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What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by GodisGood4321: 8:20pm On Mar 10
Happy Sunday to Everyone.

I'm 32yrs but still unmarried, not because I don't like to or because of money but I just have constant concerns, worries, and fears.

I have been in relationships severally where we both love, respect and care for each other; but I call it off every time it was getting really serious, not because of any grievous issue in particular (because nobody is perfect) but just because of worries and fear of the unknown.

Some of the worries I have are things like:
- Would I still like her in the near future after locking it down with her in marriage?
- Am I sure I have considered all my chances?
- Am I sure I won't regret my choice or find a better choice tomorrow?
- Am I sure this is the right person for me?
- Am I sure I'm not walking into misfortune with my two eyes open?
- Am I sure I'm done a balanced analysis in making a choice or just looking at one side?

Some people think I don't like marriage or that I'm just flexing, but these fears and concerns make me develop cold feet whenever a relationship I'm in start getting serious. These fears and doubt are real.

So guys, what were your fears and concerns before getting married and how did it turn out after been married.

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by kazvid(m): 8:41pm On Mar 10
It AM I not AM MINE

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by ShinqRambq: 9:00pm On Mar 10
Your only concern before marriage should be if your wife is among those girls that claim that there are Virgins who do not bleed on their first intercourse angry so they can feel better about their lost virginity and For the women,you concern should be,is he the kind of man that will struggle for the good of the family,he must not be rich provided all he isn't a gigolo while the basic African attribute of submissiveness of a woman remains constant

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by faithugo64(f): 9:21pm On Mar 10
GodisGood4321:
Happy Sunday to Everyone.

I'm 32yrs but still unmarried, not because I don't like to or because of money but I just have constant concerns, worries, and fears.

I have been in relationships severally where we both love, respect and care for each other; but I call it off every time it was getting really serious, not because of any grievous issue in particular (because nobody is perfect) but just because of worries and fear of the unknown.

Some of the worries I have are things like:
- Would I still like her in the near future after locking it down with her in marriage?
- Am I sure I have considered all my chances?
- Am I sure I won't regret my choice or find a better choice tomorrow?
- Am I sure this is the right person for me?
- Am I sure I'm not walking into misfortune with my two eyes open?
- Am I sure I'm done a balanced analysis in making a choice or just looking at one side?

Some people think I don't like marriage or that I'm just flexing, but these fears and concerns make me develop cold feet whenever a relationship I'm in start getting serious. These fears and doubt are real.

So guys, what were your fears and concerns before getting married and how did it turn out after been married.


The only thing I can think of now is the number of girls you have broken their hearts
Chai

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by GodisGood4321: 9:33pm On Mar 10
faithugo64:

The only thing I can think of now is the number of girls you have broken their hearts
Chai

You don't need to think about them because they were never treated badly and even after going our separate ways, we are still good to each other.

It is better to have a broken relationship than to have a dissatisfied or broken marriage.

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by GodisGood4321: 9:52pm On Mar 10
ShinqRambq:
Your only concern before marriage should be if your wife is among those girls that claim that there are Virgins who do not bleed on their first intercourse angry so they can feel better about their lost virginity and For the women,you concern should be,is he the kind of man that will struggle for the good of the family,he must not be rich provided all he isn't a gigolo while the basic African attribute of submissiveness of a woman remains constant

Hmmm, really, the faithfulness of a lady should be the only concern? Is it that difficult to find a faithful lady, I don't think so depending on where you hang out.

Compatibility and agreement in purpose should also be a concern.

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by ImaIma1(f): 10:05pm On Mar 10
The truth is that you will never know the answer to this question. There is no instrument for measuring the eventuality of marriage.

"They" say that when you meet the right person, you will know and there will be no fear or doubts in the heart.

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by GodisGood4321: 10:27pm On Mar 10
ImaIma1:
The truth is that you will never know the answer to this question. There is no instrument for measuring the eventuality of marriage.

"They" say that when you meet the right person, you will know and there will be no fear or doubts in the heart.


Hmm, marriage has to be a leap of faith, therefore. No Guarantee.

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Gentleziggy(m): 10:35pm On Mar 10
faithugo64:

The only thing I can think of now is the number of girls you have broken their hearts
Chai
he is afraid karma will catch up with him

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Gentleziggy(m): 10:39pm On Mar 10
D guy in question is a chronic womanizer now he is at a cross road in making d right choice of a life partner

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by MariaLavina(f): 11:51pm On Mar 10
Please keep flexing, you never ripe for marriage. Age no be factor.

