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Are Introverts Shy? by Nobody: 7:33pm On Mar 10, 2019
For many people, introversion is synonymous to shyness. They believe that the only true definition of an introvert is someone who is shy and socially awkward. But is this the truth? Are introverts’ shy people?

Contrary to popular belief, introverts are not shy people. Being shy around people is one thing and being an introvert is a completely different thing. An introvert or extrovert may feel shy depending on certain factors such as current accomplishments, the current state of mind, dressing and so on. For example, if an introvert has failed to accomplish a certain thing and unfortunately finds him or herself around people who have accomplished it, there is a tendency for them to feel shy. The same thing goes to an extrovert.

Some popular people have said they were introverts when growing up because they were shy around people and could not express themselves, but that is flawed thinking.

Introversion is a personality type just like extroversion. It is not something that can be changed, but you can surely improve on it. If you were shy when you were younger, it is because you probably lacked self-confidence or didn’t possess a high self-esteem. You were in an environment where those qualities were not horned which is why you turned out shy. It is not because of your personality type that you were shy, but certain factors that surrounded your birth or where you grew up.

The difference between being shy and introverted


A shy person is nervous or timid when they are around other people. But introverts do not feel timid when they are around others, rather in some cases, they might feel superior which people might mistake as arrogance.

A shy child may have turned out that way because of a controlling or overbearing parent, but an introvert personality becomes noticed even when the child is still a baby.

Most people are shy when they feel they do not measure up to those around them. For instance, someone may feel shy because she feels the other ladies in the room are more beautiful or better dressed. Another may have that feeling when he is with people more intelligent, learned or wealthier than him.

Shy people do not feel comfortable around people, introverts feel comfortable but would rather not stay around people especially when they do not feel like it. The difference here is that shy people want to hang out around people but will feel uncomfortable because they do not want to answer any question that may throw them off balance or reveal what they might have been hiding from others. But an introvert does not want to be around people at some point because they need to be alone for some power thinking or they feel that the time will be better spent recharging, reviewing or with few close friends or loved ones.

Feeling shy is a present state of mind which can go away within minutes, weeks or years depending on how you work to achieve the things that are keeping you in that shy state. But introversion is that personality people see even when you try to mask it. You might try to be an extrovert, talk to everyone you see, laugh hysterically, be the hilarious guy, but you will eventually get tired and look for where to recharge. You will crave for your peace of mind, solitude, long walks on quiet terrain, writing out your thoughts, stalking people on social media without chatting them up, and so on.

How to stop being shy

First of all, let’s clear up the misconception that social anxiety disorder is shyness. SAD is a disorder which is totally different from being shy. Saying SAD is the same thing as being shy is like saying your inability to sleep for one night due to excitement or wok is the same thing as having insomnia or sleeping apnea.

A social anxiety disorder is a mental disorder which is more extreme than shyness. You tend to avoid every form of social contact including eye contacts because they make you feel uncomfortable. Physical symptoms of a social anxiety disorder include rapid heartbeat, diarrhea, finding hard to catch your breath, muscle tension, and lightheadedness.

People with SAD experience these symptoms whenever they are in a social gathering or even before they find themselves in the event. If you experience these symptoms, you need to see the doctor right away.

Shyness is another thing entirely. If you are a shy person,i.e. you feel timid and uncomfortable around people. Here are few tricks to help you stop being shy.


Stop listening to your inner critic
We all have that inner critic that criticizes more than the meanest person on earth. If it were to be a human who says the things our inner critic says, we might have looked for a way to silence him forever. But because it comes from our very own self, we tend to be lenient. If you must overcome shyness, you have to learn to silence your inner critic through physical or mental ways.

Silencing your inner critic physically including saying a big “Shut the hell up” when you hear that low, degrading voice. Close your ears to whatever it has to say and go about doing what you like. You can mentally do this by totally ignoring it or pretending like you didn’t hear anything, although this takes practice and discipline.

Self-development
Shyness, low self-esteem, and low self-confidence are all as a result of the feeling of underachievement. When you feel that you are not good enough to stand next to or talk to others, it is a big issue you must fix.

The first thing you should do is read about how to have high self-esteem because without it, whatever height you may attain, someone out there is going to be better than you. What will you do when you come face-to-face with that person? Having high self-esteem makes you feel good about yourself no matter your status in life.

After you have successfully mastered the art of improving your self-esteem, you should move to your self-confidence. What is it you need to learn to feel good about yourself? Then go all out to learn and acquire mastery of it.

Talk more
If you feel shy because you don’t feel that you may say inappropriate things while talking, then you should silence that fear by talking when you feel like it. If you have something important to say, voice it out. Don’t be the quiet one in the group if they are discussing a subject that interests you.

Chipping one or two sentences confidently and cheerfully will go a long way to boost your confidence. If you know little about topics of discussion, it is a clear sign that you should read more and pay attention to your immediate environment.

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Re: Are Introverts Shy? by xteve(m): 11:19pm On Mar 10, 2019
When somebody summarises this episodes I'll come back to read. Meanwhile FTC

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