maasoap:


Late marriage when you're going to have children is bad. Learn and move on.

agarawu23:
people marry with lesser amount. What's traditional marriage? No be to go villa go know your wife people? Na as u present yourself the family go take you. It all depends on the lady you are dating. Don't tell me all these married poor men married with over 100k

truthsayer009:


Asin ehn, my bro. The thing tire me, foolish parents putting so much pressure on First borns.

That's how one Idiotic girl starting with "Saf**" in her name was arguing yesterday that Women in marriage is what make Men successful. Me that I know once you marry your life slows down by 85%. All the risk & opportunities you could take before is no longer available, you have to think of your Wife & children first.

[s]Any man who doesn't get his finances right before marriage is forever doomed. He will die in Poverty I swear[/s]!

lefulefu:
its mostly illiterate ignorant parents dat jus depend on first born. these days there are who save and invest for the future.many of them buy lands with the money they earn from their jobs.some build hostels for students to rent and the money they make from these business they save and invest. and dat one about women in marriage is wat makes men succcesful na big lie oooo.there are many young guys cos of the rush into early marriage they have become stagnant in life. the little money they would have saved and used to go back to school to upgrade themselves acedemically or set up a business they will be using it to feed wife and kids.no progress in life and all will just be about feeding wife and kids.i know one guy who got married in his finals in d university.the guy read mining engineering but till date the guy is doing porter job in one small hotel carrying bags for customers while his young wife sells crayfish in d market to survive.if u see d guy now he looks so worn out looking after his wife and his two children.the little money he makes he canr use it on himself and if u see him now he now looks like a pensioner.a young guy oo.[s]omo wen u want to get married as a man make sure ur finiances are strong cos if not ur marriage will be hell.
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tete7000:


Who defines what is late? You? You have nothing to teach me, if anything I have more to teach you so as to take you out of your one way approach to life which can only end you and those around you in frustration.

By the way you can give those lessons you want to teach others to your children, they don't move or impress me...

Nothing is late, the word in itself is relative. Relative to perspective. Many marry 'early' and end up having children 'late'. Many marry "early", only to come back and remarry "late". Only God fixes the time of man. You people should stop preaching messages that push many into desperation.

By the way, where was it preached to you that marriage is a must for all?

maasoap:


Who doesn't pray? But leaving everything to prayer is like gambling. You don't wait to have everything before making that big decision because the truth is that only few can have everything.

Foxie:
I'd rather you advise that one marries a decent and sensible lady with stable and a good source of income who can manage a home, then the burden of catering for the home won't be solely be on him.

Foxie:
. 'He that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord'.

lefulefu:
i very much agree that a man who wants to marry should go for a woman who is sensible and can manage the homefront and a woman that can manage money. The management of money is very important cos there are some women u will give 500k for weekly upkeep and instead they will use d whole 500k to buy creams and hair wig plus clothes dat they will use to slay in front of mirror to upload on instagram. Such a woman no fit make a good wife.

lefulefu:
As for a woman having a very good source of income..well if the lady u about to marry is resourceful,hardworking,caring will u now refuse to marry her cos she aint earning a six figure salary?

lefulefu:
it is he who finds a good wife oo dat finds a good tin and not jus any wife. There are some wives wey don push their husbands into commiting suicide and some wey don give their husbands heart attack. It is only if u lucky to have a good wife that u can say u have gotten a good thing.

maasoap:

Too late for that, I made my decision long time ago my friend.


No one impresses anyone on a faceless forum, don't forget that.


So many things could be late including marriage


Then, why the argument? You should have posted just this and save us both stress of typing and reading now.

babyfaceafrica:
and how do you know our dreams are not bigger than dangote own?

GavelSlam:


Why you dey bring your guy leg out na?

Foxie:
Do not add to God's Word! As much as I get your drift, it is clearly stated in the Bible that 'He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord' and not he who finds a good wife.

Acidosis:


Which dream? iPhone and Benz?

vetisrael:
It's not a necessity for a young man to have everything before settling down to Marry, just that majority of the young men today are so skeptical about the future, God has said it all in the holy books, 'be fruitful and multiply', all has provided everything we need as a man, it's left for us to wake up and do the needful.

darkelf:


Typical African analog thinking.

Turnaround blessings ko.....

With fallacious believes in generational curses and abstract breakthroughs....

No will to affect lives positively and push the limits of science, the arts, commerce and economy. Just build house and buy car...such shallow and superficial thinking. Very parochial and selfish with no thought for their fellow men.

People, I just described the mentality of the average naija citizen

OGHENAOGIE:
instead of giving a sensible rebuttal ur foolishness no let u see road to call a write up rubbish...

Opiletool:


My kind of person. Same thing I told a colleague this past week. If you marry and have kids early, if at a long run you're still struggling to provide for them, the kids would at a time wish you never gave birth to them, or wish a rich person was their father. Which insult is worse than that?

Opiletool:


My kind of person. Same thing I told a colleague this past week. If you marry and have kids early, if at a long run you're still struggling to provide for them, the kids would at a time wish you never gave birth to them, or wish a rich person was their father. Which insult is worse than that?

Opiletool:


My kind of person. Same thing I told a colleague this past week. If you marry and have kids early, if at a long run you're still struggling to provide for them, the kids would at a time wish you never gave birth to them, or wish a rich person was their father. Which insult is worse than that?

MelaninGold:
Op is making some points here. But you need to be financially, emotionally and psychologically prepared before going into marriage.

A young man of 25 is old enough to get married but the economy of our country is very disabling. You will agree with me that some 25 year olds are still searching for admission due to the almighty JAMB or even finance. For those who are in school already,may be in 200l or 300l. Now, after graduation,NYSC.. looking for a job. This could take 2,3,4,5 years. When they finally get a job,they have to save enough before thinking of marriage.

Let's be sincere here..most men of 25-30 are not even serious-minded people.
Take Nairaland for example, I have observed that most young men and women are more interested in sex, violence, tribalistic threads than those that promote unity, innovation, education entrepreneural skills. Imagine if this peolpe choose to get married now.

Just to give an example of the disadvantage of late marriage. I know a family where the parents got married late. Mom was around 33,dad was about 36.They got married and had to start having kids. They have 5 children now, Their eldest child is 26, about to graduate. The other children are undergraduates. Parents are no longer working. Everyone now depends on the first born - soon to be medical doctor.

[/i]In a nutshell... early marriage is good y'all.

Raalsalghul:

There is nothing foolish about my statement...it's the truth.
Incase you don't know....the deadbeat I was referring to was my dad.
Our lives are different.
What works for A might not work for B.
I won't advise anyone from a humble background to get married so early.
At least have something in place for your kids...that's the most important thing.
Got an uncle that got married at 42 having built his house with another landed property in place.
God forbid if he dies today don't you think his kids whom are little by the way have something to live on.
I still insist whether 27 or 57, live a legacy for your offspring.

bukatyne:
Very well written.
Nothing beats early marriage to the right person.

vetisrael:
It's not a necessity for a young man to have everything before settling down to Marry, just that majority of the young men today are so skeptical about the future, God has said it all in the holy books, 'be fruitful and multiply', all has provided everything we need as a man, it's left for us to wake up and do the needful.