Don't wait till you are in church. Pray every time and every where. Pray on the road with your eyes opened. Pray in the bus in your heart, pray in the toilet, bathroom, market and everywhere. Keep your heart in tune with the Lord. Enter 2018 with your heart filled with the Lord's presence. You don't have to be a spiritual super star or pray for several hours before the Lord hears you. As long as you have faith and your heart is in it, you will grow. From 1 minute prayers to 5 minutes to 30 minutes and to hours, one day you will look back and realize you are no longer where you used to be spiritually.

May your spiritual life never die with marriage! Jesus always cares. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017; reposted, 2019.

LET HIM GO!

Whether virgin or not, we all have our pasts, marry someone who can accept your past and love you just the way you are.

There are virgins who have stolen or fought dirty in the past, no matter how strong your virginity is, some men can't marry an ex thief or street fighter.

There are non-virgins more gentle than lambs and will never hurt a soul that some can't marry simply because she has no hymen.

No one is a saint! "For all have sinned..." is what the Bible says. Marry someone who understands your past, believes in your future and accepts your today just the way you are.

Baby, if he can't do all these and you can't be yourself around him, loose him and let him go. HE IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND!
© Seun Oladele.

May your marriage last till old age. May honey not finish in your moon.

THE CONSEQUENCE OF UNCONTROLLED SEXUAL DESIRES
Your sexual desire must be controlled before marriage. If you do not deal with your sexual desire, you will explore it and here are the consequences you will face:

1. Guilt. Nothing creates guilt more than dirty thoughts, masturbation, petting, kissing and all forms of romancing and the king of them all, pre-marital sex.
2. Low self esteem: premarital sex is a number one self esteem killers.
3. Addiction to porn, masturbation and sex which in turn makes you a public property: you sleep with every Tom, Dick and Harry on the street.
4. Shame.
5. Fear: fear of being caught, STDs, unwanted pregnancy, abortion, rejection, etc.
5. Demonic possession.
6. Transference of spirits from the people you slept with to you.
7. Soul tie.
8. Spiritual spouse.
9. Mental dullness.
10. Low intelligence/poor academic performance.
11. HIV/AIDS, Gonorrhea and other STDs.
12. Unwanted pregnancy.
13. Forced marriage as a result of unwanted pregnancy.
14. Backwardness in life.
15. Spiritual weakness.
16. Spiritual death.
You will not fall into sexual sins in Jesus' name. If you are already addicted, the power of the Lord will deliver you in full force in Jesus' name! Those of you crying secretly over your sins, receive the power to break free right now, in the mighty name of Jesus!
© Seun Oladele.

YES, YOU SHOULD FEEL BAD...

A girl will just get up from a guy's bed and come crying she made a "mistake". When you rebuke her for sleeping over in a man's house, she will tell you to stop "condemning" her, you are making her feel bad, Christ forgives us all our mistakes, the past is gone and all those silly excuses some lousy singles give that wants to make me sound them serious thunderous slaps!

You carry her on your laps while speaking in "tongues" and end up impregnating her. You don't want to feel bad for defiling the daughter of two ageing parents who are struggling to feed their children and send them to school! You shatter their dreams and make them shed endless tears and you want me to pat your back and say "There is now no condemnation to them who are in Christ Jesus." Was Christ Jesus in you when you were removing her pants? You deserve serious lashes and endless reminder of how completely irresponsible, shameless and thoughtless you are!

You threw your virginity to the dogs and you don't want any body to correct you. Whenever you hear virginity, that's when you jump and start screaming, "we all make mistakes", " everybody has a past", "character is more important than virginity", " don't condemn those who are not virgins", "we are all new in Christ Jesus", etc. And so? Who asked you to throw your own virginity away? Why do you feel so pained and ashamed when we praise virgins?

We live in an age where people don't want to take correction anymore. Correction is seen as condemnation! You don't want to feel bad for doing what is bad! You want to feel good on top of another man's wife, under another woman's husband, while kissing and romancing a boy friend/girl friend, fiance/fiancee. You want me to pat your back and say "Ride on, Christ will forgive you the moment you get orgasm" Are you okay?

Is there no where it is written in your bible that "Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound?"

God is loving and forgiving, we all know, yet "He is a consuming fire!" That is why there is a hell fire! Is that not in your Bible?