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by GodisGood4321: 1:55am On Mar 11
MariaLavina:
Please keep flexing, you never ripe for marriage. Age no be factor.

Sorry, flexing is not my thing. Of course, age is just a number for a guy, unlike a woman.

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by GodisGood4321: 1:57am On Mar 11
Gentleziggy:
D guy in question is a chronic womanizer now he is at a cross road in making d right choice of a life partner

You must have been speaking from your own experience thinking you are addressing the salient issues raised.

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by GodisGood4321: 2:09am On Mar 11
iRepNaija1

Thanks for your logical and thoughtful answers.

People who are full of emotions and can't think deep into a matter just make irrational comments because they can't bear others been detailed.

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by GodisGood4321: 9:23pm On Mar 11
More comments will be very much appreciated especially from already married people.

Do you have concerns and fears before your marriage, what are they and how did it play out after marriage?

Lalasticlala, can you kindly move this to the front page, pls. Thanks.

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by DMerciful(m): 10:36pm On Mar 11
A man should not have fear to take any decision once you are 70% sure!

Everything in life is a risk, even staying at home has risk of fire, armed robbery etc so marriage is also part of the risk. Even Angels failed so expect anything however a lot depends on you. It takes two to tango so if you ain't good yourself you will likely have these fears!

With love, tolerance, forgiveness, overlooking certain things, respect, frequent sex(very important as it binds you more to your eventual wife, 3 times a week normally so marry a woman you are sexually attracted to), fear of God, romance and children presence , everything will be fine!

Lastly you can divorce if it ain't working, it's not a death sentence!

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by GodisGood4321: 11:01pm On Mar 11
DMerciful:
A man should not have fear to take any decision once you are 70% sure!

Everything thing in life is a risk, even staying at home has risk of fire, armed robber etc so marriage is also part of the risk. Even Angels failed so expect anything however a lot depends on you. It takes two to tango so if you ain't good yourself you will likely have these fears!

With love, tolerance, forgiveness, overlooking certain things, respect, frequent sex(very important as it binds you more to your eventual wife, 3 times a week normally so marry a woman you are sexually attracted to), fear of God, romance and children presence , everything will be fine!

Lastly you can divorce if it ain't working, it's not a death sentence!

Thanks for your comment, valuable.

That last line is one reason for my due diligence as my religion in its pure form doesn't allow divorce except you remain unmarried afterward.

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Offpoint1: 11:11pm On Mar 11
I was afraid she'll give birth to triplets 3 times...
that's why I'm still single, fear double kids... but shít runs in my family like trophy.

Lastly, fear of feeding a grown azz till eternity.... [ don't quote me with the working class woman shít, you still gonna feed her even if she earn millions]

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by code101: 11:23pm On Mar 11
I have fears too regarding marriage, but I am happily marred now, three years in marriage and I still learning... I will share more with you latter...

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Onyi22(f): 11:24pm On Mar 11
My concern is "What if d money finish"? Where will I start from?

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by stephleena(f): 11:24pm On Mar 11
it's well
Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by Hardheolar(f): 11:25pm On Mar 11
Will be back when married.

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by emmadejust(m): 11:27pm On Mar 11
Me I'm still looking ooo cry cry
Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by announcement: 11:27pm On Mar 11
Am here to learn...let me set up my tent here.
Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by libertyfather(m): 11:27pm On Mar 11
Just forget marriage its a scam....i regret im in it right now getting out is my biggest problem, looks like the easiest way my enemy get me

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by truthsayer009(m): 11:27pm On Mar 11
Hardheolar:
Will be back when married.

Same here
Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by NoMoreTrolling: 11:28pm On Mar 11
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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by ajufinz(m): 11:29pm On Mar 11
ShinqRambq:
Your only concern before marriage should be if your wife is among those girls that claim that there are Virgins who do not bleed on their first intercourse angry so they can feel better about their lost virginity and For the women,you concern should be,is he the kind of man that will struggle for the good of the family,he must not be rich provided all he isn't a gigolo while the basic African attribute of submissiveness of a woman remains constant

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Re: What Were Your Concerns Before Marriage And How Did It Turn Out After Marriage? by jnrbayano(m): 11:29pm On Mar 11

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