Every first "love" is "infatuation." Was yours not? Be careful yours could be

Now, a guy is dating for the very first time in his life. Now also, a girl is dating for the very first time in her life. The feeling of love you you almost always notice comes very suddenly.

You almost often hear the guy said "I love this girl so and will marry" and you also almost often hear the girl soliloquizing the same.

But at a time the love goes sore and they both painfully realized it was infatuation after all.

Now, was your first love not infatuation? be careful yours could be?

You're damn right man.

This also is true: "there's nothing like love at first sight". Before you all start dissaproving me, do you know the meaning of love? If you do then you'll undestand why you can't say you love someone at the very first instance in your life you catch a glance of the person.

i totally agree with u... its not really love @ first sight thingie but then cos u re experiencing a commmitment of some sort for the first time, u think its love & u go about saying" am gonna marry him/her" i said it too u know..... but now i just laugh wen i remember the whole time i was yarning that dust... i am not really going to call it infatuation ...... its just a time of [b]unknowing...igba ai[/b]mo (yorubas in the house should grab wat i mean)

pkrix:

Every first "love" is "infatuation."

Not always.

It is obvious that we don't know what true love is. But do we even know what infatuation is? Do we really have reason to believe that infatuation and love are not the same thing?

Well, i met my own first love about seven years ago when i was still in sss1.
i still love her very much but its not working because we did not know each other well from the genesis, and this is still affecting our relationship. We have broken up a couple of times and reunited again.

Let me tell you now that the love we shared was at first sight. its still strong today and I am just 22

what will you call my own situation?

comments are welcome

Adetola:

Well, I met my own first love about seven years ago when I was still in sss1.
I still love her very much but its not working because we did not know each other well from the genesis, and this is still affecting our relationship. We have  broken up a couple of times and reunited again.

Let me tell you now that the love we shared was at first sight. its still strong today and I am just 22

what will you call my own situation?

comments are welcome

thats nice o! but how in d world wil u guys not know each other after being together for 7yrs....dont u people see? i wonder why? but then i dont know wat to call urs....(mind u, u can be infatuated for more than 7yrs o!! shit happens)..... u had better sit tight & grab the handles of ur relationship b4 u'll discover u both are tired of the break-ups ..then u mite be spliting...

Seun:

It is obvious that we don't know what true love is.  But do we even know what infatuation is?  Do we really have reason to believe that infatuation and love are not the same thing?

dont confuse ur self seun, infatuation & love aint same at all? according to a skool of thot "in a relationship, wen u re in love, u still need the infatuation to set balls rolling".... infatuation deals with the physical aspect of a relationship, while love deals with the emotional aspect: so u see, both goes hand-in-hand
u need to be infatuated about ur husband or wife to make u jump into his/her arms in bed each nite.. so as to make love perfectly.....

Based on what you have said, it is either:
- Infatuation is a part of what we call love, or
- Infatuation is state which is distinct from love, but can complement it.

Which one is it?

Seun:

Based on what you have said, it is either:
- Infatuation is a [I]part of[/I] what we call love, or
- Infatuation is state which is [I]distinct[/I] from love, but can complement it.

Which one is it?

Infatuation is state which is [I]distinct[/I] from love, but can complement it

Ok, with such clear answers I know we'll make some progress today.

Now, you are saying it is possile to love without infatuation, and it is possible to be infatuated without love. Now if I love you but I'm not at all infatuated with you can I ask you out? How would a lady react in that case?

You can't possibly love someone without being infatuated at te same time. Every True Love comes with infatuation as a component but Infatuation can happen without Love. Infatuation is like a child of Love, so when Love visits you, it brings along its child. But infatuation sometimes sneaks out on its mother (Love) and visits you alone.

Seun:

Ok, with such clear answers I know we'll make some progress today.

Now, you are saying it is possile to love without infatuation, and it is possible to be infatuated without love.  Now if I love you but I'm not at all infatuated with you can I ask you out?  How would a lady react in that case?

sen ther couldnt have been a better answer than wat IAH said o!!

