When a woman is done with school, we expect her to bring a man home. In our opinion, she’s eligible for marriage.

As soon as you start earning money and find some level of comfort, we expect that marriage should be the next thing in your life… Because you are ‘eligible for marriage’.

Eligible? According to the dictionary it is ’having the right to do or obtain something; satisfying the appropriate conditions’. It gives us a second definition which is ‘(of a person) desirable or suitable as a partner in marriage.

How do you define ‘suitable’ or ‘satisfying appropriate conditions’?
We live in a world where a man with a good job, a house, and good looking is termed suitable. A man who can give great sex and ‘shift womb’ is deemed to have satisfied appropriate conditions.

The problem with this assertion is that there are many men who meet the above conditions and got married but have been terrible husbands.

A Yoruba adage erroneously says ‘owo lafi nse oko obinrin’, interpreted as ‘money is what we use to ‘husband’ a woman’. No wonder we have made rich boys becoming husbands and making a mess of the marriage union.

What about the Woman?
It’s not so different from the same conditions we place on men. When a woman can cook, dress well and has come of age, she is deemed suitable and eligible for marriage. It is not surprising that we now have a sharp rise in broken marriages and broken women.

When you place the burden of being a wife on a woman who is not suitable for the role, you are simply sending her into a war she has no capacity to win. Don’t blame her when she chickens out.

If all these (degree, job, money, ability to cook etc) are what defines your eligibility status, sadly, you have just been indoctrinated into the school of recurrent myth designed to get young people married without care for their happiness and the consequent negative impact their union will bring on the society.

Age has nothing to do with being ELIGIBLE for marriage
You can be old enough to get married but that doesn’t make you eligible for it. Age qualifies you for the wedding experience but it doesn’t qualify you for the marriage experience. The reason why many marriages break up almost as soon as they start is that we have one or two of the partners who are old enough for the wedding but not eligible for a happy and lasting happy marriage.

It’s the reason why you can meet a man today, fall in love...

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