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Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by AkupeMBANO(f): 5:26pm On Apr 14, 2019
CHoccolaTE:

No Its the ashawo that infected you with HIV.
exactly what i expected to hear. Lmao
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Nobody: 5:29pm On Apr 14, 2019
Okoroawusa:

Gbam ...very mature response.



I would have loved to meet u but am through with marriages n romantic relationships. Sexual encounters (including paying for it) r what I do now.So I search for women looking for no strings attached relationships ( not necessarily in it for money)



You n Ishilove r two women I enjoy reading their responses to thread.Very mature n apt not pretentious.


Nne,jisie ike.




Aeya. You'll definitely find that happiness that comes with loving someone. Don't lose hope
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Cocolatti(m): 5:31pm On Apr 14, 2019
drmikeadams:
grin grin after sharing toto from 16_30 years old..when their mama and relations don begin torment them for marriage;;.them go turn born again;from Church to church;vigil to vigil..no let them deceive you with them born again ish grin grin them go hide their bad character till them cage one innocent Charley grin cheesy. When I still dey go church;na so them full every where grin grin one wan drag me go do court wedding grin she no know say den never born the girl mama wey wan tie my destiny grin
Guy you wicked!!!!!!

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Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Squirrel01: 5:33pm On Apr 14, 2019
JustBeing:


Lol! What would pity from strangers afford me?

I won't say much but I'll say this. When that relationship ended I blamed myself for it. I kept recounting how I was the person who caused the breakup cos I felt I made a mistake by not doing everything he was asking me to do.
It was friends, family and my counsellor who resetted my brain by showing me how even if i had bent over backwards it wouldn't have been enough to please this person. Coincidentally I was manipulated to think I was the issue so much that he asked me to ask my exes so I could be sure that I was truly the problem. That was my saving point, all 3 of them were blatantly honest and said I was none of the things my ex painted me to be. They outlined my faults but it was what made me human. I dated a narcissist and if you looked up such relationships you'll understand how toxic such people are, they use people.

I'm still in touch with my exes, so I've never carried a chip on shoulder nor recited the 'he used and dumped me' mantra, the dynamics of this was different. So don't come at me cos i feel bad that someone would stay in a relationship only for what he was getting from me, thinking about it is sickening.

About character, you don't know me but everyone around me who knew that guy couldn't speak up until it ended and most of what they had to say was how they felt I was too good for him and deserved better.

If your grouse is that i blamed the guy that things ended, don't be pained, I took responsibility for my part in how things ended and I made and I'm still taking steps to not make same mistakes again.

Again, read what I wrote, sex was a fraction of what I recount as loss...my near mental breakdown far outweighs the rumbles in the sack.

I never blamed you, it's a relationship, which I was not a party to, whatever that happened in the bedroom remains in the bedroom,
Always remember, the more a woman gets wiser, the longer it takes her to get married.
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by victorian(f): 5:34pm On Apr 14, 2019
Squirrel01:


My definition of attitude differs from your own definition, but if I learnt something when I was learning to learn in women web, what I learnt is, these 30+ always need their privacy( in retrospect to your comment of walking over) , for whatever you did for them, little appreciation is shown reasons been that, you are a suspect of her last failed relationship.
because they know that their beauty department has been replaced with maturity and sense of discernment.














Well not all are like that.

Don't generalise. If a particular human being is not appreciative of little things done for her, no matter how far gone she is in age, she still will not appreciate.

It's about age. It's all about orientation and upbringing.
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Squirrel01: 5:35pm On Apr 14, 2019
victorian:















Well not all are like that.

Don't generalise. If a particular human being is not appreciative of little things done for her, no matter how far gone she is in age, she still will not appreciate.

It's about age. It's all about orientation and upbringing.

Few not all.
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by victorian(f): 5:36pm On Apr 14, 2019
Squirrel01:


Few not all.





