Toyin has been my friend since our university days in the early 2000s. We were in the same department, so we do a number of things together such as practicals, assignments and reading. She is a very matured and pleasant lady. After graduation we went our separate ways but got close again when in 2008 we met at an interview for a job in a federal establishmefnt. It was like a happy reunion thing. The two of us were employed eventually but on assumption of office, we were posted to different departments. However we continued to be close. I got married in 2008 and she participated fully and gave me necessary supports. I knew a guy with her then but she didn't really discuss much about him with me, but I knew they were dating each other. I attended her younger sister's wedding in 2009 and that of her younger brother in 2012. Toyin and I discussed about her relationship with Tony elaborately for the first time in 2012, she said Tony had travelled and had started behaving funny and that she will get hooked to any suitable man that approaches her for marriage. That was not to be as she claimed that the guys she met didn't show seriousness to marriage. In 2015, I noticed that something was going on between her and one of the contractors handling civil works in our establishment. I asked her and she told me its just a casual thing as the man is married. Toyin have become so agitated because of this situation. I have to encouraged her to live well and get herself basic things of life. I helped her get a car when she refused to buy one because she listened to people who said she may not be able to get a man if she begin to live well, drive car etc, you know all those trash. Toyin sent a message to me on Sunday 31st of March that she has an important information for me but unfortunately I was on my way to Kano for an official assignment when her message came in. I asked her to let's discuss through WhatsApp which she declined. I met with her on my arrival yesterday and she narrated how the contractor man got her pregnant only for him to just send 50k to her for abortion. I shouted when she mentioned the word abortion. I told her to keep the baby and take care of him or her by herself if the man isn't ready for her. At least, she isn't in any relationship that could be marred by the pregnancy and at her age, I don't think abortion is a good option. Toyin is now 42. She said her brother and sister have said the same thing and that they promised to explain it to their parents if need be. Do you think my advise is wrong? Do you think she should abort the pregnancy and continue her waiting for the right guy?

she better no abort the pregnancy, what if the abortion go wrong and she lose her womb.

Your happiness is your most valuable asset.... Don't let anyone take it away from you. Keep the baby and thank your star later.....

You gave her the best advise already...!!!

Wen she wan wait reach?

Menopause?

Make she leave d pregnancy abeg, life sometimes is a bitch...Sh*ts happens, n wen u cant control d shit...U simply hug it.

At 42, how can she abort such a pregnancy when village people are not pursuing her?
Since she is gainfully employed, let her just keep the child and take good care of him or her. When the child is 2 years, she should use style allow the man to knack her again so that she'll have two kids. Even if the man is not ready to allow the children to bear his name, Toyin is a good name for them or they bear her own fathers name. If she abort the belle and nobody comes across her till menopause, what happens? I wish her well.

kennybabs1980:
At 42, how can she abort such a pregnancy when village people are not pursuing her?
Since she is gainfully employed, let her just keep the child and take good care of him or her. When the child is 2 years, she should use style allow the man to knack her again so that she'll have two kids. Even if the man is not ready to allow the children to bear his name, Toyin is a good name for them or they bear her own fathers name. If she abort the belle and nobody comes across her till menopause, what happens? I wish her well.

You are a joker.

She should seduce him again kwa?

If at 42, she is still having flings with married men and want to abort the resulting pregnancy, we can seduce why she is not yet married.

Biko, she should pray the foetus is a twin (boy & girl) and close shop.

She should also use the N50k to register for ante-natal.

Once she has her baby(ies), she would be in a better state to get a husband.

And she should leave the man alone.

she cheated on tony

.right?...I don't support cheats..so i don't have any advise for her...she made her bed..let her lie on it!!!..nansense

she should keep the pregnancy please.

babyfaceafrica:
she cheated on tony

.right?...I don't support cheats..so i don't have any advise for her...she made her bed..let her lie on it!!!..nansense

cheated on Tony? Not at all. She partly financed Tony's relocation to Canada in 2011, he started playing the truant game on her since early 2012 and has blocked every means of communication with her since 2015. So there's no case of cheating on Tony here. If anything, its Tony that has explanation to make as to why he disappointed her.

At 42 this a miracle baby I tell u all her mates are on menapause already

If she aborts it she will regret it even in her grave, how can she even think of abortion at 42

and she narrated how the contractor man got her pregnant only for him to just send 50k to her for abortion.

No.
She let herself get pregnant for the contractor man.
The man didn’t rape her, it was a mutual activity.
The way it is worded seems like he had his way without her consent.

meobizy:

No.
She let herself get pregnant for the contractor man.
The man didn’t rape her, it was a mutual activity.
The way it is worded seems like he had his way without her consent.

You took the words out of my mouth. She set the contractor up to get her pregnant. She is just pretending with the story she told the OP. She ain't going to abort any pregnancy, she gave up on marriage and settled for single motherhood only to come out with super story.

Keep the baby... forget the man

if she can cater for the child, keep it. if not she can still keep it but expect limited or forced support from the baby daddy. meanwhile she should prepare herself for the naming or birth. I have a colleague who took an annual study leave and returned with a baby..

She knew what she was doing when she got pregnant. a lot of drama would come later that she wouldn't see coming. she would definitely keep the pregnancy no matter what you tell her.

She should have the baby, once the baby comes, the joy she will being a mother will change her for the better. Her desperation to get married will be contolled and when guys see that she isnt that desperate, genuine marriage proposals will come Or betterstill have the baby and give him or her to one of your siblings to raise.