Jesus was so gentle, yes! Didn't he flog irresponsible "men of God" and their followers out of the temple? Was that part torn out of your Bible?

Is it not written in your Bible that "God is not mocked for whatsoever a man sows, same shall he reap?" You sow fornication and abortion, you will reap shame and dishonor, there is nothing you can do about it. Jesus will forgive you, but your hymen won't supernaturally go back!

The damaged womb as a result of abortions will take serious fasting and prayers to carry babies.

You sleep around, you will get shame and dishonor if you don't repent. If you like, continue, your suffering is waiting for you in future!

You need a measure of hurt and pain to change! John C. Maxwell said, "People don't change until they hurt enough. When you keep from feeling the hurt and pain sin causes, your conscience is sealed and you are heading towards destruction! When I feel really bad and hurt as a result of something negative I do, I quickly change so I won't feel the painful, heart wrenching consequence any more! I easily feel pained when I err but I don't dwell on the pain. I ask for forgiveness immediately and forget it right there or sooner.

Yes, Christ forgives us all our sins and wipes are past (2 Corinthians 5:17; 1saiah 43: 18-23). We should not feel condemnation if we GENUINELY repent and do not go back to your vomit (Romans 8:1). That is the key word: REPENT and don't go back. Don't dwell on your sins. Dwelling on the mistake without correcting it brings endless shame, guilt and condemnation. Forget it, DON'T GO BACK and move on! That is real Christianity!


But if you keep having sex like crazy, committing all manner of atrocities: stealing, telling lies, flirting, dirty chats, gossiping and all sins you can mention of don't come and disturb those who are keeping themselves and make them feel bad for choosing to stay pure and not defile themselves. You chose to go astray, enjoy the consequence alone, that's your choice!

We all shall reap what we sow. You sow sin and immorality,shall bear the consequence full scale. May your understanding be opened!

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2019.

ARISE WOMEN AND HOLD THE HANDS OF YOUR LITTLE GIRLS!!!! HIDE THEM IN YOUR SKIRT IF POSSIBLE IN YOUR BRA!!!

A week ago a 13 Year old girl was found pregnant but she didn't know who impregnated her. But I will tell you the truth she was raped by someone nearby and threatened not to report.

When Doctors conducted tests on her they found she was not a virgin meaning someone had been sexually abusing her.

Just yesterday another story of 13 year old who was staying with her uncle was found raped and killed.

Listen, If a man can remove the diaper of a 6 days old baby clamp the little baby's feet and rape her what would stop them from raping a 13 year old little girl??

The quicker we realize that we are living in a rotten society the better for our girls.

Even at school the girls are raped by male teachers.

Even at church the girls are raped by Pastors and Church Elders even Papas.

Even at home the girls are raped by brothers, uncle's, fathers, grandfather's, nephews and male workers.

Worse of even at the police station the girls are raped right there by male police officers.

As a Prophet of God my job is to alert you and tell you things as I see them and witness on the ground.

The truth is the girl child is not safe anywhere so what should we do as parents to help our little girls.

-Teach our girls to fear the night because that's when most predators lurk and wait for the victims.

-Teach our girls what is inappropriate behavior so that they know when someone is touching them wrongly.

-Seriously teach our girls some defence mechanisms that have helped several girls.

-Sex education is very important for our girls.

-Teach your little girls not to be trusting around men of any nature

When I was growing up I wondered why my mother would make my sister wear underwear or wrap herself in a scalf when my uncle's and father where home it is now that I realize that our mothers have always known from generations that even family members rape, defile and sexually abuse girl children.

Don't be careless and trusting for as we speak some mothers are still stitching the wounds of their little girls.

Don't be that women who hides such disgusting acts under a carpet to save your marriage or family think about that broken girl child.

As a man don't be that man who undresses in front of a 10 year old girl and without shame commit the act.

Don't be that neighbor who knows that abuse is happening in a particular house and you close your ears to the cries of a girl child.

Don't be that police officer who takes a bribe and let's the perpetrator walk free.

It looks simple until your own little girl is affected be vigilant and don't make your child one of the 2019 statistics.

No one, I repeat no one can protect the girl child more than you the mother, the auntie, the cousin the sister please wake up!!!
please Share for who has ear,

Jacob Owolabi

THE LADY WORTH DYING FOR...