That's what I'm still saying not all.
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by bioman: 5:38pm On Apr 14, 2019
lefulefu:
thats not true. some of those ladies who use d no sex b4 marriage gimmick do so to give the guy d impression dat they are very decent but then they have another guy in secret that will be regularly oiling their engine while the mugu they have as fiancee wil be waiting for wedding night.na d normal racket.
thank you . you have said it all especially if they are not virgins
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Squirrel01: 5:38pm On Apr 14, 2019
victorian:






That's what I'm still saying not all.

Anyways marriage is not everything, but society has conditioned it to be so. I do tell my female friends of 30+,let their options be open, cut down the branches of policies, and wrap half of their ego up. time is no longer on their side.
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by OSUigboKiller: 5:51pm On Apr 14, 2019
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Guy this your comment reeks of puci entitlement. A lady has all the right to refrain from sex, it's her puci and she can decide not to share with anyone until it feels right. If u cant cope, u simply jakpa.
This girls keeps deceiving themselves and not wanting to believe it's a man's world.
You can't drag me into something I didn't take part in making/deciding for you.
You won't force me into accepting that rubbish if you're not a virgin.

Good luck in finding that lucky fool Maga that will agree with you.
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by oduademon: 5:56pm On Apr 14, 2019
OSUigboKiller:

This girls keeps deceiving themselves and not wanting to believe it's a man's world.
You can't drag me into something I didn't take part in making/deciding for you.
You won't force me into accepting that rubbish if you're not a virgin.

Good luck in finding that lucky fool Maga that will agree with you.

No more monkey for idanre.

No sex on first date, no second date! That's my policy. And it has worked wella

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Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by victorian(f): 6:02pm On Apr 14, 2019
Squirrel01:


Anyways marriage is not everything, but society has conditioned it to be so. I do tell my female friends of 30+,let their options be open, cut down the branches of policies, and wrap half of their ego up. time is no longer on their side.









Keep options open? Check √

Cut down branches of policies? NO! ( we place those new policies so as to protect our fragile emotional minds from been rehabilitated into Yaba left or committing Suicide, it's for our sanity. Trust me on that. Some evil men out there are waiting for the final kill, all in the name of I love you!

And mind you, we've been lonely in relationships before, where we gave our all. We don't mind been alone this time around , not LONELY but alone, cause we now know how to control the kind of friends we roll with, and who won't make us an island, than the way we were, way back when we were so naive and foolishly in love.

Policies stays! If he can't be patient enough to earn the trust, then he can take a walk.


Then wrap up half of their egos? Hmmmm grin yea! Check√
I agree with this last one. I'm guilty of it cool
Hate me or love me, I care less! tongue
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by CoolJul: 6:08pm On Apr 14, 2019
Auxigen:
Now OP has dropped it let me say my own oo
She says she's a Virgin and she's 22
We've been dating for like 9months now, all this while we do engage in pre-intimacy.I've not penetrated her be4 oo
Cos I don't want to pressure her to give me the Cookie
Sometimes she calls me and tell me she needs IT and we'll do just pre-intimacy... The last time she came the pre-intimacy was too hot I actually penetrated her.. I knew I was inside her,and I was expecting a reaction.. You know for someone that says she's a Virgin.
Nothing! She was just there while I continued.
Later that night she texted me that she doesn't want to have sex with me or anybody again till marriage and that she's always not been herself anytime we met...etc.
Now I'm wondering if she's been playing me all along while giving it to another guy


That's a childish behavior. Funny enough it's girls of that age group that are deceptive with their sexually not the 30s.

A 30s lady will tell you what she's after and is being real. Atleast she will let u know her sexual history (if she's a honest type) and it's left for u to accept her and her stardards or not.

Putting myself in a ladies shoe I don't see why i will tell a guy that I love and I'm into that I don't want sex, all because I want him to see me as holy or clean girl. In a relationship that we are planning to be permanent isn't there supposed to be openness?

Most of the guys here that are saying otherwise are only unfortunate to be meeting the pretentious ladies just as the ladies were unfortunate to meet the wrong suitors during their 20s.


If you are a ready-to-settle-down bachelor here plz don't use most of these NL boys here comment as ur guilding lamp! They only come here to paint ladies as horrible. They are quick to tell u the worst ladies they av met but not the best. Who dey spoil the ladies, na their ancestors? who dem dey commit the 'crime' wit, my grandmama? mitchww!