IAH: Infatuation is like a child of Love, so when Love visits you, it brings along its child.

This quote describes the other definition of infatuation, the one which Pinky rejected:
" Infatuation is a part of what we call love "

You are now implying that love cannot exist without infatuation. Hmm.

Ok, let me ask you this direct question. We all agree that infatuation can exist without love. Can love exist without infatuation?

Seun:
Can love exist without infatuation?

Seun, love can't exist without infatuation, but infatuation exists without love. Read my first post on this topic well, then try and decode it.

yes,that's the truth every first love is 99% infactuations.

I believe love can come without infatuation. I mean...infatuation is deep, very deeep. Your heart misses a beat when u see her, you are all uptight, probly your palms get sweaty...
If a couple are infatuated with one another and eventually get married, lucky for them. However u can always love someone deeply without infatuation.

I totally disagree with you first love can actually be first love we have so many men that are still in love with there first love and wish every day they could actually be together and this goes equally with girls too yes alot of infactuations are seen but you can actually fall in love for the first time and its actually real love

I know someone that got married to her first love.

IAH:

I know someone that got married to her first love.

Can i be her How sweet is that. She is so lucky.

hot-angel:

IAH link=topic=511.msg7237#msg7237 date=1119526708:

I know someone that got married to her first love.

Can i be her How sweet is that. She is so lucky.

i think i agreer with u the fact is love can not exist with out infatuation.the lucky ones realize its infatuation and work to-wards love,what do u think that initially feeling is?if u think its love then am sorry for u cos u have a thing coming ur way.i had that same feeling but when we both realized it wasn't love we decided to move to the next level but it still dint work so when i say its luck believe me it can lead to marriage i knw so many people who are married to their first loves,it all depends on ur knowledge of LOVE and how to go about it if u dont know how to and u lose it, it may just be the GRACE OF GOD that will be the bridge u'll cross to the other side

hot-angel:

IAH link=topic=511.msg7237#msg7237 date=1119526708:

I know someone that got married to her first love.

Can i be her How sweet is that. She is so lucky.

i think i agreer with u the fact is love can not exist with out infatuation.the lucky ones realize its infatuation and work to-wards love,what do u think that initially feeling is?if u think its love then am sorry for u cos u have a thing coming ur way.i had that same feeling but when we both realized it wasn't love we decided to move to the next level but it still dint work so when i say its luck believe me it can lead to marriage i knw so many people who are married to their first loves,it all depends on ur knowledge of LOVE and how to go about it if u dont know how to and u lose it, it may just be the GRACE OF GOD  that will be the bridge u'll cross to the other side

legry:

I totally disagree with you first love can actually be first love we have so many men that are still in love with there first love and wish every day they could actually be together and this goes equally with girls too yes alot of infactuations are seen but you can actually fall in love for the first time and its actually real love

i disagree wiv da topic

i second you. which kind generalization be dis sef? no yarn dis again cuzz it is as untrue as untrue can be.

I disagree too .
The first love is something you will always remember . Not as is (what was his name)
You will even remember his birthday and the smell of his perfum.

I dont think the same goes for everybody, we dont live our lives the same way and we meet different people, its a case of luck you might get your true love the 1st time, 2nd time or mayb after many girls/guys. Everybody has a story to testify, but the chance of it being the first is like a 50 - 50 chance,

Well if it was only a date then no.
B4 i had a relationship i was meeting many guys and i mean many.
I was not sleeping with them . But with some kissing . I cannont remember most of their names today.
But thefirst boyfriend we were together for almost 3 years well 2 because the last year was just a fight year

well the tapic really needs a lat of deep thinking cos you might be giving in the wrong message

Mine wasn't!!! and i still love her so, 4 years and counting,

The major reason why so many marriages collapsed in Nigeria nowadays is that,that thing that people called love is mere infatuation.When you are infatuated to someone,the sweetness of your mouth is enough to confuse the person into marriage and after the marriage that consequences will escalate and the couple will then realize that they are from two different world.