Some ladies have been complaining seriously about their fiance's stinginess, keeping secrets about how much they earn, spending too much on his people, not getting a comfortable apartment before wedding etc while some guys lament the lady wants a bigger wedding than what he can afford!

Honey, that guy is not your ATM machine for God's sake! That he is in courtship with you does not mean he must empty his hard earned money on you and go into debt! Stop looking for who to drop your colossal problem on. If you need money, dust your certificate, go look for job and take good care of yourself. If he has, he will give, if not, don't give him hypertension! He has not married you, you are already demanding for money like he bought you on credit? Are you for sale?

Marriage is about giving ooo sweet ladies! Don't go there like a gross liability looking for a man to give you #10 for matches! Use your brain, work with your two hands and prove to a man you are principally in his life to give not suck him dry!

If he can only afford a room self contain for your marriage, add your own money to get a mini-flat if that is what you want. If you can't, don't kill him. Release him in peace to find a lady who will start small with him and grow big!

If you want a big wedding and he can honestly afford small one, either you provide the balance for the big wedding or make do with a small one. I don't know what is wrong with some ladies! They are so narrowed thinking, they carry the problem of four generations on their head! Must you call a big crowd to your wedding? Must you wear 100k wedding gown? Must your wedding be on a Saturday? Must you kill a cow? Must you go into debt? After they push the man into debt, they are now hungry after wedding, you will still be telling the whole world your husband is stingy, he doesn't take care of you, don't kill him oooo!

You can't tell a man not to give to his mother and siblings because of you. Na only you waka come? Why would the poor mother who sent him to school suffer because he married you? Go and look for job and take care of yourself, bikonu! Your husband will definitely take care of you but he can't neglect his family because of you so shift let him pass!

If you demand too much your partner will hide his salary from you because once you know how much he earns, you will milk him dry. If you are the greedy, always demanding for money type in relationships, men will hide their money from you big time!

Every man wants to marry an asset not a liability! A woman who comes into his life to make his life better not worse, to add not to subtract, to multiply not divide! When you work hard, make money, give your man ideas that will help him make more money and multiply his income, he will give to you without stress. You don't need to ask a man for money before he gives, if he genuinely loves you he will take care of you and ensure you do not lack.

Before you ask a man for money, you should have solved at least half of your problem, that way you show you are responsible but circumstances beyond your control make you seek help.

A woman worth dying for is an Amazon! A money making machine! A helper! A contributor! A bank of ideas, an hard working virtuous woman! A multiplier of resources, a giver! Super generous, loving, caring yet humble, very humble!

I'm not encouraging men to be stingy. You have to give to your partner and take care of her but trust me, when a man genuinely loves you, he gives without asking, you don't need to ask at all.

Dewunmi gave me his all while in courtship. He put me as number one. In marriage he keeps giving without asking, so selfless, so humble, so sacrificial, so generous to the core!

Bottom line, marry your soul mate darling, when you do so, it is easier to give to him, it is easier for him to give to you. It is easier to help each other become better and greater "for TWO are BETTER than one and they have a REWARD for THEIR LABOUR" May you not miss your soul mate.

Thanks for reading. God bless you, cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2019.

HOW TO GET YOUR SPOUSE BACK

When you discover your spouse is having an affair, that is not the time to scream, yell, go berserk, completely crazy or murderous! That is pouring petrol into fire!

It can drive a woman insane to discover her husband has a side chick despite all her efforts, love and sacrifice in the marriage. It can make a man completely mad to realize his wife is giving his love, respect and honour to someone else.

When you discover your spouse is having an affair, firstly find somewhere to cool your head. That shock can be devastating! The first instinct may be to attack, challenge and deal with your spouse. You may do that if you are ready for divorce but if not, you need to address the issue rationally.

After you've gathered your wits together, you can then confront them. Tell them logically, rationally, with facts and details every thing you discovered about the affair and ask them why they went into it. If you are mature in your approach, they will tell you and that will give you the background of what pushed your spouse out.

Of course they lack self control, self discipline, are not faithful and loyal, they are are also lustful and covetous. You are very much correct but there are some areas you have slacked and things you stopped doing in your marriage, hence the affair.