I can only support that if a lady( u think u love ) tells u the 'no sex till married' mantra , study her very well to be 100% certain that she's true with it and not getting d sex elsewhere, yes that's d only issue. If she's not, be proud of her. And know how long she's been celibate. Knowing her celibacy period will help u in building trust with her.


abeg i don tire to type.....

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Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Squirrel01: 6:12pm On Apr 14, 2019
victorian:










Keep options open? Check √

Cut down branches of policies? NO! ( we place those new policies so as to protect our fragile emotional minds from been rehabilitated into Yaba left or committing Suicide, it's for our sanity. Trust me on that. Some evil men out there are waiting for the final kill, all in the name of I love you!

Policies stays! If he can't be patient enough to earn the trust, then he can take a walk.


Then wrap up half of their egos? Hmmmm grin yea! Check√
I agree with this last one. I'm guilty of it cool
Hate me or love me, I care less! tongue


You see this words, , (I love you) don't exist, love is for the feeble minded, what exist in a relationship is this mantra, "What ever you lack, I supply, what ever I lack, you supply". Love comes into reality when the two parties are aging together.
As for the policies,will you be able to maintain such rules even after you say I do? let it be that "if the he in question prized and paid for duplex.let him see duplex rather than sleeping in a bungalow later in life. (read my words correctly).
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Chubhie: 6:16pm On Apr 14, 2019
victorian:










Keep options open? Check √

Cut down branches of policies? NO! ( we place those new policies so as to protect our fragile emotional minds from been rehabilitated into Yaba left or committing Suicide, it's for our sanity. Trust me on that. Some evil men out there are waiting for the final kill, all in the name of I love you!

And mind you, we've been lonely in relationships before, where we gave our all. We don't mind been alone this time around , not LONELY but alone, cause we now know how to control the kind of friends we roll with, and who won't make us an island, than the way we were, way back when we were so naive and foolishly in love.

Policies stays! If he can't be patient enough to earn the trust, then he can take a walk.


Then wrap up half of their egos? Hmmmm grin yea! Check√
I agree with this last one. I'm guilty of it cool
Hate me or love me, I care less! tongue
You seem a veteran in this matter. I submit myself under thy tutelage grin
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by victorian(f): 6:18pm On Apr 14, 2019
Squirrel01:



You see this words, , (I love you) don't exist, love is for the feeble minded, what exist in a relationship is this mantra, "What ever you lack, I supply, what ever I lack, you supply". Love comes into reality when the two parties are aging together.
As for the policies,will you be able to maintain such rules even after you say I do? let it be that "if the he in question prized and paid for duplex.let him see duplex rather than sleeping in a bungalow later in life. (read my words correctly).











For me to say "I do" to a man, I'm dating means. He has passed all the checks and he has also earned my trust. I don't marry blindly. I must be sure and my conviction must be screaming hell yes! So if that's the case, immediately on the day of I do", he automatically has all the keys to the duplex and even boys quarter join . cheesy

He will be loved, adored to the moon and back. kiss

But he should be careful not ruin it all, by lies. Cause lies make one go crazy. And one will be like not again cry
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by victorian(f): 6:22pm On Apr 14, 2019
Chubhie:

You seem a veteran in this matter. I submit myself under thy tutelage grin









Hahahahahahahahah cheesy

You go pay o grin

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Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Youngpo413: 6:24pm On Apr 14, 2019
victorian:








As in ehn?

No thought about lemme understand this lady and know what they are getting themselves into. They just wanna dive in! Just like that. Some, u end up struggling with them, not to rape one, on first date o! It's so terrible!

And one will now wonder why divorce rates is high?

Or why there is so much abuse in marriages, if they eventually marry.