When they tell you why they went out, you now know you have a competitor. Don't waste your breathe calling, fighting, screaming at or challenging the mistress or other man, go work on your marriage.

Work on your weak areas. Give them double, triple or more of what the other person is giving them -double the attention, affection, compliment, praise, admiration, sex, gifts, respect honour...the other person is simply giving your spouse what you are not giving them. Fighting, abusing, keeping malice or doing crazy things will only push them deeper into the affair. When the home is hot, they will run outside for comfort but make the home peaceful and comfortable, they will soon forget the other person.

Affairs usually begins when a spouse' major need is not being met. Start meeting these needs and see your marriage transformed before your very eyes. Don't forget to pray for your spouse, prayer always work.

May you not lose your spouse in Jesus name. God bless you. Cheers! Recommended books: 1. HIS NEEDS, HER NEEDS by Williard F. Harley.
2. TOTAL WOMAN by Marabel Morgan

MOVIE:

1. WAR ROOM by the Kendrick Brothers
FIRE PROOF by the Kendrick Brothers
TEMPTATION by Tyler Perry
© Seun Oladele, 2017; 2019.

THAT GUY IS NO MORE INTERESTED IN YOU!

Why do ladies like to suffer heart breaks before they learn a simple lesson and move on? Don't attach yourself to a man who is obviously no longer interested in you or has put a full stop to your relationship with him. Here are the signs that guy is no longer interested and wants to dump you:

1. HE'S AVOIDING YOU: A man doesn't joke with his time and money. He won't waste his time on anything that won't profit him. If he feels there is nothing to gain in your relationship or he doesn't see you in his future. He starts avoiding you. Get the signal and move back.

2. HE STOPS PICKING YOUR CALLS: No more explanation.

3. HE ALWAYS ABUSES AND INSULTS you anytime you are with him. He is fed up, your presence drives him crazy. He is enduring you, he doesn't want to see you anymore.

4. HE SHAMELESSLY FLIRTS: get the signal. He wants you to get jealous and get out of his life.

5. USE A LADY'S PICTURE AS HIS PROFILE PICTURE: She's not a relative and who is she? A new flame, a new found love? He is double dating, dump him!

6. HE DOESN'T CARE ABOUT YOU ANY MORE and what the hell are you doing in the relationship?

7. HE STARTS DEMANDING FOR SEX. Some ladies are very stupid! In fact, extremely stupid! Any woman with half a brain knows that when a man hits you for sex, he doesn't value you one bit. He threatens to end the already dead relationship if you don't give him sex and you are shaking like a leaf? Chai! Don't you have any value for yourself? Tell that lustful guy to get out of your life if he can't wait for sex. Dump him with speed!

8. HE COMPARES YOU WITH HIS EX: he should go right ahead and marry his ex if he misses her that much!

9. HE ACCUSES YOU OF THINGS YOU DIDN'T DO and wouldn't listen to explanations. So what are you still doing there? My friend, end that relationship!

Listen, your life is not defined by a man. Don't hang your dignity somewhere and roll in the dust because you want to get married.

Don't allow any man rubbish you. Don't allow men treat you like a pile of shit. Treat yourself with respect and dignity. Develop the spirit of discernment to know who you are to marry so you won't be going into wrong, abusive relationships and be suffering unnecessary heartbreaks!

Work on your brain so you can think with it. Work with your hands so you can earn your own money. Work on your body and look fabulous so you won't think you are ugly and any man who wanna marry you does you a favour!

Hey, know thy worth! You are a favour carrier! Any man who is fortunate enough to marry you automatically marries favour! "He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour from the Lord!" When a man knows the moment you enter his life, his fortune has emerged, he will treat you like gold. Are you gold? Men will treat you the way you treat yourself.

Yes Don't be proud, arrogant or rude! Be humble but add dignity, sound self esteem, fire proof self worth and rock hard value to yourself. Men will treat you like gold.

May you not end up with the wrong man. In Jesus name. Love you loads. Kisses!
© Seun Oladele, 2017; re-posted, 2019.

CONTINUE, BIKONU!!!

Some men can do anything to win a lady's love, then change almost immediately the wedding service is over. They can do push up, push down, climb tree, act like a monkey, jump like a frog, dance, do dangerous acrobatic display, weep, promise heaven on earth, swear, faint, "die" , fall sick, do abracadabra to make her fall in love then after wedding and few more years, vooose! Everything disappears, I mean evaporate, vamoose with nothing left expect sex and payment of bills!

Whatever you do to get her before marriage, you must continue in marriage ooo or your wife will be lost. That friendly, always laughing at your jokes, very attractive, joyful, youngish, lively lady will be lost.

She married you because she liked your drama and hoped you will continue. Why did you stop? Were you deceiving her when you were chasing her?

If you were singing 5 love songs in courtship, you should sing 10 in marriage. If you used to take her out every weekend, you must continue in marriage. If you used to write 20 love letters per week, you better continue in marriage. If you bought her love with money, oga, make plenty of it and continue to buy it in marriage.

Bottom line, what you cannot finish, don't start. What you won't do, don't promise, what you cannot sustain, don't venture into it. Only do what you can honestly continue to do in marriage and get better at doing them. Hubby always showed me courtesy in courtship, he still does so and more in marriage. How would open the door and allow me to go in first, he still does so in marriage. You must follow the rules of simple courtesy and etiquette both in courtship and marriage!

Marriage can be lots of fun and bring immense joy and pleasure if couples will learn to chase, desire and do what they promised in courtship but it will be a big disappointment and a source of boredom if fun, friendship and romance is taken out of marriage.

Never stop courting each other in Marriage, continue, bikonu! You must CONTINUE!!!

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2019.

May your SOUL MATE locate you this year!

THESE RELATIONSHIPS WON'T WORK!

1. FLIRY RELATIONSHIP: Unrepentant flirts with seductive messages don't build realistic relationships. It is a lust filled, dirty talking relationship with no single substance in it. End it before it ends your destiny.

2. GOSSIPPING RELATIONSHIP: If all you do when you are together is gossip, make jest of, criticize and condemn others, you are in a disastrous relationship going some where to happen.

3. NEGATIVE TALKING RELATIONSHIP where all you do is talk about every damn negative thing in your life and nothing positive whatsoever, that relationship will drag you backward and empty every energy you need to succeed in life. End it, before it ends you.

4. LIES FILLED RELATIONSHIP: No truth whatsoever! You tell lies, pretend and decieve each other with fake stories, reports, lifestyle and achievements that are out of this world. You pretend and lie a lot to gain acceptance from them and people!

5. LUSTY RELATIONSHIP: All you do here is talk dirty; sex chat, flirty chat, porn chat, video your private part chat, club, act dirty, have sex and only God knows what else you do together will ruin your destiny in capital letters, as in RUIN!

5. PURPOSELESS RELATIONSHIP: No purpose, just wasting and whiling away time. Every relationship should be defined at the beginning, if it has no bearing, you shouldn't be together in the first place.

6. GODLESS RELATIONSHIP where you never once talk about Jesus, pray together or encourage one another in the word except talk about useless, irrelevant things will throw you in hell!

It's one thing to know how to make friends, it's another thing to know which relationship is best for you to keep and the one to put an abrupt end to.

Not everyone can be your friend. If you want to become great in life and fulfil your destiny, you must practice Amos 3:3 and 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 with no apology, it will be great if you add Proverbs chapter 4:14-27 to it.

Select the people you walk with. The path of greatness is narrow, not everyone can walk with you.

My father in the Lord, Bishop David Oyedepo is fond of saying, "Those who walk, walk with many, those who run, run with few, those who fly, fly alone." If you want to soar high like the eagle, you need to do the needful. May the good Lord grant you understanding. Thanks for reading, God bless you, cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2018; reposted, 2019.

Seun Oladele‎ UNCOMMON SINGLES AND COUPLES (USAC)


Uncommon Singles And Couples Programme shall be great. It's for singles and married. Come and learn how to enjoy UNLIMITED BLISS in your marriage and courtship and find true, lasting love if you are still single.

Date: Saturday, May 18, 2019.

Venue: RCCG (Path Of Life Parish). 116, Ogba Road, Agege/Ikeja, Lagos.
Time: 10am prompt.

Ministering: Coach Joshua Chibuike and other anointed men and women of God.

It's going to be a wonderful time in God's presence. Come and be blessed.
Jesus is Lord!

© Seun Oladele, 2019.

SOUL MATE: TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE?