The way men crave for sex these days is so annoying, and later they will be insulting ladies who pose naked online. These ladies know what men want and they are simply doing the needful.
you are really different from what I heard here...I respect u jare...happy Sunday.I'm also certain that pocohantas might not be 'black' as she is painted.
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by victorian(f): 6:28pm On Apr 14, 2019
Youngpo413:
you are really different from what I heard here...I respect u jare...happy Sunday.I'm also certain that pocohantas might not be 'black' as she is painted.








Aww cheesy Thanks dear . Such kind words. smiley

Nope I don't think Poco is , in real life and I feel shes abit different from her online character.

Happy Sunday smiley
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Squirrel01: 6:34pm On Apr 14, 2019
It's well.
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Squirrel01: 6:39pm On Apr 14, 2019
victorian:












For me to say "I do" to a man, I'm dating means. He has passed all the checks and he has also earned my trust. I don't marry blindly. I must be sure and my conviction must be screaming hell yes! So if that's the case, immediately on the day of I do", he automatically has all the keys to the duplex and even boys quarter join . cheesy

He will be loved, adored to the moon and back. kiss

But he should be careful not ruin it all, by lies. Cause lies make one go crazy. And one will be like not again cry

Till then.
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Okoroawusa: 6:55pm On Apr 14, 2019
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Aeya. You'll definitely find that happiness that comes with loving someone. Don't lose hope
Nwannem nwanyi,am not saying I can't love.Am saying that am not the marriage n romantic relationship type.I have done those, have kids n currently single.That's enough for me.


I ghotara ife m n'ekwu?
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Chubhie: 6:57pm On Apr 14, 2019
victorian:










Hahahahahahahahah cheesy

You go pay o grin
Money is just papers. Paper no be problems lipsrsealed
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Okoroawusa: 7:11pm On Apr 14, 2019
Squirrel01:


I never blamed you, it's a relationship, which I was not a party to, whatever that happened in the bedroom remains in the bedroom,
Always remember, the more a woman gets wiser, the longer it takes her to get married.
mmmm....words! words!
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Mcreloaded(m): 7:14pm On Apr 14, 2019
Most of these girls know they have not been pregnant for years even when they do skin to skin and also when they don't use postinol.
And these girls know that men now want their wife to get pregnant first before marriage to avoid story that touch.

So they come up with this argument of no sex till after marriage when they know they have done countless number of abortion that might have damaged their womb, then they will be taking the man on a merry go round from hospital to native doctors ,to church etc.
That's the primary reason if you ask me
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by victorian(f): 7:32pm On Apr 14, 2019
Chubhie:

Money is just papers. Paper no be problems lipsrsealed









Hian? Papers ke!

Those are expensive papers o!

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Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Nobody: 7:34pm On Apr 14, 2019
Have you guys considered the fact that maybe the woman is truly after God's heart.

I have only been in one relationship and with a body count of one, so its not about tasting all sorts and then pretending just to trap a guy. I'm still in my 20s and I have been celibate since my marriage ended for few reasons;

1) I'm not a Bible-clutching Christian but I'm closer to my God now and I like how I can go to church and raise my hands in praises without feeling like a fraud. I'm not messing with my peace of mind biko. I used to feel guilty about fornication before I got married.

2) I have not tried it before but I am not sure I can have sex with someone I'm not in love with. I personally don't think it's something to be casual about.

3) Ladies in their 30s and single mothers are easy targets for lecherous men who think they are desperate. They are only interested in 'hit and run', so don't blame the women for not 'putting out', they have learnt the hard way. My yeye married neighbor wanted to try it with me, I shut the shit down and blocked the he-goat on every platform. angry

In conclusion, ladies say 'no sex' for so many reasons. It is not a do or die affair, if you are not comfortable with it, simply move on!!!


Lastly, I don't intend to end up with anyone eventually without testing the engine (Lord forgive me cry ) even if na only once before marriage, I should know exactly the type of instrument I'm 'acquiring'. Man pikin cannot go and enter one chance. grin

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Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by havilla(f): 7:45pm On Apr 14, 2019
franchasng:
Any single lady that wants to marry a great and wonderful man who wouldn't give her issues in future should stop giving men rules and regulations to follow to be her boyfriend, it doesn't work, you will only end up being with pretending men with abominable attitude and sinister motives.