Some people believe marrying one's soul mate is a complete fallacy. It is an emotional hype to get singles feel good momentarily. It's something that simply does not exist.

Some guys believe good ladies are scarce. If you are lucky to have one, then, you must be a a rare specie. Some ladies believe good men are almost non-existent. If you are lucky to find a good man whether soul mate or not, jump at it!

Not every good person is meant for you. Someone can be good but not good for you. That is one of the problem most prophecy seekers face. The prophet/prophetess tells them the person they came to pray about is good, the lady/guy jumps at it, rushes into the arms of the proposer/ proposee, rushes into marriage, only to realize later they've made the greatest mistake of their lives!

This is not just about getting married. It is getting married to your soul mate, your real bone and flesh, your better half, your best friend, your personal person, your husband or wife. That is what this book is about.

Many marriages are suffering because people are getting married to strangers they have no single feeling or affection for in the name of God's will. Romance, friendship, passion and affection are dying very fast in many marriages because religion has blinded so many people's eyes from picking the man/woman who fit, suit and agrees with their destiny!

Your perfect soul mate exists. The man/woman who will cherish, love and totally adore you is on this planet earth, waiting, desiring and yearning to meet you. How do you locate each other? Where can you find them? You will find out in the next chapter...

From my ebook: HOW TO ATTRACT YOUR PERFECT SOUL MATE
© Seun Oladele

BEFORE YOU ENTER ONE CHANCE!

Marriage is commitment for life! Look at him very well now. If you hate his hair cut and the ear ring on his ear, don't marry him my sister.

There is a woman who will fall madly in love with his jewelries and jump into his waiting arms. Loose him and let him find her on time!

If you hate her eyelashes or big size, in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth I beg you, let her go! There are men dying for big ladies and artificial eyelashes! Let her find her prince charming on time please! Don't cage her and make her miss her own man who will literally bow at her feet, love, honour and cherish her for life!

Marriage is a life time commitment! Once you have entered, you have entered. What you hate, you will endure it forever! What you love you will enjoy till Jesus comes. Choose the one you want.

May you not mis-choose in Jesus' name!

Thanks for reading. God bless you, cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2019.

TALK ABOUT SEX!

I don't know why people don't discuss their sex life in courtship until the wedding night then start having serious problems.

Courtship is a period of assessment, evaluation, discovery and facts finding. Discuss everything under heaven and be very sure of what you are getting into before you say "I DO".

If you have a high libido, tell your partner so they can know how to satisfy you in marriage. You don't need to go into unnecessary details if that will turn you on. If you prefer sex three times daily, tell them so you won't develop hypertension when you marry and discover your spouse hates sex.

If you like French kissing, deep kissing, Mouth Action, different sex styles: doggy, missionary, sitting, standing, reversed missionary, cowgirl, reversed cowgirl or whatever, tell them. If you you are okay with a single sex style all your married life, tell them.

I don't have any sexual problem in marriage. I and hubby are super compatible and sex life rates an A. We both love making out and that's great. We never had a single sex in 5 years courtship. Our first sex was on the wedding night but we ironed out sexual issues before we got married and that helps a lot.

Virginity is no excuse to fail woefully in marriage. Let him know how you want to be treated on the wedding night. It's not compulsory sex must happen on the wedding day. You can do heavy pre-intimacy for 3 days, set the chemistry in motion and gently, slowly, go down there. Breaking the hymen don't have to be an explosion, with lubricants, heavy pre-intimacy, sweet perfume, dim light, romantic music and some seduction, you should enjoy your first sex. By the time you do it 3 times in one day, your body should fast adjust to that.

I don't know why some people like to make sex scary for the first timers. You should look forward to sex not run away from it that is why you are saving your virginity -to enjoy maximum sex in marriage.

WORD OF CAUTION: Don't discuss your sex life until you are sure that guy is gonna marry you and it's few months to your wedding. You can't be discussing sex with every Tom, Dick and Harry. Be sure they are the one you want to marry, they respect you and won't take advantage of you. Your number 6 should tell you when a man is in a relationship purely for sex or he realy means business. If he is always hitting you for sex, end the God forsaken relationship!

This post does not encourage pre-marital sex. Sex is strictly for the married.

See a marriage counsellor before you tie the knot. They should open your eyes to things you are not seeing.

Prepare to enjoy mind blowing sex in marriage. That is God's will for you. God bless you. Cheers!
©Seun Oladele, 2017; reposted, 2019.

HOW TO WALK TALL AS A WOMAN...

It's great being a woman. I'm glad I'm not a man. No, men are great, women are great. I'm just happy I came here as a womb-man, it's been fantastic all the way!

You can be a great woman. A woman filled with purpose, passion and strong self esteem. You can be a force to be reckoned with -a world shaker, a phenomenon, an enigma, a leader, a wealth commander, a business tycoon, a great writer, speaker, preacher, wife and mother. With God, nothing is impossible!

To start with. You've got to have a purpose for your existence. Why are you here? To marry, have children, grand children and then die? Come on, life is more than that or else God wouldn't create you so uniquely.

Some ladies only dream of marrying a rich man who builds them a big house, buys them a fashion car and one with whom they have fabulous kids. No! Life is more than that!

You need to ask yourself this question. "Why I'm I here? Why did God create me? What's my purpose for existence?"

What drives you is the reason why you are here. That burning passion in your heart. Those gifts, that talent, that unique motivation is the reason why you are on earth.

You don't need to go far to know God's will for your life. You don't need to hear a thunder from heaven. God attaches your calling to your talent, passion and gifting. He gave you unique strengths and abilities. There are things you find very easy to do no matter how difficult it is for others. Some things drive you to tears while others laugh it off. For instance, a woman who God wants to raise orphans may weep at the sight of an abandoned baby while others just watch or rain curses on it's mother.

It is after discovering your gifts, developing them to a high standard and making good use of then will you feel great, fulfilled and on top of the world. Your self esteem sky rockets and you begin to walk tall as a woman. You don't need any man before you feel great, you are already great baby!

I shall be concluding the second part tomorrow on discovering and fulfilling your purpose.
© Seun Oladele, 2017; reposted,2019

MEN, YOU ARE SO AWESOME!

Everyday, I watch my husband get up early from the bed, bath our sons, go to work, get busy all day, come home and still smile and make us happy, check our welfare and spend his hard earned money on the family.

I watch with admiration as he train the boys, instill morals and discipline into them and still create time to talk to mum and keep her company. He us a father per excellence!

We have lots of fathers like that in this group too.

Dear young men, marriage is not hard at all, life is not hard. Our mentality and wrong information digested from the wrong source makes marriage hard, makes life hard!

You can be the best husband in the world to your wife if you really want to and honestly believe you can.

You can be the best dad to your children!

You can be a role model of a father and a husband others wish to emulate.

You can be the best you can be!

If only you will believe!

I dedicate this article to all daddies and young men in the house, your role as a husband and father is equal to none!

We look up to you to lead us, guide us, correct us, provide for us and support us to be all God wants us to be.

No woman is complete without a man.

No child is complete without a father!

We need you.

We love you.

You are our joy and pride!

You are awesome!!!

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY TO YOU!
© Seun Oladele, 2019.

BEFORE YOU BECOME A WIFE!

1. HAVE SOUND VISION FOR YOUR LIFE
You are more than a cook and baby factory. You are on a earth for a purpose. What is your vision, what is your mission? What is your reason for existence?

2. HAVE A SOURCE OF INCOME
If you have no job or business you are doing and you are looking for an ATM man to dump all your financial responsibility on, you will end up a leech, not a wife, a sucker, not a giver, a liability, not an asset, a burden not a burden bearer! Get a job!

3. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Some ladies are in their twenties and they look close to their graves, why? How many children have you had? Why are you not firm, smart, healthy and attractive? If you have health issues, darling, pray for healing before you get married. With faith you will be healed. If you eat junks, stop the trash and eat healthy food. Too much sugar, red meat, chocolates are not good for you. They are waiting to affect your body in future.

4. LEARN HOW TO ADDRESS A MAN
You don't talk to a man like your errand boy or primary school mate. You talk to him as your head with respect and honour. If you can't respect a man and regard him as the leader in your relationship, forget about marriage darling or you may end up divorced.

5. LEARN HOW TO COOK
See, men don't joke with their stomach. Learn to cook different types of food and soup. Routine food eventually becomes tasteless and uninviting. Men love adventure. Children love adventure. Cooking different types of soup/ food make your husband stay at home and have no need wandering into bukaterias, cafeterias, eateries etc where daughters of Jezebel may seduce and snatch him from you!