Be free, don't let society determine who you will be, even though you are 30+ years and unmarried, its not the end of the world unless you are very sure you caused your spinsterhood through your bad character and immoral lifestyle of past, if not, live your life like a teenager, always be happy, stop being moody, too upright, too rigid, too commanding, too autocratic and too serious with life, free yourself up as a lady no matter your age, don't let your age define your life or destiny, age is just a number for real it is. If you are a successful lady with respect and friendly character, your age is nothing to amazing/mature guys.

If you meet a good guy you click with and he clicks with you too, let the natural attraction/desire happen, don't use rules and laws that you will still break at one point to chase a great guy who maybe your Prince Charming away.

Majority of men of our time hate rigid ladies who live by laws, rules, restrictions, as if life is an exploration mission you must achieve with a map.

Yes there are still archaic guys who crave and die for ladies that give rules, laws, restriction and live uptight life but there are not many of such guys today, those archaic/religious extremists guys are few who believe a wife material must hate sex, in fact she must never hear anything sex, must cover all her body, walk holily and talk holily too.

But majority of today guys have a different perspective of who a perfect wifey or partner should be, she should:

1.) Be financially independent
2.) Happy and friendly
3.) Respectful
4.) Career or business focused
5.) Love kids
6.) Respect and love her male siblings and relatives
7.) Must not know everything (men hate ladies that act like they are too wise)
8.) Must be good listener
9.) Must not be a talkative and must not be a Dundee that can't contribute meaningfully in a healthy conversation
10.) Must not be a 21st century type of feminist (both white and black and Asian men hate the characters of our modern feminists women undecided)

The list might look long but they are simple to imbibe. A virtuous woman is a virtuous woman, whether she has sex with you or not, it won't take that away from her.

Whether you withhold sex or not, a guy that will marry you will marry you.

Not allowing a guy who genuinely loves you and treats you right after a long time can kill his passion and love for you, forget those nonsense talk that a man that truly loves you won't leave you because of sex, in fact, most ladies lost their true lovers because they refused to allow sex....

I am a guy, I have lots of married and single male friends, we discuss manly, I know why my close friends married the ladies they married and why they left the ladies they wanted to marry initially, so when I talk listen.

Though I am not advising ladies to go about sharing sex to any guy that comes their way, no pls, but apply wisdom, if you are honest to yourself as a lady, u will know a guy that truly cares for you unless you are a fake lady or the type that are saddist, always unhappy and too serious and uptight with life, then u need special prayer and deliverance.

Learnt from your advice, but that your number 2 what happens to us that are shy and introverted how do we look more approachable sad
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by stevups(m): 7:51pm On Apr 14, 2019
Experience is the best teacher.
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by horlique(m): 7:51pm On Apr 14, 2019
victorian:








Better, some guys are always stingy anyways, no matter how many sex u give am.

So it's even good ,better for me . But just don't touch me.
ha good for both of us.... Your keep your pussy I keep my money.... life is all about give and take...
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Nobody: 7:52pm On Apr 14, 2019
Who da hell still gets Married thesedays? Just fu ck Around, why would anyone want to fu ck one/the same Vagina every tme till death do them Appart? when There are Hundreds of other Different Vaginas to taste tongue
Re: Why Is It That Women In Their 30s Claim No Sex Till Marriage? by Nobody: 7:54pm On Apr 14, 2019
Korllami007:


You too much jare.
After this holy holy den they do, the guy go marry them finish and den go turn to monster.
just pray u get a woman who respects,love u and is sincere to u cheesy.na dat one be most important tin.there was this single lady where i first dey stay .omo she sabi cast and bind ehjn cheesy.when she"s praying u will know she"s in the spirit but when it comes to making trouble she be chairlady for d matter.na so she go juss dey pick unnecesary fights with other ladies then she go dey smile with u but behind ur back na so she go dey gossip u grin.and dis one na lady wey dey sabi kabalash in d spirit oo cheesy.na im me come dey wonder for my mind abi na dis her character make her man run away from her.

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