6. LEARN ABOUT SEX
Not by practicing for God's sake, you are not yet married. Few months/weeks to your wedding, learn about your sexual anatomy, sexuality, reproductive organs, genitals, etc. Be familiar with your body and prepare for quality sex IN MARRIAGE. I get too many chats from naive, ignorant brides and it gets to me. Some even stay off sex for weeks or months on end after wedding. What's the meaning of that nonsense? If you know you will masturbate or fornicate if you will learn about your sexuality then wait at least 2 weeks to wedding and read! Take a mirror and look at your vagina, labia minora, labia majora, clitoris, vagina entrance, some say if you look close enough you will see your hymen. Each part has its functions in marriage. Get EVERY WOMAN and read. It will help you understand your body better as a woman.

7. BE A PRAYER MACHINE!
A woman who cannot pray is not ready for marriage! Your husband has a great destiny to fulfil, you have a great destiny to fulfil, your children have great destiny to fulfil and the devil won't fold his arms and watch protect your family by soaking them in prayer! If you are a lazy spiritual bum as a single lady, your prayer life will end up a sorry case after marriage!

Before you become a wife, prepare well so you do not end up a failure in your husbands house. May the Lord grant you understanding.

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2019.

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A good man may not gives you so much money but if he shares the lityke he has with you, gives you attention, respects you, works hard to create a better future for both of you and will not demand you remove your pant for him before your wedding night, please, hold this man tight, his type is very rare. He is a king at heart and that king will one day manifest. Say YES to him and never let him go...
© Seun Oladele, 2019.

LET US HELP YOU...

What are the areas you need advice, you are experiencing problems or you are confused in your relationship/courtship/ marriage and seriously need help?

1. Is time going on? Are you experiencing marital delay? How old are you? 25, 30, 40, 50 yet no suitor? Read my ebook: OVERCOMING MARITAL DELAY, it will shatter the yoke of delay over your life!

2. Are you confused about who to marry? You experience broken relationships over and over again? You don't want to mischoose and really wants to attract your own bone and flesh? Read my ebook: HOW TO ATTRACT YOUR PERFECT SOUL MATE. It will teach you how to attract, connect with and get married to your own heaven sent bone and flesh without stress.

3. What are the questions you should ask your partner in courtship? How can you build real intimacy in courtship and marriage? Do you need answers to long distance relationships? Are you confused about your courtship? Should you continue or end it? How can your husband/wife meet your emotional needs in marriage? Read my ebook: LIES THAT BREAK MARRIAGES. It will teach you how to build lasting intimacy and enjoy heaven on earth in your marriage.

4. Should you wear earrings or not? Does God hates trousers? Are you tired of your church doctrine? Do you want to change church? Needs a great love story that will put a smile on your face? Read my ebook: MY CHURCH IS CRAZY! It is thrilling, exhilarating, touching, action packed and preaches the greatest message of all time.

5. Have you lost all sexual passion in marriage? Does your spouse turns you off? Do you hate your spouse? Are you tired of sex? Do you need to spice things up and enjoy sex like never before? Do you think you have small penis? Do you suffer from premature ejaculation, vagina dryness and other sexual problems? Are you engaged, about to wed but you are scared of sex? Do you want to know how to deflower your virgin bride and still enjoy mind blowing sex? Read my ebook: SEX...SWEET SEX! It has all the answers...

6. What does it take to keep your man faithful to you alone forever? How do you enjoy bliss unlimited in marriage? How do you make him go completely crazy for you? How can you win your cheating husband back? What is the secret of the mistress? How can you "charm" your man to you alone for life? Read my latest ebook: THE FULL BLOWN AFFAIR! It is a life touching, story telling powerful book.

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© Seun Oladele, 2019.

Godly men are not scarce, it is your mentality that makes them scarce. They are where they are. You are not attracting them because you are not godly yourself. We attract who we are. A lady that tells lies like crazy, is lazy, laid back and allow men to handle her and see her private part should forget attracting a godly man. They don't go for ladies like you. They are attracted to virtuous, godly women who carry themselves with dignity and honour. Are you virtuous?
©Seun Oladele, 2019.